What Are You Doing? 

Hey mummy

How are you? Warming up for sleepless nights, noisy homes, and having your heart literally live outside your body for the rest of your life?  😜 just teasing you. Of course you are. You were born ready….

You were made for this…

…and in due time it will manifest. How do I know? Easy 

And we all know what God has said so there’s definitely no way for him to get out of this one

Not that he wants to anyway. He’s more willing than you are …

Malachi 2:15 tells us it’s a major priority for God. Wondering where you got your love For babies from? Look no further; it’s in your Jesus DNA

He’s also able. Wouldn’t you just be sad if all he could offer was his willingness without ability. It’s one thing to want to do something. It’s another thing to be able to do it. Thankfully not my Jesus…

So don’t even think that God is done with you yet my darling. I’m telling you because I know first hand. He’s definitely a miracle worker, a doctor’s report canceller, a destiny changer, the God who only does great things.

Rest in this my darlings…

But because he’s a miracle worker not a magician, God needs you to play your part. Let me explain

A few years ago a lady I knew was TTC and trusting God for it to happen came to see me and she was lamenting seriously about not knowing what to do and blah blah blah blah …

She had been fasting and praying and confessing and had promises she was standing on. So I asked her how was she having sex? She looked really confused like what was I on about? So I broke it down into two questions.

  1. How are you having sex?
  2. When are you having sex?

She seemed almost upset that she came to me for spiritual advice and there I was talking about sex.

Hmmm… my sisters this is the problem I have with human beings. So you are fasting …thankyou. You are praying…you do well. You are confessing the word … we bless God. … but are you having sex?

All through the Bible where ever faith was mentioned there was corresponding action. Christians are the funniest human beings I know sometimes. The Bible tells us 

Bible o! Not pastor M. Bible!!!! Adam knew his wife eve and she conceived. I don’t think it was know as in they exchanged names or numbers

He had sex and she got pregnant but notice that wasn’t where her faith was because she declared in the end I have gotten a “(hu)man” from THE LORD not from sex from the LORD but even though she knew God was her source she still had sex. Her way of saying Lord I will play my part if you play yours.

Okay so maybe Adam and Eve were sinners. I mean who got us into this mess right? Oya give me a “holy” character in the Bible who had a natural child and didn’t have corresponding action (sex) with their faith. (Not Virgin Mary o! Jesus was an absolute exception) Let me give you a few minutes… hours… days… months… years…

Okay so let’s see another very spiritual woman who God did a mighty miracle for. You all know I love her …

yeah you guessed… let’s welcome Hannah. I’m sure you know the story already. But let me just shine some light on one really tiny phrase in that whole story. 

Elkanah made love to his wife Hannah …

I believe that was a trigger point to God remembering her. If not, her praying and the blessing Eli spoke over her would have sufficed.

Our problem sometimes is we can be holier than the Holy Spirit.

To have a baby you need to make love.

Not just have sex. It includes sex but it must have its roots in love. Because  faith worketh through love. Your treatment of each other must be love. Your sex must not be just about having babies, love must be involved. Don’t make it a chore. Enjoy each other.

So how are you having sex? Are you even having sex or like that lady your focus is just on fasting and prayer?

Secondly when? I asked her when her fertile days are. It’s funny most people especially if they married as virgins or have pretty much had a normal cycle all their lives never really bother to know these things.

From the year I turned 16 and was diagnosed with PCOS , I barely had regular periods so I kept track consistently. Moreso when I was TTC. I remember I had “by faith” ovulations. I would calculate like I had a normal 28 day cycle and I had an app on my phone that helped me track my periods and ovulation. I would just follow the tracker by faith and plan for my ovulation days. Crazy? Well it worked for me. I literally believed it was my ovulation days and the months my period would come, I would input it and it would reset the tracker again but I would call those days forth by faith and I kept at it till today I can sing like Ada Ehi


Don’t let anyone lie to you, you cannot substitute one for the other.  You must have faith but you must also have works.

So ladies let’s make this work. Don’t just sit around having pity parties. Get some information about your fertility cycle and what ever else you need to know…. then pray.

You pray to see the way God sees, to get instruction on what to do. So by all means pray but…

I’m not saying let your works push aside your faith… Never!!! Your faith MUST always be in God. He is the one who gives us (hu)man(s) like he did our mama Eve. He is the God who remembers like He remembered Hannah. So let your faith be in God as your source 

Okay ladies so let’s get to doing as we have seen in the word of God 

There’s always a reward for doing.

You remember the lady I told you about in the beginning? She has twins today. Let’s just say she got to doing…

Can’t wait for your testimonies


Love you.

Don’t lose It 

Hey super sexy virtuous women

How are you? What kind of week have you had. It’s been a whirlwind around here but I’m loving it. I’m learning to love and live every season of my life to the fullest.

Has it been a looooong week for you and you feel like just curling up in bed for a year? Well, here’s the thing if you ever feel like this then what you need in your life is some joy.

Joy? Yes! What ever happens don’t lose your joy. I know it’s not so easy but you’ve got to fight to keep your joy because that’s where your strength comes from. 

No matter how angry you get don’t let the sun go down on your anger 

So today here’s a little humor to help you keep your joy. Found a few pictures that made me smile. Hope they do you too.


I hope they made you smile at least. Please find your joy. Keep your humor. A happy marriage is built by two happy people. So find time to laugh 

I believe that is one of the biggest secrets to a happy marriage or could it be this? 

I wonder …

Come on ladies

Find a happy place at least 5 minutes everyday, throw back your head and laugh 

And if your wig falls off, so be it.

Just be sure the corn rows under are neat. 

Bye girls. See you tomorrow.

Love ya

Intentional God!

Hey people

It’s a very happy Tuesday morning for me. I’m really excited by all the responses I’ve been getting concerning the Chayil Prayer Journal (praying for your husband)


Doesn’t it just look gorgeous?

Okay so let me make satan really mad this morning because now the book is out, I can say like Joseph this morning that even though satan had evil plans toward the book God turned it around for our good. 

Late last year God had started stirring my heart toward a certain assignment he had for me this year. Obviously the enemy was throwing major attack on marriages and families so God was telling me this was not the year to just sit back and be comfortable in my own happy little bubble  

but to be his heart and hand towards marriages especially wives as so many are hurting. I obeyed but not fully understanding because as I inferred earlier I wasn’t in that place; I was and am still very happy in my marriage.  Oh! Of course there have been moments when I felt “what planet is he from?” But they’ve never lasted a full day and they’ve been very few and far between.

So as I was saying, I obeyed by yielding myself to whatever He would have me do. So God gave me a list of things to do and number one on the list was

TEACH the wives to start fighting right again; get them to start fighting on their knees

He gave me blueprints for four prayer devotionals beginning with praying for your husband. I had a mandate to release it at the beginning of the year. It seemed really impossible for me to release it that early but God sent me helpers. I mean the guy that designed the book practically shut down his office for over two weeks just to come help me make sure that nothing got in the way of us making the deadline of the release.

Everything was ready to go to press three weeks before.  The publisher said he needed two weeks. So we relaxed. Thank God to he books would be out on time and we could pray over them for a full week. Amazing!!! So quick and so easy right? Wrong!!!

satan and his cohorts must have had a field day laughing at us. 

First of all you need to understand how satan works. He goes after your weakness. He’s a coward so he will never come full on. He will attack your fears.

Now if you know me very well you will know I hate the words, “it’s okay” and “let’s just manage it” or “it’s not that bad.”

So what did satan do? When the books arrived, they were so badly done….at least by my standards. 

Oh! My God was I ever so mad …at the publisher, at myself, at satan and anyone who just even crossed my mind in relation to this book 😂😂😂

First of all the book cost me an arm and a leg to produce not to now add the many “sorry mummy is busy ” I told my children or days I had to stay back in the office till very late.

When I confronted the man he told me when he got to the market he found out things were much much more expensive than he had envisaged and charged. So rather than calling me back to tell me it would be more expensive to produce he decided to make the decision for me by managing what they had by dropping paper quality and a whole lot of other drama

I was livid at this time.

So, you think I can do this and give it to God?

Then he says “Ah! It’s you that thinks it’s not good o! Something like this? Shebi it’s for God… it’s good.”

I could not believe it. How this man that has always printed for us; Who knows how finicky I can be when it comes to what I do for God or put my name on …talkless of my face (all your fault blessing, kemi and femi)

I was about to go off on him when God reminded me …we wrestle not against flesh and blood…but against principalities and powers…against every thought that exalts itself above the knowledge of Christ. So before allowing satan to distract me further I decided to deal with the main issue on ground.

  • The mindset that because it’s for God it must be shoddy work
  • The anger and strife that could brew from this and keep us from actually turning out this book to increase the knowledge of how Christ wants us to do marriage
  • The way forward.

So I went in to worship God in the service. This happened on a service day. As I forgot about it and placed it in God’s hands I got a direct word from God

Let nothing waste… recycle

Solution right? Hmmm… not as easy as it sounds o! What this simple one liner meant was an extra over half a million naira and less copies of the version I wanted  (hard back) but it also meant I could now have paper back version which I didn’t plan at all.

So where was I to get over half a million naira? Let me spare you the details and say God showed up…as always! 

But that’s not just the testimony. The testimony is that the books came early that morning and the women rushed to get it like people who had been thirsting for so long. 

The real testimony is how many messages I got from women saying

Thank you

Two messages in particular  I got made me tear up




Then this 

I’m thankful homes are already being healed. Even though the enemy tried to frustrate God’s plans, instead he got my faith and wisdom level to increase. He also made us print more books than we planned. And those who can’t afford the hardback can still get the paper back. 

See? Nothing takes God by surprise. It’s all intentional. 

So today I’m thankful for my new book but I’m also thankful my husband’s new book. 

I’m thankful for the success of the marriage seminars we had this past weekend and all the marriages  that have been revived. 

If you want to order any of the books here are the numbers for those in Nigeria
If you are outside the country please send me an email on pastorm@justusgirlsnaija.com and I’m sure we will find a way to get it to you. Still working on some platforms. Will get the info across to you once I have it confirmed.

And oh before I go, satan here’s an ntoi for the road …

Three For One! 

Hey people 

I’m sorry for the silence. 

To make up for it though you get three posts in one. 


So Thankful Tuesday, Wednesdays is for Wives and TTC Thursdays all rolled up in one. 

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THANKFUL TUESDAY

Today I’m thankful….

Yes it’s been a hard past few days…

Yes I’ve cried a lot in the last few days… 

Yes I’ve been very sad…. then angry…then tired…just very tired but….Today,  I’m thankful. 

I’m thankful that even though Eric Arubayi is no longer here with us in the flesh, that I got to meet him…got to know him…

I’m thankful that he was in my world… that he passed through here… even if for just a few minutes. 

I still remember just like it was yesterday the first time I met Eric. It was rather uneventful but it left such an impression on me. 

It must have been 9 years ago on a sponsored trip to Kenya for the finals of East African idols. I  was on that trip as Isioma CHIJIDE as my passport was still in my maiden name at the time. Eric and Omawunmi were billed to perform on that trip. I happened to be on the same bus that took us to our hotel. Obviously at that time I was trusting God for the fruit of the womb and for some funny reason my tummy was big. So he asked very sweetly if I was pregnant and I said yes (because faith calls those things that be not as though they were) and he was just sweet and caring and when I bumped into him on the trip he would ask if I had eaten, how I was… I mean I never knew the guy before that and I wasn’t sure we would ever meet again but I kept thinking “fine boy with good heart very rare”. 

Fast forward to many years later when pita became a part of my life. He would always tell me about his friend Eric. The guy was practically his closest friend. I found out it was the same Eric and I wasn’t surprised to hear he was such a great guy as I had experienced it first hand in Kenya. 

2012 came and Onos came to see me about doing her concert at our church on the mainland. I had just met her and I loved her instantly. We agreed on dates but I never asked her about her lineup of ministers. So on the day I saw Eric again from a distance. Unfortunately I came in a bit late so I missed hearing him minister. Towards the end of the meeting Onos asked me to bless the offering so as I got up and encouraged people to give, I noticed Eric was gisting with someone I don’t remember who now but I remember throwing shade at him right there I actually called his name. He looked shocked because he didn’t know who I was. remember I was just some random “pregnant” woman on that trip not Pastor Mildred. 

Anyway after the meeting I saw him with pita and went to apologize cos I know it must have been embarrassing to be called out like that in front of everyone even though it was a joke. I mean after all he was a celebrity.

 As I drew close to them pita had started his usual “mama of life! Pastor toh bahd” I smiled as he enveloped me in a side hug. Eric smiled… anyone that knows Eric knows  “that Eric smile” 

“I’m sorry about before. Hope say you no vex” I said “na play o!” 

“Me?! Vex? How na?” Then he turns to pita “you no tell her?” Turns back to me with an “I no be like that o! Sha just invite me then we go settle”. We both laughed then. 

I didn’t see much of Eric again after that. Only the occasional bumping into him once once until 2016 just last year when I began planning for When Women Worship 2016 – Amaghimo. I felt in my heart that it was time to bring Eric to church officially. I had two names laid on my heart -Eric Arubayi and Mairo Ese. My team and I felt we needed to add a female minister to balance things out and there began the drama. 

First someone said to me, I don’t think Eric will work o! He’s not a strong worshipper. World people!!! I sha stuck with what God had said and oh! Was I ever so glad I did. Eric brought down the glory at the mainland Centre! ​

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Through all the drama though,Eric gave me his word that no matter what it would take that he would be at the meeting.  And through it all he kept calling to be sure I was not worried or perturbed.  

“Pastor M see ehn! Me? I go come. No jus worry yourself. You no get problem. If na my own you de think. We don worship finish” …always with a smile….always. 

And show up he did with his mischievous quirky self. 

Eric would call to check up on me and accuse me of not inviting him more. “I de count am o! Some people don come three times.” But you knew it was all a joke, all in love, never with malice. 

“Eric you wey be celebrity. Fear no let me de invite you anyhow” 

“Celebrity for God?! Abeg invite me o! Na even mainland I like sef. These island people I don tire for them. Too much forming.” 

You could tell he had no airs. None whatsoever. Fame never got to him. Nothing mattered but God and people; Worshipping God and Loving People.  

A lot of “music ministers” I know come with a lot of drama before you finish inviting them “manager” matter don enter. You will know it’s just gospel for them because they can’t compete with the secular guys so gospel music is safe to do. Unfortunately they carry the secular attitude into the kingdom.  When they give you bill you begin to wonder if it is this same Jesus that died for free they are singing for. In fact let me not get started on this matter…. this is about Eric. 

Eric was one of the few good ones. He would never mention money and worship in the same breath. He did this for the love of Jesus. 

He simply was defined by one thing …

I’m thankful today because He crossed my path. He gave of himself to God and people. Just like Jesus his Lord and master, he lived a short but impactful life. 

I can only pray that God will give chinonso his beautiful wife and Jayden his son the fortitude to bear this loss. If we are all this broken I hate to imagine how she feels. 

However I choose to remember him fondly. Someone asked if I was going for his burial and my answer is “No!” Why? Because you don’t bury someone who is not dead. Eric is not dead. Eric lives on… 

He’s not dead. He travelled. Unfortunately he doesn’t get a visa to come back here till Jesus is ready to come get us. Then… Eric gets to come back. Till then, we can only thank God that He left us a sound….​

​And as I said on my IG post if I hear….


And as you used to say to me: 

“Mama I de come, make I jus reach that side…” 

my answer remains the same …

…even today:

okay, later na. We go see…”
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CHAYIL HAVEN 

And so this Eric matter got me thinking…

Is all the fighting in marriage really worth it? 

I remember a scene from the movie, Why Did I Get Married too? And I remember the character played by Janet Jackson was in a divorce battle with her husband and on the day she went to his office to fight with him. After she made a scene, he got so mad and drove off. In a split second another car ran into him and it was over… he was gone. 

No more fights, no room to make amends, no second chances …


So my question to you today is this: 

If the last words you spoke to your husband this morning were the last words he would ever hear from you, would you be happy? 

Now please note. This is not written to invoke fear in you because I know that God has promised us long life and your husband will not die
but I need us to think. If we learn to think we will do better. 

Time is short darlings. Some days I wake up and think where did eleven years go? Feels like I just met the guy. Feels like I’m just getting to know him. I mean the guy still rocks my world. 

Still gives me butterflies in my tummy.  Makes me feel like even 100 years with him is too short.

…and even I know I don’t get that much. 

So if you’re being truthful with yourself if you knew today was the last day you would ever see that man would all he’s doing now really matter? 

  • Would his snoring at night be so annoying? Would you rather silence and a cold empty bed? 
  • Would his dropping his clothes all over the floor be really so annoying? Would you rather a tidy but empty house? 
  • Would his not paying the rent on time be so infuriating? Would you rather pay it alone and on time? 
  • Would his coming home late make you so mad if the option was him not coming home at all? 

Every day you get with your husband is a gift. I’m sure Eric’s wife would give all she has just to have him back. To hold him once more…

So agreed he doesn’t help you with the kids? He doesn’t appreciate what you do for him? Do them anyway…

Let’s stop fighting ladies! 

Here’s my policy: 

  1. Don’t go to bed angry. Whatever the issue resolve it that day. If not it has entered voicemail and must be forgiven. 
  2. Practice Advance Forgiveness. Even when you don’t feel he’s sorry. Even when he hasn’t apologized. Do this for yourself; Forgive anyway. Set your heart free. Treat it like it never happened. This one is very hard though but I find that the more I do it the easier it gets. 
  3. No carry overs. Treat every day like a fresh one. Don’t bring yesterday’s grudges into today’s graces. Don’t do it no matter how tempting. Don’t deal with your spouse on the basis of what he did to you yesterday. Move on already! 

So ladies let’s just all try to get along and treat each day as if it were the last even if it isn’t. 

Okay ladies so this is the weekend of our Chayil Seminar with my PK 
It’s not a meeting to miss trust me. 

A lot will be happening there especially… 

the launch of our latest books 

So tomorrow is going to be very exciting. 

Also because I know a lot of wives are in a weary place. Tomorrow is also a day of refreshing so we have a full on worship service before PK comes up to discuss carnal things. 

     Will all be ministering. Can you really afford to miss this? 

    Don’t forget to spread the word. I advice you to come on time. It won’t be recorded so don’t miss it. 

    See you tomorrow. Don’t forget let’s make every moment count…while we still can. 

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    TTC THURSDAY

    Hello mummy 

    Of course I’m not leaving you out. Something for you too. 

    First let me say again that I’m sorry. I noticed a lot of people checked in last week and the next day. All that is yesterday’s news though. 

    So today let’s talk talk about 

    A Clean House 

    I’ve found out if you are TTC you can’t keep a dirty house. No I don’t mean you should bring out broom, dusters, mops and napkins. 

    Trust me if that was all it took, a lot of women would turn to cleaning ladies. 

    No sweeties, that’s not what I’m talking about today. Let me start from here 

    You need to treat your body as important. Too many people are focused on TTC and running around looking for prayers and prophecies but we rarely every focus on the vehicle God will use to bring the answer to the prayer. 

    I remember the year I got pregnant the Holy Spirit told me to prepare my body. He made me understand that it wasthe corresponding  action to my faith. I started to pay attention. 

    So I started eating healthy and cut out junk. 

    I began to rest ….I would actually sleep 

    And most importantly I began to exercise because I understood that the only weight I needed to carry was my baby’s weight. 

    Speaking of laying aside weights, the second level of keeping a clean house is keeping your heart and soul clean. So get ready ladies let’s really go in…

    Some things we really need to clean out are :

    • Worry worry never changed anything and never helped anyone. Worry and faith don’t stay in the same room and faith is important because without faith it is impossible… so you need to totally clean it out by trusting in God completely. 
    • Envy one of the things you get to deal with in the waiting period is envy. Sadly most times it creeps up on you. You need to be deliberate about this. Once you feel it rearing its ugly head get your broom and dustpan out and sweep it out quickly. If you hear someone had a baby rather than think that should be me, go out there and buy her a gift. The easiest way to stop the green eyed monster is to celebrate with others when good happens for them. 
    • Bitterness– As the name implies it is a bitter emotion. Usually a residue of all other painful emotions. 
    • Self pity -oh! This one is so major. The “why me lord? Why me?” Syndrome.  Feeling like you don’t deserve this? Well, darling then who does? If not you then why anyone else? I hear it every day “pastor M, I kept myself. I didn’t live a wayward life. No abortions. Nothing but look at so and so that did five abortions is a mother today. What did I do to God?” You must understand that God is not moved by what you do or do not do. You don’t come to him on the basis of your works. Nothing you do can change who God is; He is merciful to both sinner and saint. .  When you realize that God loves you and will only do you good then you will stop the self pity. This is simply a test and God knows you can pass it that’s why he allowed it come your way. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and find someone else to bless. 
    • AngerAn emotion you must never toy with. I know women who have lost babies because they got into a fight as an expression of anger. Miscarriages because of anger. Babies aborted out of hot wombs due  to hot temper. Don’t give it a moment. Clean it out fast!!! Anger is such a dangerous emotion. No one is saying don’t get angry but don’t do anything you will regret. 
    • Strifemalice, evil speaking, “beef”, all manner of strife needs to be cleaned out immediately. A miracle and strife cannot survive together. Babies love peace. Any one who has done you wrong forgive them. Don’t worry Hod will fight for you.         .            I still remember the year before I got married was the year I had to deal with the highest betrayal of my life from a very close friend. I learnt to forgive and let go of the pain and betrayal. I cleaned out every bit of strife in my heart. I had her picture in my bible so I would take it out and pray for her everyday. No not that God should punish her or vindicate me. No nothing of the sort. I prayed for her to be blessed, to prosper, to be protected, to be forgiven, for all her dreams to come true… I prayed till I genuinely loved her again. 
    • Joy No matter what pain you are going through in this season, find your joy. Dont take joy lightly at all. You must learn to maintain your joy. Don’t trade it for anything. The joy of the lord is our strength. We cannot draw from the wells of salvation without being joyful. It is with joy that we get what can save us -from pain, regret, barrenness, etc. . So we can deduce from this scripture that it is only when we are joyful  we can get the babies God has promised us. 

    Okay ladies so let’s keep a clean house. After all we are expecting visitors this year. Miracle babies all round darlings. 

      I’ll be back next week 

      Until then be in faith darlings by keeping a clean house. 

      Love you 

      Bringing Sexy Back

      Hey ladies

      I’m sorry this is coming so late but it’s been a really busy day and I finally just got in from midweek service.

      So let’s do this.

      This week was very different. I had such an undeniable stirring in my heart towards married women that I woke up and immediately wrote a looooooong epistle to the married women at my church DCC. Let me share :

      Good morning ladies. To be honest I can barely sleep and that’s because my heart is really burdened. I need to share this with all of us because I believe it concerns us.

      There seems to be something becoming rampant today. I’ve been privileged to minister to a lot of married women lately and all I see and hear is how tired they are of being wives. A lot of their husbands have put them in positions where they either want to walk out of the marriage or they grudgingly stay and regret the decision they made to marry him daily.

      Now I know a lot of us are not in that place (thank God☝️) but I don’t want us to take lightly what I’m about to say. I need you to listen very carefully please 🙏🏼

      Just because there is peace in our own homes doesn’t mean we should take for granted what is going on because I believe that like Jesus said An enemy has done this Matthew 13:28 so we cannot stand by and be quiet 🤐

      Listen ladies, the thing you think is far will soon become near if not handled when it is far and just because it is not our portion (yep! I heard you 🙄) doesn’t mean we don’t have a responsibility towards our own dear sisters going through hell.

      So why am I saying all this so early in the morning? (Well I couldn’t sleep so all of you too must wake up 😜no I’m kidding 😂) let me be serious. I’m saying this because I believe with all my heart that we as CHAYIL women at DCC have a special assignment to Wives all over the nation and the world. We are not just to gather and make ourselves happy. We are SENT. There is a strong MANDATE hovering over us as a ministry

      So what are we supposed to do?

      1. From now on every single one of us must begin to pray for married women (whether we know them or not) every day in our prayer time. Then once every week for at least 1 hour we pick a time to pray collectively for all wives. Ourselves inclusive.

      2. We have a responsibility to get the word out about our meetings. Especially this one coming up on Saturday February the 18th. Initially I was going to treat it as small meeting but God rebuked me yesterday so it’s a full on word and worship meeting. Yes I know the theme and I know a lot of carnal things will be discussed but hey… don’t take it for granted God will be speaking loud and clear in that room. So invite every married woman you know. Think of 5 people only you will bring. That hall must be full. They need to hear this and it won’t be recorded o! So if they don’t come that’s it.

      3. We have a responsibility to fund this meeting. Yes ladies you heard me – time to bring out your 👛 💳 💰 💵 💷 💴. I don’t care how much you give but every single person must give.It costs money to do ministry. Every year you have been the one receiving now be a blessing to others too.

      After all this long post I have written I know that Satan will whisper to you… you have your own issues abeg or what’s your own are you a pastor or minister or keep your money. You that you are looking for more sef…. Then this is for you:

      Esther 4:14

      For if you remain silent at this time, liberation and rescue will arise for the married women from another place, and you and your husband’s house will be destroyed [since you did not help when you had the chance]. And who knows whether you have attained royalty for such a time as this [and for this very purpose]?”

      That’s what keeps me on my toes. God doesn’t need me but it’s a privilege that he chose to use me so don’t take it for granted when God chooses to use you. If you refuse he has 70000 who have not bowed to Baal. He’s never stranded.

      Ok ladies let me get out of your space. I love you guys from the bottom of my heart. You make me so proud. Amazing wives and mothers. Being a DCC wife is a calling and you embrace it so well and rep Chayil 💋💋💋

      So I know I’m sharing our in house chat private chat but I’m doing this for you to see how serious the thing about to share with you is.


      Same programme 3 fliers. DO NOT MISS IT for anything in the world.

      I know the theme is how to be sexy after marriage but sweetie if I know my husband well enough that meeting will not be anything you are thinking. Please come out and invite someone or better still bring someone.

      You may just be saving a life. Also next day it’s the men’s turn 

      For your own good don’t let him miss it. Invite him. Pray he hears everything said. Then…

      Really need to go now darlings. Very early day tomorrow and I’m literally drifting in and out of sleep as I write this.

      Please pray. Invite someone. Do your bit.

      Be back next week. I’ve got great news for you

      Love

      pastor Mildred

      The Spoken Word

      Hey Everyone,

      It’s been an amazing week so far… and can you believe it’s the second week in February already!!! (Surprised face)

      Feels like a whole lot has happened in just 5weeks of 2017.. think about it.. you probably have birthed a new idea and you’re running fast with it, your daughter just turned 2, your son is going into secondary school, your business is on another level, you’ve gotten a new job.. Personally I feel like all I have experienced in 5weeks is like 5months worth, God has been so amazing!

      And Today I’m thankful for God’s word over my life! His Spoken word! He told us as a family that in 2017.. We are living miracles!


      Walking, talking, moving miracle… Everywhere I go to Miracles follow me.. Every dead thing I touch comes to life!
      This is the year where you have to believe God’s word like never before… believe in the miraculous..


      I’m sure you’ll understand better after listening to Chioma’s testimony..
      This testimony is one i will always share at any given opportunity. Its proof that God’s word is true, that there is power in spoken words…

      My son was born, perfect….a “beautiful” boy, so healthy i didn’t even have a hospital card because we had not been in one. He was 18months when the devil tried his luck….my husband and I worked late and so got home late that day. As we opened the gate, I saw my brother in-law running out with my son and screaming help!!! At first it looked like a drama, my husband panicked and got down from the car without even putting the car in the “P” (park) mode, I realized I was alone in the moving car and put it on “P”. At this time my compound was full with people who were trying to help (our house was in a very busy area). By the time I got to my son, he was not even moving. In the chaos, I heard them say he had a convulsion, I don’t know where fear ran to, but i dint feel afraid, I asked them to drop him on the ground and I said to him…”Chisom you cannot die” and I started to pray in tongues (at this time people were looking at me like a woman who had lost her only child to convulsion, plenty pity eh), he wasn’t even moving. I carried him and asked my neighbour to take me to the hospital. In the car, I w

      called him “Chisom, talk to mummy”. Before we got to the hospital, he cried “mummy”!!! I said “Thank God”. God showed me that he was faithful!!

      The devil did not stop there oh, he convulsed the next day, he convulsed 2 weeks later, two times the same day, it became a routine and the doctors were amazed, they could not explain it, many times he had no fever, many times his test results showed nothing,

      He could just be talking and get thrown down by the force of the seizure, people were afraid he will not be a normal child, anyone who has watched her child go through an episode will understand how scary it is, the terrible feeling of not being able to help your child carry the pain. One of thos times we rushed to the hospital as it happened in school and his teacher took him to the hospital, while there, another child who had convulsed was rushed in from another school, within 8minutes, that child was pronounced dead, I couldn’t believe it, a mother lost her son in my presence and it was his first seizure, at this time my son had had it about 20times….ha!!!!
      All sorts of tests were conducted, some doctors wanted to conclude that it was epilepsy but i rejected it, people told me that he might not be normal due to the frequency (12 to 15 times a year) I refused to believe what the word of God had not said. I stopped giving him these drugs (anticonvulsants) and believed God for healing, sowed seeds, partnered with a healing ministry and this happened for 4years and suddenly, it stopped. I guess the devil got tired of failing and foolishly moved out of my way. Those years were challenging but we came out strong. Today he is 8years old, and every time i look at him, i see a living miracle! My evergreen testimony!


      God is always true to his word, and he never fails his own..

      See you guys same time next week..

      Love you all!

      Kemi

      Make A Decision 

      Hello yummy mummy’s

      How have you been? January is over. 

      You know what that means right? We are getting closer to our miracle babies… to sharing your testimony. This is the point where you start to practice your hAllelujah dance …

      Because whether the devil likes it or not…. The party must hold…this year! 

      I need us to deal with one very important thing that you need to do. 

      You need to decide what path you would like to take to bring you closer to your testimony. Prayerfully Place the various options you have in front of you and ask: “what will God have me do and which do I have faith for? ” 
      Please Stay in your lane. Do not say I’m going to use my faith only ; no medicine just because your friend got a testimony from scriptures. Not necessarily because God told you. Doing IVF or any other medical procedure doesn’t make you less spiritual. It may just be the path to getting your miracle. 
      Then Once you decide honey, face it squarely. If it’s a medical procedure then immerse it in prayer and go ahead. If it is simply sitting on the word and studying then give it all you’ve got but have no apologies for it. I knew God wanted me to sit on the word and build my faith till I knew for sure that I was pregnant. I shut my ears to the world and “seemingly” good advice and great ideas but that s story for another day. 

      Find out your God  ordained path and stick to it. It may not be easy but when you have your miracle in your hands and testimony on your lips then you will see that it was worth it. 

      But once you run from place to place and follow any new treatment, new hospital or new fad then not only do you prolong your waiting season you will end up frustrated. 

      There’s an easier way just ask the Lord. 

      Okay darlings. If we are going to do this then you need to settle it once for all. What path are you supposed to take? Decide to follow it. 

      Can’t wait to start sharing your testimonies. 

      Love you. 

      Pastor M 

      Rest…

      Hey ladies

      Today has been that kind of day … 

      No apologies, I stayed in bed most of the day. To be honest I was tired and I wasn’t ashamed to say I can’t do this today. 

      I really just wanted to shut down and rest and not just that I wanted to….I needed to. I felt it in my head, my heart and my spirit that I needed to just pack it all up and stop trying to do it all. 
      So today’s message to you darling Wives is this : 

      You can be a great wife and mother but if you don’t find time to rest, you may not be around for very long. And that leaves the very ones you are trying to love, care for and be there for in an even worse place.

      I find time to rest on days that I’m beat or really stressed out. I ignore phone calls except they are very important. I stay in bed for a few minutes longer than I would. I take time off work. They may not be many but I have those days and I’m not apologetic about shutting down. Don’t judge me! 

      Yes o! I’m fighting for my health, my peace of mind, my heart, my marriage and my kids. I’m fighting yo keep it together so I don’t totally breakdown. I just draw back like an elastic band so that when I’m rested and I am released, Satan knows he’s in trouble. 

      basically I’m here to tell you that you are not the Elshaddai honey 

      That’s God’s job.

      As they say “Don’t think you are the El-Shaddai or you shall die.” Leave that job solely to Jehovah. When you cannot meet your husband’s needs. It’s okay to admit it. …to yourself then to him. If you cannot meet your kid’s needs point them to the one who can.

      So today’s lesson is majorly one :

      So how do I rest?

      1. Prioritize- what’s really important and urgent and that only you can do? Then do them. If it’s not urgent, important or life threatening then you can attend to other things first. Question: Blogging vs talking to my husband which is more important? Honey, now you know why this post is just coming up 😉
      2. Delegate-let others help. Let the kids do their bit too. If they don’t do it perfectly, don’t stress. Let them learn. Turn it to a teaching moment. It will be stressful at first but you are  setting up a system that will eventually pay off. Get a maid or nanny if you can afford one. Have your younger ones or your mum come over to help sometimes so you can sleep for a few hours. My dear take advantage of having them in your life …”Aunty and grandma no be for mouth”  
      3. Stop- If you start to feel overwhelmed. Stop. I mean that literally just stop everything you are doing and take a few deep breaths. Honestly you will be shocked at how everything will fall back into perspective. When you are tired you make poor decisions. So just stop. Don’t answer right now. Don’t decide right now. Just stop everything for a few minutes, pray in tongues, worship or just close your eyes for a few seconds. Just stop.
      4. Sleep – I know this doesn’t really sound like it makes sense but when was the last time you slept? Like really really slept ? I don’t mean that wake up every moment your phone beeps kind or that you are asleep but Tv is blaring, kind of sleep. No I’m talking about sleep that you switch off your phones, turn off the tv, keep the kids with someone you trust so you don’t have to think about them for a bit. The kind that your husband goes out, and you sleep with abandon….if you like no clothes sef (just remember to lock the door o!)

      Bottom line I’m just here to remind you tonight that it’s okay to not be super woman. Even God rested. So rest. 

      I’m telling you nicely now ….Rest o! Hian! Because if anything happens to you your husband will marry again. Pata pata he will wait 6 months just to respect your memory but Marry again, he will! And the new wife may not be as sweet as you so your children may just suffer. Your husband will most likely not pay attention to them because he will assume if she treats him well that your kids will be well taken care of… honey let me just stop here because even in this example it can’t be you in Jesus name. It better not be you for your own good o! 

      Anyway, I’m going back to bed now. I’m going to milk it for what it’s worth because tomorrow? Life is back to business as usual. 

      Bye ladies.

      Next week I’m back with more 

      Please come back ok? We need each other. We need to learn from each other in this world today. 

      Love

      Pastor Mildred

      Alive and Active…

      Hey Everyone.. Hope we’re all having a great week so far..

      Yesterday in church Pk preached something so profound, I don’t even know where to start from… the topic was Raw materials for miracles: The word of God.. Raw materials is a series that was preached through the month of January… You all need to get the messages, and listen to it over and over again.. So back to yesterdays message.. Pk talked about the word of God being quick (Life carrying) and active.. The blood group of God’s word is AA (Alive and Active)..


      Now its one thing to just know and understand this word but its another thing to have experienced it.. to have felt it personally..


      A couple of years ago, I was in school in Ghana and got a call from my mum.. she sounded hysterical and was calling me from India… Now on a regular my mum can be a drama queen.. but I could sense fear underneath her voice, she told me my dad went into surgery and had been there longer than usual and she was worried.. my first thought was how are you guys in India and you didn’t tell me, and how did daddy go under the knife and I know nothing about it.. I calmed her down, told her everything would be fine and I would call her back.. After the conversation I just told God you know this isn’t our deal right, he’s supposed to be alive to experience a relationship with you.. (my dad is muslim)..


      This scripture came alive to me.. I’m like daddy isn’t going anywhere.. we’re all gonna serve you.. no matter what/how long it takes.. that’s our deal.

      My dad came out, and the surgery was successful.. Apparently he had DVT (Deep Vein Trombosis).. and I’m thankful that till today its never come up, or been an issue.. but he was completely healed..

      This makes me totally relate to Nneka’s testimony I’m going to share with you right now..

      Nneka’s Testimony:

      I have a testimony o….. hmmm, so some weeks ago, after mid week service, my dad calls me to say he was taking my mum to the hospital…. I live some distance away from church, and it was already 9pm,  but I just had a nudging go to Festac to join them ( dad, mum and my brother)  in the hospital ( the same nudging that asked me not to cross years ago when I crossed and got knocked down by a bike) …. as I got there, the resident doctor had given them 2 drugs to help manage her blood pressure  till the next morning when the consultant will be around. When I got into the room, he looked up, looked at me, I asked him the names of the drugs and why he gave her 2 drugs (she already has drugs she takes).. he then takes one away and asked her to take only 2 tablets of one drug, in addition to the one she takes normally… So, on Thursday, daddy takes her back and her blood pressure had crashed from 245( the previous day) to 90….  The consultant was in shock and reluctantly stated that she was overdosed, that the doctor shouldn’t have administered the drug to her and that it was given ‘in overdose’ .  She was to stay away from  any BP drug for some days… By Friday morning, she slumped and had to be rushed to the hospital…….. imagine if the doctor had administered those 2 drugs…… we would have been telling a different story now.. But Thank God  she is doing very well now, she is a LIVING miracle. satan ntoi!


      Praise God! God always watches over his own.. always.. and if there’s any one trusting God for healing in any area, just trust God’s word..

      Don’t forget to send in your testimonies!! Let’s tell the whole world how good our God is!

      pastorm@justusgirls.naija.

      See you same time next week! 😘

      Miss Shittu

      Happy Birthday 

      I planned this whole post but I’m sooooooo exhausted. All I can say is happy birthday honey.

      The man who lives for an audience of one. 

      Always preaching the gospel 

      Hands on daddy …

      Social prefect …

      My gist partner …

      My friend..

      You just get me. It’s always lots of laughter with you around. 

      Teacher of the word..

      I’m so happy and eternally grateful that God chose you for me …and over 11 years later you still rock my world  
      He chose you …

      To father my children …

      I join the world today to salute you 

      And celebrate you 

      God bless you and keep you for me. 

      I love you now and forever.

      It’s Not An Option!

      Hey mummy

      How are you? Hope you are keeping hope alive. Like I told you last week that’s the first place to start. 

      Now let’s  do this….

      I remember a couple of years ago when I was still TTC someone asked me “What if it’s God’s will for you not to have children through your womb? What if you are meant to just adopt kids and have spiritual children?” It was a sincere question but the devil started to build a skyscraper on the foundation of this small innocent thought.

      So as I was about to open the door to fear ‘cos it was knocking …sorry I meant banging wildly at my door. Faith showed up and yanked the door open. I felt the peace of God invade my soul and I smiled and told her very calmly IT’S NOT AN OPTION.

      How do you know? So are you telling me there aren’t people who never got pregnant? Haven’t you read about people like that? Haven’t you heard about people like that?

      I’m sorry love I don’t know what book you’ve been reading but the book I’ve been reading tells me that :

      it’s not an option  

      I’ve searched the scriptures and every woman who was called barren in the Bible was eventually blessed with a child except Davids wife Michal and hers was a result of  dishonor to God and her husband. Every other woman just name her -Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Manoah’s wife, Hannah or Elizabeth all had babies.

      God blessed them because in this covenant there is no room for barrenness.

      It’s not an option. 

      And what gives this authenticity is the fact that God promised and God cannot lie. What are you reading? Read the Bible you will see God’s nature and his response to barrenness 

      You said have I not heard? I don’t know what you are hearing.  I am hearing by the word of God and the Word and all I can hear is it’s coming. I heard it and I believed it. So I simply started doing what the word says. I began to rejoice in confidence. 

      Because I knew it was only a matter of time. God’s promises would be fulfilled in my life. All I had to do was believe the words that came out of my mouth:

      It’s not an option. 

      I knew like I knew my name that if God said NONE shall be barren then my body had no right to be disobedient. I would not be barren – It’s not an option! 

      God wants me to have children just as much if not much more than I do so he has no reason to withhold them from me.

      Once you settle this issue once for all it will cause faith to rise in your heart. You will not be tossed about by Satan, doubts and fears. Doctors reports will not panic you because you know for a fact that as far as you are a born again child of God you cannot be barren.

      You will boldly say

      • I Cannot Be Barren. It’s not an option.
      • I cannot have a miscarriage. It’s not an option 
      • I cannot have an ectopic pregnancy. It’s not an option. 
      • I cannot have a stillbirth. It’s not an option. 

      You can take crazy confident faith stands because you know God’s will on this issue. His word is His will and His word will never fail 

      So how can you get to the place of total certainty like I did? Study the Bible. 

      This is one journey you cannot take without the Word. That’s why I can boldly declare that barrenness?

      It’s Not An Option. 

      …and today look what God has done


      Join me and declare that For you barrenness is not an option. 

      Go on… say it louder. God’s got you.

      Here’s to testimonies.

      God bless you.

      Love

      Pastor M
      P.S  sorry this is coming late. Had an unbelievably busy day. But you know I love you so I’m going to be here for as long as I can and until you have your baby in your arms and like Hannah raise a song.


      See you next week.

      The Path 

      Hey Everyone, 

      It’s been an amazing week, I’m so excited! 


      Seems like I’m always excited every time I come here.. Well, I can’t help but be a happy child…. 😁.. 


      But what I feel right now goes beyond being happy.. I’m actually Joyful.. Nothing can shake this away.. So let me tell you why… 

      A long time ago in a distant land… Lol.. Ok I’m kidding, let me be serious now.. 

      I’ve always had a thing for all kinds of Art.. it just made me happy. Growing up I always went to my mum’s friend’s house to watch her paint.. she was a painter and I loved it! I loved painting and I could also draw so well.. She admired it and told my mum to let me come to her house every afternoon after school to paint with her.. as she lived right next door.. 

       Asides painting another thing I absolutely loved doing was writing.. but over the years and due to so many circumstances i stopped.. 

      More like I took this gift/talent God had given me and locked it up in a box, wrapped in a pretty pink ribbon and put it in a bigger metal box, wrapped around with a chain and a padlock 


      and tossed it in the deep ocean.. 


      But Today I’m Thankful.. 


      The opportunity to find and use the gift God has given me.. I am thankful I have started writing again.. and I’m so excited about it, like a child unwrapping an unexpected gift.. Yes! That’s exactly how I feel.. 

      I don’t know about you, but for me this year.. I’m going to explore every God given talent that I have and use them.. Yup! I say them because it’s a lot! 😄

      So don’t be surprised if you see me doing something spectacular and extraordinary pretty soon.. 😉.. I can’t help it.. 

      No more sitting on the sidelines and not being my absolute, ultimate best for God.. Plus, we can only do all we can here.. there’s no repeat button to start our lives all over again.. (If Only!).. And you’re gonna give account for everything he gave you.. I wanna stand before God and have him smile.. the kinda smile a proud dad gives when he knows his baby has done an excellent job… and I would know that I used every single gift he gave me.. 


      So let me share this beautiful testimony by a fellow writer (I like how saying that sounds.. lol), that would bless your life, and make you think about what you’re doing right now.. Are you in the right path? 

      Diche’s Testimony 

      I have always loved writing but never thought of it as anything more than just a hobby. I joined the drama department in church and headed their script writing team. Just having fun and working for God.

      Soon after, I applied for my residency programme and I didn’t get in. A lot of my friends got in and though I was happy for them, I felt bad. Not necessarily because I loved the idea of doing my residency per se but because it was just the next step in my career and I felt left behind. A feeling I absolutely hate.

      Anyway, two years later I applied again. The date for the test was fixed but after sometime it was postponed. My sister was scheduled to give birth in America and I was supposed to go and help her. I delayed going because of the test date and she gave birth and I hadn’t left. They shifted the date again and I went ahead and bought my ticket for a day after the test. They shifted it again. Extra money (that I didn’t even have) had to be paid to change my date to fit the new one and then guess what?…. Exactly! They changed the date again, this time Indefinitely

      I was so angry I just carried my bags and travelled. A few days after I arrived they fixed a new date for the following week. Everyone started calling me to come back and take the test. I was so confused and depressed

      A few days to the test, I went to God in prayer. I didn’t ask for anything. I just sat there worshipping and crying… It must have been up to an hour. I felt an urge to open my eyes and I saw a picture right before me with this scripture on it:

      Jeremiah 29:11… For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end

      It practically jumped out at me. Then God told me, don’t worry, it’s not “your” expected end (as in what YOU expect) but “an” expected end. It is an end that I may not know but He knows. I was assured that everything would be just fine. I was at peace. I didn’t think about it again until a month later (Dec 2014) when I got back and God ordered my steps into the movie industry as a writer. It’s been an awesome ride ever since.

      In such a short time and with very little formal training, I have worked on projects that have aired on the most prominent TV stations and worked with the industry’s finest producers and directors. Not to mention the very good pay and flexible schedules. I am eternally grateful to God for making a dream I didn’t even know I had come to pass. 

      It’s 2017 people, and you are a living miracle! That’s who God says you are! So this year, you’re gonna dig up all gifts and talents you’ve covered up and use them.. There’s someone out there that needs that gift and is gonna be blessed by it.. It’s not too late! It’s never too late.. 

      So guys, what are you thankful for? 

      Share with me by sending a mail to kemi@justusgirlsnaija.com.. 

      See you same time next week! 

      😘😘😘😘

      …don’t do it without me! 

      Hello people

      I honestly thought I would make this a Thankful Tuesday post and yes kemi already  has a post scheduled for Tuesday  because there have been a lot of testimonies coming in -proof that it’s a year full of miracles. 

      However after all the work Miss Shittu put into that I just felt it would be better not to mess up neatly arranged plans. But I know she will agree with me that this post is worth breaking protocol for so even though everyone is on my case about taking Mondays off to actually rest I can’t keep this in any longer so you get an extra post this week to Kick start your week. Yeah yeah that’s how much I love you. Anything for you ladies. 

      So, yesterday was special for me. It did something for me that  I have to share. so today’s post,  it’s kind of a testimony but I want to share the lessons I learned from the encounter I had yesterday. 

      As 2016 was ending, I started feeling a pull from God to start to do the things I’m actually passionate about but have always put on the back burner …like things to do some day. Well, that someday is here. As my Pk always says life has no dress rehearsals…This is it! 

      So number one on my list was to take the love of Jesus to people who really need it. To go beyond having seminars and telling people about the love of God to actually showing them the love of God. After all the Bible says we should do good. So I made up my mind to focus on outreaches to orphans and widows in 2017. 

      I mentioned to a few of my people and trust Blessing,  Kemi and Eky before you could say pastor M they had a plan, a list and now all we needed was the orphanage. In the same week I stumbled on this picture 

      My friend’s younger sister had just been to an orphanage and showed the picture of this precious baby who had been abandoned. I knew there and then this was the place. I called to find out what their needs were….

      and here the drama began. Once we got their needs. We calculated it and it came to quite a bit of money. So I knew I needed people to partner with me. I spoke to ladies at DCC after service one evening. A few people came on board and I went home just trusting God to meet our needs.

      First testimony, Blessing shows up in my official early the next morning with news that totally blew my mind. Two of my partners had decided to pay half the money we needed. I was blown away. As if God was saying “you see? I can meet your needs. Just trust me!”  

      Next our benevolence department sent us boxes of clothes and provisions. Before I knew it, I had much more than I ever thought possible. All this in less than a week. 

      We were also able to buy a fridge, gas cooker and cylinder and food stuff to make their lives so much easier. However there were still some things that I needed to get that we hadn’t been able to yet. We needed rice so someone brought in a small bag of rice and I was celebrating this when God asks me to sow it to one elderly man I wasn’t very sure that it wasn’t my emotions so after I struggled a little while (more to be sure than anything else) I said okay lord you can have the rice as I turned to leave “add oil” was what I heard. I simply said “yes lord” and told someone to tell the man to see me.

      In less than a minute someone comes into my office with a bag of rice her mum had asked to give to us. I felt like you could knock me over with a feather.   How can God be so accurate? By the end of the day we had money to buy oil alongside the bag of rice which we had freely received.

      Another major issue they had was they needed school fees for 4 of the children as they could not afford to pay for them and they were being home schooled. We were able to raise the money. 

      So Sunday after service, I got together six ladies and off to Akute we went.  To be honest that day was full of challenges but as always …giants for breakfast. #theyarebreadforus.

      Flat tire. Bad roads. Almost getting lost. Bottom line at some point I looked out the window and the signs began to read OGUN STATE. I had no idea it was that far but we were there. 

      We were welcomed by the man and his wife and all the little children. I asked about each child and one particular child struck a chord with me and I stand in absolute faith with them on healing for him. I walked in and he was the first child I carried.

       (Liberty with Vivian- he slept off not long after) 

      Liberty is 3 Years old if I remember correctly but he was major cause for concern as he wasn’t hitting major developmental milestones. He was not talking or walking. As I carried him, he touched my face, my hair, my cheek he seemed fascinated by me. He settled in nicely in my arms. And as I asked his story and how he ended up there I was told that Because he was having developmental challenges his father decided to throw him away so he was brought to this couple. I was completely shocked and confused. Throw him away how? Like moin moin wrap or bread nylon.  As they say, “I’m sorry. I’m not understanding.” 

      How can anyone let go of children? When I prayed Day and night for one for eight years? When even till today I know people who would give their right arm to have one. Beautiful children surrounded me. Then I met the boss Samuel such a cutie. His tee read “I’m the boss!” And obviously he was. 

      Oh! Then harmony… So beautiful and very bright and obviously a book worm. She was more excited about the books we brought than anything else and probably couldn’t wait for us to leave so she could dig in  (harmony on the left)

      As he told me about each child, it just occurred to me that these people were doing this by faith. No funding from anywhere. They didn’t even have personally. They were just willing to be used by God. He had no idea where their next meal would come from but he was willing to open his home which by the way is rented and presently over- crowded to children that no one else wanted. He was resolute in this that as long as he has breath this children will always have a home …and a father.

      As I spoke to him and his wife and I saw how well taken care of And loved the kids were …That’s when I realized I was not there for them I was there for me. God brought me there to teach me very practical lessons:

      1. No matter how much you think you don’t have there’s alway someone who doesn’t have as much as you yet is giving much more than you are.
      2. The true test of faith is that you can follow God and say yes even when he doesn’t show you the full plan.
      3. Serving God will stretch you. It will not always be easy but it will definitely be worth it.
      4. Never take anything for granted. Some of the things you are taking for granted are another person’s necessities. Clothes people were trying to get rid of these people desperately needed.
      5. God will use you if you are willing. No matter how unqualified you are.
      6. Doing things for people who can never repay you is far more fulfilling than you will ever know.

      I left there that day after he insisted I pray for them and take pictures with the kids  but to be honest a piece of my heart stayed back with them. I will definitely be a part of their lives as long as God will let me.

      I’m totally overwhelmed by this beautiful couple. Especially this amazing woman. I know how hard it can be to take care of young children that you actually birthed how much more to care for so many of them at the same time with no help and some of them with special needs.

      Truly my prayer is that God will repay them. He never owes anyway. 

      I saw God at work. It was humbling and life transforming to be used by God like this to put smiles on their faces. 

      And my prayer today is Lord whatever you are doing in this season, Lord please don’t do it without me 

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      Thank you partners … you did this 💋💋💋💋💋

      All The Single Ladies…

      Be honest you actually responded  “All the single ladies” and if you are truly being honest, this is what you saw play in your head

      But if you are anything like me this is actually what played in your head 

      Okay let me be serious. So, you know how I loooooooooooooooooooooove my single ladies. Yep! I simply adore you girls and you are totally in the best season of your lives and you get a chance to choose who you spend your life with. You get to choose the outcome of your life. 

      Anyhow because I love you so much I’m not going to abandon you and focus on just the  married women. I  Will be doing some random posts for you throughout the year under SINGLED OUT. But today I’m here because it’s the beginning of the year and  God has many pleasant surprises for you. However you determine how good this miracle year will be. Yes I know you’ve heard me mention it but I’m going to say it again


      So I anticipate a lot of miracle weddings.

      But sweetie my heart has been really heavy for a few days now because you’ve become so focused on getting married that you’ve almost lost focus of who you should marry. Marrying the right person is so major. I know you hear it all the time but honey I can’t stop emphasizing it. I believe the reason why you’ve been in a manner of speaking “kissing so many frogs ” who still remain frogs and not princes is because you’ve forgotten who you are.


      So please allow me to remind you this morning. I need you to remember this and settle the issue of identity once and for all so that you don’t keep picking frogs. No time to waste time in 2017

      First, don’t forget you are the prize. You are the reward. You are the one to be wooed and chased and pampered. You deserve it. You are worth it trust me. 

      Don’t let any man treat you like he’s doing you a favour. You need to remember who you are. 

      Oh! Honey you are royalty. Precious. Beautiful. Special. You are awesome. 

      This is not the year to accept anything less. Don’t beg for his affection, work for his attention nor build your world around him.


      Don’t let him make you forget who you are. You are NOT worth something because a man is in your life. You are worthy …period! 

      I need you to believe this because your identity determines what you expect and ultimately what you accept 

      So you need to set aside every “I must marry this year ” goal until you sort this out. Don’t take everything you are offered. Don’t settle for less than you know you are worth. You don’t have to manage. You can have it all…you deserve to have it all. 

      Sweetie if this is the only thing I do for you this year then we are good. Trust me.


      Secondly, if you’ve been in an unhealthy relationship in the past Now not tomorrow…right now is the time to get out.

      Run as in terror 

      My sister ESCAPE!!! Don’t be with a man that abuses you in any form. Don’t sacrifice your destiny on the altar of marriage.

      • If he belittles you …RUN!!!
      • If he insults you or verbally abuses you …RUN!!!
      • If he shoves you, hits you, bites you, slaps you or “affectionately” taps you …even if he apologizes after and buys you lots of stuff to make up for it …RUN!!!
      • If he bullies you, manipulates you, makes you feel bad for telling him No or refusing to do something you know isn’t good for you …RUN
      • If he ever makes you feel like if you leave him who will want you? …RUN
      • If he’s a mummy’s boy …RUN
      • If he’s hot tempered …RUN
      • If he’s the kind of person that always has excuses …RUN
      • If he’s always “busy” too busy to call, too busy to visit….RUN 
      • If you are an option… you know he has other girlfriends …RUN
      • If he’s cheated or is cheating on you …don’t stay and fight other girls to be his wife …RUN
      • If he’s stingy … leaving you to always pay the bills and leaving you financially drained …RUN
      • If he’s always begging, borrowing, buying things on credit, living a lifestyle he can’t sustain …RUN
      • If you are with him just because he took your virginity. It’s a trap…RUN
      • If you have been with him for over 2 years and marriage has not once been mentioned, you have never met any of his family or close friends …RUN
      • If anytime you pray your heart is restless…RUN
      • If God has told you to RUN. My sister what are you waiting for? RUN! RUN!! RUN!!!


      I’m telling you this because it doesn’t make sense to waste the last 5 years, last year and you now want to waste this year again? Tufiakwa


      Perish! The thought. It will NEVER happen. Not on my watch. 

      The mere fact that you were planning to manage this nonsense again this year. I can’t believe it. I’m so pained for you  but let me try and put myself together.

      Don’t waste another minute of your life


      Let’s all just move on because you deserve so much more than you are getting so stop short changing yourself. 

      Thirdly this year honey live for yourself too. Not every time… man!  Just listen to yourself …doesn’t like it when I dress like this. …doesn’t want me to do that job. …is not happy when I’m not at his place every weekend. …I don’t want him to be angry. At the end of the day Aunty we’ve lost you. No opinions of your own, no ideas, no personal dreams or goals that don’t involve him or being married to him. Meanwhile he is out there living his best life.

      Honey, 2017 is when you take charge of your life.

      • You’re going to take charge of your HEAD. What you will do for me is you will have dreams and goals written down and laid out time bound plans on how to achieve them …and please don’t put I must marry this year in the list. Marriage happens on the path of purpose. That’s a whole other post for another day.  
      • You are going to take charge of your HEALTH. That’s where the devil fights women the most. So you will clean up your eating, exercise at least 3 times a week and find health and healing scriptures to confess daily. You cannot fulfill destiny in an unhealthy body. Trust me. I should know.
      • You are going to take charge of your HEART. Start by adding filters. Sieve those you allow in and out of your life. Not everyone has a right to be in your life. Not everyone has a right to make decisions that affect your life. You must be very firm about this because you can’t complain about what you allow.

      It all still boils down to you understanding who you are honey. Once you settle your identity and understand that you are royalty, everything about you will realign. 

      Don’t live your life as if you are sorry to be a woman. As if your life will only make sense when you get married. So you become desperate to accept anything as long as he gives you his last name. Honey being a woman is a calling.

      You are a very important part of the equation.


      You are the favour key. Once you are found, he obtains a different kind of favour from God. The favour that moves him from one level to the next. That makes him enter into his kingship. You carry virtue -power to create miracles.

      If only you knew what you were worth you would relax and stop picking things undeserving of you. You have options. You will be found because like I said before…YOU ARE THE PRIZE. 


      This year let Jesus be why you live. Why you love. Why you are. Jesus is the reason. Let Him be the Centre of it all. 

      I believe this year will be a great year for you darling especially if you don’t forget how special you are….Because of who you are.


      God loves you baby. I hope you never forget that and you never let any man confuse you about that.

      Love,

      pastor Mildred

      New Year New Hopes

      Hello Yummy Mummys

      Yes I know you are still Trying To Conceive (TTC) but that means absolutely nothing in God’s  book. If anything he already calls you mummy because he sees the end of a matter before he begins it. He creates miracles.

      It’s a new year and this year is a great year to have a baby. 

      Miracle babies. I love the sound of that. So this is where we are going to start from…

      Hebrews 11:1 

      Trust me, I’m sure we are not thinking the same thing. You don’t get a faith sermon at least not today.

      Let’s start from where most of us don’t …   

      before faith comes hope because you cannot have faith without hope. 

      We first need to get you to the point where you still believe things can change this year. Once we get into that mode then we can focus on getting them to change by faith. But first we need to believe they can.

      Trust me I know it’s easy after countless procedures and negative Pregnancy Test (PT) results to just shove this TTC business to the back burner and plan to live your life. After all  you cannot come and go and die. 

      I know trust me I know. I’ve thought it too. “I cannot let this thing take over my life” “I cannot handle another disappointment” “I can’t do this again” “Maybe I shouldn’t think about it” “I’m even tired sef” “Maybe my own case is different” “Maybe it’s my destiny and I’m not supposed to have children”.  I’ve been through my share of I cannot, maybe and even what ifs so I know exactly how you feel but hey! It’s a new day we’ve got to keep hope alive. 

      I know how hard it can be to hear countless testimonies and your own isn’t coming but that’s not true. 

      It’s only a matter of time.

      I waited for 8 years and for every single day of those 8 years I woke up thinking It’s today !!! Maybe I got discouraged before the end of the day but I still got up the next day hopeful that it could still happen. Eventually my knowledge of the word made realize that not only could it happen but it would when I applied faith. Hope helped me not give up and that’s a very good place to start. 

      Let’s look at one of the many lessons We can learn from Hannah. Oh! I don’t know why I just connect with Hannah on so many levels. I must have taken her story apart piece by piece in the Bible so many times. There had to be something I was missing I thought. Why am I not getting pregnant? I worried. Till I actually started letting the Holy Spirit read it with me. There were so many things I was taking at face value but Hannah was thrown into the most difficult place to have a baby and what did she do? She had not just Samuel but many other babies.

      So lesson number ONE


      Look very closely at this story and you will see that Hannah was a woman who understood hope. The Bible tells us that every year without fail every single year Hannah went alongside her husband and her mean co-wife Peninnah to worship God at Shiloh. She didn’t have to but she did. How do I know? 1 Samuel 1:21-23.

      1. Elkannah loved her more and would bend over backwards to please her

      2. He wasn’t a difficult man. Seems laid back to me. Doesn’t seem like the kind of man that  would force her to do whatever she didn’t want to do.

      3. When she asked not to go… Elkannah said “do what you think is best”

      So I believe Hannah didn’t have to go every year, she wanted to! 

      Every year she got up irrespective of how bad it had been last year, no matter how many times like an annoying mensrrual period peninnah reminded her she was childless. She got up with silent hope …maybe this will be the year 

      That singular piece of hope I believe is what took her from the place of maybe to for sure. From “Lord if you would…” to “for this child I prayed…” 


      This is a new year. Don’t give up hope. It can and will happen this year. Once you have hope we can build faith from there. Faith gives our hope substance. If we don’t hope for anything then where is the need for faith?

      I’m telling you categorically that God is not done with you yet. I don’t know how many negative doctors reports you have or how many procedures you have done but I do know this God is not done with you yet. 

      So let’s agree today that this is the year. Don’t give up. Let’s try again this year. Let’s get up and go to Shiloh again this year. Let’s believe Gods word. Bottom line : DONT GIVE UP! 


      Okay ladies I will be back next week to build on this incy wincy bit of hope you were able to muster. So just hold on ok?

      Love you

      P.s

      If you need me to pray with you or you need to talk to someone. Send me an email on pastorm@justusgirlsnaija.com

      And oh! By the way I’ll be at my darling Eziaha’s meeting POW WOW with E 2.0 you need details then quickly click Here

      Love you guys.

      TTC on Thursdays 

      Hey people 

      Its a really good year…. don’t you just feel it? I can just smell it in the air. 

      It’s going to be loaded with miracles cos of my promise from God for the year. I’m just so excited. 

      obviously you can tell that it’s going to be a bit more active here on JUGN this year. Yesterday a lot of suggestions came and I’m sure God already has us all sorted and will instruct me on what to do so ladies relax and enjoy the ride. I know I will. I will also download to you once I receive it. 

      So this is what I have received so far …

      All my expectant mamas.. those trusting God for the fruit of the womb… Trying To Conceive (TTC) well… on Thursdays God’s  got you! And I’ve got you too. You know I feel you ladies. Been there and God delivered me. So I know exactly what it’s like. So looking for encouragement? Something to stir up your faith then don’t miss Thursdays honey! I’ll be here waiting with a hug, a word and a prayer. 


      So I will be holding your hand through this journey. I know we will testify. I know it like I know my name. 

      Incidentally this actually births a new ministry for us at JUGN. Towards the end of last year God began to remind me of the plan and some of the vows that like Hannah I had made when I was TTC and it was time to pay. So this year I’m paying my vows….joyfully too. ‘Cause the more testimonies we get the more we get to kick Satan in the behind and that increases my Satan “ntoi” serves you right (for my English speaking friends) 

      So we are taking the war to the enemy’s gate. 

      Anyhow so this new ministry is called “Hannah’s Heart” and we are not just getting pregnant but we are going to raise special children -with great destinies. So just like Hannah we get our own special “Samuel”. God wants to turn you into a Yummy Mummy (YM) 

      I know how hard this can be so I will be sharing what helped me personally and since it has taken me forever to get my book out I won’t let you suffer anymore … I repent. let’s do this. I will also share the testimonies of some of my friends and some other amazing women God has blessed. Just to encourage you to hold on cos you are next in line for a miracle. 

      Okay guys let me run. really busy day and weekend but I will be back next week with a testimony on Tuesday  and oh by the way let me invite you for our monthly worship at DCC and guess who’s coming? 

      Yep! It’s uncle Banthaniel 😂😂😂 as Dassah would call him when she was younger. Yes it’s Nathaniel Bassey ministering this month. Please come and be introduced to the wonder working God. 

      See? I love you so much I’m giving you a heads up. There is no reason under heaven why you should miss this. Don’t start the year making excuses. Plan, Prepare and push through till you make it. Don’t miss it for anything. Your hunger and thirst for God is what determines how far you go in God. So don’t start with excuses. If you can’t make it to the island be there at the mainland Centre. 

      Okay guys you know I love you. Please show up on Thursdays let’s move from TTCs to YMs. God bless you. I can’t wait to start putting up your pictures and your baby’s  pictures too. I’m so sure it will happen. God’s word cannot fail. Till next week hold on to this promise. 

      Blessings. Love you 

      Wednesdays Are For Wives 

      One of the things I wish I had more of when I first got married was mentoring. I walked into marriage with high levels of trepidation. I couldn’t shake the feeling that I would mess it up. That I would be too impatient, too hot-headed. Not submissive enough. Not accommodating enough. I couldn’t shake the silent prayer running around in my head: “Lord help me to be everything this man hopes for.” 

      Amazingly after eleven years of being my pk’s wife and partner in ministry I can only say this, far from what most people think, I may not be the perfect wife …yet, but I’m definitely not that scared young girl who walked down the aisle toward my best friend with nothing but a word from God and an assignment to help him fulfill destiny. I’ve learnt a lot on this journey and this is what God will have me share on this new series. 

      So ladies, especially the married women this is for you. I’m trusting God to be able to help that new wife who was just as clueless as I was back then. Today I teach a lot on marriage and my heart goes out to wives in particular because I feel sometimes like (if you are doing marriage right) so much is required of you and tendencies are you may feel like you are losing yourself.

      So let me give you a haven. Something I like to call CHAYIL HAVEN. Somewhere to get encouragement and support. Somewhere you can have your questions answered and possibly get more fuel for the journey ahead. I chose to call it Chayil 

      Which is what the married women at DCC are called because most of the things I learned are from the Bible’s description of the model wife in proverbs 31 she is what we call The virtuous Woman. What the Jews call Eschet Chayil 

      So we will look at all the many things God can do in our lives and through us because it will require doing somethings too. Bring virtuous is a result of developing virtues.
      So your lif will be busier but it will be more fulfilling too and will bring God  glory which at the end of the day is all it’s about.

      Trust me in my usual style I won’t be preaching at you. Not that there’s anything wrong with preaching though.  We will be learning together but I will definitely share the things that have helped me while pointing you to the one who has helped me. No subject will be off limits- prayer tips, fun things to do, ideas for time management. Some of my favourite recipes, tips for amazing sex, dealing with infertility, pregnancy, parenting, shopping tips. just name it.

      I will also leverage on my access to some resources -both human and material. So we will often have guest writers. Oh! My God. I’m so excited. The things God has in store for us…2017 will rock o! At the end of the year God will confirm with miraculous signs all I’ve been saying since that I’m a living miracle. 

      Now ladies if this isn’t another reason to be excited about Just Us Girls Naija then I don’t know what is. Get everyone you know to follow us both here on the blog and on Instagram @justusgirlsnaija or on Facebook simply like our page JUST US GIRLS NAIJA for more information.

      Okay ladies see you soon. Today is just announcement day. We kick off properly next week or should I just throw in one small “something”? Nah! You get to wait and yes single ladies you can learn too. You are even more blessed because you get a chance to plan yourself and get it right so it will be easy when you do get married.

      My prayer is that God will use this to heal marriages and help us do things his way. I’m praying that I will be able to raise warriors and at the end of the day you will rise and be greater at this than I am. I pray that you will grow and tower above me like E in this picture I stumbled on today … and finally that we will show the world what God can do with a life that is yielded to him. We will be women of valour, warfare, and victory. 


      Thankful on Tuesdays

      Hey people

      Happy new year

      It’s a good year… scratch that. It’s a GREAT YEAR!!!!

      I’m super pumped and excited for 2017 and are you surprised with a word like 

      And I started the year in the Word and in Worship at Gaining Momentum 2017. And God sent me the word through these amazing men. 

      Okay so this morning God gave me a very clear instruction in line with something my papa Rev Femi Oduwole said during GM2017

      The password this year is not complaining, grumbling or describing the challenge or problem it’s in thanksgiving. So if you are going to unlock anything this year then this is your password


      So it’s official on tuesdays which is officially our first day of the work week at JUGN we start it thankful. So we give thanks for something every week. Yeah! I know we should give thanks every day 

      and we will but what we are doing is unlocking our week by thanking God for what he’s done before.

      Now here’s why I’m so excited. It’s thankful Tuesday so that means it’s Testimony time too. 

      And it’s open to everyone. So if you’ve got a story about how God has been good to you come on people, don’t be shy let’s hear it. 

      Besides just obey the word already 

      I love testimonies and I couldn’t be happier to be a channel of hope faith and glorifying Jesus. So please send me your testimonies let’s help others believe. So if you’ve been saved,
      healed,
      blessed, you’re pregnant,

      you had a baby, got a job,
      changed jobs
      or you are just happy to be alive let’s hear it. Share your story.

      Honestly there’s no reason not to be a part of Thankful Tuesday or evening but you choose. Call it whatever really. Let’s just be grateful and share…

      So if you would like to give Jesus glory send your testimonies to pastorm@justusgirlsnaija.com and copy kemi@justusgirlsnaija.com

      Today I’m thankful that we have hope. I’m starting this year off on that note. With all that’s going on in the world today especially in Nigeria. I know it can be tempting to fear but I won’t fear what they fear.

      I have hope. I have Christ. 

      I’m thankful that he has never failed me. That he never leaves me nor forsakes me. I’m thankful that no matter how hard it gets, I have hope of rescue. God practicallydrppped this scripture in my lap this morning. Matthew 10:23 The Message translation.

      Before I run out of options…. before I can’t take it anymore…. before it gets unbearable…. before… Jesus will have arrived. 

      I have hope. We are not hopeless people. No matter how hard it gets. Jesus gat you! Finally I’m thankful that I have a God who speaks … I’m just so grateful. My thanksgiving has bubbled up into deep worship that I have a God who sees my heart and responds to its innermost cries.  Things my lips may never even utter…. He hears.

      Don’t you just love my Jesus?

      Okay guys. See you later. So much happening this year. Let’s do this.

      Love you

       

      It’s 2017 

      Happy new year y’all. I’m so excited about this year…

      I’ll be back to tell you why but I just wanted to say 

      And in this year 

      That will be my reality!

      It can be yours too.

      Love you.

      Here’s to an amazing year. 

      Thank you… 

      Hey people

      I just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone who was a part of my 2016. Can’t believe it’s almost over.

      Thank you to all my followers, the commenters, the silent readers, the secret stalkers (in a good way😉) and all who harassed me to blog  consistently. Thank you to everyone who introduced someone to the blog or mentioned it on their social media platforms. 
      Thank you to all my feature writers – Eziaha, Rotanna and of course my amazing Miss Shittu as I like to call her. God bless you darlings.

      Thank you all. 

      See you on the other side of the year.

      Getting ready to hear the word for my next season. Hope you are getting ready to go to church. Don’t know where to go? let me invite you to DCC crossover. 1 service 2 venues so mainland or island we got you covered

      Ok guys

      Love you.

      Blowing you kisses all the way out of 2016 

      The Gift…

      Hey people

      How has Christmas been? Hope you didnt indulge too much on food. Be careful guys  you don’t want to start the new year undoing all that damage. Too much repair work happens in January. It’s better to use exercise as a lifestyle than a remedy for undoing Christmas damage. 

      So anyhow it’s Boxing Day 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻 I still remember when I thought it was   And not  

      Today is all about presents. Who doesn’t love gifts? So what’s not to love about Boxing Day? 

      Even santa loves Boxing Day hehehehehe

      So since santa is on holiday today. Have you taken over? Have you given someone a gift? Dad, mum, spouse, kids, siblings, friends? Today is about gifts so let’s make it happen. 

      Speaking of gifts, Jesus said something that’s been ringing in my head all day yesterday 

      This was part of a conversation he had with the woman at the well in John Chapter 4.  

      Jesus is the gift of God to us. And yesterday as I thought about the sacrifices Mary had to make to ensure that the gift of God arrived to us safely I thought also about her “partner-in-crime” JOSEPH. 

      So Not much is told of Jesus’ earthly father Joseph. The same way he silently slipped into this story is the same way he slid out. If you are not sensitive you would miss him totally and all the drama he had to go through. But he was definitely an amazing human being and if it hadn’t been for his beautiful heart I wonder how Mary would have survived it alone. 

      I’m sure he planned a simple straightforward life for himself. He never even considered that his life could become so turpsy turvy in such a short time. Meet girl✅ Like girl (chosen for him)✅ Fall in love with girl ✅ Marry girl ✅ Have a thriving carpentry business✅ have loads of Hebrew babies ✅ live a long happy life ✅ that was the plan. Simple enough right? Wrong!!! 

      How was he to know that the girl his parents had picked had also been picked by YAHWEH. How was he to know the one he had chosen to be the mother of his children had also been chosen to be the mother of God’s child. How do you even begin to compete with that? 

      The story must have sounded ludicrous to him – that the Holy Spirit would overshadow her and she would be pregnant. No sex?! Virgin birth? Believe it or not he was going to stay as far away from this drama as he could. He wasn’t going to be a part of this. He planned to slip away quietly. Most men would have turned her in to be stoned to death. First because of the betrayal they would feel, then secondly because of the audacity she had in trying to make them look like fools. “An angel did what again?” 

      However Joseph is different and I’m guessing there must be something about a name because we see a repeat in scripture. Another Joseph The dreamer.   The Bible tells us clearly that the angelic visitation wasn’t only to Mary but to Joseph too in a dream 

      I know he was a good man but I think this kind of changes everything. At least for me. Once he heard from God he must have been strengthened. And that is one of my biggest secrets in life. Once I get a word from God on anything I’m home free. I run with boldness. I think hearing from God gave fuel to his resolve to do right by Mary and stand as a protector and husband over her 

      To be honest though I don’t think it would still have been easy. I just know that like Cece would say ...it wasn’t easy; but it was worth it. 

      However accepting to marry her was just one part of the drama. And I’m not talking about the excited Shepherds with more tales of angelic visitations or the Magi who followed the star. Little did he know that he was not just to be foster parent but to be protector of this child as well because even though many rejoiced over his birth, some sought his death. 

      So they had to sneak out of Bethlehem just as silently as they had entered it. 

      It’s the way he was so readily accepting of all these godly interruptions in his life that still amazes me. No questions asked, no time for plenty explanations. Joseph learned how important hearing God and moving at his command. He lived 

      And in doing so, helped preserve the gift of God. He was so in tune with hearing God that he knew when it was time to return to Israel.  

      Joseph understood how important his role as guardian was 

      And he was the first encounter Jesus had with mentoring here on earth. I doubt very much that God would have entrusted Jesus into his hands if he didn’t have what it took to be a positive role model for Jesus. Remember Jesus was fully man when he was here on earth even though he was the fullness of the God head bodily. He was a child who needed a father. So Joseph adopted him. Yeah, I’m sure you didn’t think about it that the son of God was adopted too. See why I can never seem to understand the stigma attached to adoption? Anyhow, he led the way and he stood beside Mary as Jesus was dedicated according to Jewish rites.  Then he modeled real work ethics for Jesus  

       

      Jesus watched him and trained under him and was so good he was labeled “the carpenters son”. 

      I believe they must have had a good rapport and been so in sync that perhaps Joseph began to forget the real assignment wasn’t just to be his father but to make sure he never forgot who his father was. Jesus reminded him of the assignment in Luke 2:41-52

      Jesus asked,  

      Did Joseph understand it? Was he upset by the statement? Did it remind him he wasn’t his natural father? I don’t know but the Bible says that Jesus went home with them that day and Joseph kept tending to the gift of God till he became the perfect gift ready to be received by the world. 

      In this season, God’s desire in giving us the gift of Jesus is if we accept the gift to give us the kingdom.   

      And as we celebrate. Let us also not forget the people who made the sacrifice to ensure we got the gift intact. 

      Okay guys let’s be sure we fully live out the meaning of this season. My kids have turned the house upside down with joy as they ripped open their gifts this morning. Truly it is more blessed to give than to receive. 

      Still in the spirit of giving. Congratulations to our #JUGNchristmaswithfriends giveaway challenge winners Uzor, Mena, Linda and Kelechi. Will tell you all about their gifts soon. But in the mean time they get to grace our header with a picture taken by our very own Miss Shittu of kemistry photography. Well done girls. Hope we made Christmas a little bit better for you. 

      Love you. 


      What Was She Thinking? 

      Hey people

      Christmas Day is almost here

      and the Christmas feeling is getting stronger.


      And anytime it’s Christmas I find myself asking some questions.

      The account of Jesus’ birth is very compelling. I find that no matter how many times I read it or hear it I can’t get over how surreal it all was.

      Growing up Christmas wasn’t Christmas till we had watched the story of Jesus’ birth on “Jesus of Nazareth”. 


      Truth is no Christmas without Jesus. Forget all the Christmas trees and santa outfits and presents if we had no Jesus there would be no Christmas. 

      And I often think of that brave teenage girl whose world completely turned around with these words:

      I keep asking myself “what was she thinking?” It couldn’t have been easy.

      First of all to comprehend what was being said to her, that God would become man and some how the creator would become created inside a creation he himself had created? How could she wrap her head around it long enough to believe it?

      How could she believe it? If I were Mary i don’t think the hardest part for me would be believing that a virgin would be pregnant. Believing that God would become mere man and not just man but be carried in a womb and be born a baby. Now if I’m crazy enough to accept that then how it would be done wouldn’t sound that crazy to me.

      Sometimes though I wonder if she knew the depth of what she was getting into. I doubt it seriously…


      When she stared up at that angel with all the faith she could muster, in awe of what was being said to her  I doubt that she thought through the shame, the humiliation, the betrayal she would feel when no one believed her. Did she consider for one moment that she could be stoned to death? Did she even stop to think that she could end up doing this alone? That Joseph could back down? Walk away? Was it the love she knew he had for her or the fact she knew he was a good man? Why did she dare to speak those words…

      I keep asking myself what was she thinking? So young and yet so yielded. 

      When she eventually got past that phase, and she had somehow escaped being stoned and Joseph had come on board then there was the issue of the census. Traveling to Bethlehem heavy as she was on nothing but a donkey in a desert meaning she would experience extreme weather conditions. How did she travel knowing she was so close to delivery?

      Hmmm…. see me see airlines and their wahala. Where is your fitness to fly? When is your due date? We can’t take you past 34 weeks… plenty long story. 

      What was she thinking? This suffer go don plenty o! Even getting on a motorbike (Okada) at this stage would be unthinkable…. she did that long trip on a donkey. Then exhausted I believe, only to hear there was no room at the inn 

      Being turned away inn after inn…. Definitely at this point she must have almost given up. In labor, water probably broke, tired, hot or cold, not sure exactly how to feel… I totally don’t know how she did it. She was definitely one brave young girl. 

      Incidentally even today finding space in our hearts and lives is still just as hard but that’s a message for another day but let me ask you this one question today 

      Think about it as we celebrate Christmas.

      Funny enough we celebrate today but I’m sure she was far from celebrating as she pushed the “God-Child” from her womb. As she brought forth on that very night, divinity and humanity intertwined and finally a pathway back to God had been engaged.  What did she think as she lay beside him exhausted but finally understanding the kind of love that can only come from birthing…

      I can only imagine the thoughts running through her head as she sat there animals all around. Then shepherds bursting in with great news. All speaking at the same time of angels of peace on earth and goodwill to all men. Wasn’t it all too much to take in? In one night? 

      As if that wasn’t enough wise men from the east appeared telling how they had followed a star 

      And when they brought forth their gifts  gold, frankincense and myrrh all prophetic symbols of the life this child would lead. 

      I often wonder in the midst of all these spectacular signs. Did she even for once consider that she brought forth this child only to have him die? Did she know he would die such a horrible gruesome death? At the hands of the very ones he had come to save? Did she even once know how bad it would be? If she knew would she have done this?

      When David has a tiny cut I can barely handle it. How much more seeing one’s child stripped naked and flogged, dragged through the streets like a common criminal then crucified. How did she, knowing the prophecy that had gone forth ages ago in Luke 2:35?

      She must have pieced it all together at some point because obviously she was a deep thinker.  Every single prophecy or divine encounter, I believe she kept little bits of information; she treasured it till she could piece it all together. 

      So did she also think we were all worth it?  God loved us and gave… 

      Jesus loved us so he gave…

      Why did Mary give? Knowing she would have to endure this 

      I know Christmas is a happy season and rightfully so because 

      But you can’t help but wonder what price was paid to bring us this joy. What sacrifice was made..

      .

      once you think about this you will realize that we are on a mission and this defines Christmas for us 

      Today I think about the sacrifice of a young girl Mary and the man who loved her and stood by her Joseph. I consider all the obstacles they had to overcome and I’m challenged to be totally surrendered in my worship to God… even when I don’t fully understand it or suspect that I may not like it. Either way my prayer is Lord may I always say 

      Especially in this coming year 

      Okay guys see you tomorrow. Hope you’ve gotten someone a gift or tried out some of the recipes. Either way have yourself a merry Christmas.

      Here’s something to make you smile 

      Merry Christmas from David and I.

      African Christmas

      Every time someone called me these past 3 days and I said I was in the village (my husband’s hometown) what would follow would be a moment of silence then long bouts of laughter. In fact three people actually said “I wasn’t expecting that….” before they let out deep belly laughs. 

      Incidentally I find that really amusing that no one can actually see me in the village since I grew up going to the village every Easter and Christmas consistently at least for the first 15 years of my life and I’m very fluent in my dialect. It was just a given. There was no argument. You just knew Christmas AND Easter you were village bound. No one asked your opinion, no negotiations were made… it just was. 

      To be honest I probably enjoyed it the first couple of years but obviously at some point I outgrew it and prayed for every opportunity to stay back in Lagos…. and I loved it. What can I say?! I’m obviously a 

      In fact when I was about to get married. I told my husband one of the reasons why I always considered Ibo men a no-go area. Once it’s December they are in village mode. If you are one of the lucky ones you get to hop on a plane or it’s chisco or The Young for you. 
      Me sha I had decided I was having none of that until God sent me the man of my dreams all wrapped up in some good strong ibo hotness 

      But that’s story for another day. So anyhow thankfully because God will not give us more than we can bear, my ibo goodness doesn’t do village every December. 

      But this year we just felt it was time for the kids to go home. I remember the best part of going to the village was my grandparents. I especially loved seeing my maternal grandmother. She always told us stories, taught us songs, it was always an exciting experience. So I felt it would be a great time for them ….and boy was I right. 

      They had a blast. Walking their grandma’s dogs, feeding her chickens and chasing her goats

      They got to spend time with their grandparents (David was half asleep in this picture though)


      (I particularly love this picture 3 generations of Okonkwo men 😍😍)


      (Dassah- Mama’s partner in crime. Loves animals like her grandma)
      Notice how I am in none of these pictures? I was avoiding the chickens and goats. Yes I’m an animal snob… what can I say I’m 

      Unfortunately we didn’t get to stay for Christmas but it got me thinking. What if we did an African themed Christmas especially with our food.  Aren’t we tired of the usual – rice and chicken. I’m just thinking maybe something different for Christmas? So Chef Kemi Shittu and I teamed up to make sure you can pull it off.
      Enjoy…

      Kemi over to you …

      Hey Everyone,

      Christmas is literally here…

      Whoop! Can’t keep calm! 💃🏾💃🏾🎄🎄


      I’m sure we have our trees up and decorations in order.. (Finally decorated my tree and it’s so pretty 😍), gonna post a pic up on IG.. make show to look out for it on @justusgirlnaija… and still waiting for everyone to send a picture or tag us 😁..

      Next thing on your mind is probably what to cook for Christmas.. some of you may be having guests/family over and really wanna show your skills in the kitchen, and have people licking their plates unashamed 😌.. I know that feeling


      So today we’re here to help 😁, we bring something different to you. An African Christmas meal menu.

      See we gat you!


      Try these out and thank us later..
      Fresh fish peppersoup 

      Doesn’t this just look lovely 😍

      INGREDIENTS

      Iwo/Ehuru (10) (that’s what gives the pepper soup aroma)

      Urheri /Uda (2) (you take out the seed and discard)

      Umilo/Ulima (2 )

      Ataiko/Atariko 1/2 tsb (this looks similar to irugeje)

      Irugeje (21/2 tsb)

      Lemon grass/scent leave (optional)

      Ground crayfish

      Seasoning cubes

      Salt

      Ground pepper

      Catfish

      (You can use already blended pepper soup spice, like the one below)


      •Wash your catfish with lime, lemon, salt or hot water, place in a pot after all the slime is gone!

      •Crack open the Umilo, Gbafilo and Iwo, blend the contents alongside ataiko and irugeje. I also add a bit of ground crayfish so that it blends easily (dry blending).

      •Add your ground spices- pepper, ataiko, irugeje, iwo, umilo, gbafilo, crayfish and de-seeded Urheri into the pot as well…by now the whole house should be “tasonsoning”meaning, the aroma should envelop the house. I love the aroma!

      •I add some chopped fresh pepper, I also add yellow pepper (the ata rodo version), it gives a special flavour to dishes. You can also add some chopped onions.

      •Add seasoning cubes, I use Maggi, and don’t forget salt for taste, and the scent leave.

      •Cover the pot and allow to cook-the pepper soup should be ready in 35-50 minutes.

      I love my pepper soup to sit for about an hour or two before eating, because the fish would have taken in all the flavours! So yum!


      Native Jollof Rice and Goat Meat 

      At this point I just have to do an intro, now I don’t know or haven’t met anyone that does not love jollof rice.. (if you don’t, just know you’re weird… case closed. Lol) I mean Nigerian Jollof.. 😁 (no offense to my other jollof making brethrens)..
      Like a day has even been set out to celebrate Jollof rice!! WORLD JOLLOF RICE DAY 


      So today I’m bringing you Jollof with a twist, a very simple recipe.. a lot of us know it as Native Jollof rice, the one cooked with palm oil, it has other names too.. Palm oil rice, Iresi elepo, and the efik call it Iwuk Edesi..

      Now I just want to put this out there, a lot of Nigerians believe palm oil is very unhealthy, but I would have you know that it is a very good healthy oil to cook with, it contains good unsaturated fats. It does not contain ANY cholesterol. Palm oil is a plant based product and cannot contain cholesterol. Cholesterol is only found in animal based product. Palm oil is not the enemy in Nigerian cooking, as with everything in life.. moderation is key.

      Drum roll please!


      Lol.. yes I’m this passionate about food.. find the recipe below.

      INGREDIENTS

      2 cups Regular Rice

      Chopped Ugu vegetable

      1 tsp salt

      1 Seasoning Cube

      1 medium sized Onion

      2 Fresh yellow peppers

      1/4 cup Smoked Big Prawn

      1 Cup Ponmo cut in pieces

      1 tbs Ground Crayfish

      Blend 10 plum tomatos,2 habanero pepper, 1 onion mixture

      1 big Smoked catfish

      2 Chopped Paprika Chilli

      1 Chopped Habanero Pepper

      1/4 cup Palm Oil

      1 tbs Locust beans/Iru

      Goat meat

      PREPARATION

      Par boil rice and boil pepper mixture (combination of tomato, pepper, and onion) till it is almost dry.

      Heat up pot with palm oil, when it is hot add chopped onions, chopped peppers, locust beans, fry for 3 minutes.

      Add roughly blended tomato mix, add crayfish, chopped ponmo, smoked catfish (in pieces) and smoked prawns, seasoning cube and salt. Allow this to fry till the oil floats to the top.

      Now add water, enough to cook the rice, then add the par boiled rice. Stir so that the ingredients will go around, then cover and allow to cook for 20 minutes/till rice is cooked.

      Boil your meat separately, season very well.. do not add the stock in your rice. When it is cooked, Deep fry your goat meat. Would nicely complement your meal.

      And the dish won’t be complete unless served in a native clay pot (Evwere)

      There you have it.. look at that blend on color on the plate.. yum! Note: using locust beans/Iru is optional.. you can decide to do without..


      Plantain Moi Moi (Ukpo Ogede) 

      We’re on a roll Ladies! But first you all have to promise me you’ll try this recipe out, even if you don’t wanna try any other one.. this particular one you MUST try out and send pictures oh! And tag us on Instagram..

      First time I had this was in Mama’s (Pst M) house.. I think first time I was hearing about it too not sure.. it was so yummy! My taste buds exploded.. My Goodness!!! I absolutely loved it! I just wanted to keep eating it and not think about my waist line..  Find the recipe directly from Mama’s kitchen below 😁

      INGREDIENTS

      2 pieces of very ripe plantain (Even if the skin is now black, as long as the inside is not decomposed)

      1 cup plantain flour

      1 cooking spoon palm oil

      1 tablespoon ground crayfish

      1 onion

      1 tatashe

      2 scotch bonnet pepper (ata rodo)

      Pepper and Salt (to taste)

      1 Knorr cube

      Cool water

      Uma leaves or Aluminium foil bags or bowls.


      Before you cook Plantain Moi Moi

      Prepare the uma leaves for the Plantain Moi Moi..

      Put the plantain flour in a bowl, add a small quantity of water and mix till you get a dropping consistency.

      Wash, peel and cut the rope plantain into small pieces.

      Grind the crayfish, cut the onions and pepper into small pieces.


      PREPARATION
      Blend the ripe plantain pieces, (add a bit of unripe plantain too, ESP if you’re not too much of a sweet tooth)  plantain flour batter, onions, crayfish, pepper and stock cube with just enough water to allow the blades of the blender move.

      Pour the smooth blend into a sizeable bowl.

      Add salt and palm oil. Mix thoroughly till well combined.

      Set a small quantity of water in a pot to boil. When the water boils, place a base for the Plantain Moi Moi wraps into the pot. This can be scrap pieces of aluminium foil, a stainless steel stand or leaf stalks from the uma leaves. (Mama always uses the leaves she claims it gives it an extra flavor.)

      Scoop the mix into folded uma leaves, just as you would with beans Moi Moi.

      Gently place the wraps in the pot of boiling water and cook for 25-30minutes or till a knife comes out clean when thrust through it. Add water along the way if necessary.

      Leave to cool down completely and set before serving.



      POUNDED YAM AND EGUSI 

      This Egusi soup is special! It’s Pst M’s mummy’s recipe.. 😱.. you know how they say mummy knows best. Get ready to lick your fingers and thank me later for this 😁

      Ingredients

      Yam cubes

      2 cups of ground egusi

      1 bunch of water leaf

      10 pcs of cow skin (Kpomo)

      10 pcs of goat meat

      5 pcs of shaki (beef tripe)

      2 cups of shredded stock fish

      2 cups of shredded dry Fish

      3 table spoons of ground crayfish

      5 fresh yellow peppers

      5 fresh red peppers

      2 medium onion bulbs

      1 tablespoon of ground pepper

      6 season•ing cubes

      1 cup• palm oil

      1 handful of washed bitter leaf

      Salt to taste

      Preparation

      Egusi Soup
      Thoroughly wash goat meat, kpomo and shaki with water. Season with one onion bulb, three seasoning cubes, one tablespoon ground pepper and salt to taste. Add water and mix thoroughly. Set on medium heat and cook till tender.

      Thoroughly wash stock fish and dry fish, first with hot water and afterwards with tap water. You may need to further boil the stock fish depending on its toughness. The stock fish should be very tender.

      Blend remaining onion bulb, yellow peppers and red peppers with an electric blender.

      Place palm oil in a pot with a pinch of salt and some chopped onions. Add blended pepper puree to the palm oil and fry till the oil starts to rise as to show the stew is fried.

      Mix together with ¼ cup of water until a thick batter is formed. Add to the stew mix. Place on low heat and stir fry until the batter begins to dry up and begins to look like bread crumbs. This can take as long as ten minutes.

      Stir in the water leaf and fry for 3 minutes. The water leaf should release some water into the mix. stir in cooked meat and meat stock. If meat stock is not enough to loosen the thickness of the fried egusi, add more water depending on how thick you want the soup to be.

      Next, add seasoning cubes, ground crayfish, shredded dry fish, shredded stock fish and salt, stir thoroughly to combine and leave to cook for about 15 minutes.

      Finally, add bitter leaf and stir in evenly. Add little amounts at a time. It should have a mildly bitter after taste. Please note MILDLY bitter. It must not over power the taste of the soup. Turn heat off after 1 minute.

      Note: you can use any meat of your choice to prepare this soup. Just ensure the meat is tender.

      Pounded Yam
      Bring two cups of water to a rolling boil in a medium sized pot.
      Add  yam cubes and leave to boil for seven minutes.
      When yam is cooked, scoop into a food processor or a wooden mortar.
      If you are using a food processor, use the chopping blade and blend for 5 minutes until the yam is soft and fluffy and there are no visible lumps. Scoop out with a wet spoon and mold to preferred shape. It is best to blend when yam is still very hot.
      If you are using a mortar and pestle, pound for about six-seven minutes or until there are no visible lumps. If yam becomes too tough, add one cooking spoon of the water used in cooking the yam and pound for another one minute. It is best to pound when yam is still very hot.
      Note: you do not want your pounded yam too soft or too hard. it has to be just right.

      NKWOBI 

      Ingredients 

      2kg (4.4 lbs) cow foot (cut into sizeable pieces)

      20cl (200ml) Palm Oil

      1 tablespoon powdered edible potash (Akanwu/Kaun/Keun)

      1 teaspoon ground Ehu seeds (Calabash Nutmeg)

      2 tablespoons ground crayfish

      2 habanero peppers (or to your taste)

      1 medium onion

      2 big stock cubes

      Salt (to taste)


      To garnish

      1 medium onion

      10 Utazi leaves


      Notes on the ingredients

      The 2kg of cow foot may sound like a lot but remember that cow foot is mostly bones so 2 people that love Nkwobi can finish that in no time.

      Cow foot is quite tough so if you have a pressure cooker, do use it for cooking it to save time and gas/electricity. You may be able to buy calf foot which is softer and cooks in less time.

      Ehu (Calabash Nutmeg) is a very traditional ingredient that is difficult to find outide Nigeria. If you can’t buy it where you live, just prepare the Nkwobi without it. Ordinary nutmeg is not an alternative to this because they are not similar in any way. If you have friends or family in Nigeria, they will be able to buy ehu seeds and send to you, a small quantity would go a long way..

      Potash is what makes the palm oil curdle. An alternative I know is what we call Ngu in Igbo. Ngu is even more traditional than potash so if you can’t find potash, chances are that you won’t be able to get Ngu either.

      Utazi adds a nice bitter flavour to the Nkwobi. if you can’t buy it where you live, use spinach (bold ones), it gives the same effect and actually tastes nice! In fact that’s what I used in the video below.



      Before you make the Nkwobi

      Cut the cow foot into medium chunks.

      Put the powdered potash into a bowl. Add a small quantity of water (about 4 table spoons) and stir well.

      Pass it through a fine sieve and set the liquid aside.

      Cut 1 onion into 4 big chunks.

      Pound the pepper with a mortar and pestle or blitz it.

      Grind the crayfish.

      Crack and remove the outer shell of the ehu then grind with a dry mill eg coffee grinder.




      Directions for making Nkwobi


      Wash and put the cow foot chunks in a pot.

      Add the stock cubes (crushed) and the chunks of onion.

      Add a small quantity of water and start cooking at medium heat till well cooked. Add just enough water to prevent burning as you cook. There should not be any stock (water) in the pot when the meat is done.

      While the meat is cooking, pour the palm oil into a clean dry pot.

      Pour in the potash mixture (sieved) into the oil.

      Stir with a wooden spatula as you pour the potash. You’ll notice the palm oil begin to curdle and turn yellow.

      Keep stirring till all the oil has turned yellow.

      Add the ground crayfish, pepper and ehu seeds. Stir very well till they are all incorporated.

      When the meat is done, add salt, stir and cook till all the water has dried.

      Add the well done cow foot to the palm oil paste and stir very well with the wooden spatula.

      Put it back on the stove/cooker and heat till the Nkwobi is piping hot, stirring all the time to make sure it does not burn.

      To prepare the garnish, cut the onions into rings and cut the utazi into long thin slices.

      Serve the Nkwobi in a wooden mortar as shown in the image above.

      Add the thin slices of utazi and onion rings on top for the full effects.


      ZOBO DRINK 


      Ingredients:

      2 cups of Zobo leaves

      6 cups of water

      1 orange- juice and rind

      1/2 a lemon- juice and rind

      I tablespoon of dried chili flakes (substitute with dried shombo or cayenne pepper)

      1 cinnamon stick- substitute with one tablespoon of ground cinnamon powder

      2 tablespoons of organic honey

      2 stumps of fresh ginger

      Sugar syrup to finish- optional


      Directions:

      •Measure two cups of Zobo leaves, pour in a sieve and rinse with cold water.

      • Prep the other ingredients: slice the orange, extract the juice and cut the pulp into quarters, do the same for the lemon. Peel the skin of the ginger, pound in a mortar using a pestle or roughly blend.

      • In a pot, add the zobo leaves with 6 cups of cold water set the heat to low and add all the ingredients in the step above including the cinnamon stick.


      •When the mixture starts to boil taste to see if you need to add extra ginger.. at this point add your dried chili flakes, it would give it an amazing kick, and you’ll absolutely love it!


      •Transfer the mixture into a plastic bowl, add honey and leave to cool down. Ordinarily you would sieve out the leaves and other ingredients.. but i let it steep further for two days.. first on the kitchen counter and the second day in the fridge


      Each time I tasted it.. it tasted much better. Drain out the ingredients, transfer into a bowl and add hot water.. Use the resultant solution to dilute the drink that way you get as much as you can out of the leaves after which you can discard.

      Leave to chill in the fridge.. garnish with slices of orange, lemon and lime..

      Serve chilled in a glass with Ice cubes (Don not add sugar syrup until you are ready to serve, the sugar tends to alter the taste after sometime in the fridge)

      There you have it ladies! A complete African inspired dish for Christmas.

      Try something different this Christmas..don’t forget to send your pictures and tag us on IG..
      See ladies told you… but I’m sure 

      Yuletide Budget 

      Hey people

      Today we get to feature another amazing gal   Rotanna Onyedi. She’s finally decided to face her fears and start writing so she blogs Here I recently got a chance to get to know her a bit on our JUGN fun trip to st Louis and she’s definitely my kind of person and I’m not just saying that cos she loves books 

      Oh! Don’t even get me started on my love for books 

      how I wish I could sometimes just disappear for a week or two and do nothing but read …no work, no worries… just me and a good book 

      Now I’m wondering how this post somehow became about

      But I’m sure Rotanna will forgive me for digressing so. We need to do a read a book campaign… don’t you think?

      Okay so now for real I’m getting out of the way. I’m going to read a book and let it envelope me in a big hug. 

      While you delve into what Rotanna has to say …


      The Christmas season is one of my favourite times of the year; infact it comes second only to my personal vacay; and rightfully so. Afterall, 🎵🎶 “it’s the most wonderful time of the year…”🎵🎶


      Yup, time to deck the halls with lighted trees, boughs of holly, tinsel, shiny pine cones… whatever tickles your festive fancy.


      Christmas can be an extremely joyful time of year for many families, but unfortunately, the season tends to cause us to break the bank by pushing people over their financial limits.  Yuletide can easily catch us up in the spirit of giving and spending – sometimes to the point where we can cause ourselves financial stress.  TV ads, newspaper inserts and online pop-ups encourage us to embark on the usual Christmas practice of “shop ‘til we drop” – or – days, shop-until-our-index-fingers-get-tired-of-tapping-in-details-online.  We indulge in sales, deals, ‘buy-3-get-2-free’ and start to brace ourselves for the subsequent financial shock, when the debit card bills bleed our accounts red in the New Year.  Over-indulging in food and drink is so often matched by overdoing our spending, with the result that the first part of the New Year turns into a damage repair exercise for our budgets.

      Filling your home with the season’s joy, however, need not leave your bank account in the red.  There are a range of things you can do to help you shop smart, enjoy the holidays and turn your Christmas into a financial success rather than put you in the poorhouse. Here are a few tips to help keep your season merry and bright!

      1. Set Up A Yuletide Budget… and stick to it

      People tend to think that budgeting means being stingy and not enjoying life; that is not true.  A budget simply is a plan that shows you how much you earn/have, where you must spend it, and where you would like to spend it. Therefore, placing a budget does not constrain you from spending; it is just a plan that gives you the confidence and knowledge to spend on things you would like without going into debt.


      Plan your budget ahead of the season and determine how much you can actually spend before you go near a store (even an online one) – not just for presents, but the additional spending on food, drink and socialising.  Include everything from party favors to home decorations, and don’t leave yourself out of the budget.  You may want to embed this Christmas element of your budget within the rest of the household budget, so that you can manage the overall Christmas spending.

      Whatever you choose to do, keep this ”grand total’” figure in mind so you don’t overspend.  Be sure to stick with your budget and try not to allow yourself to be pressurised – even by your children or close family – into spending more than you can really afford.

      2. Make a list, Check it… and Check it again!


      For your gifts, List everyone you intend to buy a gift for and re-examine that list to see if you can exclude anyone (I say this not to sound mean but practical). Then budget a reasonable amount you can afford to spend on each person.  

      Having a budget per gift and per person is not only great for your pocket but will also make shopping for the gift easier.

      3. Shop with a Strategy

      Many of us go a-buying without a shopping strategy – epic fail!!!  Having a clear-cut budget is a great start, but it can quickly go to waste if you don’t have a shopping plan in place.  From where to shop (whole-sealers, thrift stores, sales arenas, clearance stores) to when to shop and with whom to shop; these little things can make or mar your yuletide shopping experience.


      Also, the thought process that goes into deciding your shopping strategy also opens your mind to possibilities you may not usually consider.


      Your best course of action is to outline a budget and shopping wish list, check the list twice, compare prices, look for discounts, adjust your shopping list to fit within your budget and maybe lean on an experienced frugal shopper’s advantage. That way, you’ll have your finances set, and you’ll have a strategy to get exactly what you need at the right time and best places.

      4. Leave the Cards at Home

      If you know that you haven’t mastered the discipline of shopping within budget, have had trouble in the past with paying credit card bills or do not see paying for items using your debit card as a “real spend”, do a cash-purchase-only Christmas.


      It’s simple; set a budget limit, cash out the money, stick with your purchase list, and when that money’s gone, shopping’s over.

      5. Shop around, do you research and look for real deals

      When it comes to shopping, further good rules apply. Shop around ahead of time and compare prices both online and in stores.  Look for deals and keep an eye out for discounts/promotional offers.  If you decide to shop online, be careful to the attending risks of doing so.  You might find a great deal but don’t forget to take delivery charges into account and make sure you leave plenty of time for delivery.


      Many retailers are discounting their prices even as the festive season gets underway and there are good deals to be had.  Fashion retailers may discount prices to get customers through the door, online stores and supermarkets also provide opportunities to secure your Christmas shopping at bargain prices. If you’re familiar with major markets like Balogun market in Lagos Island & Lagos Trade Fair, and have got some time to spare, you may want to check them out for excellent buys.


      6. Avoid shopping at the last minute.

      Who hasn’t run out for a gift at the last minute and ended up paying top dollar for that gift? Don’t be that person who is shopping on the 24th (or some day around it) the last few days before Christmas.


      Markets and shopping malls are dreadfully busy then which can cause shopping fever, which gets you to shop more than you should, or it would make you want to get out of the mall ASAP, causing you to buy the first thing you see whether it fits your budget or not. Moreso, when you are in a rush, you tend to be less careful and have less time to think about the meaning behind the gift because you are in a hurry.

      Make sure that you have a list of gifts you are planning to purchase before heading to the mall so that you have a clear focus and don’t waste time browsing and getting urges to buy unwanted things.

      7. “The Envelope Please…”

      Have an envelope with you to keep all your receipts and gift receipts in, so they are together in one location. You can easily review what you have spent and you’ll know where to find a receipt if you need to return something.


      You also need to monitor & track your expenses.  So keep an eye on your spending to see whether or not you are keeping to your budget.  This way, if you’re not then you can see where you are overspending and figure out what to do about it.

      8. Avoid Money-wasters.

      So you’ve taken steps to save money-smart during the holidays, but you might be still be habitually wasting money without knowing it.


      A few things like shopping everything online, overlooking the value of intangibles, saying “yes” to the mall, and putting glitz over meaning can guarantee a Christmas overspend you don’t want.

      9. Use Good Judgment.

      When you get dressed in the morning, do you put on every accessory you own? No. Why? Because you’d look stupid. Now transfer that logic to your home and yuletide shopping.  No, you don’t need that animatronic, talking Santa Claus plus every Christmas item around you neither does an overfull stash guarantee the joy of the season.


      So whether you’re shopping or decorating or feasting, apply sound judgment. Remember, moderation is key.

      10. Remember The Reason For The Season.

      Remember not to get too stressed out this Christmas season, after all it’s supposed to be a joyous time of year. It’s a time to celebrate the birth of our savior, a time to enjoy being with our families, and it’s a time to sit back and be thankful for all of the blessings that we’ve been given.

      Don’t feel like you have to buy super expensive gifts. Remember, it’s not the gifts that are important at Christmas: Don’t think the spirit of Christmas is about “stuff.” You can have a giving spirit without having a negative checking account. So, take some time out of the busyness to just reflect, to be thankful and to think back to the reason we celebrate.

      Don’t forget the reason for the season.


      Okay guys hope this helps. I will be back to gust you all about the weekend I had.  Absolutely beautiful. 

      Love 

      Pastor M 

      Fun! Fun!! Fun!!! 

      Hey Everyone,

      So the holiday is here, all the kids are having their Christmas parties in school, and all that’s going through your mind is “They are gonna be home, 24/7?!” “Why is the holiday so long?” “Isn’t there a camp, we can go drop them off at?” I know, I know, you’re probably saying.. How can I have such dreadful thoughts, I love my kids and want them around me every second of each day..


      Don’t worry (whispering) your secret is safe with me..😉..

      So I’ve come up with fun things/places to take the kids this holiday! Yayy!!


      That’s how excited they’ll be every time you take them to any of these places..
      1) Klub de Lag 

      Don’t mind how the name sounds, this is a fun family entertainment Centre, located at Lekki phase 1, Lagos. They have a miniature golf course, a bowling arena, a climbing arena, indoor skating ring, a table tennis court and a swimming pool.. for kids 3years old and above..






      2) Mindscape Museum

      This is an indoor programmed play space designed to give children exciting new learning experiences. It’s really fun because the kids can get to role play as builders, engineers, painters, run their own restaurant, go shopping, be bankers and learn about the banking system, and many other creative activities. They also have a very lovely garden at the back of the property and they are located at Lekki phase 1, Lagos.



      3) Fun factory

      A recreational and entertainment park for children with lots of toys, bouncing castles, fun rides, train rides and interactive games, they are located in Lekki phase 1. And guess what? There’s a line up of fun events this Christmas.

      4) GET Arena

      An arcade and Go kart rack is a winner for kids who love the thrill of car racing.. I particularly had a nice time, the last time I visited, and I’m sure the kids would love it!

      5) Movies

      Take the kids out to watch a movie this season.. Genesis deluxe cinemas, Silverbird cinemas, Filmhouse cinema, and other cinemas around the city and in other city..

      Some movies to look out for..


      6) Apapa Amusement Park 

      Just as the name implies, an amusement park with lots of rides, they’ll have so much fun! At the end of the day they’ll be begging you to take them home, cos of how exhausted they’ll get at the end of the day.. lol.

      7) Omu Resort

      The world of OMU RESORT is set in a rainforest environment, it allows guests experience and be inspired by the wonders of nature. Nestled is a peaceful neighbourhood.

      There’s so much to do in this place, if I start talking about them in details, we’ll be here forever! But let me mention a few..

      There a Zoo, an amusement park, Go kart, Archery, Horse back riding, Minigolf, Sea world, Wax museum, and other fun things you should experience.

      They are located at Ibeju lekki.

      So that’s it everyone, don’t let your kids just sit in front of a TV through the holiday, take them out.. and go have some fun!

      See you guys soon..

      Kemi Shittu

      Fitfam Christmas Recipes 

      Hello Everyone,

      Let’s get right into it.. 😊. Bringing you yummy, finger licking recipes that are just right for this season, for all my sisters that don’t wanna be adding extra inches in the coming weeks 😉.


      Recipe for Oil less Efo Riro

      Ingredients
      A bunch of shoko leaves ( substitute spinach)
      3 pieces of Medium sized Tomatoes
      1 red bell pepper (tatashe)
      4 scotch bonnet peppers (ata rodo)
      1/2 bulb of onion (chopped)
      4 medium pieces of beef chunks (chopped into smaller pieces)
      7 medium pieces of goat meat (chopped into smaller pieces)
      5 medium pieces of tripe (chopped into small pieces)
      1/2 cup of chopped shrimp
      1 tablespoon of crayfish powder
      2 – 3 Seasoning cubes
      Salt to taste (optional)
      Method
      Blend your tomato, bell pepper, 2 scotch bonnet peppers and 1/4 bulb of onion and set aside.
      In a bowl, season your beef, goat meat and tripe with seasoning cubes, 2 chopped scotch bonnet peppers and the rest of the chopped onions. (leave a handful of chopped onions for later) If you have sometime allow this marinate for an hour. (This step is optional as you can do same in the pot and bring to boil)
      Boil the meats till their half way done and pour in the blended tomato-pepper mix and allow to continue to boil with the meats till the liquid from the tomato completely dries up. Before the liquid completely dries up, add the shrimp and the crayfish powder and some extra chopped onions for texture.
      Wash your vegetable, finely shred them and add them to the pot of tomato-pepper mix and beef, stir and Reduce the heat to the lowest and allow the juices from the vegetables to begin to bubble up. Leave on the heat for 2- 3 minutes and serve as a standalone dish or with any accompaniment of your choice.


      Nigerian Style Couscous

      Nigerian Style Couscous is simply Nigerian Fried Rice style inspired Couscous. Couscous is an increasingly popular alternative to rice these days. It has a very fluffy texture which is quite bland in itself so to thoroughly enjoy it, you’ll need to incorporate intense flavour into it. I’m not very keen on couscous only because of the blandness but when I do decide to prepare it, I make sure it’s done Nigerian fried rice style, this way it ends up absolutely flavourful.
      You’ll notice in the list of ingredients that I’ve got both minced chicken and chicken fillet listed, this is only cos I didn’t have enough of either, so I decided to combine both. You can also use minced beef as an alternative or even just raw beef or even skip using any and use just the vegetables. If you’ll be using just raw chicken or beef, do ensure it’s marinated for at least an hour, this will help to enhance the flavour of your Couscous.
      To further enhance the flavour of your Couscous, do try to use raw chicken or meat, this is cos when it’s fried, as stated in the recipe, the juices from the chicken /beef increases the flavour of the Couscous when added. This is particularly important if you haven’t got chicken stock to use, you can just steam your couscous with water and add the juices from the fried chicken and vegetables.
      If you’ll be using frozen vegetables, try as much as possible to use fresh carrots at least. Most frozen vegetables aren’t flavourful and may taste bland when added to the couscous, amp up the flavour a bit by using fresh sweet carrots ans sweetcorn.
      A very important tip for cooking Couscous is using equal amounts of water/stock and Couscous. That is, they have to be the same ratio. What this means is, if you’re cooking 1 cup of Couscous, make sure you use the exact quantity of water or stock, that is, one cup of water/stock to one cup of Couscous.
      Ingredients:
      2 Cups Couscous
      2 Cups Chicken Stock or Water
      150grams Minced chicken/ boneless chicken
      1 Cooking Spoon Olive Oil
      1 Cup Thinly Chopped red, Green, Yellow mix Bell Peppers( Tatashe)
      1 Scotch Bonnet Thinly Chopped (Rodo)
      1 Medium Size Onion chopped
      1/2 Cup Chopped Carrots
      1/2 Cup Sweetcorn
      1/2 Cup Green Peas
      1 stalk Spring Onions
      3 Cloves Garlic Minced
      2 Knorr Chicken Cubes
      1 Teaspoon Garlic Powder
      1/2 Teaspoon Curry Powder
      Salt to taste

      Season the raw chicken/mince with the Knorr cubes, garlic powder and curry powder, combine thoroughly and leave to marinate for 30 minutes to an hour.

      Get a large frying pan or wok, place on a hob on medium heat, add the olive oil. When it’s hot, add the garlic and sauté for 30 seconds, then add half of the onions, sauté till fragrant…Nigerian style Couscous


      Now add the raw chicken, if you’re using any, fry till it loses its pinkness and begins to brown.


      Now add the minced chicken, stir thoroughly to break up clumps, fry till the mince is well cooked…


      When it’s cooked, scoop out the contents of the pan, leaving just the oil. Set the chicken/ beef aside


      You should have at least two tablespoons olive oil left in the pan, if you haven’t, add more…


      Now add the chopped carrots into the pan, sauté for 2 minutes to soften the carrots a bit, then add the peppers, sauté for 2-3minutes….


      Now add the remaining vegetables, in this case, the sweetcorn, green peas and spring onions, sauté for 2 minutes…


      Add the chicken/ beef back into the pan, stir and combine for 2 minutes…Set aside when done….it’s time to prepare the couscous.


      Get yourself a saucepan, place on a hob on medium heat, pour in the chicken stock or water if you haven’t got chicken stock, bring to a boil…


      When it starts to boil, add the couscous. Cover with a lid or tightly cover the pan with foil, remove the pan from the hob and set aside. Set aside for about 5 mins, by this time, the couscous would have soaked up all the stock and softened considerably…


      After 5 minutes, open the pan and fluff up the couscous with a fork…


      Add the cooked vegetables and chicken…


      Mix thoroughly…..and it’s done. You can return it back to the hob for a minute to heat it back up.


      Your Nigerian Style Couscous is ready…Serve immediately..


      So there you have it.. try this recipes and let me know how they taste and what you think, post pics on IG or Fb and tag us! Will be bringing you more yummy low calorie recipes soon, and a yummy desert too! 😁

      Recipe and Pic credit: @sisijemimah

      See y’all very soon! 😘

      Kemi Shittu

      Disciplined In December

      Hey people

      How are you? Okay so I was working on sending you another recipe then I had a re-think. If I’m going to be sending you all these recipes then I really need to make sure it doesn’t end up creating a bigger problem for you in the long run.

      So you know how I love you guys? Well I decided to get one super chick. She’s fun and bubbly but she totally gets it when it comes to losing weight and living a much healthier life. I will let her introduce herself…… yep! Thank me later.

      Enjoy

      ———————————-

      Her private chat with me went something like

      ‘…I am traveling home to Nigeria next week to visit family… I will be sticking to the exercises daily as instructed but I know it is the meal plan I will default on. I am just being honest. Anyways, I wanted to inform you and also ask any advice you can offer. And yes, I know it is ordinary food but ahhh, I have not eaten my mommy’s black soup in a year. That one isn’t ordinary food ooooo hahahaha *covers eyes*…’

       

      Oh gosh, I laughed so hard before I even thought of replying her. After I replied, I noticed she didn’t listen or respond for a while. When she did, her reply was…

       

      hahahahhahahahaha! Thank you so much Eziaha. I thought you would scold me so I was reluctant to listen to the voice note…’

       

      Now yawl are probably itching to know what I told her that got her laughing.

      I will share.

      But my mama taught me manners.

      Hey yawl, I am super excited to be guest-blogging on JUGN. Thank you so much mama for having me here.

      My name is Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo, wife, mom and 30!!! I am many other things, but for this post, let’s stick to ‘I am a Food and Fitness Apostle at CoachE’Squad’

      I run, among others, online classes (Squads) where I help Chicks (Squaddies) lose weight and generally stay fit. You see, I used to be 106kg from food indiscipline (and TV too. Don’t lie, the most junk you consume, you do it in front of your screen) but the Lord helped me to toss 30kg in under 4months.


      Incidentally, December, the universally acclaimed month of FOOD, was a part of those 4months, and because I was tired of being fat, I stayed disciplined through the holidays.


      Ok I admit I didn’t have the financial buoyancy (read B-R-O-K-E) to even indulge, but yawl know I could have hopped from house to house too if I wanted free food. And trust me; I am never short of friends to visit.

      It has been a year since I lost weight, and I have helped many more Chicks too.


      It is another Christmas, I’m not broke (hallelujah) but I intend to stay disciplined through this holiday. And I intend to keep my Squaddies Disciplined too. Which is why that Chick above and I had that convo.

      I’m always singing ‘IT IS JUST FOOD ooo’ to all my Squaddies!!!

      She had to throw that line back at me. Sharp babe!!!

      Anyways, I had to agree with her. Her mom’s black soup is NOT just food!!! It is a delicacy. While I am not (no longer more like) a foodie, I proudly admit that I am a Noodles-ie, especially Indomie!!!

      I mean, noodles are made in heaven.

      Argue with the person beside you right now. I’m not even debating.

      Indomie Noodles is NOT just food. IT IS THE FOOD!!!

      And I get pretty upset when people call or spell it as INDOMINE!!! Like really???? Show some respect please!!!

      Ok before I make this about my love for Noodles, let me just give you tips on how to stay ‘Disciplined this December’, even as we show some respect to our Temples!!!


      Now, I’m not going to push it and ask you to lose weight through the holidays like I did. Leave that for my Squaddies. I just want us to focus on maintaining what we even entered the season with, at the very least.

      I love the number 5, so let’s share 5 tips? Thank You!!!

      1. BUY A REALLY CUTE WATER BOTTLE.


      Sports Direct and Blender Bottles work well, but any water bottle is fine.

      Cool kid tip? All the IJGB’s are gon’ be rolling with a bottle of water everywhere they go cos Naija is too hot for them. *scowls*

      So you can be a Cool Kid too if you carry a water bottle around, sipping it at calculated intervals, while complaining about the weather, like a confam IJGB. IJGB is I just got back… the ‘Abroad’ returnees. (If you didn’t already know, good luck in becoming a CK. That’s ‘Cool Kid’, try and keep up).

      But don’t just carry one; throw some slices of lemon in it.

      Lemon has the super power called FAT burning. Then it can also suppress appetite. Warm lemon water. Just enough lemon to change the taste of the water, without making it bitter.

      Something else happens when we STAY HYDRATED (which is really what I should have called my number 1 tip) It will help keep stomach boredom at bay.

      See ehn, sometimes your tummy is NOT hungry. It is just BORED!!! Keep it busy with fluids.


      You may also infuse your water with any fruit of choice. So you may also consider an infusion bottle if you wanna look even cooler.


      Whatever you do, stay hydrated (with a CK water bottle *wink*)

      *Disclaimer, if you have any health challenge whatsoever, you may wanna check with your Doctor first before drinking lemons. Or just drink ordinary water. It works too.
      2. LOOSE WEIGHT BEFORE THE HOLIDAYS.

      Yes it is probably too late for me to tell you to lose weight now, just about two weeks to Christmas, but keep this tip in mind before or for the next holiday, say Easter, summer, or another country for a while. Like my Squaddie above and a lot of people who are travelling in or out this season.

      See ehn, when you are away from your regular location, I believe you should sample meals. I wouldn’t go to Greece, for example, and not taste Baklava and feta cheese and all that stuff Christine Caine stays harassing me with.


      Or Brazil and not taste Brigadeiros, that is Brazilian Chocolate truffles


      And the calorie laden Acarajé (which I suspect is AKARA).


      Or even Nigeria and not eat Black soup and Pounded yam, or Suya AT NIGHT please.


      Holidays are for food too.

      But this is something I tell my Squaddies. If you are going on a planned holiday, take a month to lose some weight. 5kg would be awesome but even 2kg is fine. That way, when you sample meals (and I don’t mean stuff your face with every single meal you find), then you just may come back up to your previous weight, or even fall less.

      Putting figures to it – Say you are 90kg, you take a month or 2 to drop 5kg at least, go and have a lovely vacay, and you return at 88kg or even 91kg.

      This is way better than travelling at 90kg and returning at 95kg.

      Now when you get back, you can call me and we can resume our healthy lifestyle again, because life should be lived balance!!!

      Need some theology for that? 1 Peter 5v8 in AMPC says BE WELL-BALANCED…

       

      So take the holiday season to indulge a little, especially if holiday involves travelling, even if to the village.

      But first, pay the price. Lose some kgs first.

      Now, even if Christmas is about two weeks away, how about you stay disciplined from today or tomorrow till the 24th? Who know, if you holler at me, I can epp you toss like 2kg, so you won’t feel that much guilty indulging on Christmas weekend. Or even beyond, especially if travelling.

       

      3. PORTION CONTROL 


      You see, this is my favourite weight loss lingua. The beautiful thing about food is that we get the most satisfaction from the first couple of bites. The first bite has a much stronger taste, and is sweetest.

      Subsequent bites are less strong and less sweet. The more you eat, the less additional pleasure you get from each bite.

      Ever wondered why ‘Good to the last bite’ is a compliment?

      There you go.

      Which is why you should decide intentionally to keep your portions healthy. Don’t overload your plate.

      Eat slowly.

      It takes your brain some time (I hear 20minutes) to transport the ‘I’m full signal’ to your tummy, hence don’t be mindlessly eating fast so you don’t miss it.

      We only need so much food and no more. The extra eating comes from greed, long throat, mindless eating (especially when looking at a screen), or all of the above. Sorry guys, just shooting straight.

      And don’t always go for Seconds abeg.

      Drink water and relax.

      So yes, eat Jollof and fried rice, fried chicken, Black soup, Noodles, etc.

      But P.C it.

      And be sure to add some generous servings of vegetables and salad. I mean, you can even add cream to your salad; so far you don’t overdo it.

      Portion control baby!!!

      Plus don’t forget Cool tip Number 1. Stay hydrated.

       

      4. BALANCE!!!


      Yes, we are back to balance. You can’t indulge every day!!! Forget holidays now and think of your health!!! Eat with wisdom!!!

      Plan your visits to friends and family in such a way that you don’t have to stuff your face back to back.

      Some days, sit at home and pay penance for the over-eating of yesterday and day-before yesterday.

      Eat salads!!! Drink lots of water!!! Drink green smoothies!!!

      Let the entire junk find its way out before you go on overload again.

      You don’t wanna get into the New Year with an under-functioning body.

      Sit down; curl up with a nice book with an Apple and Cucumbers.

      Or watch a movie and eat grapes.

      Or eat the Bread of life, aka read your Bible, and celebrate the One whose birthday we are celebrating.

      It is Jesus birthday not yours!!!!

      Go for balance!!! Not every day turn up!!!

       

      5. GET SOME CARDIO IN


      See ehn, this holiday period of food and more food, you need more cardio than anything. Don’t worry about resistance and strength trainings.

      Run, skip, do Jumping Jacks, Dance, etc. The best part about cardio, especially running or walking, is that we can do it with a buddy.

      Instead of sitting in with that friend who finally has your time this season, and eating, take long walks and catch up.

      Throw in a simple workout wear when you wanna visit, or borrow your friend’s own (feel free to keep it if you like it, in the spirit of Christmas). You can even make it a group thing and yawl can colour-code or som’in.

      Leave the gym, just go for a run and release those happy hormones, a.k.a endorphins.

      The best part of walking, or jogging, is all the things you get to notice in your environment too.

      Plus yawl can talk about the absolute goodness of God.

      Now even if you don’t have any friend to go with, hike solo.

      And talk to God. I love this quote I saw somewhere.


      You certainly need creative ideas for 2017, so go for that walk.

      Just don’t walk with a foolish person. That’s not me, but Solomon in Proverbs 13 v 20.

       

      Ok, I can go on fo’eva, ask around haha, but I will stop here!!!

      But these 5 tips should help us all.

      Happy holidays and Merry Christmas people!!!

      Stay disciplined… not just in your food but also in your activities.

      We need you, alive, well and with few or no regrets, in the New Year 2017, running after all your God-given assignments!!!

       

      Muah

      CoachE’

       

       

       

       

       

       

      Christmas dessert anyone?

      Hi people. 

      Ok so I just realized I missed yesterday. So sorry it’s been so hectic here. Actually forgot to blog. Okay so I owe and I will pay. 

      Anyhow I was just thinking now of fun things to do with the kids this Christmas and I thought hey! Dassah is always asking to cook something with me and no way I’m letting her anywhere near a gas cooker or oven yet. I’m sorry I don’t trust her that much yet 😌😌

      So this is what I came up with. How about making some no bake desserts? This will be great for those with really young kids or people without a working oven. 

      I’m sure you will have just as much fun making it with them as they will eating them. Please let me know how it goes. Send in pictures of the ones you made. Tag us on instagram @justusgirlsnaija would love to see how it turned out. 

      Dessert 1

      No-Bake Peanut Butter Corn Flake Cookies 

      Ingredients

      6 cups corn flakes

      1 cup sugar

      1 cup light corn syrup

      1 cup creamy peanut butter


      Instructions

      • Place corn flakes in a large bowl; set aside.
      • Combine sugar and corn syrup in a medium saucepan over medium heat. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the sugar dissolves. Immediately remove from heat; add peanut butter, stirring to combine.
      • Pour peanut butter mixture over corn flakes, and toss gently to combine, being careful not to crush the corn flakes.
      • Quickly drop heaped tablespoonfuls   On a large baking sheet lined with parchment or wax paper. Allow cookies to stand at room temperature at least 30 minutes or until set. Store in an airtight container.

      Hey what’s not to love besides you probably can switch it up with other cereals -rice krispsies or cheerios. I’m guessing they may even be easier to manipulate. 

      Ok guys back with another no bake dessert later. You will definitely have happy kids on your hands. 

      Picture by: @avrgrey (mr grey) 

      Love 

      Pastor Mildred 

      Christmas With Friends…

      Okay people I’m back before Miss Shittu officially takes over my blog and I get relegated to one back office editing what she writes Nooooooo!!! Kemi you are not taking my blog. 😂😂😂😂😂😂 of course you know I’m kidding. In fact I’m hoping in the spirit of Christmas to feature more amazing female writers. Once I can get them to write for me. 😊

      Okay so today as I sit at Lagos Business School (LBS) Pan Atlantic University  this morning,  I’m thinking about how meaningful female friendships can be. I probably would be in bed this morning after sending coach E her workout picture but I came out bright and early to LBS to celebrate my friend turned sister Mabel as she graduates today. I’m sooooooo proud of her. Mabel is one of those “still I rise people” Nothing can keep her down.

      Okay so incase you don’t know who Mabel is then I take it you are new to my blog. Let me give you an assignment go and find blog posts about her here and nope I didn’t tag her. That’s too easy 😁😁

      So anyhow I’ve been hearing a lot of ladies say things like ” I don’t have female friends. Women like drama!” Well let’s remedy that. I think there’s a place for godly female friendships in your life. I always ask, if all of us are so great individually? So where is all this so-called drama from? Truth is there are more amazing women than there are bad. We always just focus on the bad. To be honest, I don’t have too many friends but all the ones I do have are really great. We look out for each other, we have each other’s backs and even though we don’t see all the time when we do see it’s…

      We connect on a different level.

      You will never fully understand this till you have godly female friends. People that can tell you the truth and look out for you and pray for you and with you. People who challenge you to do more and be more. 

      Who make you want to be more like Jesus everyday. Make you want to be better because they challenge your very best 

      People who never give up on you no matter how crazy it gets or how annoying you become. 

      Your pain becomes their pain. Your victories, their testimonies. When you are in Labour they push with you, when you are nursing they hold on to baby so you can have a few minutes of shut eye. They need no entertaining when they come to visit  they either bring food or cook it at your place. Trust me there are some things that only your female friends get.

      Have a nasty breakup and all your guy friends be like “get over it already! Good riddance.” Your chick friends will let you cry  first, then cry with you, then tell you later how he didn’t deserve you….. but they understand and the process. And the process is key to healing.

      And when it’s time to have fun they know how to throw down and let you be you


      Ever had a terrible menstrual period? You really think your male friends get it? Want a bridal shower? A baby shower? A male friend? Think again. Somethings are just better with female friends trust me.


      Need someone to babysit when your mum and mother-in-law are not available? Have an emergency event and have nothing  to wear? Whose wardrobe will you be raiding? Godly female friends just work.

      New revelation from the word? Who will scream down the phone with you at the accuracy of God? Or lift holy hands with you in worship? Biko godly female friends rock.   (My beautiful covenant friend and sister Itunuade Iyun -love her in a million ways)

      To tell you the truth you don’t know what you’re missing. And what you are keeping people from experiencing by keeping your friendship to yourself. So since we are in such a jolly mood this season, let me put on my Mrs Claus hat and throw in a Christmas giveaway

      So are you ready?

      Trust me you will have fun with this one. So here’s what you do.

      • Take a Christmas themed picture with 3 of your female friends (tip- make it as creative and as christmassy as possible) that makes 4 of you. 


      • Go to Instagram and search for our page @justusgirlsnaija follow us.

      • Post the picture and tag us @justusgirlsnaija then use the  hashtag #JUGNchristmaswithfriends. 



      • We will repost and the picture with the highest likes wins. 
      • Tag all your friends in the picture because we will need all their handles if your picture wins. 

      I’m sure you are guessing what the prize is  

      The winners will have their winning picture up as our Just Us Girls Naija header for one week  this season (imagine you get to replace these cuties) and every one in your squad gets a personalized Christmas gift from us at JUGN. Don’t worry it’s gonna be good. But I’m keeping it secret. 


      Okay so the whole process has a deadline. You need to send in your entries on instagram latest 14th December and then voting for likes ends 21st December.

      Please note: any likes after midnight  on the 21st of December will not be counted. 

      Okay ladies get your squad together. You will be amazed at how much fun you will have. It will also make you think. Who your friends are. I know mine….

      Now get to it. No time.

      Love you guys.

      Yes it’s me Pastor Mildred.

      Did you know?

      Hey everyone! Can you feel Christmas already..


      Well I can.. 🙋🏽.. Christmas lights on buildings and on the street, people coming back home from “the abroad”, designers doing giveaways on Instagram.. I cannot believe we are about entering the 2nd week in December, where did the whole year go!

      And it’s actaually 18 days to Christmas Day! Whoop! Still counting down.. 💃🏾💃🏾


      Christmas is such an exciting and happy season, like we say Christ is the reason for the season.. however how much do you really know about Christmas..

      Today, we are gonna look at interesting facts about Christmas.. Most of which I just found out myself.


      1) The traditional three colours of Christmas are green, red and gold. Green has long been a symbol of life and rebirth; red symbolizes the blood of Christ, and gold represents light as well as wealth and royalty.


      2) Christmas trees were first decorated with foods such as apples, nuts and dates.. (A food tree! 😍.. lol, this is the foodie in me speaking, but imagine just walking by your tree and taking an apple off to snack on.. cool!) 


      3) The largest floating Christmas tree in the world is 278 feet tall and is located in Rio de Janero, Brazil. (I just don’t understand why anyone would want to put a tree on water) 


      4) Did you ever wonder where x-mas came from? X means Christ in Greek, so to shorten the word Christmas we sometimes use X-mas. (I can see someone’s eyes light up as they say “Oh really?”) 

      5) In Italy, Christmas dinner can last for more than 4hours. Yes that’s right. Most of the Italian families have more than 7 courses for the dinner. (😳😳 All I’m thinking about is, who is gonna do all those dishes! And all the Italians I know) 


      6) Christmas candy cane shaped as a shepherds’ crook, represents the humble shepherds who were first to worship the new born Christ.


      7) Most of the popular Christmas songs including “I’m dreaming of a white Christmas”, “Winter wonderland”, “I’ll be home for Christmas”, “O holy night” were written and co-written by Jews. (Interesting to see how the words spoken over the life of the Jews, thousands of years ago is still being made manifest.. God’s word NEVER, stress on never falls to the ground) 

      8) The Christmas wreath was originally hung as a symbol of Jesus. The holly represents his crown of thorns and the red berries the blood he shed.


      9) During Christmas of 1914 (World war 1), a truce was held between Germany and the U.K. They decorated their shelters, exchanged gifts across neutral grounds and played a game of football between themselves. (Isn’t that something.. because of Christmas two countries at the verge of war would drop their guns, and bombs and exchange gifts and celebrate over football together.. Don’t you think it’s time to pick up the phone and call that person you’ve been fighting and been in war with? Yup! Send a card or a gift, let the love of Christ reign this season!) 


      10) Santa Claus, real name St Nicholas; was born in the year 270 and was a Bishop in a town in present day Turkey. He earned a reputation as an anonymous gift giver. (I’m sure some of us didn’t know his real name, and if you did.. no way you would have known when he was born 😁. Disclaimer: the picture below isn’t St Nicholas. Lol) 


      11) Santa has a real postal zip code. H0H 0H0. Every year millions of letters are addressed to Santa from kids all over the world. (Now bringing out my pen and paper to write my wish list to Santa, I qualify being a kid I’m someone’s child.. plus you never know 😉) 

      12) If you have all the gifts listed in the “twelve days of Christmas”, it would equal 364gifts..


      Trust me I kinda doubted the maths at first, but it actually adds up.. you’ll have a partridge in a pear for 12days, two turtle doves for 11days and so on.. so that’s 364 gifts..  a Christmas gift for every day of the year.. yay! Well excluding my birthday, cos I got a birthday gift instead 😁 that’s my life. Everyday is Christmas except when it’s my birthday 😉


       plus I’m sure most of us don’t know the exact wordings of the song, don’t be shy.. sing along while you read it 😄. 

      Speaking about gift giving, make sure to actually give out a gift this season.. Check out the previous posts to know the best kinda gifts to give out..

      And oh I’m excited about something, so we might be doing our very own.. *whispers* just us girls secret Santa..


      Don’t tell anyone, or tell every lady you know!!! Lol.. more info coming soon, make sure to check here everyday!

      See you all later..

      Kemi Shittu

      What’s Cooking? 

      Hey people

      It’s another feature today by Miss kemi Shittu and It’s a recipe. I’m so excited. I loooooooooove cooking. So I can’t wait to try this out. I have my own recipe for this but never hurts to try something different. See, I told you we got you covered from gifts to food….

      Anyway enjoy…
      The sound of pots and pans clanging, waking up at 5am to chop carrots and pepper, the house filled with the smell of deep fried crispy chicken, not taking a shower till like 4pm..

      That’s what a typical Christmas Day used to be like when I was younger..

      Now I’m a self professed foodie, I love food..


      baking..


      the smell of food, having to savor every bit that enters my mouth and actually taste the food, chewing..


      I should stop, before I eat my phone 😂..

      I enjoy cooking, but absolutely do not like the preparation that comes with it, and that was all that was expected of me when in my mum’s kitchen.. cutting, slicing, chopping, stiring, more cutting, washing dishes, and pots, and all you wanna do is just run away..


      But at the end of the day, after all the work, the sweat, hot oil splashing on your skin a couple of times.. it’s usually worth it when you see the spread of food on the table! And Christmas Day is the one day you’re allowed to eat all you want! 😁


      See how good our food looks! Yum!

      So let’s get right into it for today, all this talk about food has made me hungry already.. lol

      Today I’m bringing you a home made recipe from dooney’s kitchen! Im sure most of us know who she is, if you don’t you must be living under a rock somewhere..

      FRIED RICE AND CHICKEN 

      I know wha