Nkechi is pretty, she has that kind of figure that makes other women jealous and men… Well, let’s just say in some cases, men have been known to struggle with their salvation 😉 , she’s smart, has a great paying job and a thriving business, drives a car, Nk can cook no let me rephrase that NK is a great cook. She’s one of the few who survived from a breed gradually going extinct. Nk is a home-body, great with kids, large and selfless heart, would give their right eye if it would guarantee world peace (not me o! I’m sooooo keeping my eye. Anyone that wants peace should receive Jesus). She is a praying, bible believing and living someborri aka born-again and spirit filled. You know them now, homely yet don’t mind a few trips here and there, not really scared to try new or fun things. Nk is what most of us would call “wife material”. So what’s the problem? Nkechi is not anybody’s wife. At least not yet…
Idarabong, hmm… Now she’s the joker type. Always has a good story to tell. Always spreading joy. I suspect that she has her sad moments but she never shows it. Idara has a motto: “as far as we’re alive… Keep rocking!” She doesn’t believe in regrets. She’s an athlete, lithe body, healthy bank account, caring heart and godly spirit. She’s actually pretty whenever she decides in her words “to do the girly thing”. Idara is a gem. Her husband will never have a dull moment in marriage but there’s just one problem. Idara doesn’t have a husband at least not yet…
Oluwafunmike. Care giver. Event planner extra-ordinaire. If you have funmike at your wedding you can arrive looking pretty and not have to worry your head about anything. She is warm, confident, professional, organized, a thinker, planner and executioner. Funmike says it’s God’s ability at work in her and is always quick to talk about her God or his power to organize lives. She loves God like that and its very infectious. Funmike could plan anything and we’ve all been waiting to see what her own wedding will be like. The only problem? There’s no wedding in sight. At least not yet….
Ifechukwude has a voice that angels would envy. She is that girl we all love to hate in the choir. She is beautiful, she can sing, she is anointed, and has great dress sense. Ify works for a multi-national company and earns a healthy salary. She’s so well put together that we always tease her that on wedding day, the cake designer would simply put her on the cake as she’d definitely look good enough to eat.
There’s only one problem. There’s no wedding cake without a wedding.
All these ladies are pretty, born-again, hardworking and nice. Yet not married. Sometimes when they pass people snicker, some are insensitive enough to ask “why are you not married?” Well, because the last time I checked “one cannot marry one’s self.” You’ll even hear “you de choose abi?” Sometimes I wish that was even the case. It will amaze you that some of these girls have never even been proposed to. I know someone who everyone assumes she’s in a relationship with someone abroad. Meanwhile nothing o!
I’m sure you know these ladies. Of course you do. Just look around you. Nkechi is your sister, idara is your childhood friend, funmike is your cousin and ify often sits beside you in church. Hey! It may even be you.
These past two months I’ve had a lot of young girls (well by marriage standards not too young anymore) who have called me in tears or sent me a pain-filled email or blackberry message. Most under parental or societal pressure and many more willing to settle for even a bad marriage. At this rate, anything really.
My dear I’m writing this to all of you nkechis, idaras, funmikes and ifys. I know you are called by many other names but your story is the same. Some of you have even started asking is something wrong with me? My darling there is NOTHING wrong with you. Some of us just have to get our miracles as a testimony because God wants to use your story for His glory. Remember with every testimony there is a test. But know this: your story must end in glory.
I need you to do three things for me
1. Find God’s promise to you on marriage and settle it forever. You will be married and he will be one of God’s worthy sons who will keep wondering where you have been all his life and practically worship the ground you walk on.
2. Guard your heart. Be careful the counsel you allow into your heart. Some people will say you are not trying hard enough, you don’t go out enough, you don’t dress scandalously enough. I even heard one ridiculously stupid counsel yesterday. Someone just broke up with a guy who beats her, has no job and verbally abuses her and on top of it is not even a serious christian and all her “married” friend could tell her was “you didn’t try hard enough. Is this how you’ll keep running at the slightest thing? Do you know all the things my husband does to me? I can’t say what others are saying just to make you feel good. Marriage is work”. I was soooo angry when I heard it. One of the things I’ve learned in my life is people never wish you better than they have. Just because that thing she calls a marriage is terrible she believes every other person who has a great one (like me 🙂 yes o! Beef me or not. I will testify. God blessed me with a wonderful husband that’s why I believe everyone deserves to marry well) is just telling stories. If your marriage is bad. Accept you made a mistake and stop spreading the gospel of manage any man. Besides because someone is married doesn’t mean they can counsel you on marriage. Please cross check with the Word of God. Yes marriage is work but its enjoyable work.
3. Enjoy your life. Yes, enjoy your life. Don’t allow world people (you know them na “AWON OMO AIYE!”) make you feel like you have a problem because you don’t. Except of course you have bad character then change but if not I beg you being single is not sickness. And if you’re cynical enough to think that it’s easy for me to say because I’m married. Well, then its probably the state of your heart that’s keeping you single. Honey if you think like that you’ll get bitter and bitter women repel. So have fun, attend friends’ weddings and be genuinely happy for them. Don’t be desperate, don’t panic and don’t worry because one thing is sure – HE THAT WILL COME, WILL COME! NONE SHALL LACK HER MATE. You will definitely testify this year *big hug*
Send my IV o! No story 😉
Thank you so much every one who spread the word on the AM I RIGHT? Post and especially all who commented. Everyone did so well. Wish I hadn’t promised to pick a winner but promise I did and God helping me I keep my promises. So I’ll pick a winner but so I’ll save myself from entering more trouble entries close tonight. Winners will be announced on Friday. If you no win abeg no vex o! Try again next month. 😉
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