Am i right to feel this way?

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Dear Pastor M
I’ve followed you and your husband’s ministry for a while now. Ma, I’m writing you now because I need your help. I am engaged and my fiance and I plan to get married sometime towards the end of the year.

Something happened today and I’m really very angry about it. My fiance just got a house and we are trying to furnish it. I’m out of town for a bit on official assignment but he called me today really excited that his mum came to the house and since she didn’t see anything in the kitchen she went ahead and bought him a stove, some pots and some plates.

Pastor can you imagine?! I feel it’s my home and not hers! How can she buy stuff in my kitchen?! It’s my kitchen and not hers! How can she do a thing like that without asking me first. The only meaning I can read into this is that she thinks I can’t furnish my house! I’m sooooo angry right now ma. I’m not happy about it at all and there won’t be peace in my heart until I remove everything she bought and give them out. The only way I will be happy is if I buy my things myself. Why can’t she allow me to buy my things myself or why didn’t she wait to give it to me as a gift after wedding? I feel by this act she has made it clear that she wants to run my home.

I’m away for a month and will be back soon but I know what I want to do is to remove all the things she bought. My only dilemma is how to tell my fiance without him feeling bad. He may not see it that way and may be upset that I am making a mountain out of a mole hill but pastor what do you think? Am I right to feel this way? Should I tell him or should I just do what is in my heart? I love my fiance and I don’t want to hurt him.

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161 thoughts on “Am i right to feel this way?

  1. Its obvious d girl in question is just a drama queen, prob has friends with “mother-in-law gist” and has been dying to ve some MIL gist of her own so now she’s just clutching for anything to fight over. There’s nothing wrong with what the mum has done. Shuo! Her pikin no go chop before u move in? (If u ever move in at this rate that is.#justsaying)
    She obviously see’s the woman as competition and not as her mother cos if her mum had surprised her wit all that stuff she would have been jumping for joy am sure
    My advice: tell ur hubby to be, how thoughtful u think his mum is and how blessed you are to ve her as a MIL,
    Call her urself (if u can) and say a big thank you. I personally wld jokingly tell my MIL we also need a brand new jeep while she’s at it hehehe
    (Really I would *straight face*)
    Then calmly get married to the dude, use what u like and give d rest out. Trust me after being so sweet about it, no one would noticem
    Then proceed to live happily ever after
    Hope I helped. Cheers!
    P.S. Fight no good!

      1. LOL..

        Almost said the same thing.
        IF MIL had presented her a jeep, would she have resented.
        She would be fine. By the time she is 8 months pregnant, she’ll calm down.

        LOL

      2. In response to diche yes o,there’s no need to make a fuss about dis instead she should call the mother in law and say thank you

    1. My advice is that, this young lady shouldn’t take offence cos It’s not an offence @ all……if i was to be in her shoes anyway. Ƴό̲̣̣̣̥υ̲̣̥я̲̣̣̥ mother-in-law is ur mother (without the in-law) so would u have got this angry if it were to be ur own mother? Anoda thing is, when u are angry, dont always rush to react……it can be dangerous……especially when it has to do with marriage. In short there’s no issue as far as this matter is concerned.

  2. Ur feeling iz nt ryt nor wrong,ur nt married to d man yet,secondly ur nt in town,(unless u want ur fiance to starve)that iz to say d woman hz d ryt to buy stuffz 4 her son,plz young lady learn nt to assume or conclude in anger,u dnt knw wat d woman thinkz abt u unless u’ve had issues in d past,u can rearrange ur houz wen ur back in town or beta stil wen u eventually marry dis young man.

  3. if you make a wrong move by this time , get ready to kiss that relationship goodbye…your mother in-law is not an opposition if she has given her consent that you marry her son.. its too early and its a wrong signal coming from your end already . You need to talk to your self..
    How were you expecting your fiance to feed in your absence even if its 1week ? ?? ???
    ”GO & THANK HER FOR HELPING YOU OUT” after all you have nothing too loose .But you can still get additional pots and other stuffs if its still necessary.

  4. If u love ur fiance u ll love his mum who bore him breast feed him and trained him to be the man he is and if u luv his mum u ll acept tins from her. Jst see those things as gift from her,accept them whole heartedly and add some more if need be. Cos I’m a guy and if my girl can’t accept tin from my mum den she doesn’t luv my mum and surely dats an automatic exit for her.any woman that luvs me must luv my family. Because she is about to be part of the family

  5. Good day Pastor, happy new year to you & your family. I always enjoy reading your blog, it is both inspiring & hilarious. Thanks for sharing.
    To the issue at hand, I feel the lady in question, should not be reacting in such manner besides she & the guy are just engaged. The guy’s mother still has the right to take care of her son, besides she won’t be in town for like month. How does she expect d guy to eat. When she & d guy get married and she becomes d wife, and this kind of scenerio repeats itself then she can be angry but for now she should just chill. God bless you Pastor.

  6. Dear Pastor

    Thank you for the posts, I really appreciate your counsel and each time i leave with nuggets of wisdom.

    Replying to the post, i dont think that the man’s mother has done anything wrong by buying those things. she shouldn’t pick offence at all. To me, there was a need and the woman met it. She should appreciate it and if she feels stove is not what she needs, she can buy for herself, a gas cooker.

    And I advice her to be a more patient person and calculative as well. The word of God will help her in her decisions and like your husband ,Pastor said in his message (Who should i marry): A woman who is fighting her boss, mother inlaw, father, brother, there is nothing wrong with all those people, she just hates authority.

    Thank you and i hope i have communicated rightly.
    God Bless you Ma.

  7. Dearest,
    Marriage is a different ball game. If you love your fiancée , you would love he’s family.
    Remember that in marrying one, you marry all.
    What she has done is purely out of her heart… Now you have read another meaning entirely.
    Whatever action you take… Remember that your future home is at stake…
    I suggest you thank your mother in law properly, for the stress she went through getting those things for your comfort and the expense she has helped you reduce… God Bless You

  8. oh dear sis, it’s okay to feel this way, it’s a feeling which can be corrected it’s your actions that is more important not how you feel, you asked a question because you want to learn, i think you would make a good wife as long as you learn from the right source (mentor, pastor e.t.c… basically someone more matured), Firstly i dont know your future mother inlaw so i cant say her motive but really its not about her but about you, let love be your motivation, let love drive your decision, keep calm you might actually like the kitchen…smiles, just love her as your own mum and appreciate her thoughfullness and since you are not yet his wife, she is doing her motherly role, when u have children you would love them just like a mother, i pray for Gods peace for you. As long as you remain teachable you would have a great marriage.

  9. I think ur mother inlaw is jt helping u out dnt take it personal ok u too will soon become mother inlaw u can even talk to ur mother inlaw jokenly abt it dat why did she buy those things in d kitchen in ur absent I think she will av better explaination for u

  10. Oh no no no no deary, mothers will be mothers anytime, she entered her son’s kitchen and bought him a temporary stove, NO1. you are not married to him yet so you should relax, NO2. i am sure she meant no harm and you should just take simple gestures exactly as they come, no complications at all. i agree some mother in laws go far but most ladies are already showing their ” bring it on” face even before she says or do anything.

    My husband bought his house before i got married to him, and his mom helped in picking the house and also most of the the things in the house, it wasn’t a big deal to me cos i wasn’t staying in the house at that time. One year of marriage my house looks totally different from how i met it cos i have changed everything and my husband loves the new design. it is not a fight, in time you will buy another stove and if you like you can throw that one away LOL.

    my advice is Please, dont even mention it to your man that you are angry, as a matter of fact when you see her thank her and drop a joke that you are jealous that shes pimping her son’s kitchen up. no big deal .

  11. I Extend My Sincere Gratitude To You Pastor For Giving Us The Chance To Help This Lady With Words Of Encouragement, Advice, Reprimand And Caution, Whilst We Learn From Her Story…I Had To Listen To Everyone’s Advice And Comment In Other To Understand What People Think About This Story And Their Suggestion And Advice Gave Little To The Imaginations As To Why They Thought That Way, Because I Believe We Humans Are Different From The Insides Of Our Head Just As We Are Different From The Outsides Of Our Head, So We Think Differently Interpret Different And Suggest Different And React Different To Problems Around Us…The Highest Challenge That Occurs In Human Relationship Is Knowing What The Other Person’s True Intentions Or Motive Really Are Because The Hard Part Of Relationship Is Knowing. How The Other Person Truly Feels Hence We Base Our Conclusion On Their Response To Our Words And Action My Mirroring Their Body Language, Which Include Eye’s, Smiles, Heart Beat, Words And So On… Yet The Bible Still Said The Heart Of Men Is Evil Who Can Know It Apart From God…Anger, Grudge, Hatred, Love Stems From The Heart Which Is A Product Of Emotions…And Emotions Always Blurs Judgment…I Believe Her Case Is One Of Cynical Judgment And Transference Of Aggression And Grieves Which May Have Occurred Formerly…Why? Because I Believe Things Are Not Always As They Seem…From A Clear Understanding She’s Emotionally Unhealthy And Needs Counseling, I Think The Emotional Part. Which Is The True Core Of Our Human Personality That Deals With Human Relationship And The Comprehension Of Human Affairs Has Been Tempered With…From Psychological Facts From The Case Study Of Women…A Woman’s Right And Sense Of Possession In Aa Family Starts From The Kitchen…No Wonder The Saying”If A Woman Handles Her Kitchen Well The Man Would Always Be There” So It Is Not Entirely Wrong For Her To Feel That Way, Who Would Say In This World That They Have Not Done One Little Thing Without Any Harmful Or Cynical Motive And Someone Else Interprets And Translates It To Something Else..She Has A Right To Her Feeling Because That Is One Thing That Would Always Be Part Of Humanity…But Feelings Are Is product Of A Thought Left To Linger On…The Mind Has The Power To Create Nucleus In The Brain Which If Left Undisturbed Or Unattended To Would Go Around To Produce All The Conditions Necessary For It To Produce It Self In Our Physical Form…Thus, In securities, Low Self Esteem, Being Delusion al Hysterical, Apprehensive And Agitated Fear Anger And Hate…All This Comes From Pain Arising From The Fear Of The Anticipation Of Something Evil Or Uncertain…She Is Afraid Or Uncertain That Her Rightful Possession As A Woman In Her Husband’s House When She Finally Marries Her Fiancé Maybe Played Upon…It Might Not Be Even Just The Kitchen, It Maybe Something Else She Saw Somewhere Or Had Experienced When She Was Little, That Caused An Unhealthy Emotion That Lingered On In Her Mind Till Now…All Hiding Behind The Wall Of Denial Waiting For A Chance To Pour It Self On The Slightest Thing That Relates To It…Thus The Saying That ” Anger Once Fed Is Dead It’s Keeping It That Makes It Fat”…I Quickly Suggest She Goes For Spiritual And Marital Counseling…Because This Matters To Become Problems And Rivers To Ocean…She Has Not Patience Which Is The Refined Sense Of Confidence Which Is The Absence Of Fear And Also In-turn Is The Product Of A Good Self Esteem…And Low Self Esteem Is A Product Of Pride Which Births From In securities And Lack Of Peace …A Pride Man Or Woman Is Always At War With Themselves Because They Are Always In Constant Need Of Keeping Their Reputation With The People Around..So It All Boils Down To Fear Of The Unknown…This Maybe A Product Of Something The Past That Occurred Now She Is Immobilized By This Feeling And Trapped Within The Confines Of An Unhealthy Emotion That Would Always Play It Self Into Her Marital Life When Other Matters That Relates To This Arise…Maybe Her Sister -Inlaw Coming To Visit And Close Female Friends And All That…I Strongly Crave Your Indulgence Pastor That She Appreciates What The Mother In-law Did By Calling Her And Thanking Her Even Before She’s Back From Her Meeting And Let The Woman Know That She Appreciates…Because To Make A Person Your’s You Have To Make Them Feel In A Way Your Dependent On Them…The Woman Payed The Role Of A Mother In-law Even If She Has An Unruly Intention…That Lady Should Not Fright Rather She Should Show Confidence And Lack Of Fear…And Also Love On The Mother In-law More After All There Is A Saying That Goes Like This” Love Your Enemies It Will Drive Them Crazy And
    Then You Get To Win…I Have To Stop Here I Still Have A Lot To Say To Her Because The Problem Comes From Her…It’s Hurting Her But When People Around Us Have Problem They Soon Make It Our Problem…And That’s What She Wants To Do..Make Her Little Problem Of Insecurity Everyone’s Problem…Thank You Ma Once Again…I Pray She Realizes Herself Before It’s Too Late…Trust Me When The Mama Of A House Is Not Happy..Everyone Is Not Happy…And They’ll Come After Her If They Are Irrational….Bye

  12. I think u answered the question you asked….making a mountain out of a mole hill. Yes you guys are getting married very soon,not married yet! sorry its not yet your kitchen its her son’s and she was only trying to help her baby boy. Why didn’t you buy the basic things he’ll need when you knew you weren’t going to be around? Yes we ladies like being in charge but not like this.I don’t think you should tell your man anything instead you should call mama and say thank u and after your wedding you can do what ever you want with your kitchen..

  13. Hmmmmmmm! My pastor ma, if it where to be me in such position I would over look d case in as much as it was done while I wasn’t around nd I felt as d woman being a mother frm her own part of thinking she would have taught of helpin me get few things based on d fact I wasn’t around and my hubby might b needing it at dat time I wasn’t around, well I do not see it as an issue frm my part,she juz did her motherly part am sure she won’t do it if I was around she would have left it for me,meanwhile he was still a fiance to me, so d mother still has sum certain roles to play.

  14. Good afternoon ma, how as been your day ma. I don’t really no the angle to come in in these case , I belive the mother inlaw mean no harm by buying those pots considering the fact she was not around , had it been that she was around and the mother inlaw went ahead to buy those pot then she is wrong. Really People of her age will not like to eat out .

    Be that as it may nothing stop her from buying more pot when she comes back, and furnish her kitchen to her taste and consider the previous once as wedding gift from her mother inlaw. My advice is if she truly L♥√ع her her propose hubby she need to extend the L♥√ع to his relatives which include her mother inlaw.

  15. Hello ma! Well i think she is overreacting. Her mother in law to be may just be acting out of love. I think she should just let things be. She can still get her kitchen stuffs but she shouldn’t make an issue out of it. If she feels like expressing her feelings to her fiance, she should be as reasonable as possible because it is his mother that is the subject matter.

  16. Errr….you guys have said wat I wanted to say but let me just say a word(okay, a few lines) to the bride- to-be… It’s not your home, it’s not your kitchen…yet. Your fiance just got a house. No be your house…yet. The woman did no wrong. There won’t be peace in your heart until you remove everything she bought? You need Jesus, He’s the Prince of peace.

  17. Wisdom is profitable to direct
    In as much as its really not a bad idea for d mother in law to buy the kitchen stuff, even furnish it to the lastest item, I also would not feel good if she makes decision about my home without my consent either before or after. Direct confrontation about it wll not be advisable and removing d items all at once will hurt her feelings too considering if she did it out of a simple mind of helping out. You have to consider the feelings of all the party involved; ur fiance and inlaws in general when they get to know how u handled dis situation.

    My advise would be to take out the item one at a time. You can even buy d same item to make it inconspicous if u feel so bad about it.
    The main thing is not to hurt others in trying to make things right.

    1. My fair lady, you need not be angry. My fiance just got a house and guess what? His relations got him cushions and a refrigerator. He told me about it, first I was surprised n then i burst out laughing. I was happy about it. They are happy for him and I am too although I haven’t seen them yet. Well, when I become the Lady of the house, i could change the cushions if I don’t like them. #just chill#

  18. Lady, u av no right to feel the way u are feeling cos one: u are not legally married to him, so its not ur kitchen yet. Two: u are not suppose to live with him in his house yet cos u are not his wife yet and if u confront him over the mum buying things in d kitchen, girl u will lose him for gud. The mother have every right to put anything in d son’s kitchen till he’s married.

  19. Drs rily nufn much 2 say dan – You 2 av not tied d Knots yet so drs nufn like ‘Our House’. Its his house n his mother is still d official care-taker 4 d guy. Hence, d mum is right n ur wrong. I wnt b suprisd if telln him breaks u two up

  20. The first thing I notice is that this is a troublesome woman, does the fiance know this? Do you expect your future hubby to go without food till u return? What provisions did u make for his feeding? If in pursuing ur career u intend to neglect ur duties in the house, be glad it was just his mother for now, it could have been worse. What you need is not confronting ur man, what u ought to do is go back home, tell te story to ur parents and also imagine this happned to someone else would u be in support of confrontation, hahahaha

  21. There is no harm in what she has done, and she is not trying to run your home she only did it cause she was tryin to help…. Please you would be a mother inlaw some day too…

  22. Ok now dear bride,why don’t you just see theses gifts as part of our “I will testify’ gift for 2013 I won’t make you less a woman or bride….stop assuming things.thank God you know Ūя̲̅ take so wait for when Ūя̲̅ MIL crosses her boundary ​Ў☺ΰ ‎​ deal with it with Grace so please RELAX!

  23. “””I am engaged and my fiance and I plan to get married sometime towards the end of the year”””

    My dear, You’re not yet married, a lot can happen between now and the end of the year!!!!

    “”””He called me today and was really EXCITED that his mum came to the house and since she didn’t see anything in the kitchen she went ahead and bought him a stove, some pots and some plates””””

    You want to deflate his excitement for something his precious mum bought and lastly, you said HE just got a house and I’m very sure your name is not on the lease agreement or C of O, so what exactly are you laying claim to?????

  24. U dnt nid to flare up about dis,just get ur own tinz and kip d one ur mil bot simple. If she ask u y u did dat,tel er in a polite manner dat we re in a modern age n its gas dey re using naw mama wit a broad smile .

  25. In my opinion, she has no problem. She is not yet married to the guy and as such, the kitchen is not her’s. The woman came to her son’s house who is still a bachelor and she needed to fix some meals for herself and also needed to pick some few items that will facilite her cooking. My advice to my sweet sister is to refocus her energy on prayers for her marriage to become a reality. I wish her all the best.

  26. D mother-in-law means no harm what so ever. She jst doesn’t want her son to starve while u are away & she’s nt saying u can’t furnish your house. Wait until u are married before u lay full claim to d house my dear. God knows d husband of tomorrow. So be patient if u really claim u want to marry him & assume she’s your mother looking out for your brother by that I’m sure u will understand her better.

  27. Wwwweeeelllll! U knw d way modas r, u will definitely b one soona dan u think. If u go to ur son’s haus and he dosent ve pots nd utensils u wld want to buy him a set. My advice for u is to use d pots like dat wen u cme bak frm ur trip,its nt like u r married and wld b spendin evry waking moment in d haus. Den wen u r married and finally living in d house!Tada!!!! Kip mama’s pots and utensils in d farthest corner of d closet and buy as many pots as u want to. Nobody wld fault u then.

  28. Good Day, In my own opinion,I think d lady needs to slow down a bit and look from the motherly angle. Every good mother always want to be sure their children are okay even if it means giving their last penny as sacrifice. I feel she should take those kitchen items a token of love and support from her intending mother in law. Although I don’t d genesis of how coordial their relationship was, but bye and large, my dear pls take slow, there are a greater challenges ahead in marriage than pick offence in every little thing.

  29. First of all I feel u should be careful before making asumptions on the gesture of ur mom-in-law as this could be a stumbling block to a peaceful marriage, some mothers need time and patience to let go fully on their sons as they have been in the centre all those years, your intended action will only result to a war on both side ( two wrong don’t make right), I suggest when u get back check out what she bought pick the out what u fancy and u can change what u feel is not neccesary with love so her feelings wouldn’t be hurt as she is like a mom to u 2, I leave u with this; Live in harmony with one another, do not be proud and if possible live at peace with everyone that is what God’s word says, thank you.

  30. As a matter of fact, the man is not yet married to you and his mother still has the right to buy whatever she feels in her son’s house unless of course He objects it. You really should not worry yourself about this, when he finally marries you and brings you home, you then have the right to rebrand the house, and that includes the kitchen as you would love to.

  31. First and foremost,you’re engaged to him,not married to him yet….His mum bought a stove for her single son.
    dnt give yurself heartbreak over a non issue.its nt yur kitchen yet,until two of you become 1.
    …when you get married officially,yu dn av the right to change wateva yu wanna change,cos by then,its your home.
    I hope i win

  32. Firstly,why didn’t u get the necessary things before travelling,she only filled the space u left.(2)if u were in her shoes,I am sure u would do thesame,I mean all caring mothers would do thesame.(3)My advice to you is,make sure u don’t leave any vaccum cos if u do others would fill them up,do wat u knw is right nd if u cnt,dnt be angry wen odas do.

  33. Hello ma! Well i think she is over reacting. Her mother in law to be may just be acting out of love, she can still go ahead and buy her own kitchen stuffs and if must talk to her fiance about it,she should be very courteous because the woman in question is his mom.

  34. Dear Ma,

    The issue people have today is periodically generated by them. When a mans heart is full of gabbage,it produces nothing more. The well spring of life is in the heart and so the bible admolishes us to guard it will all Diligence ”ALL” not ”SOME”. From the ladys line of thought,it is clearly obvious that the boys mother and herself are not in Good terms cos i see no reason why my mother inlaw to be should buy anything in the hiuse, be it kitchen utensils,some set of furniture,a bed spread for our bed,etc ithout being asked or forced to do it and i gt all worked up. In the case that the mother of the boy is not over possessive or exhibiting some form of witch craft,then the lady has to seriously check herself. The bible says, A wise woman builds her home and a foolish one pulls it down with her OWN hands, Wisdom is profitable to direct,in all gettings get Wisdom. If the lady is born again,id encourage her to get books and tapes on Marriage cos only those full of unconditional Love and forgiveness can weather the storms in the convenant of Marriage. God bless you!!!

  35. Hello lady,i think u should take tinz easy,yea i knw u re engaged 2 ur fiance bt not married 2 hm ye.so,4rm my own point of view,i think d mother is right nd u should nt feel d way u do nw.if u two were married it would ve been a different thing al2geda,so,cheer up she’s nt running any hm coz it’s nt urs yet bt her sons.SHALOM!

  36. I think she has the right Τ̣̣̥o̲̣̥ feel the way she is feeling even though her mother-in-law didn’t mean it that way….I feel the mother -in-law did that out of exictment.she mustnt give out the utensils….there are other things Τ̣̣̥o̲̣̥ buy for the new house.I feel she should let ƍƠ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡.I understand that its annoying.

  37. Well i feel she has every right to feel that way because its her home but in everything we do we have to think twice.i feel she should not throw away the things her mother-in-law bought in the house because it might be out of goodwill but rather keep them. Also, i feel she should talk to her husband about it and how she feels about what his mother did during her absense so it wont repeat itself again..tnxx

  38. Well i feel she has every right to feel that way because its her home but in everything we do we have to think twice.i feel she should not throw away the things her mother-in-law bought in the house because it might be out of goodwill but rather keep them. Also, i feel she should talk to her husband about it and how she feels about what his mother did during her absense so it wont repeat itself again..tnxxx

  39. I think d first step is to ask God for direction on how to go about it, then talk to your fiance and explain how u feel abt it, then hear what he wil say, what ever decision u arrived at then u go ahead wt it, but pls dont rush into removing what she bought, she might have done that because she loves u like a daughter.

  40. Pastor M,
    Thank you for being continually there for us all.
    For the damsel in distress, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your mother in law to be furnishing your kitchen. If you don’t like the things she bought, please just buy a little extra (the ones you like) and use them toggether with the ones his mother bought.
    Believe me, he would appreciate you that you appreciate what his mother bought. Sure she bought some useful things.
    It is not an issue at all, if you were married and she replaced your kitchen set in your absence, them that is a different picture. She saw an empty kitchen and gave you a lovely kitchen set, please call her and let her know you appreciate her concern and love. She is your mother, fighting over such a “no issue” is not a meaningful thing to do.
    Wish you the best in your marriage. Know you are not there to be an enemy your husband’s mother. love her as you love her son.
    God bless you real good.

  41. Firstly,I think she should search herself and make sure there is nothing deeper going on with her concerning her mother in inlaw,secondly she should know that there are some things that are better overlooked but if she feels she must absolutely say her mind on the matter she should be very wise about it.

  42. I want ask, do you have good relationship with your mother inlaw?? If you are. Just look at it as small thing, she just helping you,thank her for what she bought in your house to be. . She is not saying that you’re not the ower of the house.,and don’t tell your fiance now letter you can. Thanks.

  43. I want ask, do you have good relationship with your mother inlaw?? If you are. Just look at it as small thing, she just helping you,thank her for what she bought in your house to be. . She is not saying that you’re not the ower of the house.,and don’t tell your fiance now letter you can. Thanks…

  44. Hi Lady,I’m sorry about how u feel, however,I must quickly add that you should be mindful of the fact that u and your fiance are not yet legally married,even though you will which I wish you a very blissful one,so your mother-in-law to be may possibly recognize that fact. You know how women too sometimes want to claim territory. So my advice is to keep your cool for now, deal with your emotions and don’t let your emotions control you(to that effect,I will reccommend Joyce Meyer’s book on Emotions) I don’t exactly remeber d title. Until you become his legally wedded wife,I’ll say you shouldn’t put those stuffs away,but as soon as you get married and move in,my dear before anyone can say JACK ROBINSON,pls do well to fling out those things from your own kitchen.All the best!

  45. Hi Lady,I’m sorry about how u feel, however,I must quickly add that you should be mindful of the fact that u and your fiance are not yet legally married,even though you will which I wish you a very blissful one,so your mother-in-law to be may possibly recognize that fact. You know how women too sometimes want to claim territory. So my advice is to keep your cool for now, deal with your emotions and don’t let your emotions control you(to that effect,I will reccommend Joyce Meyer’s book on Emotions) I don’t exactly remeber d title. Until you become his legally wedded wife,I’ll say you shouldn’t put those stuffs away,but as soon as you get married and move in,my dear before anyone can say JACK ROBINSON,pls do well to take out those stuffs from your own kitchen if you so wish.and above remeber to walk in love.All the best!

  46. Young lady,
    You don’t need to get all annoyed at his mother, she jst helpd you out wit a little thing. Or would you have preferred him getting a girl for that.
    When you get bak from your trip, you’ll wisely get the exact items for replacement and wisely again, give out wat she bought in your kitchen. And no hell will be let loose.
    Then as time goes on, you could get more advanced cooking items wisely without grudges.
    All the best, young lady and stay off anger with anyone esp your in-laws.hapy married life.

  47. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Please don’t make decisions when you’re angry or upset. Your future mother-in-law might just have been trying to help considering your busy or tight schedule. Discuss it with your fiance before keeping the things she bought aside. Don’t just throw them away. All the best as you prepare.

  48. There are two things involved; your mother-in-law might just be trying to be a mother or indirectly trying to control ur home. In other ways you have to be careful with the decision you make so as to not take the wrong step. Just pray about it and be observative. As for the items she bought, you can politely talk to your spouse about it. But in that aspect, i’ll advice you not to throw them away as it might send a wrong message and be seen as a form of disrespect. Rather, show her that you appreciate them but that you’ll love to shop for your home by yourself.

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