#USseries 10: Thank you for 10

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Hi people

Let me be honest I had this really amazing post all planned out but between new mummy and old mummy duties (yep, my two daughters still get their share of mummy. Having another one that depends on you for survival is absolutely none of their business. Your decision to have more mummy, deal with it. Lol! ) somehow such grandiose aspirations flew out the window.

Today is my 10th year wedding anniversary
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and as always I had planned this, really special blog post but for some reason I don’t even think that’s necessary. Today I just want to say thank you.

Thank you to the two people who have made all the difference in these last 10 years. The two people that have made it all so worth it. That have made it so beautiful…Actually the most beautiful 10 years of my life.

I really need to thank God for first making sure I didn’t mess up my life by marrying the wrong person. He blew down mountains, filled up valleys, opened doors, shut others. He did practically everything till I got it….

The man you are with is not your husband…There is yet another….he is the youngest and He is taking care of the sheep…

Till I saw clearly that the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh was right under my nose but instead of recognising the king he was I had so far only seen the shepherd boy. Until God opened my eyes to see “men as men not as trees”.

And oh! Just look what I would have missed….

Thank you Jesus, I thank God every day I handed you the wheel eleven years ago with one simple prayer :

“Lord by pass my emotions and do what’s best for me”

I thank you that you answered that prayer. I thank God everyday.

Then I want to say thank you to my Pk…
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My king, my best friend, my sunshine, the absolute Love of my life.

My greatest passion after God. My number one prayer assignment. 

Thank you for yielding to God. For letting God use you to love me. You are constant proof that God loves me. See the man He gave me.

Honestly, they don’t come better than this.

I love the fact that you love me. I love how you love me. I love the fact that you get me…..that you are my person…..MY person.

I think the biggest trip for me is that you never get tired of showing me you love me.

A few days ago I was talking to someone about doing a post about demystifying my marriage. About how people just think my marriage is a fairy tale but by the time I finished talking to her I realised that maybe I was trying too hard to prove that it wasn’t when to be honest sometimes I feel like I’m in a fairy tale myself. The only difference is my happily Ever After is guaranteed because of the Word of God.
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Let me give you a few examples. We arrived America and my Pk just came to drop us off so basically he had a few days to stay just to be sure I and the girls were settled in. Into the last few days of leaving he would get up and go out early and come back later in the day.

I was getting upset. Leaving in a few days and we are missing out on big quality time? So I was getting ready my sulking face and my speech on how this was bad for our marriage as this was one of our strengths…. blah blah blah…

So as he came in that day, “Hon! Honey! Where are you?!”

I didn’t answer with my usual exuberance. “Honey! Come! Come and see!!!”. He dragged a very reluctant pregnant me outside the house and there parked in front of the house was a brand new 2015 SUV (amebo! That’s all the details I’m giving lol!)

I was like “what’s this?”

“Your car. I’ve been going for auctions because I’ve been wondering how you and the girls will cope without a car in America and this was a ridiculous price. Honey it was just favour….”

Isn’t it always though?

With pk it’s always favour.

And that’s a lesson I’ve learnt from him. Anytime he sets in his heart to do something for me, God gives him grace and shows him favour that at the end of the day it’s usually at a much better deal than it would have been normally.

I was mortified… so ashamed of myself. There he was running around to bless me and I was there sulking like a 10 year old sent off to boarding school. Jumping to conclusion like a frog on steroids.

That’s just my pk always looking for ways to surprise me and what made it extra special? It wasn’t in the budget. He bent over backwards for me. He always does. He will put me first even if it doesn’t seem reasonable to the normal average man.

Do you see why I’m so thankful he’s mine?
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Yesterday I was speaking to him and he sounded so tired. He landed on Saturday in Nigeria and went straight into meetings. Then on Sunday preached 5 services back to back and for those who know their pastor greeted and spoke to more people than his voice could take really. Then he was back in meetings on Monday then Tuesday preached rush hour fellowship and on Wednesday morning meetings back to back till time for midweek service then he preached.

By the time we did a video call in the night after he got home at about 11pm. I knew he was exhausted but he had a huge smile and lots of kisses for me. Then he told me he had planned to fly out that night after service just so he could be here with me for our wedding anniversary today. Just to surprise me.

Honestly I thank God he didn’t. There’s only so much your body can take. Besides that’s a very expensive happy anniversary. Lol! Ibo girl like me. I quickly calculated the ticket fare just to come and leave again in like 2 days or something because he won’t want to miss a Sunday in church. Abeg bbm call is okay. Lol!

I’m joking o! Honey (in case you are reading this). I miss you. Your being here would have been awesome but like I said to him earlier the fact that after 10 years you still feel the need to keep surprising me just makes me feel so special.
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You do everything to keep me happy
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You Promised me exciting and you kept your word. It’s been 10 exciting years and I’m still in for the ride.

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At exactly 12 midnight Nigerian time my baby put this up.
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Why won’t I be grateful for a man who loves me and celebrates me like this?

A man who stood by me despite all odds till our faith produced.
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Look! We have 3 kids baby! Three!!!
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They told us not to expect even one but look at us.
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Thank you Jesus and thank you my pk. You are the reason why this marriage works so well. Two of you make it so easy for me to submit and be all I can be.

10 years ago a scared young girl held both your hands and said I DO!!! But hey look what you have both done…
Given me wings to fly.
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I love you both so much.

Finally let me say. If you are one of those people who think my blog is too mushy or I celebrate my pk too much…. I’m just wondering how much is panadol?

Lol! Okay so I’m just kidding but it’s probably because you haven’t felt what it’s like to be loved. Once you do, you can’t keep still
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and you can’t stop smiling or talking about it.
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Bottom line…

Why has my marriage been heaven this 10 years?
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Because I have a husband who is committed to doing the Word and committed to making me happy
And more importantly because we keep Jesus at the centre of it all.
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Okay people,  gotta run.

Later.
Love you

PS
Happy Wedding Anniversary to two of my favourite people. My amazing son Sammy Smith and my true and trusted daughter and armour bearer Amaka. Many more years of bliss and plenty blessings. I love you guys sooooooooooooo much.
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#USseries 8: I TESTIFY…

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I testify….
I serve a living God!
I am in awe of the God that sees the end of a thing before its very beginning.

I testify…
I serve a faithful God!
I am in awe of the God that cannot lie. Once He says it, it must be done.

I testify that this God has been good to me and if you will only believe, he will be good to you too.

This is the God I serve….
DAVID IFECHUKWUKUKOME OKONKWO is here. Exactly 2 years after Davida.

….and this is why:

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Faithful God.
Pictures later but like I said before….
All eyes go see am.

#USseries 7: vida turns terrific two

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Happy Birthday princess.
Two already wow!

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I celebrate you. I celebrate the beauty of your young life. I celebrate the triumph of your birth. I celebrate the beauty of hope that you bring  to many still believing. I celebrate your quiet strength. I celebrate your subtle determination. I celebrate the gift of you.

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Davida Ifechukwunyediche Okonkwo my first miracle baby 

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God promised me that my children will be known all over the world as the ones Jehovah himself has blessed and that is your testimony:
Jehovah himself has blessed you. Even you sef the blessing de Scatter your dada lol

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Mummy loves you. You are a priceless gift of God. I’m honoured to be the one God chooses to use to mother you – to be your guardian, your angel, your teacher.

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Daddy adores you. He can’t get over how beautiful you are or how quietly resolute you are. To be honest I just think he’s tripped at how fine a modified female version of him is….mummy’s genes added the finesse. Lol!
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One thing I know for sure is that you are blessed, you are loved and you are special; you will do great things for God……Of this I’m sure.
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Happy Birthday baby.
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Many many more blessed years. We
all love you and may your smile always be bright
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And laughter never cease in your life in Jesus name
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Happy birthday to my amazing friend and brother pastor Jerry Eze wishing you an even more extravagantly graced life .
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Vida is honoured to share this day with such greatness
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#USseries 6: GOD BLESSES

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Hey people

Back again! Actually feels kinda good to blog so often. Really wish it was something I could do more often but I guess sometimes life gets in the way. Well, I guess I will enjoy it as often as I can till lil’ man shows up and starts dictating the pace.

Okay so today is one of those my looking back over my life days. I had another post planned (more for the men in your lives ladies ) But for some reason I don’t feel it’s quite ready yet. But it will be….soon.

So anyway it’s a very good day for me today. Guess who turns 2 in a few hours

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It still feels surreal. I don’t believe it’s been 2 years already since she showed up and proved that God answers prayers. August 22nd 2013 still feels like yesterday.

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In fact the title for this post came to me one evening while I was just sitting by myself in the room missing my pk and in one of my boarding house moods when she tiptoes in (yes o! Madam is definitely a ballerina. Still walks on her toes) and walks over to me, bends over till we are face to face then she gives me the biggest smile you ever saw,

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hugs me for absolutely no reason then runs off to play. The next words out of my mouth came straight from my spirit as it totally hit me …GOD BLESSES O!

My precious gift from God

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My testimony in the flesh.

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My answer to prayer

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My sweet tooth

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When did you even become such a big girl?

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Last time I remember you were taking a 3 month picture with aunty  Faith of Faith wilkie pictures

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Then you had a bottle in your hand or there was no rest for mummy

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It seems just like yesterday we were blowing out the candle for the big ONE

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GOD BLESSES O! You can’t convince me otherwise. He does. He blesses. It’s in the simple things o! Not necessarily in the flashy cars, big houses, designer clothes, expensive human hair. It’s in many things- the first positive pregnancy test, the first flutter in your womb that makes you know there’s life inside of you, it’s in the first cry you hear from her as she pushes out into the world. It’s in the first time she smiles at you, sits up, spits up, crawls, walks, runs, and the moment when she says “mummy”. God blesses my sisters …he does.

There are too many things to be thankful for if you will look closely. If you will count your blessings not your problems. A good man who doesn’t cheat on you or hit you and provides for you and the kids even if he’s not the vision of romance. A job that pays your bills even if you think you work crappy hours. A network of friends whom you can call if things get really tough even if they don’t in your opinion keep in touch very often but you know when the chips are down they’ve got your back. A church where you hear the undiluted word of God even if you think the choir could be better. Lol!

You are alive. You are well. It’s because God has blessed you o! Whatever supposed  short coming in your life could have been worse but for God.

There’s this music group I absolutely looooooooove funny enough I’m surprised I’ve never blogged about them. I still remember when I heard one of their songs live! I was in Benin to see my dear friend who incidentally is vida’s godmother Pastor Laurie Idahosa

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oh by the way she just started blogging so please drop by and show some love on her blog
https://laurieidahosa.wordpress.com

so anyhow these guys were on stage. first they were hilarious then they started singing they had such stage presence i couldn’t believe it and they were anointed. You could just tell they believed what they were singing.
I felt oh! Nice but then they started singing a song they said was their new single and I just couldn’t keep back the tears. Here’s the video guys…it’s BNG singing MANY THINGS   http://youtu.be/yYTjDc_hojQ

Even today it still has the same effect on me. It just speaks my heart on how blessed I feel whenever I look at my vida. I don’t understand half the lyrics lol! Isn’t Bini like the hardest language ever but when they say Hey o! Hey o! Papa o! My heart just bursts into praise:

“You de answer prayers
You de answer prayers
You de answer prayers…..”
Just goes on and on in my head.

God answers prayers o! As I held my vida in my arms I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that God answers.
So when I got pregnant again I played this song over and over again until a few days ago when Nosa sends me a link to their new song and Oh my God! I just got a song for my David. It’s called ALL EYES

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Enjoy! “ALL EYES”

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AUDIO:: https://soundcloud.com/officialbng/all-eyes

I’ve been singing it since. Yes o! I’m sure that everything God promised me will be fulfilled. I’m coming back home with my second nation. My beautiful baby boy – David. And all eyes go see am o!

“I will stand and testify.
My mouth go talk am o!
And all eyes go see am o! That almighty father na only you be God. ”

Thank you guys for giving my heart words that I could only groan in the place of prayer.

I’m so sensing a JUGN Worship concert with you guys soon. Abi after listening to this song what say ye ladies?

For more just go visit http://officialbng.com/bng-music/

In fact concert too far o! Dedication of David….abi Daro n Nosa wetin una talk o! Lol!

See you later guys need to go find someone a birthday present. Any ideas? Hope she likes it.

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#USseries 5: HOW MUCH IS PANADOL?

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Hey people,

I’m back again.
You will get a couple of blog posts back to back because….well, you will find out soon enough :-)

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So this post today I had been playing with a lot in my head but I had never really ever gotten round to doing anything about it until recently.

Many people suffer from headaches. If anything it is one of the most common ailments that plague human beings. I’ve heard more people complain about headaches than about any other infirmity. It’s so common that you never really go to the doctors because you have a head ache you just grab an aspirin or if you are in Naija the first thing you do is ask “how much is panadol? abeg help me buy.”

However I find it totally amusing when someone has a headache and another person is helping them drink the panadol. How? Let me explain.
With the emergence of social media, in my opinion the world hasn’t really gotten smaller. People have just become more nosey. Everyone has an opinion about everything and they don’t hesitate to air it. Seriously I think we should all just relax. This social media thing is not that serious

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In fact I find that the meaner the opinion, the funnier people find it and the more likes you get….and isn’t it always about likes and follows

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So people who have no business in your business, make it their business to make your business everyone’s business….phew! What a mouthful but I think I got that pat down.

So even little children who just graduated like 20years after you did will be giving advice which in their childlike mind or because they have read articles on the Internet now makes them an authority on your life and how you should live it.
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To make matters worse they will be buying truck loads of panadol on your matter.
Some people are genuinely just airing their views and honestly I respect that. I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinions but some people are simply just haters spreading beef.

So someone puts a picture of HERself on HER instagram page wearing HER new outfit which she bought with HER money and she likes the way she looks but you don’t like it? Well too bad! If you don’t like it, it’s fine. It’s when you start drinking panadol for another person’s headache I have a problem with. If you don’t like it, then unfollow, unfriend or whatever it is you need to do but please don’t be negative about somebody else’s life.

Besides I’ve discovered that when people are not busy then they tend to make other people’s lives their job.

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If you are one of those, honey go get a life. You should be living not sitting in front of a computer or your phone talking about other people who are actually doing something worthwhile with their lives. You sit around criticising them on social media but at least they are living and in the process you forget that there’s a massive log in your eye and you are concerned about the infinitesimal speck in their eyes.

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I just wonder why you even think your opinion counts I mean…

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This always reminds me of the story of the woman with the alabaster box (luke 7:36-50) I know we focus more on the fact that she gave her all in worship but I believe there’s another lesson to be learnt there. She wasn’t exactly a perfect person in fact the bible calls her a sinful woman or a sinner woman depending on your version of the bible.

The pharisees and the saducees all judged her and Jesus I might add saying
…she shouldn’t be here
….if Jesus was truly a man of God he would know what kind of woman is touching him.

Funny enough we have too many pharisees and saducees in the church today. Hypocrites that are either too far-to-see or too sad-to-see what God is really doing. Too caught up in their self righteousness to actually see or be a part of what God is doing. Too focused on how people are not like them or how thankfully they are holy and possibly holier than the Holy spirit. Forgetting that if they were that holy we wouldn’t have needed Jesus to come die. You holy na im God no use your blood save us?

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The last time I checked ALL have sinned…not some. I actually feel sorry for people who are like this.

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Social media is full of them. The if Jesus was truly a man of God he would know the kind of pastor serving him… maybe not in those exact words but that’s the spirit behind their judgement of pastors and Christians. Especially pastors as if they should be held to a different standard.

My sister, we will all stand before God at the judgement on first name basis and the only name that will count will be the name of Jesus.

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Last week I finally decided to drop by on Facebook and I realised I hadn’t been there for so long so I decided to change my profile picture to this.

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And this

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I did it and logged out thinking oh! Well maybe in another six months I may drop by again. Not too long after someone sends me a bbm message “pastor M there’s someone making nasty comments on your page you need to delete” so I grudgingly logged back in and to my surprise some clown had started a Facebook campaign posting my picture on different Facebook groups saying see popular lagos pastor’s wife posted this picture up on Facebook and her church members are busy liking it. What is this world coming to? She should be ashamed of herself and blah blah blah.

If it wasn’t so sad it would have been hilarious. I was really sad for him

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. I didn’t even bother responding, I  simply unfriended him and deleted his comments on my page and the comments of all my voltrons ….lol! Defending my universe ;-) . Sadly I don’t even know who he is. Just some sad little boy (he may be old in age) with a combination of a pharisee and saducee spirit looking for some cheap popularity. I saw a child in need of prayer. A child with such an impure soul isn’t that what Titus 1:15 says?

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because as a man thinks in his heart so is he.

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This is the picture. Just a headshot

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…and this is the full picture.

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A picture celebrating God’s victory over satan. Eight months pregnant for the second time when the enemy determined it wouldn’t happen.

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That’s why you don’t judge

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You can’t jump to conclusions.

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Anyway, fly on the wall. Next issue…

This post is not really about me and my new Facebook friend lol . It’s more about the fact that you need to learn to live for Jesus alone and deal with approval addiction

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Thankfully he’s not a man of God or a prophet, He is GOD! So we are safe. He will never judge you even though he alone has the right to or….

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So live your life to please Him and if you do make mistakes, quickly repent, adjust and move on. Don’t spend your time feeling sorry for yourself or waiting to get approvals or likes on social media

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. Set yourself free.

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I thank God that by his stripes I was healed a long time ago so I don’t get headaches anymore

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but if you want to sit there and drink Panadol for a headache you think I should be having? By all means please be my guest…..while I live for an audience of one.

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My aim in writing this post is to remind you that only one thing is needful. Don’t let people that don’t matter put you in a box or under pressure to be a certain way.

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You need to be strong and realise that once you get approval from Jesus, you will be fine.

Go out there and live your best life guided by the principles in the Word not the conversations on instagram, Facebook and the likes. Don’t let the world change you- who you are or who you live for.

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#USseries 4: MY HUSBAND’S GIRLFRIEND

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Okay, so I’m sure you guessed my last post wasn’t planned. It actually shouldn’t have been #3 in the #USseries…

Actually it shouldn’t have been… period!

Was really sad so i had to put this post on hold to send a word of comfort to my dear hurting sisters.

However, today I’m more upbeat. I started this post early this morning then my Pk sends me a message, “just landed atlanta see you soon.”

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So of course the post had to be on hold. I’m up and in the kitchen in a flash. shrimp Fried rice and chicken….check.
Banga soup with all sorts of obstructions….check.
What I’m wearing….check.

Okay so I’m all giggles and all kinds of happy.

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I really feel like a young girl expecting her boyfriend. Well he is my boyfriend in a way. My boyfriend of 10 years. That’s when I got the idea for this post. I hope I can finish soon because I’m heading to the airport in a bit if not then… Later guys. Please bear with me.

So, I think everyman needs a girlfriend. Or should I say everyman wants a girlfriend? No! I think the best way to say it is, Every man will have a girlfriend…errrrr………eh ehn *shaking my head vigorously*, it’s not quite coming out the right way. Some world people will misquote me now.

Okay so maybe I should do it this way first then you will understand the point I’m trying to make. There’s this story in the bible that I can’t seem to get over. It’s in Esther 1. It’s a long read but follow me please.

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Anyway long story short Esther was brought in to replace Queen Vashti and the moral of the story is :

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My point is not that as a man you should divorce your wife. Trust me you font need a new spouse. Or that you  should go out and find a girlfriend. Oh! Lord! No!!!! This is more  to you dear ladies especially christian wives. Hmmm…should I even get started on this one? I’m not even sure I have the energy today….errrrr…

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Nope! I think I do.

So, christian wives, this is for you:  “Make it easy for your husband to obey God!” I know you will say that’s his responsibility after all look at our godly lineage, Job said I have made a covenant with my eyes why then should I look upon a maiden? He took responsibility or should we talk about Joseph? He fled leaving his coat behind when Portiphar’s wife tried to seduce him. he said how can I do this great wickedness and sin against God so he knew it was between him and God so my husband knows it’s not about me but about God…..and blah blah blah…

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I salute you. This is where I will see your preaching power. Sinners on the road you won’t lead to Christ o! You will be there proving point and be stressing the young christian man who even though he wants to love you and be faithful to you, it’s actually more of a chore. Almost like a cross he has to bear because He loves Jesus and “unfortunately” because he’s saddled with one of his daughters he has to work up all the love of God that has been shed abroad in his heart to stick to you.

Ladies, don’t take the good man in your life for granted. Trust me there are many women who are wishing they had your life because they are married to the devil himself.

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There are many reckless men out there so if you got one of the good ones (like me thankfully) then celebrate him, pamper him, love up on him, be his girlfriend.

When I say there are some reckless men I mean just that. I was just thinking a few days ago about a dear friend. How marrying a reckless man has affected her life. The guy got her pregnant as a teenager (reckless) married her in court and after some years and three kids, he’s done. Packs his bags and just leaves (reckless) then finds a way to forcefully take  the kids and changes their names (reckless) finally without divorcing her I hear he’s getting married again this time traditionally (Reckless! Reckless!! Reckless!!!)

How do you just mess up someone’s life and like it’s not working for you anymore just pack up and move on not bothering where that leaves the other person. Me? I just tire.

I repeat if you are blessed with one of the good ones, I don’t care what people say, CELEBRATE HIM, PAMPER HIM, LOVE UP ON HIM. BE HIS GIRLFRIEND.

How? Simple. Let’s look at “the girlfriend”. What are the qualities of these breed that attract sugar daddies. Hey don’t get me wrong. There’s no moral or scriptural justification for someone being a “kept woman” but even the bible suggests that we don’t throw the baby out with the bath water. So if there’s anything we can learn, then let’s.

So here goes
1. RESPECT – celebrate him. Talk to him politely. Make him FEEL respected. Never take him for granted. He must always be your priority and he must know it. Look at the “girlfriend” she gets a call from “sugar daddy ” and what does she do? She drops everything she’s doing to be with him. Which takes me to my next point.

2. BE AVAILABLE – don’t let anything get in the way of your giving him attention. Don’t just be around him. Be with him, talk to him, find out what he wants and be available to respond to his needs. Love him the way he wants to be loved not the way you think he should be loved. I made this mistake for a long time. I thought cooking his meals myself and serving him were what made me a good wife at least that’s what I was taught. Until my husband said to me recently I didn’t marry you for errands. It’s the detail you put into getting my vision to come to life. The ministry ideas you bring. The fact that I can talk to you about anything and know you get me that’s what assures me everytime that I chose right. I still cook sha o! But I know it’s not major for him.

3. NOTICE HIM – pay attention to him. If his mood changes, honey you should be the first to know. Find out what he’s thinking, what he’s believing for; if anything is stressing him at work, etc. Listen to him. Let him talk. Be a listening ear without judging him,nagging  him or correcting him all the time.

4. GIVE HIM SPACE- sometimes he needs “man time”. Let him be. A lot of us as wives don’t get this. That’s not the time to nag him, or complain about your own issues. Honestly, it’s easy to forget that you are two in the marriage especially if you are constantly on the receiving end of the marriage. Let him have his space and then when he’s ready for you revert to No2 – be available.

5. SEX- some things just can’t be over emphasised. If you are a married woman and demand is higher than supply then you definitely need to up your girlfriend game. Every man wants and needs sex. It may not be all the time (good luck finding that type) But it must be often and as exciting as possible. Even if you have to initiate. I think if you initiate it’s even better. Please don’t hide behind “I have a head ache” or “I’m pregnant” (unless of course your doctor advices against it expressly) But if not, then aunty you said “I do!” please do!!! Once “sugar daddy” calls “girlfriend” knows there must be two things available FOOD  and SEX (selah)

6. LOOK GOOD – all this tying wrapper on your chest and rubbing dusting powder on your face is not helping anybody. You are on leave or a home maker and when oga was going to work in the morning he left with an image of you in hair net, wrapper on the chest and dusting powder or nixoderm on the face. He’s back from work the only thing that has changed is the fact that you have washed your face. Aunty help us to help you na. Try a little. Get a few shorts and tank tops worst case. Or simple dresses. My point is make an effort. Give him something to look forward to. Put a little sexy back in the home.

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7. NEVER FIGHT THE COMPETITION – yep! Sounds crazy right? But that’s a major secret “girlfriends” know. A.K.A maintain your champion. Don’t fight the other things that take his attention. Girlfriend will never fight wife (hey! You know what I mean) the idea is there are some constants in your husband’s life. Some you met on ground before you got in the picture. Don’t fight! Let them have their space in his heart just make yourself unforgettable.

Me I battle many “loves” in my husband’s life. I jokingly called them his girlfriends. Funny enough I met all of them on ground so I’ve learned not to fight. Sometimes sef I just use them to my advantage and gain more points for myself. I’m putting myself in the middle. I’m a part of their love affair that way he can’t forget me. Anytime he thinks of them I somehow pop up.

My husband loves ministry and ministering to people

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so even though I’m naturally shy and would love to be in the background this is what you will see me do.

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Lol! I have some of the funniest expressions when I preach. Like “satan see you can’t try me o! Let me just tell you” lol!

My husband loves football

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so this is what I do…

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I simply tag along to go and see a live match

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Do u see the bump yet? :-)

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My husband loves power bikes

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So what do I do? Simply grab a helmet, pray in tongues and hop on for long rides.

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Had to put up one without the helmet do you would believe it’s me. Lol!

My husband loves cars. His new romance is with convertible sports cars

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So what do I do? I pray and believe God that He gets one soon so he can stop talking about it….lol! Thought I was going to say I buy him one? Lol! I’m not there yet o! But I believe one day….

There are quite a few of these “other women” in his life but I’ve learned to live with them. At least most of them.

Still not a fan of animals and he just absolutely loves them. Left to him we can have a zoo at our backyard. Still dreaming about having a lion while psyching me to let us have dogs again. Still doing shakara and saying no but once it gets down to it, I’d pick a dog over a lion any day and trust me he can make the lion thing happen so I’m treading softly. Don’t tell him I’m softening sha. Lol!

Okay guys so I hope this helps you spice up your marriage. This post is actually like 5 days late because I needed to make myself available. You get my drift?  Besides yesterday made it 10 years since this my amazing man whom I will celebrate for the rest of my life, paid my bride price.

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I love you baby.

Oya don’t beef celebrate your own and if you are still single then I rejoice with you because you still have a chance to pick a man worth celebrating.
Later guys.
Love you.

#USseries 3: I Will Yet Praise…

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“But, O my soul, don’t be discouraged. Don’t be upset. Expect God to act! For I know that I shall again have plenty of reason to praise him for all that he will do. He is my help! He is my God!”
– Psalm 42:11 (TLB)

I spent most of my day in bed today.

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I really had no where to go or much to do. Okay so maybe that’s not exactly true. I had a lot to do but I really didn’t feel like doing anything. I was in one of my “I miss my pk moods”

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It was a truly ordinary day.

Until I got the news…
Someone sent me a message:
“Sister x just lost her baby”
“No! Not possible!”
Sister x and I had believed for this baby after past miscarriages and hospital ordeals. When I heard she was pregnant again I was over the moon. I didn’t see her for a long time but one of the nights of #3NITSP she walked up to me in the car and I saw her “very pregnant”. I was so excited. I hugged her, I gushed over her. I simply couldn’t believe how good God was.

It was like a dream. The bump was obvious. Her skin was all messed up but it was the kind of pregnancy messed up skin that one was grateful for. She carried a miracle and we were all thankful. “this one will stay” I said to her. “Don’t be afraid. Just believe.”

It was hard today to accept especially because it was due to some sort of medical incompetence. After six months of pregnancy?  Many people cried. Some sent me messages asking “How could this happen? How could God let it?” everyone who knew the story was sad.
 

I didn’t get the chance to speak to sister x. A part of me was glad I couldn’t get through to her. What would I say? How would I comfort her? I didn’t have the answers.

It took me back months ago to a similar case. One of my daughters had made “a mistake” that somehow resulted in a beautiful baby boy. She went through so much to have the baby both physically, emotionally and not mention backlash from other Christians (trust us to shoot wounded soldiers). Eventually baby came and when it rains it pours…. we found out baby was sickle cell. For over 3 years he was here. A ray of sunshine. His smile would light up a room. He was a fighter, a survivor. He was a reason to live, to be better….and better she became: a better christian, a better mother, a better person.

She was at work out of town when she got the call that her baby had passed on. No good bye. Nothing. Baby boy was buried even before she came home. It was for the best everyone thought . Everyone but her. I called her and with every “Why? Pastor M why?” my heart shred into a million pieces.

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Hadn’t she suffered enough? Hadn’t she been punished enough for “the mistake?” hadn’t she…? I had no answers. I just knew only one thing for sure….

NO MATTER HOW BAD THE SITUATION, GOD IS STILL A GOOD GOD!  …but for God it could still have been worse.

I know that it doesn’t seem even reasonable now to say those words to a grieving person. In fact while I was yet  mulling over these losses.

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I was slammed with another terrible news. Sister z’s husband shot by armed robbers leaving her with two babies. What could be worse? Where do you even start to comfort her?

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Where do you even begin?

For some of us, it’s just another boring day that we take everything for granted while for others, it’s a day that totally turns their world upside down.

I’ve asked God what do I say to these ladies? How do I even comfort them? What do I say? Or do? A smiley hug seems so bland.

If you are one of these sisters going through such a terrible season. God says to tell you….

IT’S STILL A GOOD YEAR. IT’S STILL A YEAR OF GOOD THINGS!

I know YOU SHALL STILL HAVE MANY REASONS TO PRAISE HIM FOR ALL HE WILL STILL DO

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Please don’t let your pain push God out of the centre of your heart instead let it make you wrap yourself in his arms even more.
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I don’t have the answers but He does.

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Don’t grieve like it’s over. For us it’s never over till it ends in praise. It will all still work together for our good. It will.

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That’s why David asks himself, why are you so downcast? Why do you grieve like I will not still have reasons to praise.

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It’s a season of compensation. Sister x it simply means you are entitled to triplets. God will restore every “wasted” year. For you sisters out there in the midst of your pain, know this: GOD sees and He knows. He will yet heal and restore. In the end ALL WILL BE WELL.

These tears are not the end. You will still cry tears of joy. Mary and Martha wept. Jesus wept. Lazarus was gone but in the midst of their grief, Jesus did something that changed their tears from sorrow to tears of joy. It’s still the same Jesus. He gives hope. He will help you.

Please don’t cry in despair. You will yet praise.

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#USseries 2: Puzzling isn’t it?

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I love puzzles.

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Yes, I’m un-apologetically a glasses-wearing nerd when it comes to puzzles. Word searches, cross words, arrow words, jigsaws, just name it.

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One of the reasons why I always have a pencil in my bag, you never know when a puzzle may turn up but if they don’t, it’s not uncommon to find one in my bag…i’m ever ready like that. I even buy them in pocket sizes.

Sometimes, If u see me lost in thought with a faraway look in my eyes more often than not I’m not trying to solve a world problem. Believe it or not I’m probably thinking through a puzzle I saw earlier Lol!

And my baby sister (yes even after two kids I still call her that) shares the same passion. So as soon as we arrived we planned to go after some jigsaw puzzles. In retrospect now I really think we were a bit  too ambitious because we didn’t go after the ones with 100 pieces or even 200 pieces. We passed by the 500 pieces and went straight to the big league 1000 pieces.

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We are after all puzzle experts…or so we thought. Besides we wanted the mental challenge. Isn’t that what puzzles are all about at the end of it all.

So we got home, opened the box and boy! Was i scared. The pieces were so tiny. Diche immediately said “are you sure this is a good idea” Okay so here I need to do a quick disclaimer because I’m not even sure whose idea it was to do 1000 pieces. Anyway we both decided we could do this and with vida and dassah in the room poured it all out. First mistake….

Everyone wanted a part of the puzzle. Dassah wanted to pick the ones that had a certain colour. Vida just wanted to pick as much as her little hands could handle and throw them up in the air. By the time she was done it was raining puzzle pieces.

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  So we decided to pack up and try again after putting them to bed. Eventually we got around to trying again and fortunately  Diche had started putting some pieces together but lo and behold she was piecing them together on the puzzle box cover. So after being stuck for so long I asked “where is the picture to this puzzle sef?” that’s when we realised we had been piecing them together on the box meaning we couldn’t see and therefore had no idea what we were doing.

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I mean how do you put together 1000 pieces of a puzzle when you have no idea what goes where. You need to constantly be looking at the picture for clues. We even stood a chance. Imagine someone who had never even seen what the picture looked like and just collected the pieces of the puzzle from me….1000 pieces!

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Hmmm…obviously that person is used to self inflicted punishment.

But isn’t that what we are like though? Always trying to fix a jigsaw puzzle of like a million pieces without even knowing what the picture on the box is like? Now when put in this perspective it sounds crazy but the truth is we worry about things we can’t handle; we fear things we have no clue about and we cry when the pieces we are handed at the time don’t fit.

We forget that the pieces of our lives are in millions and the picture on everyone’s box cover is different. No wonder the bible says

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Honestly if you really think about it, we would be less miserable if we just stopped comparing our lives with others.

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We don’t all have the same box cover guys!!!!

In my picture marriage may fit first and then children may be no where in sight till much later, someone else may have children fixed first. Another box cover has a great job all splashed out but no husband in near sight. My point being in the end, if we let the one holding the box cover in on the puzzle, it all turns out picture perfect.

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Now, remember I told you we made the mistake of letting the kids in on the puzzle? Well, I believe that’s another mistake we make. Allowing people that have no business in on our puzzle. People who don’t have the same vision, who have their own agenda or that don’t understand what we are trying to achieve e.g. false prophets, nosy aunties, domineering parents, “frenemies” or even strangers who claim they know it all just because they can piece together big words and sound intelligent.

Honey, only one person knows what’s on the box and he will download it piece by piece to ….wait for it…. drum roll….YOU!!! Yes you!

Thankfully I was redeemed early enough from all the pressure of competition or maybe it’s just not in my nature. We all have our lanes in this race called life. So, no matter how good your life looks now, oga, park well as far as I’m on my lane, I will catch up. If you got married this weekend, my sister stand well as far as I’m on my lane, I will catch up. After all Saturday still remain for 2015. If your baby came exactly 9 months after you got married praise God for you but I’m still on my lane, I’m almost there. If you just got a car, my opinion? First to buy na old model. Lol!

Set yourself free. Don’t worry.

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Enjoy the pieces handed to you and trust the one holding the box….He knows what He’s doing.

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In other news, heard Bobbi Christina

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daughter of Whitney Houston
and Bobby Brown is now dead. I’m not even going to try to figure this out. You don’t want to hear my thoughts on this matter especially if you know how I felt about her mum’s demise. All I will say guys is stay in church. My personal opinion but hey! Cece’s still alive

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and so are her kids. #justsaying.  It’s just really sad though First Whitney now her….it is well.

Okay guys I really should be sleeping o! But I guess it’s excitement. You will probably find out why soon. Later people. The #USseries continues…

#USseries 1: My journey so far…

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Hey people

Finally I’m here. Yes, I know you’ve been looking for me. It’s okay you don’t have to act like you haven’t been checking to see if I’ve blogged or not. Lol! I know you have. So here I am…

It’s definitely been one roller coaster since #3NITSP. I know I owe you pictures. I put a few up on my instagram page @pastormildred but I will put up more on the blog or @justusgirlsnaija instagram page later once I get my system sorted out.

Barely had the time as I left almost immediately after and this America Ehn! It takes a bit to settle down.
Well, now that I’m all settled in and finally stopped sulking like a teenager who’s been sent off to boarding school. I can actually start blogging again. I can promise I will try not to complain about being here but I can’t promise not to whine about being away from my pk. I really really hate being apart from him and away from home but as he says “what’s the option?” so here I am for better care. That’s thanksgiving story for another day.

So where do i start from today? In this year’s US series? Maybe I should just share this testimony of how I got to this place again and believe that you will find YOUR word somewhere in there.

So if you’ve been following i’m sure by now you know my journey to motherhood so far. How after many doctors reports and being the most unlikely candidate for a miracle child God decides as always to use the foolish things to confound the wise and in my case gave me two beautiful daughters but you know our God now, he likes to always go the extra mile so even though I had only been pregnant once my home was filled with the laughter and joy that can only come from two Adorable angels – Hadassah and Davida

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That should have been enough right? It should have been enough that God proved to the world and to the enemy that His word cannot return to him without producing result. It should have been enough that he showed us all that He is a dependable God; a reliable God who never goes back on a promise. The fact that my Life is full of pink bows, frilly dresses with belly laughs that can only come from little girls should have been enough compensation for those eight years. It really should be enough that my house is no longer ever tidy or quiet or that my life is so much fuller…busier and that my eyes are no longer ever closed even when I’m sleeping at night. All these should be enough proof that I serve a living God who always keeps his Word- NONE SHALL BE BARREN…none (including me) But you know our God na. Sometimes he just decides to flex and he just chooses whoever he likes to show his power.

Now, for you to understand the next bit of my testimony I need to give you some background information. You see, I’m married to a wonderful man

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who if I never gave him a child would still love me the same. He proved it to me all these years because even when I hadn’t entered my rest by handling this in faith, anytime I would cry or worry after another exceptionally bad case of bleeding, or another doctor’s report, would calmly tell me ” I didn’t marry you for children. I married you because I love you” then gently kiss me on the forehead and walk away.

From time to time he would affirm to me you will have my children. Then I decided crying will get me no where and I finally decided to do what my pk had done which was to go back to the word. God spoke loud and clear like he had been waiting for me to finally get it and settle down.

Promises barraged promises. Back to back He kept speaking. Once I was ready to listen my teacher appeared.

“There are two nations in your womb. Two kinds of people shall be separated from your body. One will be physically stronger than the other (one will be male and the other female) ”

“For your shame I will give you double…you are having more than the child-bearing women”

“You cannot be barren. You can not have a miscarriage and I will fulfill the number of your days (all your babies will be carried to fill term”

“Your children will be known all over the world as the ones Jehovah has blessed ”

In the midst of all these I remember one morning after a particularly terrible incident, (trust me very long story you ring want to hear it) God’s word to me

“Don’t worry a stranger will not be your heir but a son from your husband’s loins”

l considered it an outrageous word. 5 years into marriage I was content with a son or daughter I didnt care. All I wanted was a child. My husband and I had always planned to adopt after having our kids so he asked me “does it really matter if we adopt before or after? Makes no difference to me.”

So we started the process and trust me it’s just as hard as trusting God to get pregnant. Anyway finally God blessed me with my first miracle baby. My precious and beautiful Hadassah (my ever green tree) fresh, vibrant, vivacious, full of strength, life and laughter.

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My very own…Hadassah Onyeshielibe Okonkwo….with her, I experienced love on a different level but above all she was my lesson in grace.

Today I bless God for my ‘dassah. My constant symbol of God’s grace. God knows I didn’t deserve you. He knows I could never have earned you but He saw my heart yearned to hold you and yours longed for a home.

Our destinies intertwined and with just one look at you I was changed. I became MOTHER…..nay mummy.

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My free gift child…

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Today all grown up and beautiful.

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Could I ever ask for more?
My pk was so satisfied. Every day he was blown away by how special and gifted she was.

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Then before we knew it. Still basking in the miracle of one child. The Holy spirit announced go and do a test. Out of the blues? Test I did and…for the first time in my life….MY WOMB WAS NOT EMPTY.

I was in shock and it was like a dream. My mouth was filled with laughter and my heart with praise. I like Elizabeth hid myself and kept asking “is this how the Lord has chosen to deal with me?”

I didn’t feel pregnant. I didn’t throw up, I didn’t spit, I didn’t swell, no aches and pains, nothing. All I had was a scan and a big tummy. But believe it or not another miracle baby popped out one month before I was ready.

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She was a different kind of miracle. With this one I had battle scars. I had physical proof that once again We had overcome and the victory was won. 

Davida Ifechukwunyediche okonkwo.

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Gentle yet brave. Silent yet very strong. She was proof that resilience in God’s word would always produce.

She gave thanksgiving a whole new meaning. She gave hope to many and resulted in a lot of birth stories.

People could once again believe because they saw proof that it was impossible for God to lie.

My pk was more than content. Two beautiful, smart and healthy daughters who adored him?

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What else could a man want? “Baby I’m fine o! Wetin you de find?” he would tease.

“E still remain one was always my answer” I had a baby boy box packed for almost 9 years what was I to do with that? I had promises of a son. What was I to do with that? Besides my pk always taught us that it is pride to refuse to accept what God is offering us.

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Abi DCC people no be so?

So I just kept thanking God for my son and once again while joking around with some people I took a pregnancy test as a laugh and shock of my life I was pregnant. No clue whatsoever. So I started shopping. Buying blues and greens and yellows.

Pk decides to tease me “this one you are buying boy things you don do scan?” “Ehn? Rough play o! Abeg stop am! It can’t be anything else o!”

Anyhow I knew what God had said and that’s my story and I’m sticking to it…. a son from my husband’s loins…
So I relaxed and out of gratitude began to glow….

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I had an amazing team that refused to let me escape another baby shoot. A few pictures enjoy….

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Thank you my amazing stylist Victoria Eruogho aka lady stylista of Lsc designs. @lstylista

Oh! My beautiful and totally gifted make up artist Dupe Bote. I looooooove you. You know abi? @duprinahsmakeover

The incredibly gifted photographers Charles @Cwestfotography and Amine @aminesimageries

Love you guys.
You are an incredible team.

David will have preggy pictures that he can boast about any day. He deserves it. He made mummy so fine. Lol!

So I’m in the US waiting out this birth. Hence the #USseries. Now that this is out of the way…real blogging coming up soon.

In all, I’m just grateful and I hope I’ve encouraged someone out there to hold on. I mean look at me…they said I may never have children….but look… my children surround my table.

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Okay guys. I really should be sleeping. Doctors appointment tomorrow.

#3NITSP

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Hi guys.

I’ve been getting a lot of emails, text messages and BBMs all asking about 3 NIGHTS IN THE SECRET PLACE.

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I promised I would address them so here I am. Was working in another blogpost but this seems more urgent, so I will be back with that later.

For now, here’s what you need to know about 3 NIGHTS IN THE SECRET PLACE #3NITSP.

1. It is a 3 day event as the name implies. So it will be running from Friday June 19th to Sunday June 21st. As the name implies, all evening meetings.

2. Friday evening June 19th will be When Women Pray. This is the only night we will be praying. We will be holding on to the horns of the altar and making intercession. It will be a night of prayer and worship. Come with all your prayer requests, everything that has been heavy on your heart and under that corporate anointing I believe there will be definite answers. Please note that will be the only day we will be taking out time to really pray. The meeting will start at 6.30pm to give people who have to be at work ample time to make it back in time for the meeting. #lagostraffic

Dress code: jeans (skirts of pants. Anything is fine)  There will be JUGN tee shirts for sale for those interested in identifying with the event. It’s also a great way to give to the event. Here’s what they will look like.

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If interested please call 08077714411 or 08037770384 to book yours. It’s N2000 only.
Ministering:
Babs carpenter

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2. Saturday evening June 20th will be WHEN WOMEN PRAISE. A night of testimonies and praise. We will have some special testimonies from people who have been blessed from past meetings. Please if you have a testimony to share. Please send me an email on dccpastorm@yahoo.com we won’t have enough time to take so many so we will pick only a few. That night is also your chance to dance and praise God for answered prayers of WWPray. We will commence at 4.30pm and it would be advisable to come early as the meeting will close early as well to enable ladies get home on time. #lagossecurityissues

Dress code: African. So it’s totally up to you. A simple ankara dress, ankara pants, adire blazer, George, lace, brocade, chiffon iro and buba, silk boubou. Anything. As far as you can praise God in it comfortably.
Ministering
Ibitayo jeje

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Minister Ighosa

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4. Sunday Evening June 21st : The Grand Finale – WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP. This is probably the night most of us are familiar with. It’s a night of total surrender, a love affair with Jesus, total self abandonment, a night of rededication. A night of miracles. Trust me When Women Worship….anything can happen. I can’t even begin to explain what to expect. Just come with a heart hungry for God.

Dress code: shades of green. Anything green. Why? Green represents life and hope, it represents freshness, it is a sign of fruitfulness and growth. As opposed to red, green signifies safety. It is the color of free passage in traffic. Green is a statement of a wealth and prosperity. So we are using it as a symbol. A sign that we anticipate after #WWW2015, that there will be revival in our lives,fresh blessings, fruitfulness and growth. It is our declaration that we expect a free passage of good things.
If none of these work, then wear it cos it’s pretty ;-)
Ministering
MK

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PC

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And Wale Adenuga.
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Oh! And I will be there too. Big tummy and all lol!
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Please do not miss these three nights for anything.
You know how we do, lots of freebies ladies.
Spread the word. Invite a sister.
More information  on the ministers later.
Take care guys. We will talk soon…

Oops I forgot
Venue is still the same
DAVID’S CHRISTIAN CENTRE
VICTORY DOME
FATGBEMS BUS STOP
BEHIND PHCN OFFICE
AMUWO ODOFIN

Looking for a great job or career change? This is for you!

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pastormildred:

Looking for a job or trying to get a better one? Then read this.

Originally posted on Welcome to Johnson Madichie's Blog:

The Nigerian job market is saturated with graduates looking for jobs as well as career people seeking career change. If you are in this category then here’s a great opportunity for you.Screenshot_2015-06-04-14-27-35-1

“Get employed. Remain employed” is a one day career seminar put together by DCC career conect aimed at equipping you with the needed skills to get that dream job or change your career within the shortest possible time.

The speakers include Opeyemi Awoyemi, senior vice – president and co- founder of Jobberman

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Aruosa Osemwegie,  Programme Co – ordinator HR school and author Getting a job is a job.

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Yinka Sanni, MD/CEO Stanbic IBTC bank.

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Kingsley Okonkwo, Founder, Edge Business School.

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Over 12 companies including Jobberman will be available for recruitment.

Details are as follows:
Date : June 6, 2015
Venue: David’s Christian Centre. Elegushi beach road beside Meadow hall after 3rd roundabout lekki, Lagos.
Time : 9am
BB…

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ARE WE READY FOR CHANGE?

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Hi people

I totally thought today would be a quiet lazy day for me. This was how I expected my day to be

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But instead I feel like this

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I’m joking sha.
It’s been a rather eventful day. Social media is going crazy. Oh! Did I wish you happy democracy day?

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Nigerians are like that we make a holiday out of everything.

CHANGE HAS COME!!!

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I’m glad but I’m a bit worried sha. I’m wondering, as Nigerians, are we ready for change? This question I have been asking myself since the last Independence Day, October 1st 2014.

I remember that day very well. Early in the week I sat thinking about Nigeria and I found myself faced with some questions that I wasn’t quite sure I liked the answers to. As it turns out, I wasn’t home on the morning of October 1st which happened to be Independence Day. I was at a very popular hotel with my pk and everywhere I turned there I was either bombarded with “happy independence day madam” or miniature flags practically shoved in my face.

I kept asking myself is this really what Independence Day is really about? Is it a day to wear ankara, adire or any other African attire that can be termed Nigerian. Is it a day to paint the town red / green? Or is there more to an independent Nigeria? I don’t have anything against Nigerians celebrating or against proponents of National Change but my question is ARE WE READY FOR CHANGE?

In a country where the only time we fight is when we are fighting for what we can eat rather than what can make this nation great.

A country that has been known for its potential for 54 years and yet still chooses to remain in potential form.

A nation where the army will bring out a whole barracks to harass innocent civilians yet refuse to go fight boko-haram.

A nation where public “servants” will see the people they are supposed to serve stuck in traffic and use their sirens to clear a path for themselves (seeing as their time is more valuable than ours)

A nation where bus drivers park right in the middle of the road to pick passengers, causing traffic while LASTMA officials stand by looking for someone eating or  talking on the phone so they can collect bribe.

I know and I’ve always been the first to say that GEJ may not have been the most competent leader we have ever had but the real question is…

Is it GEJ that throws things out the window, jumps queues, bribe officials, or crosses high-ways when there’s a pedestrian bridge right overhead.

Thankfully he has gone back to otuoke with mama P #phew. let’s see how your street will look, your traffic situation will be or how your office will run now

I believe the real change starts with you and I. Thankfully we now have a president who isn’t clueless.

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One who actually calls a spade a spade. You see the biggest problem Nigeria has is a people of greed. We have people who think Nigeria belongs to them.

Unfortunately for them we now have a strong leader one who refuses to belong to anyone person because he belongs to us all. He belongs to Nigeria. A no-nonsense man.

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A man who can finally call stealing what it is.

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We now have a first lady we can be proud of even though Mr president insists it is not an office….I’m sha happy that I don’t have to cringe if she ever needs to speak.

I’m hopeful for a new Nigeria but let’s be honest it will take some time.

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Let’s all pray for this great new leader that God has blessed us with. Let’s all pray for Nigeria and let’s all join hands to make it work.

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I pray that we will once again rise to be the nation we once were.

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God bless Nigeria.
See you guys later.

P.s
Let’s also be patient GMB is a leader not a magician.

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Nigerians sha!

WHERE WILL I HANG MY SUIT?

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Sunday May 17th 2015 was a beautiful day. It started out as any other Sunday, left the house 6am to get to our mainland centre for our 7am service and by 1pm our fourth service in the island centre had rounded up and I was just relieved to be dragging my big tummy and tired body home. Until I realised I wasn’t done for the day.

We had been invited to a very private dinner to honour a great man of God, Bishop Francis Wale Oke.

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We had just recently been connected to him by my pastor Rev Femi Albert Oduwole

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and we just totally loved him. His simplicity, his wisdom, his love for God and his warmth….oh! Bishop is so warm. He’s so friendly, you meet him for the first time and you feel like you have known him all your life. He laughs and it is one of those rare and authentic kinds that have somehow become extinct with the emergence of social media and its #LOL #ROTFL or even #LWKMD (all types usually without even as much as a smile on the face)  He just exudes the friendliness and compassion of Jesus.

Bishop is the kind of man that you reach out your hands for a handshake and he will grab you in for a rich fill hug. I have seen this happen many timies with my husband. So I knew that even if I had to be rolled in on a stretcher with an IV sticking out of my arm I would not miss this day for anything.

So I got dolled up thanks to @duprinahsmakeover

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And off we went. It was a very quaint and lovely event. However we got there quite late as we walked in just before Bishop started speaking. In retrospect though I can’t say we were late. I think God planned for us to be there at just that time. Follow me just a bit longer and you will soon see why.

I’ve always been blessed by Bishop from my teenage years when I first read his book Alone With God till date but the story I heard him tell that night, I believe was the real reason God wanted me at that meeting that night.

He shared a story (I will give a summary since I don’t have exact details)  of how as a young man who had just given his heart to Jesus, he and another friend were in a village in Ile-Ife organising crusades and at night they would sleep in an empty classroom on the floor. It was such a rewarding time as many were coming to the knowledge of Christ and were getting saved. They invited an evangelist from Ibadan to come minister. The man arrived with a briefcase, shiny shoes and a beautifully tailored suit. They were all so excited.

Once the Man of God arrived, he asked where he would be sleeping, they replied that they had all been sleeping on the bare floor in the classroom. The next question he asked caused even I to open my mouth. “So”, he asked “where will I hang my suit?” and picked up his suitcase and stormed out of the place amidst pleadings and begging from Bishop and his friends.

Bishop said he broke down and cried. He wept and wept till he could weep no more. Then with a tear stained face and a heart broken in a million places, he made a vow to God that night. He said, ” father, if you will have me. Once I graduate, I will serve you all the days of my life and I will never ask you where I will hang my suit. ”

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I was completely broken. Wait! Before you judge the shiny suit evangelist. How many times have you asked God where to hang your suit?

How many times have you stayed at home because in your exact words “I didn’t have anything to wear to church except…and I wore it last week ”

How many times have you spent your tithe instead of paying it because “I’m broke. God will understand ”

How many times have you told some in need “abeg I don’t have money now” and turned around to buy that N58000 weave.

How many times have you felt the urge to preach in a bus and when you looked around you saw one or two people you know especially that cute guy then said to yourself “what will people say?”

How many times have they asked you to come minister in song and you first asked “how much is the honorarium?” to sing about Jesus who died for free.
How many times have you seen that brother or sister who needs a transplant and you keep telling them it is well. You are healed in Jesus name and you never sign a cheque.

How many times do you make a new outfit, get a mani and pedi, a new hairstyle just to look great for a programme and never put a dime on the offering basket?

Lord knows how many times we have asked where to hang our suits.

I’ve always been extravagant in my love for God which is why it seems I go overboard for any Just Us Girls Naija programmes but when I heard Bishops vow on that night, I knew I had to up my game. You see what He reminded me was that Jesus held nothing back to die for us. He was extravagant and it was a complete sacrifice so when we think of ourselves first, we actually negate everything He did on the cross.

Bishop has lived like that for forty years and even though he’s never asked….he’s never lacked suits or where to hang them.

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….and on top of it all, he’s still strong and like Caleb still rearing to claim more territories for Jesus….in suits

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or otherwise.

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I salute you sir but more importantly I’m inspired by you to go all out in my love for Jesus.

This message couldn’t have come at a better time for me for two reasons:
One, I struggled a lot with this year’s WWW2015.

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Every year it costs us so much and many people have asked us to charge just to keep it going and my stand has always been freely were we given so we must freely give besides how do you charge people to come and worship God. Isn’t the whole purpose defeated?

So when I got the leading that this year’s WWW would be a 3 day event. I immediately thought I’m going to America to have my baby and that means spending a lot of money. My next question without realising it was “where will I hang my suit?” I thought of my bills before I thought of God’s bills. I repented that night. God owes no man. In fact I’ve decided now that this year’s event will reflect God’s splendour more than any other. Why? Because since He gave me the suit, he will definitely give me where to hang it. So all my WWW bills and my America bills will all be paid. I hope you will be a part of doing it big for God this year. Never mind your suit.

Then two, yesterday Sunday 24th of May makes it exactly 23 years since I gave my heart to Jesus. I haven’t regretted it one day. Now I’m challenged to be even more extravagant in my love for Jesus. No turning back…

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WHERE ARE YOU HIDING?

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1…2…3…4…5…6…7…10

Ready or not, here I come!!!

I know you are supposed to count to ten but have you ever played a really exciting game of hide and go seek? Especially if the house you are hiding in is one you are not familiar with? Count to ten ke?! That would mean giving the person hiding more time to hide and that would make finding him or her more difficult.

Funny enough that’s the only time I remember hiding being fun. Every other time I hear the word hide it immediately conjures the image of something  fear related. Wait! Just take a moment to think about it. Why do you hide razor blades when you have children in the house? Why do you hide your favourite shoes from your younger sister who wears the same size as you anytime she visits? Why do you hide your money if you just found out your maid has sticky fingers? Why do you keep checking your husband’s phone when you find out his new colleague is not as ordinary looking as you hoped? No need to answer, I will tell you why in exactly one word: FEAR.

Fear makes us hide. Fear that our kids will hurt themselves, fear that your sister will borrow and misuse of worse still, never return. Fear that your maid will not only help you but help herself. Fear that your husband will cheat on you. It’s all FEAR.

Ask Adam, he was the first to ever experience fear and what did he do? He hid.

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“When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees.”.       – Genesis 3:8 (NLT)

Adam hid because he was afraid.
He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.” – Genesis 3:10 (NLT)

He hid because he was afraid. Why was he afraid?  Because he just discovered he was naked: exposed and vulnerable before God.

No one likes to be that exposed or vulnerable before anyone. I’ve counselled couples who hide things from each other and wonder why they end up having issues. Hide salaries, phones, extra incomes, passwords….just name it. All because they don’t want to be vulnerable before the other person. Why? Because they are afraid….of being hurt, disrespected, betrayed…I can come up with a million reasons but the bottom line is fear drives us into hiding.

I remember a few months back my husband and I went house hunting. The realtor took us to a house he considered a major find. The house looked normal by all standards till we walked into the master bedroom. In that room was a secret place. You see, the wardrobe had a false wall that led into a secret room where you could lock many things and hide. I’m guessing from armed robbers and hired assassins. But for me, it felt more like a prison than a safe place.

We all have secret places. We all have hiding places. We have them because we are afraid. They are not necessarily physical locations but they are just as real. And exist nonetheless. A lot of times its a hidden place in our heart where we don’t allow people into especially if you have been hurt before.

Interestingly God has a secret place
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but the beauty of it is its not just a secret place it’s a safe place. It’s the only place where we are encouraged to hide in. Why? Because when we hide there it’s not because we are afraid, it’s because we know we are safe. You don’t feel like a prisoner, you feel safe and free.

It’s not a physical location. It’s a state of the heart. It’s the one place I love to be. It’s the very heart of God. It’s a place of intimacy. A place of worship.
So now, let me officially invite you to When Women Worship 2015 #WWW2015

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This year we are doing things just a bit differently. You know how I love being extravagant with God? So instead of one day…Be honest is one day ever enough? We are making it a 3 day event. I’m excited are you? 

I’ll be back with more details soon. Love you guys so much.

DUST IN MY EYES

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I’ve worn glasses for about twenty five years of my life and it has always been because I was short-sighted. It just suddenly became harder to see things that were not up close. I had no idea what the problem was, in fact I had no idea that I couldn’t see that well until the optometrist tested my eyes and fitted me with a pair of trial glasses. I was shocked at how clear the whole world suddenly became. I could see colours in all their splendour, blurred letters became visible words, ants passed by and I noticed. Butterflies became distinct from moths. Finally I could distinguish between deadly Mosquitoes and harmless flies.  I now saw men as men and no longer as trees. I could see….

My glasses soon became my best friend. They showed me the beauty of the world in all its splendour and need I say…..clarity. I went no where without them, read nothing, did nothing of great importance without them. I was often known to fall asleep with them perched firmly on my nose. They were good to me and I decided to return the favour. My glasses deserved a makeover and so I traded in my nerd glasses (who was to know that they would one day be the rave) for what I considered more stylish. I invested in designer frames, packed on the colours and had as many pairs as I could find space for.

Then one day…..
It only takes those three words to tur

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n around a situation or to change a story. These three words changed mine. That one faithful day I went in to see my optometrist and on his shelf was something I considered the most profound invention ever made. It was a tiny little thing that promised to do the same thing my ever faithful and reliable contacts were doing without the discomfort of weight on my nose or people knowing I couldn’t see. The amazing thing was I could finally be blue-eyed or flutter hazel eyes depending on my mood. It was unbelievable…. contact lenses.

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And so began my love affair with contacts and before I knew it my glasses were a distant memory.

Not only did I become so committed to contacts I literally became a raving fan. I would tell anyone who cared to listen how wearing glasses was so last season. It was practically unthinkable to me that someone would have the option of contact lenses and still pick glasses. I tossed my glasses aside and forgot them especially when I discovered dailies which meant no fuss with cleaning solutions. Just wear one and toss aside. Oh! The convenience…. amazing. Don’t forget I got to pick my eye colour too *pure heaven*

So I’m sure you’re wondering where I’m going with this? Be patient. Almost there.

Everything was going fine,
Then one day….

It was a Sunday morning I got ready for church. Picked a clear pair of contacts. Put on some makeup and off I went to church. As I was walking into church, a small breeze blew past my face and disaster of all disasters….at least to a contact lens wearer…..I got dust in my eye. My right eye to be specific. Horrors!!! All the alarm bells went off in my head. My eyes felt like someone had thrown a bomb in it. It immediately turned red. Everyone around me could tell I was in distress. I immediately got them out and unfortunately my eye was already too irritated and painful to put another pair in.

So there I was in church. Thinking I’m going to miss the whole service because I won’t be able to see anything. So I wouldn’t really enjoy the service. Then I remembered….

I remembered I had a pair of glasses that I didn’t really like but it would have to do. It took a few minutes to find….

Once I did. I remembered again why I was so in love with them in the first place. Sure it kept people from seeing my eye makeup but it also kept the dust out of my eyes. It protected me.

Getting into a relationship with God for the first time can be like getting fitted for your first pair of glasses. Everything becomes clearer to you. Suddenly you can see. Protection guaranteed and you feel like you can’t possibly live without Him….then life happens. ….

You get a new job, a new car, a husband, children. Good things but they distract you…all you need is one disaster….one speck of dust. you lose your job, an accident, a divorce, infertility….it could be any speck of dust but it kind of gets into your way then reminds you that you have something or in this case someone you should not have let go of in the first place.

You suddenly remember your glasses: your relationship with God. Thankfully with God there are always sec

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ond chances. He will patiently wait till you get back to him and he will go right back to helping you….see.

Today, even if I wear contacts I always have a pair of glasses on me. I’m not letting go ever again….and I don’t think you should either ;-)

Don’t ever throw your relationship with God to the background. No matter how carried away you get. Don’t let a disaster be the reminder you need. Let this blog post be a gentle warning breeze this morning.

P.s
Happy mothers day to all the mothers out there

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especially those still waiting to carry their bundles of joy. It’s only a matter of time but I know like I know my name that you too will share the same glow I carry now

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. God bless you all.

The kick…

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Hi people,
Actually I think I should really be saying good morning. Not just because it’s 5.30am in the morning but because as they say, “it’s your morning whenever you wake up.”

So, I got a serious wakeup call this morning. It’s not like anything major like life threatening or earth shattering but it was more like a firm yet soft kick.

Let me back up  a bit so you’ll get a better picture. Okay, so early this year I found out that the Lord had decided to do me a GOOD THING so despite the doctor’s ” there are no guarantees that because it happened before it can happen again naturally…” there I was pregnant…again!

Did I hear you say Praaaaaaise God!!!? You can say that again. Better still just take a minute to help me say a proper thank you prayer

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to the God who is never limited by doctors reports or their uncertainties ;-) the one who does it again just to show the world it wasn’t a fluke.

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That if He did it before He can and will do it again.

That’s my confidence that He cannot change in your situation. He’s the same God so you are bound to still testify.

Anyhow before y’all awaken the preacher this morning, :D I was saying there I was with a beautiful thing. The enemy came up with many challenges but that’s story for another day. However, I suddenly realised that with this pregnancy I had a really unique “morning sickness” no I wasn’t throwing up or anything like that. I was just allergic to being on blog ville.   Hilarious right? But true.

So I kept away but today while I was asleep I felt my baby (all you twins prophets take note of the singular term BABY #nuffsaid) kick. It wasn’t a flutter or any other kind of back flip movement that this baby has been known for. It was a firm and very strong kick…

A kick to say….
Enough is Enough!
Enough is enough?! I thought. Yes! Enough is enough my baby seemed to say. It’s time mummy, get back to work. Get back to life. Stop using me as an excuse not to do what you find so much joy and give so much joy doing. Enough is enough!!!

So here I am guys. Back to work. Back to blogging. I’m back baby….lets do this. #warfaceon

So guys get ready cos I’m going to have to make up for being away for so long. I apologise to all who sent me emails, text messages, BBMs, tweets and those who harassed me in church and anywhere they could catch me.
I will definitely make it up to you guys. And since we really didn’t get to have any Just Us Girls Naija programmes yet, I have a surprise for you get ready….

I will let you in on it tomorrow

Gotta run guys but be sure of this one thing… I’m back and better and bigger (excuse the pun)….

Love you ,
Signing off with one of my “the glow” pictures. Pregnancy fit me sha lie no good. Lol!

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…..better with Jesus

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This wasn’t the way I planned to start my blogging experience in 2015.

This wasn’t even how I planned today.

If truth be told I didn’t even give today much thought. I planned it would be a very lazy Monday…that I would sleep in till noon then have a very heavy brunch….if my tummy would permit.

Then I would literally suspend my mind till Tuesday morning when I would have no choice but to resume all my duties. I planned to let my phone ring all day, and ignore all pings and emails…

But Monday the 9th day of February 2015 refused to cooperate with me.

Refused to cooperate with me?! That’s putting it mildly. It totally turned my day….my life….our lives around.

My phone started my day…..ringing and ringing and ringing. Almost as if to say I dare you not to pick up.  So pick up I did…but I wish I didn’t.

“Nonye don go o!”
….was all I heard on the other end. All I kept saying was “Jesus is Lord! Jesus is Lord! Jesus is Lord!” over and over again and for some funny reason I felt like if I didn’t keep rubbing my chest that my heart would pop out of my chest and shatter into a thousand little pieces.

You see Nonye is my little niece, my first goddaughter, my big brother’s “ada”. ChukwuNonyelum Nicole Ezinwa Chijide was a survivor. She wasn’t even 5 years old yet but In the few years we were blessed with Nonye, she taught me one major lesson….

No matter what you go through in life, keep smiling.

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She never walked, couldn’t talk, struggled to eat, never got to crawl or run around and play but she always had that smile…

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Everytime her dad would walk into a room, I saw that look, that smile, that proved to me that the flesh can never limit the Spirit.

When I heard nonye was gone, my first reaction was to be sad. Sad that she was gone but more for her mother because no mother should be faced with the horrors of burying a child.

Sad for my brother because I know how close he was to his only daughter, because I know he had done everything a father and a doctor could do.

Sad for my parents because I Knew they wouldn’t handle it well.

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Sad because I truly believed Nonye would walk and that she would say “daddy” and that I would once again tell the devil “ntoi”

Before I could actually settle into the sadness, the Holy Spirit whispered three words to me….”better with Jesus”

That consoled me because for some funny reason I can’t get this picture of Nonye jumping on bouncy castles made of clouds, swinging from angels’ wingtips, and nonye laughing that her deep belly laugh while screaming in delight as she runs to play catch with Jesus out of my head. I honestly can’t shake it off.

…and honestly I don’t want to.

I know she’s better with Jesus.
We will miss you my darling but I know when we finally get to heaven, you will be there to greet us and show your daddy around….and he will finally get to hear you say DADDY I LOVE YOU….in words

P:S
Give Jesus a big hug for me.

30 days…done!

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30 days…

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30 days hath September, April, June and November…fortunately December has 31 so we can use that extra one day to squeeze out the very last drop of 2014

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Today was supposed to be dilemma Tuesday and I’m wondering is it really a good idea to end the 30 day challenge with a problem?

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I don’t think so…

So no dilemma till next year abeg. Let’s talk about more pleasant things. In lieu of pleasant things I’ve decided to extend the challenge and throw in an extra day so I’m blogging tomorrow as well. We will talk about the blog challenge extension in 2015 (joan, giddy, Patricia, E and Frances…. I hear you) for now be content with what you have. Lol!

Today I’ve decided to just say thank you to all of you

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. Every one who took the time out to read, cheer me on, comment and spread the word

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. I feel like I just crossed the rope at the end of a marathon And it’s because of all of you

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. I honestly didn’t think  I could do this but now I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I know I can do anything I set my heart to do….so the extra 3 kg I’m lugging around now after all the junk I packed in this season has got to go

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….guess what?! now, I’m convinced I can and I will achieve it.

Okay guys it was great doing business with you. Gotta run. I’m back tomorrow with the final post for 2014. Can’t believe it’s almost over. It’s been a good year sha I cannot lie.

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One last word…DONT LET 2014 END WITHOUT GETTING EVERYTHING THAT’S YOURS…EVERY LAST DROP

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Thank you al so much once again

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Drive Defensively

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Yaaaaay!!! Day 29

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I honestly cannot believe I did this! I actually survived this….

Another lesson: if you can think it, you can do it. If you can dream it you can achieve it! Hmmmm….imagine the kind of things I’m dreaming up now.

I’m actually doing this post at the airport enroute Naija. Honestly can’t wait to be home. I’m the only one I know who goes on a vacation and needs a vacation just to recover from the vacation. I never understand how people rest on a vacation. I end up being even more stressed ‘cos I’m either shopping or cooking or working….Lord have mercy

Okay so right now I’m badly in need of a full body aromatherapy massage. The kind that you sleep for at least 2 hours after on the massage table. Oh! Wishes…horses….

Anyway, i’ll soon be boarding so let me quickly share my thought God today and tomorrow we get to do a dilemma post…who knows since its the last day of the challenge maybe I just might throw in an extra post….but just maybe…

So I had an interesting day today. After all the drama of last minute shopping, packing and checking in. We decided to grab a bite and headed to Dubai mall for Assia in Wok’s Nasi Goreng (amazing with extra chili)

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. We finished eating and on our way back to the apartment, the taxi we got into had a collision with a coaster bus. Interestingly this kind of accident would have never happened in Nigeria and i’ll tell you why.

Outside the country everyone drives like just because I won’t break traffic rules, the person beside me too won’t. Typical case in point, our taxi accident. So you know how if you are driving and you want to make a turn, it means you should be on the very last land closest to the turn right? Well for some funny reason the guy in the coaster wanted to turn and stayed in the middle lane. Our taxi driver saw him turning from that lane and just kept driving straight as if to say this guy can’t honestly be doing anything that stupid and instead of dodging him, he just stayed put and allowed a collision.
This is why I say it won’t happen here in Nigeria because one of the first lessons you learn once you start driving in Nigeria is to drive defensively meaning drive like everyone else is crazy and you are the only sane one. No one in their right Naija mind will see a coaster bus running into their car and say he’s not on a turning lane. Hahaha haha
You know what I got from the drama?

This Message: in 2015 drive defensively. Don’t allow terrible things happen to you under your watch. Don’t assume the other driver is watching you.

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Once you see satan and his tricks heading toward You, abeg dodge. The truth is he’s not that original, if you look closely enough you will see that the sin is still the same even if the temptation style now differs. The end result is still the same even if the means may differ.

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Guard your 2015 like a hawk. Keep satan, frenemies, excuses, Bad relationships,  procrastination, etc away from entering your lane. Horn loudly if you have to. 

I’m already excited about 2015….it just has a good feeling.

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Okay guys post challenge finale when I land. 

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Love you 

Unanswered Prayers

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Day 28

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I’ll keep it brief guys

I’m in one of those pensive moods

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where I’m meditating on the goodness of God. I just read a post now on http://www.msgiddy.wordpress.com and it got me thinking…

I’m thankful to God for mistakes I ALMOST made, for people who left my life, for every  single prayer unanswered …or should I say that seemed unanswered.

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I’m thankful for those who broke my heart and all the hearts I broke. I’m thankful for the ones who almost got me to the altar…but for God. I imagine how different my life would have been.

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I wonder if I would have ever felt fulfilled with anyone else
At the time I prayed, cried, fasted and consistently asked God “why?!” today I have a tiny glimpse of why.

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My point? Don’t question God. You may have the pieces of the puzzle but God holds the cover box and the cover box holds the picture. So just trust  him. It may not make sense but trust  him enough to be truly grateful for every “unanswered” prayer

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Good night guys or should I say good morning even though I’m off to bed now :D

Love u
Talk to u later

Start First

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Okay guys I promised I would be back….here I am.

Day 27 guys. 3 more to go. I can’t believe it. It actually felt like from the very beginning when I put up that I would do a 30 day challenge that I was automatically setting myself up for failure. A whole 30 days?

I came up with all the reasons why it was a crazy idea and it would never work but look how good God is. I’m almost done and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed myself that it actually feels odd not to blog everyday. Hmmmm…is it possible that this may continue in the new year? hmmm…you’ll have to just wait and see…lol! 

I’m just very thrilled. You know that feeling of satisfaction you get when you set a goal and it actually looks like not only is it achievable but you are actually so close to it that you can almost touch it.

I honestly had no clue I could do this especially with a vacation somewhere in between, two babies, parents and husband in tow, etc, etc

So my biggest lesson yet besides the 3D I shared before is START FIRST. Before you start coming up with all the excuses you can muster, just do it. Take that bold step and just start. Don’t do it quietly, be like Joseph the dreamer. …announce your dreams. let everyone that matters and can keep you accountable know about it.
If I had kept my consistency challenge to myself, I would have long given up. but knowing that o had so many cheerleaders who were all waving pompoms I knew I couldn’t give up. At least they wouldn’t let me.

So whatever you are planning to take on In the new year…..just start!
Once you start, it gets easier

Okay guys eyes practically closing.
HBD to my dear dear son, my pita of life.

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You are a gift. Love you.

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HBD to my lovely niece Kosi. Love you so much

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HWA to two of my favourite couples : my baby sister Diche and Dubem Enunwa and wole and shade Fayomi.

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Love you guys

Good night

Honour

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Hey people

I know I know…Yesterday’s post? I fell asleep waiting for the pictures for this post.

This is officially day 26 post

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Boxing day has always been the major celebration day in my family. In fact for as far back as I can remember, we have always celebrated December 26

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over the 25th. I’m sure santa does too

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All the major cooking and having guests over was always on the 26th not 25th. We would wake up early to cooking, chopping, cutting, shredding, baking,frying, just name it and eventually end the day with washing plates till late at night and at the end of the day you aren’t even sure you really enjoyed the day never mind all the food around you. And 26th of December was supposed to be a holiday abi?

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The reason why the 26th was so special is because my parents got married Saturday 26 December 1970. So you can imagine why that day was always such a big deal.

So this year I got a chance to help them celebrate in style. They came on an all-expense paid trip to Dubai and started off the evening on a Dhow Dinner cruise

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and came back to a surprise in their hotel room ;-)

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*this is the guy that did such a wonderful job in the room

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They had fun and I got a kick out of how much fun they had.

Honestly the prayers I have received on this trip. Hmmm….. it’s good to obey God o!

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happy anniversary mummy and daddy. It’s been 44 years
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and still going strong
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Okay guys I will be back with today’s post later today.

Merry Christmas y’all

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Hello people. Its day 25

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and what a day it’s been. From surprising my kids with Christmas presents

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after they had been dragged to see santa clause.

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not even santa could get vida to stay awake

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Then kitchen duty….
Had a fun but exhausting day
I’m just stopping by to say hello and to remind you that Christmas celebrations will soon be over but you will be left with the effects of the season

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so be careful what you stuff your face with

And have mercy on all those chickens lest they find their way out of Lagos.

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Lol! 

Merry Christmas guys

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remember Jesus is the reason for the season

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don’t be so self absorbed this season

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See you tomorrow

Mary did you know?

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One of my absolute favourite Christmas songs is Mary Did you know? By Mark Lowry and Buddy Green. Lyrics below:

Song lyrics
Mary did you know that your baby boy will one day walk on water?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will save our sons and daughters?
Did you know that your baby boy has come to make you new?
This child that you’ve delivered, will soon deliver you.

Mary did you know that your baby boy will make a blind man see?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will calm a storm with his hand?
Did you know that your baby boy has walked where angels trod?
And when you kiss your little baby, you have kissed the face of God.

The blind will see, the deaf will hear and the dead will live again.
The lame will leap, the mute will speak, the praises of the lamb.

Mary did you know that your baby boy is Lord of all creation?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will one day rule the nations?
Did you know that your baby boy is heaven’s perfect Lamb?
This sleeping child you’re holding is the great I am.

I just get goose pimples anytime I hear the song. I wonder if truly Mary a young girl of what? 13 or 14 years old even had a clue as to what or whom she was really carrying. I’m sure she didn’t and could never truly , the fullness of the power she carried.

And aren’t we all like Mary in some wise? Aren’t we unable to fully comprehend what or whom we carry as Christians? Aren’t we like Mary unaware of the power that lay dormant in all of us awaiting delivery that it may be unleashed on the world? Haven’t you heard that the world earnestly  awaits our manifestation? Romans 8:19

Everytime I think of Christmas I think of the birth of Jesus but I often find myself meditating on the pregnancy of Mary as well. The angel Gabriel announced to Mary that she was with child of the Most High God and told Joseph she was to call him Jesus for He would save his people…. Matthew 1:21

Today Angel Gabriel may not physically appear to you but isn’t the Holy Spirit giving you the same message through the Word. Aren’t we just as pregnant as she is? With the same Jesus? The scenario isn’t any different except that perhaps you may not be 14.

Mary went off after her encounter with the angel straight to see her cousin Elizabeth whom was barren and something spectacular happened. The bible tells us that Elizabeth testified that the baby on her womb leapt for joy. The effect of carrying Jesus was evident even in the life of Elizabeth. The power emanating from Marys promise caused Elizabeths promise to quicken And leap. Something resonated. Destiny encountered the destiny changer

I wonder if the same power that raised Christ Jesus from the dead is not only quickening our mortal bodies but also causing the dreams of others to burst forth.

At Christmas, I love the feeling in the atmosphere but I also reflect on all that transpired before the actual birth of Jesus.
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So many lessons to be learnt from the Christmas story but not tonight folks….
I’m just leaving you with this..

Okay so my eyes are practically closing now and I have an early day tomorrow. Trust my pk to invite the whole city for Christmas lunch. So I’m off to bed

It’s day 24…

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technically 25 by this calender in front of me. Anyhow wanted to say Merry Christmas guys And oh! Santa one last wish

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Love you all so much

3 D lessons

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It’s 23 days into December

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and 23 days of consistently blogging and these are the three biggest lessonS  I have learned in these 23 days.

So,because I have like 7 more days to go,

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I will say these are the lessons i’ve learnt so far because 7 days is a long time and anything can happen…

Lesson number 1

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DETERMINATION:

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Once you have made up your mind to do something. You need to stick to it. Look past opposition and see the end.

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Jesus gave us the secret….for the joy set before Him, He endured the cross. just keep seeing the end it will fuel that decision. I decided to blog consistently and I kept mentally counting down. it’s funny but my workload didn’t necessarily reduce, my kids didn’t somehow disappear…I still had mummy, wife and pastor duty on a daily basis but I had made up my mind I was going to do this.

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Once you really want to, you will find a way if not, you will find an excuse

Lesson number 2

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DEDICATION

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Simply put….DONT GIVE UP…no matter what! Make that goal a priority. Let every other thing take a back burner until you achieve that goal…so feeling sleepy? Get up and jog a few laps first. Hungry? Quickly blog first. Need to buy those amazing emerald green heels? Pay your tithe first. I learnt this one from my pk. Once we have made a vow in church, nothing else is done and I mean absolutely nothing else until our vow is paid. It’s really helped me stay dedicated and true to what I set out to achieve

Lesson number 3

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DISCIPLINE

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Hmmm….this one, contrary to what people believe doesn’t come natural to anyone. I agree some people are more disciplined than others maybe because of their temperament types but I believe even the best of us have our weak moments and its just the ability to move your head from left to right while walking away that separates the boys from the men. A lot of people say I’m disciplined and I simply laugh because I want to just as badly as you do, I’ve just learnt how to talk down my weaknesses. I’m tired and I can’t do another abdominal crunch, I just tell myself one more, just one more and I somehow do one more till I’ve packed in my 1000th.

These three things will help you achieve any goal. Whether it is blogging for 30 days, losing weight, learning a new skill or starting a new business. These are three major ingredients you will need. Roll it up with a mad and absolute selfless love for God and excellence and voila you’ve hit gold.
More tips towards the end of the week but for now hold on to those 3. 

Now On a lighter note,
It’s almost Christmas and I haven’t gotten any gifts.

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Didn’t you guys learn anything from the three wise men?

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Lol! I’m just joking o!

All I want above all Else is please don’t send me any over-recycled Christmas broadcasts. I can’t handle it please

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and I’m not in the mood to switch off my phones. I’m asking nicely now….dont let me go all out on you guys lol!

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Don’t worry whether or not you send me that broadcast I will have a merry Christmas and a happy new year. I promise.

Okay guys taataa

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Gotta run
See you tomorrow

Dear Santa

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Hi guys

I hear yesterday’s post was too short to be counted as an official blog post…well, (Diche) *sticking out my tongue* I said I was doing a 30 day blog post challenge not a 30 day LONG blog post challenge. So it’s still very valid. Hehehehe…

So today I had a flashback. I had a Christmas-as-a-little-girl-moment. I remembered what Christmas was like growing up. I still remember my dad coming home with hampers and of course we always went after the sweets and the chocolates. Then   December  24th was santa day. We a went to illupeju supermarket back then to catch a glimpse of this robust,  jolly man in a red suit with lots of goodies in a bag.

It’s funny that santa has survived so many generations and we have somehow made Christmas about him. I’m not here to burst anyone’s bubble in fact I’m all for santa even if it’s just for the Christmas presents ;-)

What I’m against is the fact that we are slowly easing Christ Out of Christmas. Amazingly I was just thinking about it today, even his style of operation is opposite of the bible’s.

Santa only gives you gifts if you have been good. If by any chance you end up on the naughty List

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  it’s the end of presents

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. So you have to deserve it. If not you won’t like what you will get if anything

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Thank God our God is not some old man in a red santa suit. He is a God who while we were yet sinners, died for us. He knows we can never stay off the naughty list so we still get gifts all year round irrespective. 

With Him we don’t have to be perfect. He is our tsikenu (our righteousness) 
Christmas is so much much better because I know it’s not about Santa, it’s about Jesus.

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He’s the reason for the season.

But while we are still playing pretend Christmas is about santa, then dear santa this is my list….

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But hey, we all know…my help comes from the Lord…so I’m in absolute faith for my Last Minute Miracles and many more testimonies…and any other thing you can throw in Lord :-)

Okay guys good night
I’m sooooo sleepy…
It’s day 22

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Which one are you

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Hi guys
You won’t believe where I’m blogging from. I’m sitting in the cinema next to my Pk when I realized I hadn’t blogged today and it’s day 21

Now I know you are wondering why I’m blogging and not enjoying my movie night with Pk. To be honest with you I’m not that into action movies so I’m maximizing the moment and making the best of it.

To be honest sha the movie is not that bad Just being a spoil sport

So what’s my thought for today?

The one and only thing I took away from the movie:
THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD- MEN OF ACTION ….AND THE OTHERS.

Got me thinking

Hmmm… Which one are you?
Good night guys
I’m so cold and sleepy
Unfortunately need to get back to my room. Can’t sleep just yet.

Because you gave part 2

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Hey people

I’m back! Officially day 20 post

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Like play like play 20 whole days of blogging

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Ten to go….

I’m really happy today. I have this warm fuzzy feeling deep in my heart. It’s that feel good feeling you have that no matter what happens around you or to you, you just can’t shake. It’s that feeling  you get when you know you heard God.

I’ve been smiling

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(inside) all day. I missed being at #christmas1000timesbetter physically but the gist I got totally made me so much more confident that I heard God.

The truth is when I first heard #christmas1000timesbetter it was supposed to be a JUGN project. It was my give-back time but for some reason I felt in my heart that God wanted to use it as a teaching moment for DCC as a whole not just the women.

I had no clue how to go about it or where to start from but when I spoke to my sister Diche, she and her wonderful team Helping Hands our benevolence team, they came up with a plan and a cost. Then our DCC workforce got behind it and of course you wonderful blog family.

At first we were like the disciples when Jesus told them in Luke 6, you find them something to eat. We had so little and it seemed like it was nothing among so many but at the end of the day God showed up. That was the first sign that God was in it.

First he sent us miracle, our miracle worker. She single handedly did all the shopping even with a healing leg. We got everything at rock bottom price and packaging and mobilisation was a breeze. Then even without enough money Diche went ahead and bought the baskets in faith. The idea was Lord we’ve brought the baskets now you have to fill it. We had more than enough but that wasn’t the highpoint of the day for me.

The biggest miracle for me was the lesson in compassion that our DCC family got. People encountered hunger first hand. They saw tears of joy, received hugs even got a thank you card from someone who said she had never received anything at Christmas in the last twenty years.

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They felt something I had been trying to teach for years…. God showed me that as pastor peter used to say to me, some things are caught and not taught.

They all left there happy to be a part of something bigger than them. I, happy that we were able to be the answer to some people’s prayers. God showed up and I’m sure people that had lost hope in him, had their faith renewed today.

I’m just glad that he thought me worthy to be a part of this great plan. I’m grateful Lord. Truly I am…

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Okay guys, let me not go without saying thank you to all who helped us make this happen…..your 5 loaves and 2 fish thousand naira made a huge difference

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God bless you

Here are a few more pictures. Still waiting on photography department to send me pictures.

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Trust our people to turn anything to a photo shoot

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You can still find some more on our instagram page.  @dcclagos
Please follow :-)

Because you gave…

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Hey guys

Okay so i missed yesterday day 19

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so you get two posts today you know the drill na…

Yesterday I got into holiday mood so I slept off and the time difference isn’t helping much :D…it’s lazy me time…

So yesterday started off really good. Woke up late 8am that’s 5am Nigerian time. Tried to find something I could eat, what with all the Asian cuisine…at the end of the day settled for honeyed chicken wings and cornflakes. then off to church – God’s pavilion….and guess what? my pastor rev Femi was preaching. I had a reaaaaaaaally good time Hearing Rev and PK. Father and son

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Oh! It was sooooo refreshing to hear my papa preach. Rev just has a way sha. You gotta love him. He turned the whole place upside down and down side up.

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Then released the blessing of rest on every side. 2014 is not over. I still have some Last Minute Miracles to collect in this 2014.

Then I did a movie with pk but of course I regretted the movie. I was sooooooooooooo angry with the end of the movie. Don’t worry I won’t spoil it for you. It’s called ESCOBAR Paradise Lost

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… FYI Pk totally loved it …I on the other hand kept wondering what I was doing there :D

Got in and slept soundly. Woke up and realised I had double work :-(
But it didn’t spoil my morning sha.

Today was #christmas1000timesbetter and oh! My God! I hear it was amazing. I don’t have the full gist yet but I believe that will be the part 2 of today’s blog

I just have a few pictures

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And one particular testimony that touched me:

One of the groups said they entered one of the houses and met an old man who was shaking he said he hadn’t eaten since yesterday. That man now has food because you gave.
Thanks guys

God bless you.

See you later with full gist And pictures.

The Stage Is Set

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Hey guys

I’m just breezing through. Where did today go? Its 2:10am here. Need to sleep cos although it’s Friday it’s church day over here. So I have to be up early.

Just wanted to let you know, we are already packing

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and getting set to officially to make #christmas1000timesbetter for 1000 families

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And here’s the testimony we actually hit 1000+ so like I prophesied to Diche we will feed 1000 and still have 12 baskets full

Thanks guys. Yay! We did it
Will keep you guys posted. The actual sharing will happen on Saturday 20th of December 2014 bright and early at 7am
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So this is officially day 18

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See you guys later
Love u

Call me JOSEPHine…

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Hello people

Day 17

I’m in one of those my I don’t want to do anything today…or maybe I should say I don’t want to do anything ELSE today mood.

Woke up at 4am…packed…went out to exercise with my ever relentless fitness instructor…ended up doing more than I planned, the abdominal programs were an unbelievable torment by the time I got to 900 I was moving more in my mind than in my body. To be fair to myself I had a very busy physically and emotionally draining previous day so I guess it was carry over fatigue. The good thing is my “mean” instructor Paul didn’t let me give up so I finished my 1000…went in bathed vida…packed some more then put vida to sleep and off to dassah’s school for some more mummy duty.

I had a great time there and it just dawned on me how much dassah has grown. Yes I know you’re like she’s just three na pastor M. It’s not like she’s about to ship off to uni or sending out wedding invites. 
…eeeerr I beg to differ. the dassah i know and live with may be 3 chronologically but she acts like she’s 33 but hey…I get ahead of myself. I was just gushing over how grown she is because now she actually participates in school projects, singing in carols, doing recitals and dancing ballet.

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She was no longer the baby dassah lying in my arms downing 300ml of milk in one seating :D

I saw her eyes light up when she got her part in the recital, I watched her determined frown as she tried to remember her ballet steps,
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I saw how much fun she had in her zone, with her friends and how proud she wanted us to be of her….and we were.
After that we rushed to the airport to check in and almost fainted. This airport is sooooooooooooo hot. Why is no one bothered about that? As in the sweat was pouring down my face and body. Went through all the airport madness and all I want to do now is curl up and disappear into a little corner for the next few days…oh! if wishes were horses…

Anyway I’m off with my family for our official family vacation. We are all excited but I’m guessing “happpu” happiness actually (vida’s nanny) is the most excited. It’s her first time on a plane. She was up so early this morning and had finished all her chores extra early. We’ve all been teasing her about this trip and she just smiles but I know it will change her. 

Why am I blogging about this? I’ve actually found out that giving people new experiences, helping them fine tune and interprete their dreams and funding some of those dreams really makes me happy. I love to nurture people.  I think I’m beginning to see that there’s a Joseph in me somewhere.

What do I mean? My Pk was preaching recently about the three Josephs in the bible…do you see why when I invite you for meetings you should come? I invited you for Last Minute Miracles na. Did you come? Ok anyhow let me continue you can always order the CD thank God for technology. 

So the first Joseph (gen41) represents a dream interpreter, a solution provider. Someone who finds a way to make your dream come true and your life better

The second Joseph is the father of Jesus. He’s a nurturer, he will protect your destiny and connect you with people who can help your destiny. He takes responsibility even when he doesn’t have to

The third Joseph is of arimathea. He was a wealthy man. Who saw money as a tool to make things happen.
I believe that there’s a bit of each in me…at least that’s my prayer daily

It just makes me happy to bless others. What makes you happy?

Okay guys battery low
Gotta post n run
Will update with pictures once I land.
Love you guys

Am I being unreasonable? Dilemma

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Hi guys
Dilemma tuesday is here again
But before that here are the winners of the last dilemma “is this a test?” thankfully I had no hand in picking them. So if you don’t win, it wasn’t my fault or my choice.
Winners are:
1. Rotanna Onyedi
2. Beehivep
3. Nneka
Thanks guys you win Nathaniel Bassey ‘s latest CD “Son Of God”
Please call Bose on 08077714411 to redeem your prize

Now on to today’s dilemma
Dear Pastor M
I really don’t know why I’m asking you this as I already have a clue as to what you will say. I’m just throwing it  out there who knows you may say something different.

So I’m 27 and just recently got married. My husband and his ex girlfriend had a child together. The child is 2 years old. He has always taken responsibility for the child as in paying her bills.

The lady in question is planning to get married in March 2015 and has asked my husband to come and take his child as her soon to be husband refuses to raise another man’s child.

My husband wants us to take in the child but I have a problem with it. First of all, our marriage is still too young to have a child in it. Secondly, I think it’s unfair to be saddled with another woman’s responsibility.

Finally the child has sickle cell anaemia. Am I being mean? Am I being unreasonable? If she wants to start her life afresh just her and her husband. Why don’t I deserve a fresh start?

Please what do I do?
Okay guys there you have it.
It’s day 16

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see you tomorrow

Do you care?

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Hi guys

Back like I promised.

It’s officially day 15. 

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I’ve been doing a lot of thinking today. It’s just one of those days where I’ve been still. No, I’m not sad or moody or anything like that (thankfully I don’t have the luxury of such emotions these days). I’ve not even been particularly quiet. I’m still holding regular conversation just not more than usual. When I say I’ve been still, it’s more of an internal stillness

What triggered this? Well, I spoke to someone today and she was very excited about #christmas1000timesbetter

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and I was telling her it would be so much easier to do things like this if we had more people on board and she told me she felt exactly the same way and sadly her experience wasn’t any better than mine as she had to promise her colleague some grilled chicken in exchange, he agreed to pay for a few families

I’m amazed at how untouched we are by other people’s lack. How we will hear things like this and go “it is well”. I’m excited about this whole project because I’m excited to see the faces of these people. I’m also excited because it will change the perspective of those who will go into the field to hand out these food hampers.

It will be life transforming. My sister heads the benevolence team at DCC and truth be told I consider her to be privileged breed – never really encountered hunger or suffering up close. Well, her first assignment was to visit a family where one of the daughter’s had just had a child. I’m not even going to focus on the poverty that hit them but get this. The baby was wrapped in a damask wrapper, no diaper or clothes and the “nursing” mother who was complaining about not lactating when asked what she had eaten at 2pm said she hadnt and her last meal was in the morning the previous day.

Now if you haven’t had a child you may not understand this but I found it really sad because she didn’t eat not because she was on a diet trying to get back her pre pregnancy  body back. No! She had not eaten anything because she couldn’t afford to.
People are suffering out there and we really don’t care because we can afford not to.

I refuse to be that person….not just at Christmas…but Christmas is as good a time as any to show love. Afterall it’s because God gave that we have Christmas (john 3:16)

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Besides Jesus said it is more blessed to give than to receive.

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Think about it
See you tomorrow

2014 thankful

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Chai! How did I get to this place again?!

Bible no de lie o! Proverbs 6:10-11 warns us against a little sleep…a quick power nap…just a little rest…
That’s what happened to me again and now I’m going to do two posts to make up again…

It is well…

Simply teaching me that there are consequences for every action we take in life. …like oversleeping and ending up with two blog posts instead of just one

Had an amazing day yesterday. Hung out with some of our friends after service. Tony or “man T” as we call him was my pk’s best man at our wedding. Haven’t seen his wife Uwa in maybe eight years…. wow! So anyhow we went for lunch with their twin boys and I threw caution to the wind and threw out every single diet rule out the window. Hey! I haven’t seen them in so long it was worth cheating for. Lol! 
So had a huge lunch….took pictures after

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and said bye bye on a really full stomach. Then instead of me to get home and blog….i said let me just lie down small. I won’t sleep just need to rest my eyes…..a bit…and  here I am just waking up from my “not sleep” lol!
Okay guys so let’s talk
This is officially day 14 post
Dec 14th was our thanksgiving service and I realised I hadn’t really sat down to count my blessings for 2014

So here goes….
I’m thankful for my pk…

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where else was I going to start? Hehehehe….
The Love of my life

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. One of my best ever decisions was choosing you. My friend, confidant, coach, teacher

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, lover, my baby daddy,

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lol! The list is endless really. I’m thankful for you and your faith and total trust in God. Sometimes I feel like Sarah must have felt following Abraham all those years….to a land not seen with natural eyes. you inspire me daily

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I’m thankful for my baby girls ‘dassah and ‘vida.

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Dassah my first born, my pride and joy.

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Leader extraordinaire. Fun, people lover

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Never intimidated by anyone. Lion hearted

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but sweet and protective. I’m thankful for how much She  has grown.

The other day it just hit me how grown she is now. I had just come in from school runs and was about to rush out again to buy a few things for the kids at a nearby supermarket. As I was about to leave my dassah called me back “Mummy! Mummy! Where are you going?” she looked alarmed. “I’m just going to buy something down the road I will be right back” her eyes grew even bigger, “you are going out won’t you wear your dress” confused I looked down at what I was wearing – a knee length (okay so it was sitting on the knee not under) sleeveless dress. “Dassah I’m dressed”. “Nooooo?!” she said emphatically “it’s a top not a dress” “but dassah I wore this when I came to pick you with daddy” next thing I know, she’s off screaming “DADDY! DADDY!!!” My pk answers and she says “are you the one that said mummy should not wear her dress?” he looks at me and says “mummy is dressed” I go on to explain to him what brought the conversation. So he tries to explain that this is a dress and not a top. She looks at both of us funny and says “ok o!” and walks away as if to say “na una sabi” that’s how much my dassah has grown that I’m often unsure as to who is mummy and who is daughter lol! 

I’m thankful for my baby ‘vida,

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my miracle child. My gentle baby. Gentle until she stands up

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then she moves like the wind. Before you turn she’s done all she wants to. Very sure of herself….being a second child I often worried that having a big sister with such a strong temperament like dassah may be a problem. I worried about her growing in her shadow…

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but no, not this one. once she wants something she will fight tooth and nail (and I mean that literally. She will bite and scratch you if she has to) not intimidated by size, she has been known to fight even pk to get what she wants. And she’s one strong baby (at least she took one thing from me) *sticking out my tongue at pk* she carries things twice her size. She will fall, get up, dust herself and carry again lol! She’s daddy’s girl and quite the chatterbox. She says everything from “jijus” (Jesus) to “aunty” to “aunty Joy  to “adada” (Hadassah) to “happp” (happy) she says everything but mummy *rolling my eyes*

I’m thankful that my girls are healthy, that they are happy and that they are loved.

I’m thankful for all the other people in my life that make my life easy and have become family. I’m thankful for my Eky and joy.

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I’m thankful for all the beautiful 2014 moments and excited about 2015

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testimonies to come.

Thankful for aunty mabel

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and all the sacrifices you make.
 
I’m really thankful for my parents ….still together after 44 years

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…and my siblings. I may not see them all so often but when we do see its magic…. I’m thankful we are all alive and well and that we are multiplying

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daily :-) ;-) :-) I’m especially thankful for my baby sister “aunty didi”

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and the school runs she saves me from :D and the fact that she lives close by so dassah gets to do sleep overs with her cousins.

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I’m thankful for vida’s nanny happiness

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or “happpu” as vida calls her. Trust me when God sends you good help

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you need to be thankful because them no plenty for this Nigeria.

I’m thankful for my DCC FAMILY. For the ministers, the workforce, for all the many different projects we were able to pull off in 2014, for all the people that got saved, that had testimonies, that somehow saw the reality of the Word from God to us in DCC

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I’m thankful for my life, my blog, my challenges that I overcame, the victories I won, the friends I made, and those I retained :-) I’m thankful for my blog family and all of you cheering me on for this 30 day challenge.

I’m particularly thankful that 2014 is not over because that means I still have time for some more last minute miracles ;-)

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Okay guys gotta run.
I hope I made up for yesterday.
I promise I will be back later with today’s blog post.
This is day 14.

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Temporary separation

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I saw her on Tuesday at the RUSH HOUR FELLOWSHIP . She was on the ushering team for Last Minute Miracles. Standing on the left hand side of the hall helping people find seats, managing the chaos of a crowded hall.  Dressed in black…or does my memory fail me now?

I still remember thinking I’m going to ask what she’s doing to lose so much weight. She looks great.

Then I saw her the Sunday before that. She smiled at me as she said a quick greeting and quickly disappeared. Did I say I also saw her the day before? On Saturday at the journey and this time my Pk didn’t let her get away with a quick greeting. He asked how she was and complimented her on her weight loss. He told her ” I’m so proud of you on this your weight loss. You look so good. She smiled such a big smile and said “bye bye sir”

How was I to know that would be the last smile or that when she said “bye bye” it was to be the last words I  would hear  from her lips? I woke up this morning after an unbelievably stressful night to hear that “joscy”
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had gone to be with the Lord.

I asked in my heart “why?” partly because I didn’t get the chance to know her too well. I had just “threatened” her about three weeks prior that she would be my new best friend as PK had told me about a challenge she had and that it would take inner strength for her to do the right thing.

I smiled back on Saturday actually I beamed because he had just told me she chose the narrow path. I was excited to see the testimony that was to come from this major sacrifice….I never got to :-(

This news has taught me three things

1. Love the people you meet:
Don’t just say a quick hello. Linger…
Ask how they are and don’t accept “fine”
Don’t postpone getting to know them.
Offer your heart, time, energy and BlackBerry pin and mean it…
Be there..

2. Only what you do for Christ will last:
No one will remember your shoe size, the type of weave you had on, the clothes you wore, your favourite perfume or believe it or not your dress size.
Nothing else will matter only the things that show people the Love of God. Hence my fire for #christmas1000timesbetter

3. There is definitely an expiry date for everyman.
Only eternity is guaranteed, every other day is a gift not a right.
Live everyday doing ALL you can for EVERYONE you can
We are passing through. This is not our permanent site.

Having said all this remember that God has promised to give you life till you are satisfied.

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So if you ain’t satisfied. It’s not time to die.

Good night Joscy,

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it’s just a temporary separation. See you  the other side of eternity. You served and inspired. The DCC family will miss you especially the Ushering Family.

I really wish I got the chance to make you my “best friend” like I threatened.
Blowing you kisses in heaven as you rejoice in His bossom …how do you feel meeting Jesus? hmmm…..i can only imagine…

Ok guys see you tomorrow with a cheerier post I hope.

Before I forget it’s day 13

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The Right Thing

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Hello darlings

Just realised I hadn’t blogged today and it’s day 12 yay!!!

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God has been faithful. I’ve had many reasons why I shouldn’t have been able to put up a post but somehow I always find the strength and inspiration to do it.

So It’s 10pm and I just got to the DCC VICTORY DOME to join our drama dance and choir departments for carol night rehearsals and as I drove in I noticed something: everyone was parked haphazardly.

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(okay so that’s pushing it lol! But you got the point right?)

Why? Because they thought no one would see them so why park correctly? …..errrrr well cos it’s the right thing to do.

This is really the problem with human beings and Nigerians especially. We will run a red light

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if there’s no police watching. We will drive one way if LASTMA is not in sight

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. We will throw things out the window since KAI is now non-existent and we say we want a better Nigeria.

Are you reading your bible because you have a bible class to teach tomorrow? Are you praying loudly because you are in a prayer group tonight? Are you dressing well today because you know that guy will be around? Let’s stop doing things out of eye service.

Do the right thing always

DONT DO THE RIGHT THING BECAUSE SOMEONE IS WATCHING, DO THE RIGHT THING BECAUSE IT’S THE RIGHT THING TO DO

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Okay guys gotta run in for rehearsals.
Talk to you tomorrow.
Love you guys.
Don’t forget let’s make #christmas1000timesbetter for some one

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Faith and works

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Hello people

It’s day 11

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Unfortunately I have to keep it short tonight. Long story….and I really don’t want to bore you with the details. 

How was your day? I’ve started seeing a few dps change to

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Thank you to all of you who have come on board but I’d still like to advocate for more than a dp change or a Facebook update.

Sadly with the advent of social media, a lot of us have come under the false impression that once you change your blackberry dps or update your status on Facebook or post on twitter that you have done enough.

Have you noticed how people rarely send gifts anymore? Once it’s your birthday and I put you up on my dp or send you a broadcast (an over flogged one I might add) at Christmas or any other holiday I feel like I’ve done my bit for the year.

Now this is purely my personal opinion and I could be wrong but I just feel like only putting

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Up on your dp and not being a part of this project is the same thing as James 2:15-17

15 If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food,
16 and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good[a] is that?
17 So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.              

So tonight I make a plea to all of us to move beyond saying God will do it…to actually putting our bank tokens where our dps/statuses mouth is.

Okay guys gotta run.

I really hope you get on board
Won’t it be lovely to finally meet Jesus and hear him say
34’Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. 35 For I was hungry, and you fed me. I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home. 36 I was naked, and you gave me clothing. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me.’
Matthew 25:34-36

God Will Do It…

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Hello people

It’s day 10! 

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Yay! 20 more to go. Not doing so badly with this daily blogging. Hmmm….honestly thought I would have given up by now seeing as it’s the end of the year and it seems like there’s so much to round up on or to plan in readiness for 2015

Anyway had a great time reading all the responses on dilemma Tuesday post. Even the lady in question got a chance to see it from other people’s perspectives. So thanks guys you’ve been a great help. Winners will be announced. Let’s just say I’m glad I’m not one of the judges. It’ll be so hard to just pick three comments from all the seriously good or hilariously good comments.

So what is on the burner tonight?

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I will tell you. Today was midweek service and boy! What a service. However I’m not about to run the whole service. You can always order the CD. My Pk taught on divine health. You will never be sick another day in your life if you can catch this. Tonight though I have something a bit different to serve you :-)

Have you ever spoken to someone about something really important. Maybe about some problem that needed solving and before you even finished their response was “Eyah! God will do it” or have you ever shared some challenge that you know someone in going through with someone you know is able to do something about it and the person answers you with an “Ehen? God will do it for them in Jesus name”

I have, and each time it happens it just rubs me wrong. In fact it is fast becoming a pet peeve for me. Don’t get me wrong I’m not in any way insinuating that we should become God in the lives of people. Far from it! I know for a fact that in the wise words of Rev Sam Adeyemi that “If you think you are the El-Shaddai, you shall die. :-) But I think that statement God will do it has made lazy Christians of us all. We have become a lot like our predecessors the twelve disciples.
Jesus had an amazing crusade and 5000 men minus women and children were in attendance. After such a powerful crusade

15. In the evening the disciples came to him and said, “It is already past time for supper, and there is nothing to eat here in the desert; send the crowds away so they can go to the villages and buy some food.”

16 But Jesus replied, “That isn’t necessary—you feed them!”

17 “What!” they exclaimed. “We have exactly five small loaves of bread and two fish!”

18 “Bring them here,” he said.

19 Then he told the people to sit down on the grass; and he took the five loaves and two fish, looked up into the sky, and asked God’s blessing on the meal, then broke the loaves apart and gave them to the disciples to place before the people.

20 And everyone ate until full! And when the scraps were picked up afterwards, there were twelve basketfuls left over!

21 (About five thousand men were in the crowd that day, besides all the women and children.) – Matthew 14:15-21

They were ready to leave the people to go away hungry and say “God will do it” but Jesus showed us something in that scripture. Sweetheart God will not do it! The same way you are waiting on God to solve the problem, God is saying I’m also waiting on you. Jesus said to them if you see a problem, then take responsibility and be the solution.

We need to get to the point where we realise that God has done everything he’s ever going to do. When Jesus said, “IT IS FINISHED!”

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he actually meant he had done everything HE needed to do. From now on the rest is up to us.

Why am I saying this? I think one of our greatest assignments as Christians is to do what Jesus would do. Christmas is just around the corner. I love Christmas. It’s one of my favourite holidays but I also realise that for some people It’s just another day. Nothing special. Because like Jesus’ crowd they hunger. I’m not about to make the same mistake that bros peter and Co made. I’m going to do what Jesus said and give them something to eat.

So this is the plan. I’m heading a project called CHRISTMAS A THOUSAND TIMES BETTER And my goal is to make Christmas better for a thousand families. Nope it’s not just another benevolence project that people do to take pictures and print magazines. I’m doing this in obedience to Matthew 25:35-40
Jesus said if I do this for anyone, I’m doing it for Him. In other words, He can’t do it physically so I’m becoming his hands.

We are making hampers….everyone loves hampers right? ……hampers that contain things that can be used to make food for a family to eat and ensure they have a good Christmas
Each hamper will contain
Rice
Oil
Salt
Seasoning
Indomie
Macaroni
Tin tomatoes
sardines
…..and any other thing we can squeeze in.

Each hamper that will feed a family costs just N2000. Insignificant money abi? I know how much you spend to fix that Peruvian hair. So guys I’m asking you to join me. Let’s bring in our five loaves and two fish

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. And let’s watch Jesus multiply it

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but one thing I’m definitely not doing this year is sitting around praying for God to feed the poor when like Jesus said I can give them something to eat.
So who’s with me?
Interested? You can pay your N2000 into our GTBANK account
Account name- JUST US GIRLS CONCEPT
Account number- 0120674522

You’ll be surprised how far your little will go

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Bottom line: GOD WILL NOT DO IT! IF IT’S TO BE THEN IT’S UP TO ME.
Good night guys.

Love you. 

Is this a test?

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Hi guys
Just leaving RUSH HOUR FELLOWSHIP. Had such an awesome time tonight.

Okay so before I forget that it’s Tuesday and get into trouble with all my cheerleaders. Here’s dilemma Tuesday. For those who don’t know what dilemma Tuesday is, it’s your chance to experience the counseling part of pastoring. I bring you real life issues that people have and you get a chance to give your own two kobo ;-) and when I’m in a benevolent mood like this week best 3 comments win a prize

Dear pastor Mildred
My fiance and I have been having issues. He hasn’t called me in weeks and whenever I call him he says he’s been busy that’s why he’s not calling me anymore. However a mutual friend told me he says he’s observing me to see if he really wants to be with me.

He hadn’t called in over a week so I called to say hello. I asked how he was and he said he’s fine but been very busy and that its a good thing I called because he needs money to invest in a business opportunity that just came up. He wanted me to raise him 100k. Ma, the thing is I’m a student who is paying her way through school. The only money I have currently is for my school fees. I asked when the money would be returned and he said he wasn’t sure but when I pressed he gave me a date past my school fees deadline.

I suggested that he loan the money from a friend and he said he may not be able to pay back on the date the person was giving to him. But he asked me to borrow the money instead and he would refund it. The thing is he’s called me about three times already this morning asking if I really want him to lose the business deal.

Now I don’t know should I give him my school fees? Should I borrow for him? Also ma what if this is just a test? What if I lose him?

Please help ma

Okay guys there you go. Let’s hear what you have to say. Help a sister out.

LOVE YOURSELF

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Just like I promised. I’m back.
This is officially day 8

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Still there? Still hanging in there with me?
This is today’s post

Its not a very long one. Its not even a very deep one. It’s really very simple actually. Probably too simple but here it is anyway. 

LOVE YOURSELF
I find that too many women live for others. We rarely have the time or energy to love ourselves or live for ourselves

I’m not saying this in the selfish sense of the word. I’m saying this because if we really did love our selves there would be fewer ladies bleaching, fewer committing suicide, developing mental problems, fewer women eating themselves to obesity either because someone who didn’t deserve them in the first place broke up with them for someone who can’t hold a candle to them.

The real problem is once we are born we live to please mummy and daddy, then we live to please a young man so he can marry us then we settle down and we think we need to earn our children’s love and respect then we need to be sweet grandma. By the time we realise that it’s too draining to live like that we die.

My post today is advice I’m giving myself too
LIVE FOR AN AUDIENCE OF ONE : GOD! 

Love yourself because no one else will. If you do, everyone else will fall in line

So what to do? Grab your mirror

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and take a good look at yourself and say
” mirror mirror on the wall who is the fairest of them all?”.

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Before your mirror can answer shout at the top of your lungs. ” I am! I am! God loves me…and His is the only opinion that counts ” then blow yourself a kiss…..and relax. stop trying to prove to the world that you deserve to be loved.
Good night guys

Dilemma tuesday tomorrow
Love you

7 Mistakes Single Ladies Make

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Good morning guys

It’s day 7

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It should actually be day 8 but I suddenly became human yesterday ;-)
Got in from church at 2pm, rushed back to preach at 4pm. Got home at 8pm and said let me catch a quick nap then blog when I get up. When I opened my eyes it was past 12 this morning

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I’m truly sorry. So what I will do is blog twice today to cover for day7 and day 8
See what not doing what you should do when you should can cause? You will end up with double the work :D

Okay so time for business
My initial plan yesterday was to do a few high points of my message yesterday at LDM here when I got back but as we all know, Mr sleep had other plans * rolling my eyes*

7 MISTAKES SINGLE LADIES MAKE
Please note that the term single here refers to the unmarried whether you are in a relationship or not.

1. BEING DESPERATE
This is the most common mistake ladies make. When it seems like time is running out, generally as human beings we tend to get desperate. Unfortunately men can smell a desperate woman miles away and they tend to take advantage of her. 
You see the problem with being desperate is that you make poor choices. Ask bros Esau who gave away all his rights as first born for a bowl of asaro (Gen 25:29-33)
Desperate women will stay with a cheating man, a violent man, a lying man all in the hopes of getting married forgetting that you are the one who is actually carrying the blessing he need not the other way round. You carry the favour (proverbs 18:22) you are the king maker (proverbs 12:4) and you are the helper (Gen 2:18)
So relax. Desperation is a sign of a lack of Faith. Afterall if you believe you won’t be desperate (Isaiah 28:16)

2. COMPROMISING
This is usually an overflow of being desperate. Most times ladies start out with standards then as the years go by they start to drop those standards.
Some will compromise on everything they want even their values. They even go as far as dating unbelievers because the believers are slacking. They believe they can change him. Only the spirit of God can change anyone. So if he’s a drinker, smoker, womaniser, marrying you won’t change that if anything changes are you will adapt to his ways. To be honest it’s not easier to date an unbeliever. They have expectations in relationships: sex, nude pictures, pornography, etc are all part of the deal because the spirit of the so of disobedience is at work in them (Ephesians 2:2)
Some will practically change who they are just to marry. You know you are very stylish and fashionable. You

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know it’s a personal need for you. You know it makes you happy then you want to marry someone who hates makeup, weaves, ladies in trousers, earrings or even perfume. You think you can change who you are and be happy?
Some who don’t ever call their mum will call their mother in law to be three times a day, you know you don’t cook at home but when you go to her house you cook with firewood sef Mscheeew…..
Don’t start what you cannot finish.

3. UNREALISTIC LISTS
This is the most amazing and hilarious of all mistakes. There’s a difference between having standards and drawing up unrealistic lists.
You want a man with the holiness of kumuyi, the faith of Poju Oyemade, the miracles of Chris oyakhilome, the exploits of Oyedepo, the excellence of Paul Adefarasin, be as funny as pastor K and still be tall dark and handsome. Oh! Did I forget he must sing like Donnie McClurkin and have Dangote money?
Only you! And you keep adding to the list every year. Need I say more?
Listen to me there is no such thing as Mr perfect. God will never give you a finished man. Most times what single girl’s are looking for is “a finished ” man and I’m sorry to burst your bubble but a finished man is a married man. The result of another woman’s hard work and prayers. 
4. SEEING MEN AS TREES SYNDROME
This is the problem most singles have. The blind man in Mark 8 told Jesus in verse 24 I see men as trees meaning he wasn’t able to recognise them clearly.
Your husband is close to you. Your husband is your friend. The one you talk to about everything yet you say he’s just my friend. You need God to open your eyes. You won’t marry your enemy now will you?

5. PREMARITAL SEX
I need you to listen very carefully to the next few words I’m going to write.
YOUR BODY WAS CREATED AS DESSERT NOT AN APPETISER -Andy Stanley
If you give a man what he will get if he eats his meal. Why then should he eat the meal. You are a reward. If you give him the benefits of marriage without the responsibility then it would be a case of WHY BUY THE COW WHEN THE MILK IS FREE?
Let him have something to look forward to in marriage. Besides sex before marriage is sin.

6. FIGHTING EVERYONE OR  ISOLATING YOURSELF
When ladies want to get married every one but the guy suddenly becomes the enemy. Your parents, pastors, even friends that will give you good advice.
Hebrews 13:17 is God’s response to this attitude. The people in your life love you and want what’s best for you don’t suddenly start acting like he’s the only one who cares all of a sudden.
DONT COMPROMISE YOUR WALK WITH JESUS JUST TO WALK DOWN THE AISLE -Jolene Engle

7. FOCUSING ON THE WEDDING RATHER THAN THE MARRIAGE
Getting married is very important. It’s a blessing but for you as the woman it is NOT A REWARD IT IS AN ASSIGNMENT. The earlier you get this into your head the sooner you will get your head out of the clouds.
The wedding is a romantic experience, to celebrate your love for the benefit of other people and it only lasts one day while the marriage is a lifetime of responsibility to ensure that your love for each other remains intact.
Don’t you think you should focus more on the lifetime relationship rather than the one day event?
Ladies will spend so much on the dress, the cake, the venue, music,food, etc at the wedding and have no clue on what to do in marriage, they can’t cook anything but indomie. I know he takes you out all the time but he will expect you to cook after the wedding in the marriage. Which is just one of the things you will be expected to do.

Titus 2:4 says let the older women mentor the younger wome on what is expected in marriage. So in obedience to that scripture I have something in the oven. It’s called WIFE101 it’s a one week camp for wives to be. Full details next year ;-)

Okay guys hope I made up for day 7. Will be back later with today’s post. Off to the kitchen to do some of my wifely duties.

See you later.

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What’s Your Excuse?

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Hey people we are on a roll…

It’s day 6

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How’s your own consistency challenge going? I really hope you can find some positive habit and work on being consistent at it. It changes you. It gives you a glimpse into God’s nature.
God is faithful = consistency
He never changes =consistency
He never leaves or forsakes us =consistency.
He is consistent at everything He does. It’s just his nature. I think that’s why He loves us to be consistent because it makes us like Him. It teaches us not to live by feelings.

Today trust me was one of those days when “the feeling” with which I said I would blog everyday for 30 days had passed :D
It was such a busy weekend, Friday was so hectic that I eventually slept off at 2am on Saturday morning and by 4am I was up….no my fitness instructor didn’t come (thankfully) I had a leaders meeting by 5.30am, then “the journey” our bible training arm in church by 7am, then EXCELLERATE by 9am, then had to go with my PK somewhere to minister at 12am by the time I got home through the unbelievable traffic (which by the way believe it or not I is still at a standstill this night), my body was practically shaking. I had been operating on 2 hours sleep. I eventually got Dassah and Vida to go bug someone else so I could sleep so trust me consistency in sleep was all I could think of today….but since I had put it out there I Knew I just had to wake up and blog so here I am

I’ve come to realise that if something is important to you, you will find a way if not you will find an excuse. And the bad thing about excuses is that they shut down your mind. Once you find an excuse you can’t find a way anymore. Everything just shuts down. Your mind closes up, your body relaxes and your spirit goes to sleep. If you keep making excuses long enough, you actually start to give up. It’s a bad state to be in…it paralyses.
You don’t believe me? Ask the cripple at the pool for 38 years. Which cripple? Let me help you.

Follow me to the book of John chapter 5 verses 1-9
“Afterwards Jesus returned to Jerusalem for one of the Jewish religious holidays.

2 Inside the city, near the Sheep Gate, was Bethesda Pool, with five covered platforms or porches surrounding it.

3 Crowds of sick folks—lame, blind, or with paralyzed limbs—lay on the platforms (waiting for a certain movement of the water,

4 for an angel of the Lord came from time to time and disturbed the water, and the first person to step down into it afterwards was healed).[a]

5 One of the men lying there had been sick for thirty-eight years.

6 When Jesus saw him and knew how long he had been ill, he asked him, “Would you like to get well?”

7 “I can’t,” the sick man said, “for I have no one to help me into the pool at the movement of the water. While I am trying to get there, someone else always gets in ahead of me.”

8 Jesus told him, “Stand up, roll up your sleeping mat and go on home!”

9 Instantly, the man was healed! He rolled up the mat and began walking!
But it was on the Sabbath when this miracle was done.”

Okay so basically from what you’ve read I’m sure you can see the result of a life built on excuses. This man had been at the pool for 38 years so I’m guessing he’s much older than 38 years because I don’t believe he’s been at the pool since he was born. But isn’t 38 years long enough to get desperate for a healing? Now Jesus appears to him in the flesh not that someone sent him a bible verse. No! For him the Word was made flesh.

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Jesus came in person and said “do you want to be well?”

please o! My people is there another answer to tha question? I thought the man would roll his eyes at Jesus and go “duh! I’m crippled men! What else would j want”….er, if that wasn’t so rude but you get the point right? I thought He would scream a big YES! I mean that’s a no brainer. Why would Jesus even ask. If you’ve been sick for 38 days would you even think about it talk less of 38 years.

But his answer showed he had given up. He said “I can’t!” that’s what excuses do to you. They make you eventually give up. This man had literally given up and He showed us why. He gave a long speech about how he had no one, no connections, he had lots of excuses.

What about you? What’s the excuse that’s keeping you from moving forward? You have no one? You have no way? World people?! People are wicked? Always trying to get ahead of you? Plotting against you?

Sweetie stop telling yourself those lies. Many people have made it without knowing anyone or having anything so your excuse doesn’t hold water.

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Thank God Jesus didn’t leave it up to him, He simply said, my friend will you carry your bed and move out of here now! …
Okay maybe not in those exact words but he did get him healed and moving.
So I’m here to tell you the same thing tonight. Stop! Stop with the excuses and get up and move!

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***please excuse the curse word. For lack of a better expression….

Your life won’t change till you stop making excuses. I’ve made up my mind excuses are a thing of the past. As I always say “there’s always a way.”…all I have to do is find it

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Okay guys gotta go. I need to go put finishing touches to my message for tomorrow. Take this as an invitation to LDM. I’m teaching on 7 mistakes single ladies make

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Catch you guys tomorrow. Thanks to all cheering me on.
Love you guys

LIONS IN TIARAS

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Hello ladies

Day 5

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How was your day? Mine was awesome. Just got in from Last Minute Miracles. I can’t even start on that one now….let’s just say if you missed it then Meeeeeeeeennnn!!! you missed.

Anyway let’s get down to the business of today….

Have you never wondered why God would choose of all the animals to call himself the LION  of the tribe of Judah? I have…

I’m always fascinated by lions. They represent to me the kind of fearlessness that the average human being should exhibit. The lion cannot run as fast as the gazelles or cheetahs, they lack the endurance of hunting dogs, they are not as big as elephants or polar bears but the most intriguing thing about the Lion is the fact that even though it’s not necessarily the strongest, neither is it the most skillful, and even though it doesn’t have any secret venom like the adder or camouflage tactic like the chameleon or porcupine, the lion is the most fearless of all animals.

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A lion will charge blindly into battle simply having faith that she will win. The lion will never turn down a fight irrespective of how big it’s opponent is….the bible tells us that the lion king of animals won’t turn aside or retreat before any (proverbs 30:30)

Too many things seemingly bigger than us charge at us daily as women whether it’s a dangerous godless man that tangles us in a relationship or a barrage of sexual abuse from lecturers to bosses, or a plethora of bad experiences ranging from poverty to sickness and on top of all that, we are faced with a continuous strain on our self esteem. Today I’ve come to announce to you that you are not just permitted to charge right back, you are expected to. You are authorised, enabled and empowered to charge at  and win anything that challenges your life and peace of mind.

God is looking for women who will say enough is enough! I will take back my power and take back everything God promised me and that the devil stole from me. Women who will laugh in the face of danger and like our Lion of the tribe of Judah with boldness, look the devil straight in the eye

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and in a loud voice say “Get thee behind me satan, for it is written…”

Enough tears my dear sister take your life in your hands and go out there and win. You have the backing of Most High God. He is your father. You are royalty. Don’t be some weak-willed, lily-livered princess waiting for everyone to do things for her. Stand up Grab your weapon and go take territories.

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Grab your tiara put it on and with beauty and strength still roar like the lion that you are for God has not given us a spirit of fearfulness but one of power, love and sound judgement (2 Timothy 1:7) you are FEARLESS.

Go out there and be the best. Take over industries. Be bold enough to say NO! To premarital sex, being unequally yoked or nudity in the name of fashion.  Be fearless in the face of persecution. God is counting on you. Being a woman is not a disadvantage it is an asset. Be bold; be beautiful. Rise above challenges gracefully. Know whose daughter you are and keep that tiara firmly on.

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As the year comes to a close. Don’t give up. Don’t you dare stop believing. You still can….

Be female; be fearless.

Awaiting the testimonies.
Love You

P.s.
I know the female lion is called a lioness. It just sounds better to say lions in tiaras. Lol!

P.P.S
Don’t forget EXCELLERATE tomorrow. See you there

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EXCELLERATE

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Hi guys, 
More info on EXCELLERATE
Don’t be scared this isn’t my Post for the day. Just thought you might need this information

To be honest I just copied this post. It’s not original so it doesn’t count really.

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EXPIRY DATE

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Hello guys

I’m back again
It’s day 4…..

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These past few weeks have left so many of us with mixed feelings. I heard a lot of Christians hold back albeit with a bit of difficulty but hold back nonetheless from questioning God. I personally know a lot of Christians who struggled.

I still remember that morning like it was yesterday. I woke up at 4am like I usually do to get ready for my fitness instructor who come rain or shine, hell or high water would show up at 5.30am to “punish” me. So as I got up, (I must confess I have this bad habit of reaching for my BlackBerry once I get up, either to check the time or messages) I immediately reached for my phone. And there it was on a friends pm ” Oh! Lord tell me it isn’t true…” and with those seven words I was awoken to the terrible reality that Dr Myles Munroe and his beautiful wife were no longer with us…

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A lot of people cried out…
“Why are Christians dying? If a whole Myles Munroe can die who is safe? ”

“Plane crash again?! Another minister of the gospel? What is going on? ”

I heard all sorts of things. People put his picture up, quoted him,

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blogged about him but in all of this I remained silent and found comfort in this  scripture

“To be absent in the body is to be present with the Lord. ”
-2 corinthians 5:8

We cried because we would miss him but as soon as that plane exploded, he rejoiced because he was with the Lord and probably even cried for us… cried because he felt sorry for us that we were still limited on earth and not free like him now

We asked why? Why would the righteous die when so many wicked still live?

And I am comforted Yet again and quietened by this fact that
“good people pass away; the godly often die before their time….no one seems to understand that God is protecting them from the evil to come”- Isaiah 57:1

But while we were still recovering or should I say being comforted the blackberry dps started changing again and this time it was popular radio personality and creator and host of sharing life’s issues chaz B who had kicked the bucket. 

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Radio went haywire. People called in crying talking about how he had blessed them and how he had touched their lives…

….then I finally got it. I had an Eureka moment. I heard it in the spirit loud and clear LIFE HAS AN EXPIRY DATE.
Yes, whether we like it or not, we are all going to die . We are all going to  leave behind this earthly body whether in death or by rapture but one thing is for sure. We will all transit this earth at some point in time.
It got me thinking, when great men like Myles Munroe

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or Pastor Bimbo Odukoya

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pass on, we shouldn’t cry for them instead we should go and look at our own BEST BEFORE dates

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and do something worthwhile with our lives before we EXPIRE. 

If you really think about it, everyone actually has a best before date. It’s what the book of Ecclesiastes calls the days of your youth. Serve God with your youthful strength. You are actually BEST BEFORE you die ;-)
And because we don’t have all the time in the World, You do have an expiry date you know….

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God wants you to make impact before its too late. Before you are certified expired

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God wants you to Accelerate your excelling so you can affect and inspire as many people before your expiry date. I hear there’s a meeting you must attend to help you EXCELLERATE. It’s a seminar for business people to receive their own last minute miracles. Find details in the flier below

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Also some more good news….Last Minute Miracles still continues tomorrow. it’s been extended. Ministering tomorrow is my very own PK :-)

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DO NOT MISS IT!
See y’all tomorrow.
Still pushing through…. Consistently

Oh! How He loves us…

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Hey guys
It’s day 3

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I’m here again…did you think I had missed today? NEVER! lol!

So straight to the business of today.

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Very recently someone sent me a message in her moment of sadness and disappointment and she said something that just ripped right through my heart. She said “….why doesn’t God loves me enough to make this happen for me?”

I was heartbroken because the devil just got one point at that moment. His sole aim and primary goal is to make us question God’s love for us. If he can get you to believe that God doesn’t love you, He can get you to mess up the rest of your life and destiny.

The funny thing is that his game plan NEVER changes. It’s the same principle. His method may be different but his goal is the same. He’s been doing this same thing since time began. Remember Eve? Yep! Our mother Eve. He told her God can’t be telling you the truth because He doesn’t love you. He’s an insecure God. If you eat the fruit. You will be like God and He doesn’t want that. Noooooo! If you are like God, then you will share in His power and ability and He won’t want that. So without realising it, Eve questioned God’s love and inevitably His word. She ate the fruit with Adam

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Which resulted in her loss of destiny and here we are still paying for that error in judgement. I mean if not for her I wouldn’t have had to turn my wardrobe upside down this morning trying to find what would fit. Imagine the blissful ignorance of being nude everyday yet not really naked as I would be covered in glory…. *sigh*

Relentless he walks down to mama Sarah. You know her na, papa Abraham’s sweetheart. He comes up with the same story. How can you say that God loves you when He cannot give you a child.

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I thought Abraham was important to Him and look at all the sacrifices he had made for God ; leaving his family behind, changing his name to be embarrassingly called “father of many nations” when he can’t even father one son. How can God love you? He MADE the heavens and earth and yet he cannot MAKE you a mother…. His “friend’s” wife? Hmmmm…..

Sarah fell for it and led Abraham into Adultery which has sadly resulted in all the wars in the middle east.
You see, no matter how good satan’s advice sounds it can never be for your good. He’s out to steal from you, kill you and or destroy you. He knows that the quickest way to destroy you is to get you to question God’s love. Once you can question his love, you will question his word and if you don’t believe his word, of you cannot say “It is written!” with confidence…if you cannot do that, you cannot have faith and if you don’t have faith you are finished because without faith it is impossible….

What is impossible? Everything!!!
It’s impossible to be happy in life.
It’s impossible to meet a great man who loves you.
It’s impossible to have a great marriage
It’s impossible to have children.
It’s impossible to prosper
So in essence what I’m saying is this, don’t ever let the devil make you question God’s love for you.
God doesn’t just love you, He is love. He has no other response to you but love so don’t ever let circumstances or situations make you pray prayers that question his love for you.

Be settled fully in this:
GOD LOVES YOU AND HE WANTS WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU EVEN WHEN YOU DONT THINK HE DOES.

He says I wish above ALL things that you prosper….

God wants you to have it all because he loves you but when you question it, you either slow down the process or you totally cancel what he has for you because of your unbelief….
Because you don’t believe he loves you.

Let me ask you this …if he he didn’t with hold his son will he not also with him FREELY give you ALL things?

My darling. He loves you.
Speaking of loving you. He loves you so much that he doesn’t want the year to end the same way for you. He has a place and time he’s planned to visit you tomorrow. It’s called last minute miracles. Check out the flier for details.

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I’ll see you tomorrow. I have one small gist for you

Love you.

Should I propose?

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Day 2
Dilemma tuesday
Okay guys I’m back :-)
Yeah! Yeah! I know it’s only day 2.

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Too early to start celebrating right? Lol!
Okay so here’s this week’s dilemma. Please feel free to leave your “two kobo”. She will appreciate it. Besides you guys give such great advise ;-)

“Dear Pastor M
I’m writing to you because I just read your book “JUST US GIRLS” And it totally blessed me. I also need some advice. I noticed that in your book you talked a lot about character and things that are expected of the single christian lady.

I’m 32 years old and I’m single. I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for five years. We met during NYSC. He’s 2 years older than I am. He’s born-again. He runs his mother’s business. He’s very sweet and kind and our relationship really has been good so far. My only issue is that he seems very comfortable with being in a relationship and is not making any moves to take it any further.
I know he wants to marry me and I’m very sure he’s not seeing any one else.  he’s never been unfaithful to me. The issue is he’s just very laid back. He’s never actually said the words marriage but when we started the relationship he told me he loved and hoped that one day we would build a family together.

So what I’m asking is should i propose to him? I know him very well. He just might be thinking about it but he will drag his feet till Jesus comes and the truth is I’m not getting any younger. My parents are beginning to ask me what the problem is.
Please what do I do? I’ve checked and I didn’t see anywhere the bible says a lady should not propose.

Ok guys so there you have it. Should she propose? Is it alright As a Christian lady? Is it alright  since they are already in a relationship?
Can’t wait to hear from you.

See you tomorrow. Thanks to my cheerleaders squad ;-)

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30 Days….

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Hello people
Welcome to delightful December.

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How have you been? I know it’s been a while. I’ve missed you guys but it’s been really busy around here.

Anyways I’m back and I’m back with something i’m sure a lot of you will be happy about….
This week I saw a picture I really liked and put it on my BlackBerry dp. It said ” CONSISTENCY IS DOING WHAT YOU SAID YOU WOULD EVEN AFTER THE FEELING YOU SAID IT IN HAS PASSED.

I’ve actually been rolling it over in my head. So I believe the Holy spirit will have me do a bit more than just think about it. So here’s my practical class on consistency Or is this the exam?

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I’m taking up the 30 day challenge. What does that mean? Simply this: I will blog consistently everyday for the next 30 days….no matter what excuse I could easily manufacture.
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Now here’s where I’m going to need your help.   I’m going to need lots of cheer leaders ;-)

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Secondly, I need us to do this together. Ok so you may not need to blog daily but I’m sure there’s a positive habit in your life that could do with some consistency.
So pick one

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and maybe tell me about it so I can cheer you on as well.

Tomorrow we start with dilemma Tuesday. Come back ok?
Trust me, I’ll be here…consistently *fingers crossed*
Ok guys later

RED LIPS, HIPS, FINGERTIPS OR HEELS

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I really need to say a big thank you To everyone who made  yesterday special for me- those who prayed, those who gave me gifts (thanks chayil ladies for my red shoes),

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those who came to hang out with me, those who put my pictures up on BlackBerry, Instagram, Facebook,, Twitter etc , those who sent messages and all those who tried to call and couldn’t get through (told you my phones would be off sorry). To you all, I say a big thank you. I am truly honoured and humbled because I know it is not really me that you celebrate but the God in me.

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Okay so now that’s out of the way how are you preparing for #FEARLESS? I’ve seen so many pictures.

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Some are truly fearless while some are downright frightful 

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I was actually really worried when I saw some but that’s story for another day.

I just want to send you a final reminder about FEARLESS. I know it’s a fun event and we are all getting ready to paint the town red with our red lips, red fingertips and red heels but that’s not all its about. Come with an open and REaDy heart. Come ready to receive answers if you have questions. To receive direction if you are confused. To receive peace if you are worried and to receive boldness if you are afraid or uncertain.
We have the opportunity to meet with our father and to receive from the throne of grace. Don’t make it one of “those” meetings. It is your time with God. Come and you will never be the same. I’m expectant as well. I honestly can’t say I know exactly what’s going to happen at FEARLESS but I do know a lot of ladies will be healed and set free.  Will you be one of them?

please Come early. Free gifts for everyone but it’s on a first come, first served basis so just a hint…come early, be served first.

Okay guys. Don’t miss church ok? God has a word for you. If you don’t have a church, God is waiting for you at DCC ;-) my pk will be teaching on game of thrones :-)

Gotta run. Need some sleep. Long day tomorrow. 

See you tomorrow. Be daring in your red. Rock it which ever way you want whether on the lips, hips (hmmm….red pants may not be bad), fingertips or heels. however you want to show up…just BE FIERCE, BE FEMALE BE FEARLESS
Love you guys

P.s
If you make it, please say hello and possibly take a picture with me so I can put it on the blog. Or just share a hug. :-)

We are a CHRISTIAN EVERYTHING!!!

pastormildred:

Totally loved this had to reblog. #USseries 3 coming up soon. While you wait….

Originally posted on The F.A.B. Sister's Blog:

‘…We are NOT a Christian school…’

That was the incredible statement told to Pastor M by a school administrator, selling the school to her when she was school hunting for her babies.

How gorgeous this is!!! How gorgeous this is!!!

And according to her, it was something that was told her more than once (in case she didn’t get it fully at first) and very proudly too. It was one of those poshies on the Island, mind you.

I was absolutely shocked to hear that. I mean, wasn’t it two minutes ago people could easily sell something to us by playing the ‘Christian’ card? Today, the world has soooooo become ‘somethingelse’ that when we are NOT Christian, we can afford to be very proud about it because we know ‘nothingspoil’ and if anything, it is some sort of a cool, sophisticated, hip, even trendy something.

Isn’t it sadly interesting how…

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