Patiently Waiting…

David: “Ummy! Ummy! Ummy!!!” Running (in his mind) as fast as his chubby legs can carry him

Davida: “Mummyyyy!!!” Running towards me arms open wide

Dassah: “Aaaaaaaah! Mummy is back yay!” Hopping around dancing.

Music to my ears. I still remember when I would walk through my doors to dead silence. Today it feels surreal. How can I be a mother of three? Me? Mummy? Me?! Ummy? Me?! I’m still in shock.

So sometimes when I fall on my knees or my arms are outstretched in total adoration of this God my miracle worker. The God of whom I’ve tasted of his power I do it not caring who is around.

The God who would take me from a young girl with no hope of being a mother to this a mother of three amazing gifts from God.

Now I think about it. It was a process that only God could have taken me through. I kept getting instructions from the Holy Spirit on what to do, how to live and how to make sure I didn’t miss my season when it was my turn to testify.

What I try to do with Hannah’s Heart posts is to try to share some of the things I learnt on that journey. It was a  journey that I’m glad I didn’t let go to waste. I learnt a lot in that season. I paid attention and today I’m glad I did.

Let me share one of the major things God taught me that waiting season….

Isn’t it funny? I’m sure you were expecting to hear some deep revelations. Well no miracle is happening in your life without patience. I can guarantee you that.

Once it’s a promise from God you need the power twins of faith and patience to get it. Definitely no short cuts.

However I thought patience meant just waiting so when God showed me this scripture my resolve was simple…. okay Lord…

Because I had over time come to the realization that God is not a man and his promise was sure it was only a matter of time …it would happen at the right time. 

So I kept holding on and focusing on God’s ability. Every time I read the Bible I was even more reassured of God not failing that it was only a matter of time

And I needed to just hold on and trust the process. Good things… God things take time.

Even naturally good things take time

How much more supernaturally good things like a miracle baby which you need to activate faith for. And like I told you earlier faith and patience work close together 

So like I said before I resolved to wait

But at some point it started to feel awkward. So I went back to check the scriptures and God showed me that his focus was not on waiting but on patience. It’s through faith and patience; not faith and waiting. 

What’s the difference you ask? Same thing I asked until he sent my mama to me 

See I love Joyce Meyer. I’ve loved her since 1997 when I first stumbled on her. I bought a book beauty for ashes just because I liked the title and I love to read.

Oh my God was I blown away and from that day she became my go to. I read and listened to everything that had Joyce Meyer attached to it so of course most times when God wants to explain something to me he sends mama Joyce to me

And boy! Can mama teach!!!

So anyhow before I make this post about her …. which I should do some day. Hmmm…. blogpost brewing 😜

Anyhow so I heard her say this one day as I was watching her on tv


I couldn’t believe my ears. It’s not in the action ; it’s in the attitude!  Oh! My God!!! There I was thinking I was doing it right. Oh but trust mama she wasn’t done with me.

How was I acting? I started to do a quick check and I found out I was just standing around waiting and that meant I would be there a very long time

because God was trying to teach me patience not waiting …

and I found out they were two very different things.

I found out I was doing a lot wrong and that in itself was slowing the process. I was waiting but was I patient? 

Have you noticed that patience is a fruit of the spirit?

If patience were simply waiting why do you need the Holy Spirit for that?  Waiting is a physical act while patience is a spiritual attitude. Anyone can wait but not everyone can be patient. It takes faith, a renewed mind and a regenerated spirit to have patience.

When I sat back to look over my years of waiting which had gone by I found out I may have finally gotten the faith part down but the patience was no where in sight. There were just somethings that were making it difficult for my faith to produce.

Let me give you a little analogy. I hope it will help. I love stories. Jesus did too. So he always explained things in pictures in the Bible ….and to me. So here goes my own parable 😂😂😂😂

There was a certain woman who was travelling with three of her friends. They all carpooled and drove to the airport at the same time. They were all travelling to the same place for the same event. They got to the airport on time and all bought plane tickets.

After thirty minutes they heard the announcement all those on Airfaith flight AF247 to babyland we are boarding now so please come forward with your boarding passes. Those with small children or our first class and business class passengers will board first. They all looked down at their boarding passes and discovered that even though they were headed in the same direction on the same airline,  they all had different flight schedules.

The woman realized that even though they were all on the same airline, all her friends were still flying before her. She also realized she had two options

  1. She could choose to wait and be unhappy about it. Complain to everyone who sat beside her, grumble or just keep moping looking like the whole world was on her shoulders or even go into worry and depression. Or
  2. She could choose to be patient and be happy about it. Knowing that as far as she had a boarding pass she would get there eventually so she might as well relax and get busy doing other meaningful things in her life.

Well all her friends left and she chose option two but after all her friends had left they discovered there was a problem with the last flight which was the plane she was supposed to get on. As soon it was announced all the other passengers who had been waiting to get on that flight got angry and began to lash out. Saying nasty things about the airline, about the owners of the airline. Getting violent with the attendants at the check in counters.

What did she do? She remained calm. She tried to calm others down and encourage them to trust that the airline would make alternative arrangements. Some wanted cash back and as soon as they got it bought tickets on less reputable airlines. She was patient. The situation around her; the chaos did not cause her to waiver. She sat patiently asking from time to time if there was any new development and if she needed to make any other adjustments.

Now what most of the other passengers did not know was that the owner of the airline was also scheduled to be on that flight as he was headed for the same event as the key note speaker. When the flight was cancelled he decided to use his private jet to convey as many of the passengers as he could who had to travel that day. When he called for passengers – she was the only one there so she got to fly first class to babyland and she got VIP seating at the event.

In conclusion let me tell you a bit about the other passengers who were waiting  till they heard the cancelled flight….

Unfortunately there were a lot of plane crashes that day as the other less reputable airlines like Airworks, Airdoubt and Aireffizy had discovered faults in their planes but had no integrity and refused to cancel flights so they wouldn’t lose money.

There were also a lot of stranded passengers that day as some other airlines overbooked and when the passengers got to where they would take their connecting flights they suddenly discovered that the airlines had overbooked and they had to stay in the airport. So they still missed the event.

Some others, the pilot changed his mind and took them to another destination. Why? Because he was the pilot and he was at the helm of affairs

As my Jesus would say he that has an ear let him hear…

I tried abi? 😂😂 this parable thing is not an easy something o! 😂 Much respect to Jesus Biko. As they say senior na senior 😂

So anyhow seriously though the question is how are you waiting? 

If you are patient then you must have the right attitude.

You can’t say you have patience and you are…

  1. Frustrating everyone else around you
  2. Grumbling about it
  3. Having pity parties (even secret ones- crying at night etc)
  4. Telling everyone who cares to listen how faithful you are by waiting and what you’ve had to endure
  5. Counting the days and constantly reminding God of the time.

No!!! You have to just trust that God is on top of things and get busy doing good works or other purposeful activities.

Just relax God is on top of it

I know it doesn’t feel like it right now but there are days when you will actually feel like dashing your kids out. Imagine I find myself praying this prayer today…

Because sometimes I’m so exhausted all I want to do is snap at them for being so needy of me 😂 and possibly ship them off to grandma for a year. Does that make me a bad mum? No!!! Does that mean I’m ungrateful? No!! Does that mean I love them any less? No!!! Would I rather not have them? No!!! No!!! No!!! It’s just the reality of life. You just don’t ever have enough hours in the day when you have kids.

So I thank God for the times I had before they came and I thank God I learnt this a few years before I actually became a mother.

Enjoy where you are now. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt from Joyce Meyer

Maybe I should do that blogpost after all…. hmmm…

Remember attitude is everything. God is more interested in getting you ready for the gift than he is getting the gift ready for you. Patience is so key in this journey. I hope I’ve been able to show you what it means to Wait Patiently. 

This now is the conclusion of the matter today

In other words…

Okay mummies. I gotta run. School starts on Monday need to do last minute preps. Can’t wait to start swapping school gist with you. I know it’s sooner than we think but until then let’s keep waiting patiently 


Pastor Mildred.

53 thoughts on “Patiently Waiting…

  1. This is unbelievably beautiful.
    But then, throw in Gmama Joyce and EVERYTHING is alright haha.
    This Post resonates for LIFE actually.
    I especially LOVE these lines.

    Because sometimes I’m so exhausted all I want to do is snap at them for being so needy of me 😂 and possibly ship them off to grandma for a year. Does that make me a bad mum? No!!! Does that mean I’m ungrateful? No!! Does that mean I love them any less? No!!! Would I rather not have them? No!!! No!!! No!!! It’s just the reality of life….

    Interesting that i had to explain this to someone last week and I specifically used you. Now i will go back and show them this line. Children are a beautiful blessing which we will NEVER take for granted, but doesn’t reduce the WORK.

    And i also LOVE the last line in swapping school gist. Amen to that mehn!
    Love. Love. Love!!!!

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    1. 😂😂😂 yes o! Mama Joyce just makes everything alright.

      It definitely doesn’t reduce the work even though we love them.
      Thanks for always stopping by the blog 😘😘😘


  2. Dear Ma, I am not yet married, neither do i have kids yet, but I really enjoyed the post and learnt a lot from it. God bless you for your good works. I will send a DM to you via your Instagram. Have a blessed day ahead.

    Your unknown mentee

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  3. Just the word i needed this morning, been really down but I guess this is just a reminder to be joyfully patient. God bless you Pastor M.


      1. Thank you for the post it got me thinking….it’s 15years and am still waiting..guess not patient….kinda losing hope…Holy spirit help me


  4. This is awesome.God has been teaching me about the difference between waiting and waiting upon him and patience is one of the key points.

    Your post explains so much. That story was awesome in showing that delay isn’t denial.

    Can I get pls get permission to repost this on my blog?
    All your posts are awesome of course 😀 but I have been writing a series on waiting upon the Lord, and your thoughts right here elaborates more on How to wait upon the Lord and I would love to share and link back here.


  5. Love the parable. Who knows a book filled with Parables from Hannah’s Heart, might be in the works. *wink* Thank you Pastor M. Totally needed this.


  6. I woke up to this post and its a blessing to me, after a miscarriage two years ago and a stillbirth last year but joyfully am patiently waiting.God bless you pastor M


  7. I learnt the ‘attitude ” aspect of “patience ” while believing God for my son’s healing. In the early years I would cry and boy could I cry😀. Until the holy spirit gave me a not so gentle nudge and I realised that while my head was buried in a not so palatable part of my anatomy (I beg your pardon😉), my son was growing fast and I had missed out on some of his milestone developments , I MADE UP my mind to ENJOY my son WHILE I WAIT and that turned the tide for us. Mildred, now I cry sometimes but for a good reason. Every time my son displays the splendour of God I CRY and the good thing is that those that know his story too cry along 😂😂😂😂 (I don turn onions😀). Those who don’t know my story marvel at how I laugh despite the sometime raging storm and I say NA GOD. I have also embraced this right attitudeas as I trust God for my Prince in a rolls royce😉…no more grumpy gladys(grumpiness causes wrinkIes😀 literally!) I am enjoying life while the devil is having a fit.

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  8. Thank you so much mama. God just used you to speak to me now cos today I woke up so tired about something have been waiting on the lord for. But reading this now , I have my joy back and I ll wait patiently. Thank you so much ma. God bless you.


  9. Expressing myself with words isn’t my forte but let me try. I don’t have a child neither am i married but this blog post put a smile on my face, gave me hope. At some point i started to ask myself whats going on, if i am really doing that which the lord needs of me in my waiting season( yes its seriously a waiting season in every aspect of my life).God used this post to speak to me because it made me realize that patience has different levels. the patience level i had in my former season wont be enough to get me through the next. Same as Faith. Thank you MAMA You have shown me what it means to Wait Patiently (without my countdowns and secret tantrums lol ). May the oil on your head never run dry. i will just keep holding on to Gods word over my life; he will perfect that which concerns me.

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  10. God bless you ma for this! I enjoyed every piece of this write up. For a long time,I’ve been waiting for something from God but i guess not patiently. You helped me see that i have to wait patiently and have the right attitude when waiting. God bless you ma once again!


  11. Reblogged this on inspiresom1today and commented:
    Hey guys, how y’all doing? Good I hope? I missed blogging so much. I thought I could stay away till after my exams but…lol. Don’t worry I’ll be back fully after my last paper next week Tuesday by God’s grace. So today, I was checking through my feeds on wordpress and I came across this beautiful post. It was written by Pastor(Mrs) Mildred Okonkwo, the wife of pastor Kingsley Okonkwo (founder of David’s Christian Centre). The post spoke to me and that’s why I thought to re blog it. I’m sure it will speak to you as well. Do enjoy her thoughts.

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  12. Thank you ma for this post. It helped me go through my mind the different stages I have gone through in the waiting. Patience with a positive attitude goes a long way. God bless you


  13. I’ve been the parable’s No.1 kind of waiting and Pastor M, you forgot to add that it is exhausting. Waiting and no patience, waiting and fighting with God, waiting and boring every one else to tears, waiting and just idle… All that kind of waiting is utterly fatiguing, exhausting, draining.

    I’ve been waiting like that and now I’m exhausted. I want to wait differently. I want to wait and be happy… joyful waiting on the Lord. Waiting and trusting Him. Waiting and working.

    Thank you for this new lesson. I needed it.

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  14. So true Pastor M.God bless you.I have been through that waiting phase twice while trusting God for the fruit of the womb.The first time my attitude was wrong but the second time the Lord told me specifically not to have a bad attitude and to stay in thanksgiving that was all I needed to get my desired result.The word of God works.God bless you ma.


  15. I normally read and don’t comment but I had to this time. I’m not married and not a mum yet but of recent, I’ve found myself ‘rushing through’ life… not complaining outwardly but almost constantly thinking about things I think I should have, but don’t yet have like my own business, getting married etc. so much so that i’ve let the devil steal my joy and breed jealousy in my heart.

    Your post has put Patience in perspective for me and I realise that it’s my attitude that counts and it’s high time I started focusing on the beauty and living in the now, being grateful for what is while believing the best for what is to come… I don’t want to miss any more seasons of my life…

    Thank you mama.


  16. Like this became a new definition of patient to me, and i’ve been quick to share to as many that have come around me. The Joy and Peace of mind i’ve received since i got this insight has bee
    n tremendous. The testimony at the beginning literally gave me goose bumps cos i put myself in spirit that one day i’ll testify just like this. God bless Mama for blessing us. May your oil never run dry. Love you always.


  17. Wow, am really blessed by this message. Thanks Mama, I have been following up your messages and indeed, my life has been helped. God bless you.


  18. I could feel tears in my eyes as I was reading this. A lot going on with me and I know I have work to do in being patient. Like I said before, one day, I would attend DCC and finally meet pastor Mildred. ❤️

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  19. Wow! I’m so blessed…even tho I’m not yet married… I will finally meet pastor kingsley and pastor mildred someday, u guys av really molded my life maritally and spritually thru your messages and blogposts and i can’t wait to practice all these when i get married.. God bless you ma.
    from your unknown mentee


  20. Thank you so much for this blog post mama! I now know the difference between waiting and patience. Sometimes, it feels so hurtful…too many teary nights… like why me??? Like it’s happening for everyone…why me?

    I’m putting on a new attitude…called patience.

    Love Onyinye


  21. I can’t say how many times I keep going back to carefully read this message and to check if am aligning and to whisper words of prayers.May God bless you Mama. I am becoming and getting better just because you went through the journey and came out victorious. Thank you once again for sharing and for blessing my life


  22. Thank you pastor for this. I just stumbled upon your blog and this article spoke to me directly. It is not about the waiting but the attitude while waiting.

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  23. I am glad i found this blog, TTC is about the hardest thing that has ever happened to me. this post mirrored my present state, I have been waiting but not not patiently and definitely not with the right attitude, Lord Jesus please forgive me and help me to fully rest in You as i cast all of my burdens upon You.

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    1. Sweetheart it is definitely the hardest thing any of us ever imagined but God gets us through it. I pray that this phase goes by quicker than you ever imagined and God rewards you with double. Waiting for your testimony. God bless you


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