We are back and I cannot believe this is our 4th week of blogging, and we are still rocking it. l would like to thank all our writers who have sent in articles, and kept OUR blog going, you all are the real MVP’s (send me your cash app, I am in the mood for a giveaway).
Any who, If you are you like me, you are probably still snoozing your alarm and saying 5 more minutes, but I think you have had enough, so read up, listen to the BBB podcast and get going(I am not talking to Lagos people sha, cos we all know you have been up since 4am).
okay let’s get reading….
I am a pretty cool person, if I say so myself. I pride myself on being a good friend , sister, colleague, and an all round correct person . I can sit in a room and have a loud conversation with my people and have fun, but I am crazy about my own company too, I don’t have a lot of friends and that is okay , because it’s not about the number of friends you have but their substance.
Recently I learned a simple lesson on people and I thought I would just share a thought or two.
So let’s read our Bible small(at least you can tick that off your to-do list)
John 5: 1-7
“From Galilee, Jesus returned to Jerusalem to observe one of the Jewish feasts. Inside the city, near the Sheep Gate, there is a pool called in Aramaic, “The House of Loving Kindness”, surrounded by five covered porches. Hundreds of sick people were lying under the covered porches—the paralyzed, the blind, and the crippled—all of them waiting for their healing. For an angel of God periodically descended into the pool to stir the waters, and the first one who stepped into the pool after the waters swirled would instantly be healed. Among the many sick people lying there was a man who had been disabled for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there, he knew that the man had been crippled for a long time. Jesus said to him, “Do you truly long to be well?” The sick man answered, “Sir, there’s no way I can get healed, for I have no one to lower me into the water when the angel comes. As soon as I try to crawl to the edge of the pool, someone else jumps in ahead of me.”
I have read this story a few times , maybe more than a few but for the first time , I saw it differently.
I suspect this man was of Nigerian decent, because we are great at telling stories and answering questions we didn’t get asked. It would have taken me exactly a second to say yes, it might just be the lazy man in me sha but I am sure it was this talk that did not make him see road to enter the pool quickly. Because Man just asked you, do you want to be healed and you would think that after 30 plus years , he would have simply responded with yes but he had to tell a story and his answer came alive today – I have NO ONE.
And it struck me , everyone at that pool was sick, with every sickness you could think of but every one of those sick people had a PERSON, the blind man had a person, the crippled had a person, the only problem might have been that they were not fast enough but I believe others had help except for this man and I also believe that was why Jesus sought him out , so maybe they didn’t mention Him healing others and He did but I believe Jesus knew this guy had no one and so He showed up for him, he probably looked at his tattooed name on His palm, saw him sitting there for another 38 years (because problem no dey finish) and decided, today he gets his healing.
The other type of people are seen in Mark 2:1-5
“Several days later, Jesus returned to Capernaum, and the news quickly spread that he was back in town. Soon there were so many people crowded inside the house to hear him that there was no more room, even outside the door. While Jesus was preaching the word of God, four men arrived, carrying a paralyzed man. But when they realized that they couldn’t even get near him because of the crowd, they went up on top of the house and tore away the roof above Jesus’ head. And when they had broken through, they lowered the paralyzed man on a stretcher right down in front of him! When Jesus saw the extent of their faith, he said to the paralyzed man, “My son, your sins are now forgiven.””
This story is such an amazing one , because this guy was also paralyzed, just like the man by the pool, he couldn’t walk , so we can assume , he didn’t go out to play football with other kids growing up, he didn’t have sleep overs obviously, he didn’t have play dates but somehow he had people , he had 4 crazy people (maybe not a lot but who is counting ), good friends , people that were going to stand by him no matter what . I believe they had conversations, they had heard about Jesus and had told him, we will do whatever it takes to see Him. So much so that they pressed through a crowd, bought ropes, maybe even a hoe (because I am sure they didn’t leave home thinking we gonna dig through a roof today) , then dug a hole in the roof to get their friend to encounter Jesus (Jesus by the way is still preaching like that is the most normal thing in the world) what a wow!
I am still sitting here questioning all my relationships, blood and water alike and I am asking myself , would I have been the man by the pool who waited 38 whole years to experience Jesus , or would I have been like the paralysed man, with crazy friends?
Life is not easy , it was never meant to be done alone . your greatest resources are in the relationships you have built and the people you surround yourself with.
If something happened to you today , is there someone you can call, do you have people that would stand by you , would you stand by your bestie if something happened to him/her? would you befriend a paralysed man and be his number 4? What kind of person are you , what kind of people do you attract?
there is no hurry to answer all these questions but as you step out this week, ask yourself questions…
If you needed to start a business today , do you have anyone who could help ? If you were lying in a hospital bed , do you have people who would stand by and with you? If you asked for 1 million from your friends on your birthday (like some people ) would you get any responses?
I know you don’t like having people around , yes you like your circle small but has your small circle got your back ? I know you have loads of friends who like your photos and watch your TikTok videos but do they like you? If you weren’t where you are today or who you are , will the people you call friends still be there , do they like you for you or for who and what you are ?
And while you are there cancelling the people in your life , ask yourself what kind of person you are . Do you show yourself friendly, do you support your friend’s business? Do you show up for them or are you team “what’s in it for me gang” ? Are you a friend that sticks closer than a brother ?
There are a lot of things in life that you don’t get to choose but the one thing you get to choose are the people in your life. So go out there , be intentional about relationships, network, build your own tribe and go on and love them hard because humans are the best resources out there.
I pray you don’t have to wait 38 years to encounter your miracle , your breakthrough or Jesus because you are trying to do it alone and because you have “No Man”, l also pray that no matter what season you are in your life, that you will always have 4 men in your corner but more importantly that you will always be one of the 4, helping others encounter Jesus.
Love and Light,