I really just wanted to shut down and rest and not just that I wanted to….I needed to. I felt it in my head, my heart and my spirit that I needed to just pack it all up and stop trying to do it all.
So today’s message to you darling Wives is this :
You can be a great wife and mother but if you don’t find time to rest, you may not be around for very long. And that leaves the very ones you are trying to love, care for and be there for in an even worse place.
I find time to rest on days that I’m beat or really stressed out. I ignore phone calls except they are very important. I stay in bed for a few minutes longer than I would. I take time off work. They may not be many but I have those days and I’m not apologetic about shutting down. Don’t judge me!
Yes o! I’m fighting for my health, my peace of mind, my heart, my marriage and my kids. I’m fighting yo keep it together so I don’t totally breakdown. I just draw back like an elastic band so that when I’m rested and I am released, Satan knows he’s in trouble.
That’s God’s job.
As they say “Don’t think you are the El-Shaddai or you shall die.” Leave that job solely to Jehovah. When you cannot meet your husband’s needs. It’s okay to admit it. …to yourself then to him. If you cannot meet your kid’s needs point them to the one who can.
So how do I rest?
- Prioritize- what’s really important and urgent and that only you can do? Then do them. If it’s not urgent, important or life threatening then you can attend to other things first. Question: Blogging vs talking to my husband which is more important? Honey, now you know why this post is just coming up 😉
- Delegate-let others help. Let the kids do their bit too. If they don’t do it perfectly, don’t stress. Let them learn. Turn it to a teaching moment. It will be stressful at first but you are setting up a system that will eventually pay off. Get a maid or nanny if you can afford one. Have your younger ones or your mum come over to help sometimes so you can sleep for a few hours. My dear take advantage of having them in your life …”Aunty and grandma no be for mouth”
- Stop- If you start to feel overwhelmed. Stop. I mean that literally just stop everything you are doing and take a few deep breaths. Honestly you will be shocked at how everything will fall back into perspective. When you are tired you make poor decisions. So just stop. Don’t answer right now. Don’t decide right now. Just stop everything for a few minutes, pray in tongues, worship or just close your eyes for a few seconds. Just stop.
- Sleep – I know this doesn’t really sound like it makes sense but when was the last time you slept? Like really really slept ? I don’t mean that wake up every moment your phone beeps kind or that you are asleep but Tv is blaring, kind of sleep. No I’m talking about sleep that you switch off your phones, turn off the tv, keep the kids with someone you trust so you don’t have to think about them for a bit. The kind that your husband goes out, and you sleep with abandon….if you like no clothes sef (just remember to lock the door o!)
I’m telling you nicely now ….Rest o! Hian! Because if anything happens to you your husband will marry again. Pata pata he will wait 6 months just to respect your memory but Marry again, he will! And the new wife may not be as sweet as you so your children may just suffer. Your husband will most likely not pay attention to them because he will assume if she treats him well that your kids will be well taken care of… honey let me just stop here because even in this example it can’t be you in Jesus name. It better not be you for your own good o!