hello people hope you didn’t miss me too much….LOL! I know it’s that season of love again so of course you know I have something to say about that…
Actually I wasn’t going to say anything o! but something i watched the other day on tv got me thinking….
So, because I married a man who likes all these crime and investigation tinz …I am constantly watching the crime and investigation channel on DSTV. In fact some nights I wake up hearing rounds of gunshots and I wake up with a start till I realize that my pk must have left the tv on and slept off and there are actually no gunmen in my bedroom *phew*
A few nights ago, I was actually watching one of the ” I almost got away with it” series with my pk and this is what happened….
An elderly man who had been married for 41 years…note 41 years so imagine how old he has to be …worst case lets imagine he got married at 20, he would be 61 right? so, for lack of a better word I will call him “papa”, anyhow, this papa had a problem that his wife of 41 years knew nothing about ….a gambling problem that had caused him to write bad cheques worth 80,000 US dollars. Long story short he wakes up one morning and gets a call from the FBI about the bad cheques which is like major major crime in America and he is told that he would be indicted for the crime meaning many many years in jail..
what does papa do? first he goes into the sitting room where mama is sitting watching a movie and immediately confesses all his sins and trust women, mama is frantic and starts crying and screaming down the house. anyhow, papa is able to calm her down and they finally go to bed. in the middle of the night, mama who has literally cried herself to sleep (I’m guessing) is sleeping soundly but papa cannot sleep. he’s tossing and turning. according to him he’s worried that if he goes to jail how will mama survive? who would take care of her? by the way they have a grown up son and daughter who are married with kids of their own. well, its too much for papa to handle . so because he LOVES her so much and cant bear to see her suffer…. he does the one thing that he believes will save both of them from such heart ache…. he puts a pillow over his sleeping wife and shoots her 3 times in the head and once in the chest. then writes a letter to his children explaining how he did this out of love for her, then packs his bags….oh! did I forget to mention … and her credit cards and leaves.
ok, take a minute to grab your jaw from off the floor, then we can talk…deep breaths…yes, in…out…in…out…feel better yet?
so, now lets talk….
you see this love thing ehn! its causing a lot of issues o! me I don’t get how you kill someone you’ve been married to for 41 years because you love her too much to let her be sad and miss you… i thought the vows you took were till death …not till murder do us part. well, that’s the world’s definition of love …always selfish. that’s why the only way to love is to know God ….for God is love (1 John 4:7-8)
I’m honestly saddened by what young people especially girls are going through these days all in the name of getting a valentine….the guys are actually doing all sorts of nasty things to get out of buying a valentine present and the girls are holding on tenaciously and forgiving even the unforgivable just to get a present that may end up being just a cake….but even if its a private jet…no man should treat you like dirt just because he wants to give you a gift ….which he was trying to get out of giving you anyway …if not for your tenacity in forgiveness….lol!
love protects…love gives….love cares…and love definitely doesnt make flimsy excuses when it is valentine.
ok so now the solution? instead of allowing the world fill your head with ideas we have decided to show you God’s own way so at DCC its a weekend packed… we are even catching them young so for the teenagers on february 14th we have TEEN’S GROOVE…
of course the married folks are not left out if anything they have been well prepared for …its on sunday the 16th of February…DATE NIGHT. theirs is a black tie event…so everyone is expected to come glamorously dressed. lots of prizes to be won. they are keeping it hush hush but because i am soooo kind…i will let the cat out of the bag ….
*photo session by a professional photographer
*suits for men
* 50% off comedy goes to church VIP tickets
*one night stay at a luxurious hotel
*free house rental agency
*wine and cupcakes
….and lots more.
sadly limited seats so pick up your ticket asap
okay so that’s that but so you don think I’ve forgotten this is dilemma Tuesday and I have one dilemma for you. maybe because i didn’t mention the gift most of the winners didn’t call last week. so please pick up your free ticket to comedy goes to church. call bose on 08077714411…
okay so now that I have successfully wet your appetite, here’s the dilemma for this week
Dear Pastor M, I don’t know where to begin and I really would like to remain anonymous. My problem really is a bit complicated and I don’t know where to start from. my husband and I got married and for 5 years there was no child. There was pressure from every side but my husband stood firmly beside me believing that one day God would show up for us. at the end of the fifth year my husband got a contract job to work in America for two years and since I had a good job here I opted to stay back since the plan was for him to return after two years. while he was gone I got an offer to adopt a child from someone …this is my mistake…I never told my husband , I pretended I was pregnant and kept coming up with excuses why his travelling back was unnecessary (especially since he had signed a contract not to travel back to Nigeria for a year) till I had put to bed. I even came up with a story about not being able to travel so i couldn’t have them in america. bottom line, I had twin girls or so I told him as he rushed back home to see us. its been 6 years now and my babies are 5 years+ my husband is soooooo attached to them. they are very close and he can do anything for them. now the problem is, guilt is killing me and I live everyday in fear. what if the truth comes out? should I tell him or should I leave things as they are? why rock the boat? I just wanted him to be happy…..Now I can’t even sleep at night.
okay people lets hear what you think…
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