I’ve been married for 13 years. In all the 13 years I have only taken off my wedding ring 2 times. First time was August 22nd 2013 and the second time was August 22nd 2015 when I was rolled in to the theatre to have my babies. When I say this people find it difficult to believe. When I mean I never … I literally NEVER! I eat, bathe, wash, work, just name it I do everything with my ring on my finger.
For some reason I’ve always had this mindset that the only day your ring should leave your finger is the day your marriage ends. I don’t know where I got it but it’s been one of my marriage mantras. I still remember someone telling me how many times she had lost her wedding ring in the short time she’s been married and when I asked how come she said she takes off the ring for every single time she needs to wash her hand or take a bath or wash clothes. She also took off her ring for a while when she was pregnant because it didn’t fit anymore.
After that conversation I came to this realization the real reason why my ring had stayed on is the same reason any marriage survives: The material it’s made of and wise Counsel.
Let me explain.
When we were getting married we couldn’t afford to buy the rings. I still remember Pk telling me I should focus on the important things; that we could be wed with a Bible meaning we would exchange bibles not rings. I was having none of that seeing as I had already forfeited a proper proposal and engagement ring. I was giving away too much.
So in order not to lose out on that one as well and for someone who loves rings trust me it was a huge deal. Anyhow so I had to trust God for money for the wedding bands at least.
So very very long story cut extremely short somehow I got the money and pretty much dragged Pk to the ring section of a bridal shop. We were totally clueless when we got there but we met an “angel” who worked there. So patient and sweet. She took her time to ask what we liked, what we were thinking, what we wanted and of course our budget. Eventually she came up with this simple 18 carat gold his and hers bands that she suggested would be perfect for us since I told her I wanted rings that would never need to come off and would survive any thing – soaps, detergents, creams, lotions, etc. and it fit nicely into my budget.
As I picked it up and slid it into my fourth finger she smiled and said to me never buy a wedding band that has no room for growth. Always use your middle finger to buy your ring it’s slightly bigger than the ring finger that way it’s tight enough not to fall off but lose enough in case you add weight from pregnancy or too much enjoyment.
Best advice ever because I never needed to take off my ring even when I moved from a size 12 to surprise surprise a size 20. I never needed to at any time take off my ring.
You know it’s funny like I said it’s about the same things that keep a marriage on and going strong.
First the material it’s made of. If it’s made from Gods word and built on God’s love it will survive anything. No matter how many harsh things thrown at it or used to “wash” it, that marriage will come out strong.
Secondly wise counsel – from the Word of God and people. You will be amazed at the things that you would be saved from if you simply asked the right people questions or advice. Why struggle if you can ask someone who already knows the answers? And it’s okay if you don’t have all the answers.
None of us do. We all just draw from each other. We all read blogs, listen to messages, read books, etc. we all do. The only time it’s fresh is if it’s coming directly from the Holy Spirit if not it’s all just recycled knowledge. We all just trying not to make the same mistakes others before us have made and trying to help those coming after us not to make ours.
So anyhow today after 13 years I took off my wedding ring for absolutely no reason… just to look at it for a few minutes and guess what? I almost lost it!
So I’ve decided to stick with my mantra: the ring stays on till death do us part.
I pray you find someone who makes your believe …
Oh! By the way, it’s Day 23