Why Don’t You Have A Pastor?


As I lay here, yes I’m in bed. For some funny reason my natural doctor thinks I need bed rest and of course I will humour these doctors especially since I have been threatened by one of them who keeps popping into my house unannounced just to be sure I’m resting….well, that’s story for another day….

So as I lay here, I’m really thinking about this question above and I’m almost sure I hear you say, “of course I have a pastor” and my response to that is this story I heard a couple of years back. It is said that when shepherds take their sheep out to pasture, they meet other shepherds and along the way, the sheep get mixed up but once it’s time to leave, the shepherds need only call out and the Sheep would immediately find their masters and if in the midst of sorting them selves out, some sheep still miss their way and go to the wrong shepherd, the shepherds would simply redirect them to their rightful leaders. How did they even notice that the wrong sheep followed? Simple the shepherd knows his sheep. kind of like the relationship you should have with your pastor.

So in the light of that little story, I will ask that question again: “why don’t you have a pastor?” If you were me, many many many maaaaannnny years ago, then you’d probably answer me with, “abeg. I don’t have power o! I don’t like my pastor knowing me. I just go to church, do my bit and disappear. It’s God that I’m serving and he knows me”

Now note I said me many, many, many, many, maaaaannnny years ago…believe it or not I wasn’t born a pastor. I was once a “enter church, hear the word and disappear” kind of christian. So I know what I’m talking about. If the relationship you have with your pastor is come to church, hear a great sermon from him and on really good days you buy a cd of him that you play from time to time then you are totally missing the point…and you are just as bad as this guy


It’s funny but most of us just don’t get it. God had a reason for giving you a shepherd or as the bible puts it…


You see, there are actually pastors that make you know that God loves you and He’s thinking about you.

1997, I had an encounter with one of such pastors. You see I was raised Catholic and I never really had any interactions with priests or reverend fathers beyond the Saturday confession and Sunday homily. So when I got born-again I still saw pastors the same way. Hear them preach and only get close or go see them when you have some dreadful sin to confess or even worse get sent for when you have committed some major wrong.wpid-3-O.L.K_3_613925.jpeg

So anyway there I was having one of those ” is this how Christianity should be moments?” and yes i had quite a few of those as a baby Christian. You know the kind brought on by over-zealous lacking knowledge older Christians who place religious principles before christian love. So there I was asking myself many questions when a friend of mine went to tell “this shepherd” that she had a friend who was having an “off” day. Funny enough he was around because he had service in a few minutes, so had come out to pray before the fellowship meeting. Funny enough I wasn’t a member of the fellowship he was pastoring but he, just like Jesus even though he was on His way to Jarius house stopped to minister to the woman with the issue of blood, this great man of God stopped all he was doing to answer my questions and pray with me.

After that, and a series of other incidents which I won’t bore you with, I became a member of Christ Love Fellowship OAU Ile-ife. For the remaining two years I had the privilege of being pastored by this wonderful man of God. He was truly a pastor, a shepherd, a teacher and a prophet over my life. He took time to pray for me, counsel me and teach me. He asked questions, he answered mine. He looked out for me. He taught me how to hear from God. He taught me the power of confession but more importantly he showed me and taught me the Love of God. I learnt the cutting edge of the gospel- how to be all things to all men to save some.

Pastor Temi Odejide would ask how are you? And for some reason you felt like Jesus was in the room telling you no matter what you are going through, I’m here for you. For the first time in my life I knew what it meant to have a shepherd.



The man who guided my adolescent years :-)

Pastor temi can teach Ehn! Kai! Imagine if I didn’t learn how to hear from God, how to study the word, how to confess the word. Where would I be today? What if I didn’t feel accountable to someone? I would simply have lost it. The truth is I can’t say we were extremely close but pastor Temi was my shepherd. He knew me, looked out for me, guided me and answered my very long letters (epistles as he used to call them)

But graduate he did and since there were no phones or social media access back then I was left without a “pastor” but he left an impression on me about the kind of pastor God wanted for me.

Then fast forward to 2005, when I met and married my pk. Then I met not just a pastor but a FATHER *big big big hug* my pastor in every sense of the word. Rev Femi Albert Oduwole


Or grandpa rev as ‘ dassah calls him.

Where do I even begin with Rev? Anytime I think about him I just think if you don’t have a pastor (like rev) I pity you. Accept my sincere apologies.
Rev is such a busy man, preaching all over the world. Name the place and I bet you he’s been there or he’s on his way there. He’s what you call a TREACHER…a preacher that teaches. some preachers just preach you happy and when you leave the service you ask yourself what did I learn today? How can i use it? but rev? Rev is different. Once he holds a mic, be sure your life will never remain the same







I know I am always excited …. :-)

He’s such a father. He held my hand through those eight long years of waiting for a child and when I told him God had answered. My papa actually cried. That’s how happy he was. Then re-arranged all his meetings for the year so he could come to America to see and name my baby “Araoluwa” when she arrived. All on his own bill




Then after I came home, he cancelled more meetings so he could dedicate her in our church


the most beautiful thing about Rev is how he makes you feel like you are the only one he’s pastoring…and we are maaaaaaaaaaaaaannnny trust me. Eziaha alone accounts for like 25 people. lol! Rev reminds me of how God is mindful of me. How the whole world is hanging onto him, yet He answers ME when I call, He answers when I pray and He loves ME.

That’s how Rev pastors. Always there when I have an issue, a question, need guidance, or just need someone to talk to. And if I’m doing good, he’s the first to applaud me


Tell me again? Why don’t you have a pastor?

I’m safe in marriage because my pk submits to him so even if it were possible for him to “run mad” (pk’s own exact words. I’m just quoting him) all I need do is threaten to call Rev. :-)…..and you still insist you don’t want a pastor?


Me sha I bless God for pastors especially since he has blessed me with the best ones.

I’m married to one. To my pk. Trust me if I start on my pk. WordPress will close down lol! But me sha I love my pk


And I totally absolutely positively love the fact that he’s also my pastor.

The truth is a lot of us would be safer if we just listened more to our shepherds. Especially when ladies want to get married, they suddenly start to act like the ” love” of this new suitor erases or nullifies the Love of their pastor which was all they had in the beginning. I have so many sad stories that I don’t even want to get started. Don’t be a prodigal. Take advantage of the shepherd God assigned to you.

However if after all this long story you still say “Pastor M abeg abeg abeg, I no get power for pastor wahala, I just want to serve God. I don’t want anybody to know me” then I leave you with these profound words from President barak Obama


See you guys soon.

Sorry no post on http://journeytosizetwelve.wordpress.com yet. Like I said been on bed rest so I haven’t been working out. But watch out. I’ll be back :-)

AS dilemma


Hey people :D and in case you don’t recognise that smiley, that’s me giving you my biggest grin.

Why? ‘cos I’ve missed you guys. Well, a lot to tell but before I start with all the many things I have to tell you I have a dilemma post for you this fine Tuesday.

Here goes….

Dear Pastor m

I need advice. I’m 33 years old and I’m still single. I’ve been in many different relationships with amazing christian guys. Unfortunately it never ends in marriage. Why you ask? Because for some funny reason which I can’t explain I end up meeting guys with the AS genotype and I am AS as well.

So for a while I took a break but early last year one of my exes whom honestly I have never gotten over came back to me telling me that he can’t live without me. I also feel like I can’t live without him.

He proposed to me and I’m wearing his ring. Both families know each other and they love us but I lost a cousin to SS five years ago and the reality is I could have an SS child but I could also have an AA…only God knows

I love him and he is everything I want in a man. Would it be so selfish to go ahead? I’m not getting younger. Don’t I deserve to be happy too? Please help. I need to know what you think. I also don’t mind other opinions as far as I remain anonymous on your blog.

Thank you ma

So there you have it guys. Help a sister out. you know the drill guys….Best responses get a prize

Gotta run. Will be back to give you a lowdown on some of the Just Us Girls Naija programmes for the rest of the year sometime you can plan ahead.



Hi people
Okay so it’s the month of March and I’m really excited. I have a really good feeling about March…

Like there’s something really good about to happen for me. God is up to something in March and how am I going to get it? Same way you are going to get yours ‘cos the same God is rich unto all so I’m sure He has some great stuff packaged for you too. So how will we get it? Simple… by MARCHING FORWARD. This is a clear case of “the violent taketh it by force”.

God’s promises to you are YEA and AMEN but you need to war a good warfare with the prophecy. I’m sure a lot of prayers and promises will be going round either by BBM, twitter, Facebook, in church, etc but if you don’t grab yours and settle it by faith, it will be just another month…. Another bbm update or another broadcast….and honestly I refuse to allow March March past me (excuse the pun)

So Speaking of not sitting around  and letting March March past me, I have decided to do two very important things. At least important to me. You see the last six months have been about this beautiful testimony of mine…








it’s been exclusively her ;-) so now I’m getting to the point where pastor m needs to get her groove back. I’m weaning her (partly) and moving on…

I’ve decided to start my weight loss journey again and in order to make sure I do I have decided to start a blog chronicling my journey. The challenges, my victories, my trials, my triumphs, my weight loss secrets and tips. I’m doing this to be more accountable and because I know that there are many women like me who put on a million pounds more than they imagined during the whole pregnancy and breastfeeding process. So this ladies is for us.

The truth is I’m not vain. I usually can’t be bothered by what most women worry their heads about like hair, nails, clothes, makeup, etc but I do have one pet peeve. I hate being fat. I’m sorry I’m not one of those who joke about it, dress it up, carry myself well, etc

I’ve never been one to crack jokes like this


I somehow don’t find these jokes that funny. I’m more likely to wax more philosophical when it comes to fat with things like this instead….


Or with this


Like I said before I’m just not that kind of big girl’s rock kinda girl ‘cos being fat for me comes with some serious health challenges that I need faith to keep at bay. In fact recently I’ve been struggling with walking because my knees just refuse to keep up with all this extra baby weight I have been lugging about. 

Interestingly God has helped me achieve this weight loss before so I’m believing that since He cannot change. He will help me do it again…


I actually moved from a UK size 20 to a size 12.


Okay so that’s not really me :D  This is me…


after I hit my goal weight..

Then I found out I was pregnant


Now I’m working my way back so that by the next When Women Worship in June I will be able to walk up that stage carrying my complete testimony and my knees will no longer be complaining…

After all when all is said and done it’s still about giving God glory …


I just choose to do it as a size 12 ;-) looking fly…like arm candy…walking beside my pk


rather than like this…


notice the double chin and barely there neck? :-( thankfully the photographer helped me by not showing the arms :-)

Okay, so this is actually  me calling out to all who plan to join me on this journey. If you’ve ever wanted to be fit and healthy then please join me…the more the merrier.

On Monday 3rd of March, I kick off my weight loss journey and start blogging about it on http://journeytosizetwelve.wordpress.com

See you there…


Good funny vs bad funny


I love to laugh. I totally believe like the bible says

that a merry heart doeth good like medicine

I’m one of those people that would marry a man just ‘cos he’s funny….ok so now I’m totally exaggerating but it’s a good quality to have in a spouse plus all the other things my pk mentioned in his book Who Should I Marry (hint, hint, order the book).

But you see there’s good funny and bad funny. Have you ever really thought about it? There’s funny because it’s hilarious or silly and there’s funny because it’s such a bad joke that had better not even be. You don’t get abi? Okay, let me give you scenarios

Good funny


Bad funny- you are swimming in a pool and it’s dark then you feel something rough brush past your leg and your friend standing by the pool says “ah! See crocodile behind you

Good funny- jokes cracked at comedy goes to church by Acapella and all the amazing comedians who showed up last year like AY,



Julius Agu





Bad funny- That you haven’t bought your tickets . Which kind of rough play is that? I’m not sure you understand. It will be like you are the only one at home if you miss this event. Just look at the crowd that was there last year trying to get in


And they got their ticket early. You still haven’t gotten yours? Really really bad funny.

This year the lineup of comedians is out of this world and as always comedy goes to church escorted by music and dance. Last year midnight crew


And Explicit


were in the house To thrill the crowd


This year fantastic line up of comedians


and musicians like Mk, PITA, Palmira and many more.

Speaking of many more one of my favourite MC/comedians SACO and his lovely wife Aghogho just added more to their family.


Congratulations guys on the arrival of our beautiful baby girl….yay! I’m a grandma again ;-)

Speaking of grandmas. It’s my wonderful mum ‘s birthday today. Now trust me she deserves a full post so I won’t even bother today but I celebrate her today. I love you mummy.

What she looks like? Don’t worry pictures loading….

More importantly to order your tickets or to book a table for comedy goes to church 2 call 08067010127

Don’t miss it for anything . trust me it will be one of the best decisions you will make this year. Good clean funny jokes.

…and if all this my marketing doesn’t work. Oya then just come out and support a brother’s dream. Acapella is  my person ;-)

…plus he’s really funny. :-)

Happy Valentine


Hi guys,
So valentine is here finally and the way everyone is carrying on you would think it was a public holiday….the fact that it isn’t doesn’t that tell us something? #justsaying.

All the supermarkets jam packed, bakeries overstretched, bakers overworked, restaurants overbooked. It’s hilarious really if you ask me.

Men who have never done anything nice now go all out just to get the girl… my pk always says the cure for February 14th is February 15th…lol

As much as I agree, I sincerely believe that the nine months that follow are more of a cure especially when alone in that delivery room in November…


This one day love that causes problems for women that last 18 years. It is well o! Please don’t get me wrong…im a romantic and I believe in love…not lust…but love. so if you find someone who loves you…and by that I mean only you…


Not one that you have to watch what you say or do around him once it’s February


If you find that one person that makes your life worth living, that carries your heart like he knows God personally gave it to him and said “keep this for me please “, that person that makes you laugh no matter how hard your day was


if you find that one person by all means please celebrate your love and if you choose February 14th to do so…well then, HAPPY VALENTINES

Speaking of valentines. My winners are…. drum rolls…lol!

de Mark,
doctorzi ,
motunde akiode,
ms giddy,
….and Ada for harassing me so much ….and Eziaha for asking so nicely
…..and finally, Johnson For reblogging …

Ok guys call 08077714411… but please call on Monday. I choose to Val you on that day… lol!


Don’t forget teens groove later today, unmasked tomorrow and date night on Sunday
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hello people hope you didn’t miss me too much….LOL!  I know it’s that season of love again so of course you know I have something to say about that…

Actually I wasn’t going to say anything o! but something i watched the other day on tv got me thinking….

So, because I married a man who likes all these crime and investigation tinz …I am constantly watching the crime and investigation channel on DSTV. In fact some nights I wake up hearing rounds of gunshots and I wake up with a start till I realize that my pk must have left the tv on and slept off and there are actually no gunmen in my bedroom *phew*

A few nights ago, I was actually watching one of the ” I almost got away with it” series with my pk and this is what happened….

An elderly man who had been married for 41 years…note 41 years so imagine how old he has to be …worst case lets imagine he got married at 20, he would be 61 right? so, for lack of a better word I will call him “papa”, anyhow, this papa had a problem that his wife of 41 years knew nothing about ….a gambling problem that had caused him to write bad cheques worth 80,000 US dollars. Long story short he wakes up one morning and gets a call from the FBI about the bad cheques which is like major major crime in America and he is told that he would be indicted for the crime meaning many many years in jail..

what does papa do? first he goes into the sitting room where mama is sitting watching a movie and immediately confesses all his sins and trust women, mama is frantic and starts crying and screaming down the house. anyhow, papa is able to calm her down and they finally go to bed. in the middle of the night, mama who has literally cried herself to sleep (I’m guessing) is sleeping soundly but papa cannot sleep. he’s tossing and turning. according to him he’s worried that if he goes to jail how will mama survive? who would take care of her? by the way they have a grown up son and daughter who are married with kids of their own. well, its too much for papa to handle . so because he LOVES her so much and cant bear to see her suffer…. he does the one thing that he believes will save both of them from such heart ache…. he puts a pillow over his sleeping wife and shoots her 3 times in the head and once in the chest. then writes a letter to his children explaining how he did this out of love for her, then packs his bags….oh! did I forget to mention … and her credit cards and leaves.

ok, take a minute to grab your jaw from off the floor, then we can talk…deep breaths…yes, in…out…in…out…feel better yet?

so, now lets talk….

you see this love thing ehn! its causing a lot of issues o! me I don’t get how you kill someone you’ve been married to for 41 years because you love her too much to let her be sad and miss you… i thought the vows you took were till death …not till murder do us part. well, that’s the world’s definition of love …always selfish. that’s why the only way to love is to know God ….for God is love (1 John 4:7-8)

I’m honestly saddened by what young people especially girls are going through these days all in the name of getting a valentine….the guys are actually doing all sorts of nasty things to get out of buying a valentine present and the girls are holding on tenaciously and forgiving even the unforgivable just to get a present that may end up being just a cake….but even if its a private jet…no man should treat you like dirt just because he wants to give you a gift ….which he was trying to get out of giving you anyway …if not for your tenacity in forgiveness….lol!

love protects…love gives….love cares…and love definitely doesnt make flimsy excuses when it is valentine.

ok so now the solution? instead of allowing the world fill your head with ideas we have decided to show you God’s own way so at DCC its a weekend packed… we are even catching them young so for the teenagers on february 14th we have TEEN’S GROOVE…VALENTINE GROOVE BANNER

Then for the SINGLE GUYS AND GIRLS we have UNMASKED coming up….on saturday february 15th …unmask-2-things

of course the married folks are not left out if anything they have been well prepared for …its on sunday the 16th of February…DATE NIGHT. theirs is a black tie event…so everyone is expected to come glamorously dressed. lots of prizes to be won. they are keeping it hush hush but because i am soooo kind…i will let the cat out of the bag ….

*photo session by a professional photographer

*free makeover

*blackberry phone

*suits for men

* 50% off comedy goes to church VIP tickets

*one night stay at a luxurious hotel

*free drycleaning

*free house rental agency

*wine and cupcakes

….and lots more.

the truth is everyone can win something . so be there. more details here…date night

sadly limited seats so pick up your ticket asap

then grand finale on sunday morning at our island centre with LOVE ME OR LEAVE ME 3

okay so that’s that but so you don think I’ve forgotten this is dilemma Tuesday and I have one dilemma for you. maybe because i didn’t mention the gift most of the winners didn’t call last week. so please pick up your free ticket to comedy goes to church. call bose on 08077714411…

since its valentine…this weeks winners get a box of cupcakes from sweetcerely yours sm_redandpinkcupcakes

okay so now that I have successfully wet your appetite, here’s the dilemma for this week

Dear Pastor M, I don’t know where to begin and I really would like to remain anonymous. My problem really is a bit complicated and I don’t know where to start from. my husband and I got married and for 5 years there was no child. There was pressure from every side but my husband stood firmly beside me believing that one day God would show up for us. at the end of the fifth year my husband got a contract job to work in America for two years and since I had a good job here I opted to stay back since the plan was for him to return after two years. while he was gone I got an offer to adopt a child from someone …this is my mistake…I never told my husband , I pretended I was pregnant and kept coming up with excuses why his travelling back was unnecessary (especially since he had signed a contract not to travel back to Nigeria for a year) till I had put to bed. I even came up with a story about not being able to travel so i couldn’t have them in america. bottom line, I had twin girls or so I told him as he rushed back home to see us. its been 6 years now and my babies are 5 years+  my husband is soooooo attached to them. they are very close and he can do anything for them. now the problem is, guilt is killing me and I live everyday in fear.  what if the truth comes out? should I tell him or should I leave things as they are? why rock the boat? I just wanted him to be happy…..Now I can’t even sleep at night.

okay people lets hear what you think…

remember best comments get to be my val ;-) …is it not cake that makes you a val :D  Ehn! oya win and be my val :-)



If you are reading this post then please first help me shout HALLELUJAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!! because that means I actually finished this post and was able to publish it. *phew* what a big relief. I have tried a million times in the last week to actually put up something but its been one challenge or the other. first my laptop packed up on me when I finally got it sorted I realized that I had lost the post which I had already written half way, okay so I brave that and decide to go forward, then my internet packs up on me and when I finally have that sorted out, my google chrome browser decides not to work, then I finally fix that and guess what, the file with the pictures I was supposed to use gets corrupted…like the true DCC member that I am….I refused to lose this battle and finally got the pictures sorted out….then Davida wakes up….aaaaargh! if it wasnt so annoying it would be funny…in fact  come to think of it , it is funny ‘cos at some point I considered putting the blog up for sale….lol!

anyway had to run some errands with my Pk, and now i have a well fed sleeping Davida beside me so here I am laptop in hand . OK so I am back ….AGAIN! honestly I wake up everyday meaning to blog and then somehow it falls on my important but not urgent list *covering eyes*. you too weigh it na, crying Davida or writing on blog? hungry pk or writing on blog, planning surprise for my pk’s birthday or writing on blog? be honest which would you do first? so you see, blog….VERY IMPORTANT BUT NOT URGENT

OH!OH! Vida’s up. ok feeding break…be right back….

I’m back. so now let’s do this, I will cut all the preamble and go straight to what I wanted to talk to you about. it seems the major message for me now is that of knowing what’s important. last week was my pk’s birthday and a lot of people sent me messages saying thank God you must blog today …and to be honest I started the day on that note. I carried my laptop downstairs and while I was there, the Holy Spirit (HS) asked me who the blog was for… I mean i had a million and one answers and reasons why I should celebrate the man i love till my dear HS said to me: everyone that is going to read that blog already know you love him but is that really what’s important for him today? then he asked me What are you doing for the celebrant? what are you doing for Pk….so i remembered that he had taught me once that you love a person by their love language not by yours… 

so i headed straight to the kitchen and whipped out my chef hat *wink wink* I gat skillz like that…;-) and by the time I came out of the kitchen my pk had a tray laden with prawns sautéed  in coconut milk, stir fried chicken, peppered snails, chicken gizzard sauce ….need I say more? sorry guys no pictures but if you guys are really nice to me I just may put up the recipe :-) …especially for new brides  like E’ …never know when you may need it ;-)  ….at the end of the day the second round he asked for was more than enough compliment…always pays to listen to the HS. yes I know I had a lot of disappointed blog fans in fact some have threatened me with placards but see now, the gist is better now na…abi?

so after the food it was time for mid-week service … and it was a celebration of how much my pk had blessed lives …testifiers in the house of their first time encounters with himPK-043

…I really would like to gist you about that but if ‘vida wakes up ehn! voice mail o! so let me just put up a few pictures… then of course pita and palmira were in the housePK-009


…even  ‘vida had the “can this be a human being or an angel singing?”  look PK-106

when palmira sang her favourite song TAMARAPK-102

… acapella was on hand as always to make pk laugh…PK-061  speaking of acapella, his COMEDY GOES TO CHURCH 2  is coming up soon. details later.

SACO totally brought down the house with his trademark vernacular jokesPK-109… but the high point of the night for me was when dassah blew out the candle on her daddy’s cake with him…PK-169

notice how the cake says happy birthday pastor daddy…lol.

after the wednesday service im sure pk thought we had exhausted all our surprises PK-108,

boy! was he wrong. by 7am, there was a live band at my houseDSC_1781 …as we drove out there were cars lined all the way to church with horns honking, headlights flashing, people waving and singing , almost like a political rally..DSC_1711DSC_1716DSC_1728 (1)DSC_1728DSC_1739DSC_1749DSC_1756DSC_1761DSC_1761DSC_1762DSC_1763DSC_1796

.i had a thoroughly embarrassed Pk on my hands….DSC_1788DSC_1730.

I laughed so hard…for someone in the limelight so often he is still embarassed by attention… more so that we were almost causing traffic…thank God for our traffic guys who quickly sorted that out. I love my church… I totally love my DCC workforce …. you guys rock… amazingly they had been there since 6.30am.

by the time we got to church TRI (choir)were already repping in their coloured jumpsuits, then of course drama and dance was so on point it even got a few people in he house crying…then I had the rare privilege of unveiling one of pk’s favourite comediansDSC_1809DSC_1811

…okon of the okon goes to school fame …well. lets just say we got okon to go to church…lol! simply hilarious.


all in all it was a very beautiful day for him…he’s still talking about it. says its his best birthday yet. i honestly couldnt pull it off without two of my very precious children…amaka and wale . love you guys sooooo much. errrr… next year is not far o! get to work guys.

okay guys i had more pictures but it kept stressing me so…even had to borrow my cousin’s laptop to finish this post…. the things i do for you guys… :-)

speaking of things …winners of dilemma Tuesday are…


*imperfectly perfect 92






please call 08077714411 on Friday to find out how to pick your prize…not telling you what it is….still in surprise mode ;-)

next week tuesday you get another dilemma. gotta run my coz needs his laptop.

love you guys



2014….and so it begins


happy new year guys ….

yeah yeah! I know its long overdue and I’ve been dragging my feet about blogging but hey here I am finally. So forgive already…

I know…its ‘cos you missed me right?  I missed you guys too . I’m here now and theres lots of good news .

So, the year is starting with a bang for us at just us girls naija (JUGN) and plenty more testimonies on the way

First one here… I’m happy to announce to you all and especially to E’ (now i can rest abi?) that we are now no longer owing wordpress… its so cool to be able to say we are now http://www.justusgirlsnaija.com

oh! what a relief it was such a mouthful to always tell people the blog address http://www.justusgirlsnaija.wordpress.com
and that’s just the first of many things to tell…I know some of you have heard that we had our first just us girls naija meeting for the year.

Okay so I apologize again. I didn’t blog about it earlier but will try and get the pictures and give you the gist of what happened that day but much later

for now let me quickly get this in….

so, there i was trying to get myself together to put to words the message God had given me for JUGN this year.

suddenly I get a BBM of a post someone had seen somewhere and to tell you the truth that’s what really got me out of my relaxation mode …theres too much to do and too much to say that i really shouldn’t be this relaxed at the beginning of a new year …Lord i repent

so this message i got? it left me shocked, angry, confused and sad for the entire human woman race and since today is Tuesday I didn’t want to waste anymore time

so ….. 2014 justusgirlsnaija blog kicks off with a dilemma tuesday post.

remember best comments get a prize

here goes….

“I’ve been besties with this girl for 15 plus years….she has been married for 10 yrs….

I’ve been sleeping with her husband behind her back for almost 9yrs....

we have a son & daughter together… they’re 7 & 3….

she knows nothing about this she thinks i got pregnant by one night stands….

her husband sees his kids regularly, pays child support, and pays my rent & utilities….

she is my kids godmother and her kids come over to have play dates….

her husband got divorce papers and is waiting to file them, he wants to be here with me and the kids….

my question is how should we tell her?

should i because i known her first?

should he because they’re married?

or should we all just sit down and talk?

Okay so once you get past the initial shock…try and put your thoughts together and tell me what you think

I’m still speechless….

I promise to come back and do a proper welcome post but I just couldn’t let this pass …



Hey people how have the holidays been so far? Seems really short if you ask me. Christmas should be like one week really. Okay so for those of you who thought solving puzzles was my last blog post for the year…. Sorry to disappoint you. Would have gladly let it be but…

I’ve been getting broadcasts this past few days and besides the fact that I find a lot of them to be thoughtless and annoying and I rarely read them especially if they end with pass this on to ten people in the next ten minutes and God will give you a miracle *rolling my eyes* won’t He give me a miracle if I don’t send it? What a petty god they serve. Thank God mine sends me FREE miracles daily. :-) these perpetual broadcasters have found another profound way to annoy me.

I keep getting broadcasts like “I know this year, God hasn’t done everything you prayed for but…” Or “I know as 2013 comes to an end you think you don’t have a lot to be thankful for but…” You know those broadcasts na. Wait o! Is it just me or human beings have suddenly developed the inability to count. The last time I checked we still had at least two more days to go before 2013 is over. Abi does December now have only 29 days in it? I don’t know about the rest of you but I have made up my mind to milk this year for what its worth and I’m taking everything that God promised me. I’m squeezing every last drop of the Word for this year.

Reminds me so much of the parable of the vine-dresser, the tree and the owner. You haven’t read it? Oya you must read it yourself. I’m waiting, open your own bible. Dust the bible first na… See all the harmattan dust :-) perfect! Now turn to
Luke 13:6-9

The vine dresser had faith in the tree so he asked for one more year. See, me I still have lots of faith in this 2013 o! Kai! I’m asking you for just one more day. Don’t give up on this year o! I know that like Jarius some people have told you “the year is over, don’t trouble the master anymore” (Luke 8:49) but like Jesus, I’m saying to you : “NO SHAKING!” Well, ok that’s not exactly what He said. He said, “FEAR NOT! ONLY BELIEVE!” (Luke 8:50) “same difference” *straight face*

Simply put, its not over till Jesus shows up. The tree was given one more year even though barren but we all know 2013 has been fruitful so far so all I’m asking for is one more day for it to give you every last drop of testimonies. Don’t give up…

So hold on… One more day… one more hour… One more minute…one more second… Until 2013 is actually over.


God bless you

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As I testify…


It seems like a dream, too good to be true…
I’ve laughed, I’ve sang, I can’t believe my good fortune.
I am the talk of all peoples- “God has been wonderful to her!”
Yes! God has been wonderful…so amazing to me;
I am one happy woman.
For years I planted my seeds with tears but today I return with shouts of victory and celebration bringing my harvest.
Today I testify laughing with an armload of blessings – psalm 126 (paraphrased MSG translation)

There’s a way that God will bless you that Words won’t do it justice. Today I testify not just with words but I return like Hannah to give over my “samuel” my answer to prayer, my proof that God’s Word works, my boast of God’s faithfulness, my Victory, my ntoi to satan. Today Davida Ifechukwunyediche returns to where she was conceived. She returns to be consecrated as a testimony, a spirit of prophecy for others trusting God.

Today Davida goes to church as we say thank you at a special service @ Dcc today by 12noon.

Years ago the Lord told me your children will be known all over the world as the ones Jehovah himself has blessed. Today a reality! Twale! Baba

Little did I know that eight years after I would be dedicating on the eight day of the last month of the eight year, a precious jewel born in the eight month. Talk about New Beginnings. God the master planner.

I will be back with pictures of the event later. Now, I need to get ready for church. Love u guys and thank you for all the prayers and love

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hi people

Before I even get into it, let me first get through all the cobwebs on my blog :D

Removing Cobwebs

it actually feels like I haven’t been here in decades. Lol! okay so decades is pushing it (YES, Eziaha it is pushing it) but the truth is it does feel that way :-) . I won’t even dream of boring you with what it’s like over here right now with baby, and a very full house (thankfully) but it’s been a whole new experience. Much awaited… but a whole new experience none-the-less.


Well, one of those days when baby just arrived, between a baby and a toddler, between breast feeding and getting a two year old to eat, between diapers and pull-ups (‘dassah) I was able to steal away with my friend Mabel for some major pampering . … okay I’ll be honest it wasn’t the major kind like with a massage, facial, the whole works kind of thing, it was a simple pedicure but omo, I will take what I can get right now ;-) So as I was saying, we went to get a pedicure and I sooooooooooooooo love pedis

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its one of my few luxuries, if I could, I probably would get one done every week so its amazing to me when I hear girls say almost as if to boast, “I’ve never had a pedicure” and I usually have my most shocked face ever as I say to them “you have got to be kidding me!”

It’s almost as bad as saying you have never been to a dentist…


okay so maybe nothing near as drastic but then it’s a luxury every woman should experience in their life-time . hey, what even got me started on pedicures? Oh okay, now I remember. I snuck out with my friend for a pedi and I  got this really sweet Asian pedicurist who gave me the full five star treatment,

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 as soon as I sat in the chair, she set up the all over body massage function. Then she settled into doing her job. I left there with feet so pampered and soft …like babies’ feet.

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Mabel on the other hand got another pedicurist who did her pedi like he couldn’t wait to get her out of there. I’m sure you are not asking who got the tip. As much as this isn’t a blog on character *rolling my eyes at some people right now* (you know your selves) oh! alright, so what if i always preach about character somehow…I will still so throw in a one-liner… it’s not just what you do; it’s how you do it that counts [selah]. Mabel and I left that salon with well-manicured feet but at the end of the day only one of us left feeling spoiled and pampered; hence only one pedicurist ending up with a tip.

And the real reason I wrote this was as we were driving home, I just thought of Jesus giving his disciples pedicures.

img_large_watermarkedOh! To experience this… it must have been heavenly, no pun intended. lol!  However, I’m sure he wasn’t just pampering their feet because they had trekked dusty isreali roads. No Jesus was trying to teach them a thing or two about service.  Honestly, I think it takes a servant heart to be able to “wash feet” or give pedicures in this case ;-) and that’s what Jesus was really trying to teach us.  You see, when you ask people about service or ministry which by the way are actually inter-changeable, they always claim to be called to the office of pastor, prophet or apostle and claim to be called to “serve”  in that capacity only. its funny how we miss out all the other silent areas of ministry.

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In the last three months I have been a student of the word in a different kind of way. You know when the bible says …and the word was made flesh? Well, I saw it literally. I learned what Jesus meant when he said in…”Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you”.  In other words I believe he was saying, SERVE! In whatever capacity and in whatever way.

You see, as a pastor and a minister of the gospel, I find a lot of times that a lot of people want to serve “me” in various capacities, that isn’t really uncommon . I mean a lot of people want to carry your bible (which by the way isn’t heavy) or get something for you and believe me I am in no way belittling what they do or try to do or their motives for doing whatever they choose to do but I must say I learned a new level of service in these past few months. Its easy for someone who calls you pastor or mama to serve you but when someone you consider an equal, a counterpart, a friend, literally takes off her clothes and wraps a towel around her and begins “to wash your feet” then I’m sure you know they have found a deeper revelation of the word “SERVICE” 

For three months pre and post pregnancy I have been surrounded by people who have totally challenged my understanding of ministry. How do you explain someone volunteering to be nurse, cook, driver, housekeeper, nanny and friend without pay and leaving behind everything and putting her life on hold just to serve you. …and she does it joyfully? This post is already too long for me to start to outline all she has done but one thing she has done that will impact me for the rest of my life is… shes taught me how important it is to love with action, how important it is to be there when people need your help. She has taught me that nothing is too menial to do for God or His children. she taught me how to wash feet …and to wash them as if I were washing Jesus’ feet. God bless you Mabel (aunty “naybowl” or “naybelll” as dassah calls her) ,you will never lack helpers. today, i celebrate you amazing woman. 


Love you plenty.



16 years ago, you proved how strong you were. Today, you are definitely stronger. God bless you love. He’s definitely holding your case file. Loads of testimonies this year ….i will be right tghere when you testify telling you, “I told you so” :-) 



AUGUST…. Still Sounding Good


Hi people

I’m back again. Honestly, no matter how tired I am, today is definitely not one day that I will miss blogging. I must make noise about my darling pk. Before I go on, Eziaha and Ada (even with your big tummy) well done o! I am still pretending like I don’t see all that naughtiness going on here but I am working on a blog post just for two of you. :-)

Okay so it’s not news that today is my wedding anniversary pic-9-weddn.jpgbut I am still just in awe of this God-written romance novel that I call my marriage. Honestly, so I don’t bore you I will keep this simple but I really just wanted to say this to that single girl out there…

Picture this scenario, young man with big visions and large dreams, a heart sold out to God but a bank account tied to heaven alone (no natural salary) and emptied (whenever full) right back into ministry work. This young man is “unromantic” by world standards – calls only when he has something to say and when he does call it’s with an “I just say make I hail you”, overly practical, won’t pull out chairs or open doors (wetin do your hand), won’t buy you credit just because you pout and make faces (my friend go and work, are you invalid?), wont pose because he likes you – will drink garri and offer you too and then abomination of all abominations when he decides to propose it’s without an engagement ring ; his response: “I’m marrying you not engaging you”. This is by the world’s standards the man to stay away from. Right?….

Wrong. That is my pk. The marriage and relationship guru :D ….a little over eight years ago. The one men are trying to emulate today and the one women are praying they find his kind (ameeeeeeeeen to all those ladies praying). That’s the man that I chose to marry not based on what the world was saying but on what God’s word was saying and boy am I thankful I obeyed God.

The reason I’m bringing this up today is that I see too many young girls turn away a good man because he doesn’t drive a car, he doesn’t buy flowers and candy or because of the way he proposed. Are you kidding me? I can’t even call what I got a proposal. He claims it was one but I believe that play play , play play I just somehow found myself at the altar. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.pic-1.jpgpic-4-weddn.jpg

But really the proposal was rather uneventful. In fact it was so uneventful that I don’t even have proper recollection of the date or the events of the day. I just remember us gisting about some trivial issue and out of the blue, he turns to me and says “how does august sound in your spirit?” August? Sound in my spirit? I had no clue what he was talking about at first. Until it hit me that I was being proposed to. So I said to him “August doesn’t sound anyhow o! if you are asking me to marry you, you better ask well” to which he laughed heartily and said “because I’m even asking you sef. You will see I will marry you in august.” Now talk about unromantic :D but today after eight years I thank God that I didn’t major on the minors, that I heard and obeyed God when he told me “he is the youngest and he is taking care of the sheep, arise anoint him for he is the one” (1 samuel 16:11-12)

My sisters (and brothers) if no be God, I for enter one chance. Because human beings must be human beings we always look on the outside, the razzmatazz and all the trappings but God sees the heart. I thank God every day I looked at the heart  and the beauty is that like the message bible describes it….The Spirit of God entered David kingsley  like a rush of wind, God vitally empowering him for the rest of his life.(1 sam 16:13). It just seems like since we got married, the spirit of God has been energizing him with ideas and the wherewithal to carry out the ideas.

So whats my point? Ladies marry well. Look not on the outside alone or by the world standards. He may not have today (my sister I drink garri well well o!) but tomorrow he may be flying you round the world upper class and throwing you surprise birthday parties on three different continents

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Oya I’ve preached let me now praise my husband small

eye.gif… beefers leave the room now. Lol! I’m just joking o!

Happy wedding anniversary honey,


I’m so glad I met you and that I’m the one in the strongest covenant with you. I’ll probably need ten thousand life times to show you how much I love you. So I’m leaving it to God to bless you more and more for me everyday. Thank you for your love, strength, faith and patience. Yay! We did it. Eight years and theres a new beginning in our arms.15-ldant-16

I know this is September and it is our covenant month where lots of great things happen for us  but the way I see it, august is like when you have sown corn all year, August brings in the harvest of corn but September? now that’s the month where the blessing is processed and corn becomes corn-flakes.

So baby let me reply the way I should have eight years ago….



…still sounding great

But September…always one to remember for us . so baby I’m expectant. Love you till eternity.


You sure no marriage in heaven? Because if there is and you don’t come and ask me how august sounds ehn!…. lol!


happy wedding anniversary to two of my favourite people .. MR AND MRS SAMUEL ONYEANI. i love you guys so much….and diekola mi o! owode o! of course lol!403843_10151183064170447_2000224154_n

and a big HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY DARLING PALMIRA. no need for too much talk you know how i feel about you.




hello people

I know, I know…

this is loooooooooooooong overdue.

many people have accused me that I have refused to blog after promising that I would put up the first pictures here.

let me be honest ehn… I no see mouth talk. I don see blessing wey pass me I just de look. . I wish I had the words….. I really do. I don’t even know where to begin to recount God’s faithfulness or describe the joy and peace and many little testimonies that added up to bring me this bundle of joy that you all see today.

I can only say this….God is faithful! and He is a master planner. maybe some day when I can and the Holy spirit has helped me find the words I will come back and update this post but for now all I can say is God is faithful, God keeps his word and He is a testimony giver,a doctor’s report canceller and a covenant keeper.

If you will dare to believe , stand on His word and say “If I perish, I perish, God will never let you perish”. because when we believe, he has no choice but to move in response to our faith.

I dare you to believe. anything is possible …..

and this is proof…..

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I also want to say thank you to everyone for the congratulations.I really couldnt respond to them all but thank you all. someone said to me you must be happy on YOUR testimony and honestly I felt she missed the whole point. This is not just MY testimony; it is OUR testimony.it is the testimony of EVERY Christian… it is our victory. It is proof that the Word works. #itestify!



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Over the years I have had pictures of me taken showing happy faces _DSC0060_DSC0164jug-173 jug-184 jug-204 but to be honest a lot of them never saw the light of day as I always felt, ‘ah! Ah! These people want to spoil my Margaret Thatcher rep, abeg this smile is too much o!’ lol! But some of course escaped through the cracks and made it to some BBM DPs or Facebook Pages Jacquelyn Martins-Okolie-1370336254545

but honestly I saw happy yesterday and unfortunately couldn’t take a picture I was too shocked

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So for those of you who don’t know let me quickly run an intro before getting into the gist proper. I’m pregnant after eight loooooooooong years of waiting IMG_00000241  vcm_s_kf_repr_960x540 and I’m in the USIMG_00000347 waiting to deliver right now and everyday has been so difficult because for the first time in my life my husband and I have to be apart. So, it’s been really hard. I miss him so much I feel, like I was telling someone the other day, that my body is here in America, my heart is back home with my pk and my spirit is in DCC. It’s been so hard. I practically cry some days for hours on end and of course because I’m pregnant I use that as a cover up ;-) but cover up or not it’s been so hard without my Pk.
So yesterday I was on the phone with him and he was saying how he was going for a long “ride” and because he’s a biker,

_DSC1191 I didn’t think much of not being able to reach him a greater part of the day yesterday as he said his battery MAY be down but I got a bit uneasy when the ride seemed to be taking so long and by 11pm Nigerian time he said there were a few hitches but he was back “home” at last and he was sooooo tired. I kept saying please rest and don’t go anywhere tomorrow. This ride must have been too stressful. Anyway for someone so tired, he called back and asked me to go meet someone here in Delaware that it was urgent and I had to drive out with my friend Mabel only to get there and find out the guy had closed. So off to the house we went. We entered sat down and next thing I know…. Mabel starts screaming, “who is in our house? Oh! My God there’s someone in here”. I just sat frozen like okay so isn’t this what you watch in the movies in America? An escaped criminal? Then I felt hands grab me from behind and my heart says, “These hands don’t feel dangerous. If anything they feel warm, they feel good…they feel familiar” then ‘Dassah starts running around screaming : “Daddy! Daddy! Daddy!”

My head almost exploded

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DADDY? DADDY? DADDY?! Who is daddy? When I turned around. I almost fainted

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I couldn’t laugh, I couldn’t cry. I didnt just know what to do. There was pk in the flesh standing holding me, kissing me. Honestly, me I still don’t know what I did for God or this man….. how can someone love another human being like this? Me I just tire. And to think Nathaniel Bassey was just yabbing me yesterday that this our love is too much o! that I should pity bb people. little did I know that I will show them more pepper today that my pk is here. So if you are on my BBM sorry in advance I will make noise today o! lol!
So I’m happy. I’m really happy, no I’m really really really very very very happy. I’m in shock, I’m lost for words and the funny thing is I know all the planning not to make me suspect and all the gymnastics to get here after service and all the stories he had to whip up and yet not “lie”. It’s my fault sha. I assumed home was lagos Nigeria when all he meant was where I was. I guess they say HOME IS WHERE YOUR HEART IS so being home is being where I am right? I’m just so thankful, that this is the man God gave me. I love him so much, he promised me exciting and has kept every promise. I’m really short of words. Maybe I will come back later and do a better blog when I’ve put my thoughts together. This is really too much. He makes me feel so special, like his life assignment is just to make sure I keep smiling.293401_10150339190141591_525496590_7999995_1177947104_n[1] How can one be so committed to another’s happiness. He hasn’t flinched once in eight years. This is consistent happiness.

I just kept saying “what can I ever do to repay you for all this honey? What can I do?”imagesCAC90Y1Q

I feel so loved. You see why I say he is God’s love to me? …my pk … GOD’S LOVE MADE FLESH… my king, my pride, my joy, my gift, my blessing. Everytime I am in awe of how much God loves me because of you.
…And all this is extra special for me because? Well, apart from the fact that my family is back together


well, almost all of us…. Miss you eky and joy… or the fact that I feel like I live in a perpetual fairy tale and I keep hearing …HAPPILY EVER AFTER or am I part of some romance novel written by God himself? I don’t know anymore. I sure do feel like a character in that novel and boy! Does it feel good. What makes it really special for me really is the fact that today August 13th makes it officially 8years since I was first handed to my pk as wife.05 07 11 12 13 18

Its our traditional marriage anniversary and honestly, I thank God everyday that he paid my bride price… him and no one else.
So …. What does happy look like? Definitely like this…. _DSC0230 _DSC1164

At least MY HAPPY.
Ladies need I say more? MARRY WELL O!
Thankyou Eky, chike, Barrister Jude and Kuratti. I’m sure glad I’m in all your good books if not….. your loyalty to this man. Hmmmm…. And even though you will all deny knowing anything about this, he’s told me already. I’m adding to my angel list daily. Love you guys.
Found out the cure to this pregnancy insomnia…. Slept like a baby ;-)

….oh! by the way, sorry guys bar raised again…lol! or like Eziaha said to me “I pity DCC men, their pastor keeps moving the goal post”. lol!



Okay people, I’m back and it’s just one of those I-can’t-sleep-so-I’m-blogging nights for me. It’s funny because for some reason I pictured being pregnant as my opportunity to finally be lazy, eat loads of junk food, and sleep all the time.17693-Clipart-Illustration-Of-A-Tired-African-American-Woman-In-A-Purple-Shirt-Resting-With-Her-Feet-Up-In-A-Purple-Lazy-Chair Tough luck still not a sweet tooth, I eat out of necessity and obviously as you can see I am wide awake loll!
So everyone is sleeping and here I am in the dark trying to blog.tumblr_mfveqk9eT21rj5dwto1_500

Well I’m not so upset about not sleeping. In my opinion sleep is over-rated (and I’m saying that now ‘cos I cant sleep; after all a bad workman quarrels with his tools). Now rest that’s another thing. Rest is very important, sleep hmmm….. I’m sure at some point I will sleep off again. Hopefully not half-way into this blog post ‘cos if not only God knows when I will be in the flow again.
So what am I blogging about today? Something I am absolutely excited about. In fact anytime I think about it I cannot stop smilingalexia horsfall-1373553335423.

I had planned I would wait till the event was like a week or so away before talking about it but I feel like a little child who just found out she has presents under the Christmas tree


and they say don’t open?! As in for real? So I’m sorry, I can’t wait again. Self-discipline out the door.

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Okay so when I saw this MK250813, It was on my pk’s bbm and beside it he wrote –it’s an event not my pin. I just thought that was totally hilarious. As in I’m sure some people tried to add it. Lol!just bribe me, I will send you his pin. Lol! But really MK250813 has such a nice ring to it and I am totally just excited about the event. So what is MK250813? It’s the best experience you will have in a very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very…….. get it? Very long time.
I’d like to say it’s a musical concert but that will be very far from the truth. In actual fact that would be belittling what will happen on that day. It’s a worship experience called SOUND OF HEAVEN and why I am so excited is not because  of the line-up of guest artistes or the fact that I will be there (sadly I won’t but I won’t let that dampen my excitement even though I’m still beefing all who will be there and get to blog about it for weeks on end Eziaha and Johnson take note). I’m really very excited because the host of this concert is very special to me….. and no it’s not my pk *I’m so rolling my eyes at all of you* I happen to have a lot of other special people in my life. Alright alright I’ll be honest PK is still the most special sha


…but I was saying before I got lost in my own little romantic moment just thereimagesCA0TC66Y

. I love me some pk sha lol! What? He’s my husband I’m allowed to drool over him like that

imagesCAI7DZFG lol!
Okay back to that other special person I was telling you about, you see the event is hosted by my son, yep! I get to say that . I feel like a very proud mum. He’s our musical director at David’s Christian Centre. Fondly called Minister Kenn or Mk by the members of DCC choir and dcc as a whole. No stranger to gospel music, he’s been singing since he was a kid, he’s shared the stage with gospel greats like Donnie mcclurkin, Micah stampley, kirk franklin among many others, and served with sammie okposo for well over eight years. I’m excited because we’ve never seen him unveiled like thisMK MK-1373807638973.

I know him personally and MK’s quiet unassuming spirit makes it easy for him to stand on that stage and sing with such great and powerful vocal gymnastics and yet all you see is God not him

MK-1371630408575. He has a gift that causes him to decrease and Christ increase – a very rare gift among musicians. I still don’t know how he does it. That’s why we often say that MK doesn’t just sing, he ministers.
Like I said I know him and his lovely family especially his energetic wife who has learned more than her teacher ;-)

moi . I will give you the entire gist later but I’m sure that if you are at the concert and wondering who she is, she is probably the one NOT sitting down, running in different directions making sure everything works. I know you will disobey me Ebele don’t worry :D . An army of ten thousand can’t keep you in one place when it comes to kenn I understand. I can be like that with pk too

So folks the date is Sunday 25th august 2013. Time is 4pm and here is the lineup of artistes at least some of them. I will blog specially about some of them this coming week but here are some pictures17618f033a2c6fe9d6b11e01ad6e797b 1208151322288777efe imagesCAJPHMCZ koreimagesCAZCCZQL onos sammy

Where else will you get this line-up? Trust DCC na…Peter Adewumi Nissi_ A crazy lover of God B-) !-)-1368443557383

we will definitely have your back :-)
By the way have you bought your ticket yet? It’s just N1000 and I hear it entitles you to a free gift at the event. What? You want to miss this one too? Na wa o! You missed mc acapella’s comedy goes to church…MK is bringing him back for you. You missed pita’s live in concert event…Mk is bringing him back for you. You missed Eben’s all the way event and now you want to miss this sound of heaven?

My friend run and buy your ticket jooor…
Must you wait for blog posts and pictures? Lol. I’m not even there so I can’t make any promises about blogging after the event. I’m even tempted to leave my pregnant tummy at the hospital here in the US, fly down for the concert then come back and push and you that you are there we are begging you to go and worship God. THIS IS ME LAUGHING AT YOU AND IMAGINING I AM ROLLING ON THE FLOOR AS I CANT DO IT WITH THIS BIG TUMMY

This is not an event you miss o! It will change your worship experience for ever.
Don’t worry I will give you more gist about MK later, the first time I met him and some other inside gist ;-) about him. so you see why you can’t miss this concert? Mark the date, buy a ticket for a friend as well and be there with hearts open and hands lifted ready to encounter the sound of heaven

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dilemma tuesday: inbox saga


Hi people
I’m back again. It’s officially still Tuesday in the US so I kept my promise :D . Here’s the dilemma for this week. Please read and comment. I will reserve my comments to the end but I was really shocked by this mail. Maybe I’m over-reacting. You read and tell me what you think and you know how we do right? Spread the word. Remember the point is to give counsel not to mock or belittle anyone.
Best five get a prize.


Dear pastor,
I need your counsel I have been dating this guy for the past 10 months now. He has not really been the perfect boyfriend, but I still understand him and all. For some time now, he has been receiving calls consistently from 2 particular girls. I asked him about them, he said they are just his friends. I happened to have his email and password due to a particular project we did.
So this week, something told me to check his Facebook inbox with my phone which I did. I went to look for the girls’ names and I saw their whole conversation from last year, and obviously from the way the conversation went, the first girl is his girlfriend. He goes to see her at her apartment once in a while. She cooks for him.
Another email I saw was about the second girl and he was telling a close friend of his whom I know very well that he was toasting and trying her already. I couldn’t bear it again. I prepared a text and told him everything he has been doing that I found out about and broke up with him. He started calling me, begging me but I didn’t pick up the phone.
We were texting each other, then I came out plain and told him how I got d whole info. He now flared up, that how could I secretly log into his Facebook account. That I could kill him if he gave me something adverse. That he thought he was worse and I am over here castigating him and he said farewell.
I really don’t know how to feel right now. I don’t know if what I did was wrong. He hasn’t even called me in the past four days to show any sign that he loves me, or to beg or anything. I feel sad about what I saw in his inbox, but he was cheating. Was there any point in sitting down to talk him?

Okay so folks what do you think? what facebook will cause sha :D



I’m sitting here and its 2:30am and for some funny reason I just can’t get myself to sleep. Some say it’s pregnancy insomnia , honestly I doubt it o! I didn’t get any of these pregnancy “ailments” and I’m thinking it’s a bit too late now don’t you think lol! I’m up so I’m making the best use of my time. I’m blogging aint i?

So anyways, here I am not able to sleep and exhausting all the songs I managed to get on my phone before I left home amidst the ones I have been begging for once I catch anyone listening to them on BBM. Shout out to Jacquelyn Happy birthday jackie'M!!!U will testify dis year_Azonto tinzz

my supplier. Love u darling and I miss hearing you sing Tasha cobbs power in the name of Jesus.

imagesCANZ35EX *cleaning my eyes* its official I’m home sick. It’s funny I didn’t ever get those feelings back then in boarding school as a young girl and now old woman like me :D mother of how many? This is ridiculous but ridiculous or not one thing I’m sure of is I miss home. I miss my PK too much , my eky, joy and the whole of DCC.
I’m sitting here and I’m listening to PITA’s “u don bless me” and really I cant help but thank God for his faithfulness. When I think of all he’s done for me, battles he’s helped me win… I’ve gone through all the names of God and honestly he has just been my EMMANUEL. He’s been God and yet God WITH me.ph_emmanuel_595x250
One of the biggest lessons I have learned in recent times is that God never leaves me. And I mean absolutely never. No matter what I do or how much I’ve tried to stray in times past. His hand has been there and he has just stood with me solid as the rock of ages.
I really don’t know if I can see through all these tears right now to finish this post but I’m just in awe of how God is just all kinds of beautiful. I now understand CECE WINANS’ song JESUS YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL TO ME. He is dependable, Unfailing, unchanging, unquestionable. I serve an incomparable, indescribable, unexplainable God. I lack the right words. He’s all these things and yet he is the God that is with me.god-for-us

He’s with me, He’s for me and He’s in me.

I recently watched a series called the bible

.192762 It was a dramatization of biblical events that charted the course of Christianity and the one thing that rang true and through all the patriarchs was their God consciousness. They all took risks, walked in faith, conquered territories with one thing on their lips: GOD IS WITH ME!!! I was just so struck by that. They understood the concept of Emmanuel even before the Emmanuel had been born. Its just such an awesome place to be and that’s where I am right now. Where I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God is with me… he is Emmanuel.
It changes everything. How you see yourself, how things work for you, how you respond to challenges and the steps you dare to take. God consciousness is the core of who we are.  we often don’t do much or live life to the fullest because we don’t know that God is real and that he is with us.

Yes ooo see why I love my church? :-)
Its 5:44am now and I still haven’t slept a wink but guess what neither has my Emmanuel.


He never sleeps nor slumbers. I just love Him.

Catch you guys later folks. I pray that today will be one of those days where you are suddenly seeing God in every place, at every turn and in every whisper. Have a God conscious day.
Love you
I know its Tuesday today and someone accused me of abandoning dilemma Tuesday. So here’s the deal, if I can catch some sleep, I will sift through my emails and see if I can put up one of the dilemma posts but you must promise to respond. As my ‘dassah will say “mummy you’d no say deal?” So guys deal? You’re supposed to respond with DEAL. :D :D:D


isn’t she just the cutest if that smile doesn’t brighten up your day, I wonder what else will?



hi people,
I’m back again  :-) . Feels good to have some blogging time o!.

Okay so like most of you know I’m in the USA, well just for a while I have a baby assignment here that I will need to finish soon so I can get back home ;-) and gladly too.
I’m sorry but I’m just not one of those “I’m checking out meeeehn!” kind of people. I love my Nigeria any day anytime


I’m what you call a real Naija babe… I love Nigerian food, pepper, Ankara, pidgin English, the many languages, I’m just hard core Naija sha lol! untitled

Now, I’m not blind or in denial that there are a lot of problems in this my Naija but the truth is leaving for me has never been an option. The question is where all of us are running to is it really better? Is it easier? Honestly, me I don’t think so oh!

Yes there are a lot of things that work out here, road, light, infrastructure, not to mention their medical facilities are top-notch hence my being here to be honest. After one episode in our Nigerian hospitals that left me bleeding from week 12 to week 18, I was sure I wasn’t taking chances with this pregnancy. After all, wisdom is profitable to direct. As my Niger delta people will say “After eight years? Abeg I no de for ha di di ( as in how did it [happen]?)”. That’s too much explanation abeg :D . So I bundled myself with my big tummy and here I am doing a countdown but that’s not what this post is about.

I was saying, because I have so much waiting time on my hands I also have a lot of watching time; the same way people go on trips to bird watch, I am here people-watching :D and I want to share some of the things I’ve seen:

Too many Nigerians are living fake lives here: sadly when they take pictures and send home they never really send the true picture. Too many of them are taking pictures with rented cars, posing in front of other people’s houses, doing menial jobs and wearing clothes with the tags still inside because they are sooooooo returning them tomorrow. They never really say it as it is so more people are giving up stable-will-get-better jobs in Nigeria and moving to the land where they don’t even stand a chance except to do menial or at best checkout counter jobs. It’s almost like a conspiracy, people send you all the flashy lifestyle pictures and then encourage you to come ….and suffer like them but of course not in those words.

People are selling their birthrights all in the name of citizenship: for a long time I actually believed that all those things were actually just in the Nigerian home videos or that well in this 2013 it had been phased out but omo! Imagine my shock at how many people are marrying “akata” just to stay in this country. Why? Biko. It’s not as if marrying the “akata” is going to ensure that you actually become a citizen or that you actually do get a better life. It’s actually hustle continua. I actually know someone who is married to an akata, he can’t stand the fact that she is so disrespectful, she smokes, drinks (even in pregnancy) and they stay in separate houses because no one wants to give up their lease and he’s okay with that! Or is he really? All this one just to settle in another man’s country? You see why my Nigeria is appealing? It’s funny the girl doesn’t even know he’s a Christian because he has to fit in. Most of them are taking things from these akata wives that if my fellow Nigerian girl were to do one millionth of it she would be back in her father’s house with a few broken bones and a black eye to boot. Hmmmm…..

Some people have lost sight of liberty: and this is what actually got me started on this post. You know how America is called “THE LAND OF THE FREE AND THE HOME OF THE BRAVE” Well unfortunately some people have misinterpreted that to mean the land where if you are brave and cunning enough you can get things free. So Nigerians will tell you funny things like “if you know your way, omo America is the land of the free”…. They actually mean the land of freebies. They are always looking for ways to beat the system. Someone was gisting me just the other day (and proudly I might add) how she outsmarted the system when she had a minor accident and the ambulance (which I might add is not free. Costs over $1000) that responded to her 911 call came and rushed her to the hospital. She had an injury on her leg and she was rushed to the hospital and her friend had told her to feign amnesia not to give her house address or anything. Of course they treated her and she kept acting like she couldn’t remember her own name. She was released the next day and asked to return. Of course she never did and was hailing herself as a sharp Naija babe that had gotten things in the land of the free…. And she’s a Christian oh!

Me I don’t understand the kind of freedom that makes us lose everything especially our salvation and fear of God. What is wrong is wrong. Before I came here to have my baby, a lot of people were telling me stories of people who after having their kids here were not given visas to return to this country ever. You see the problem with us is that we no de talk true finish. Most Nigerians come here, have babies and take off because no one will hold you. They won’t pay all their bills forgetting that USA is worse than big brother


Uncle SAM is always watching

.uncle sam So all this will come up when you go back to the embassy and you are black-listed. I’m just so sad when people because of free things sacrifice their true freedom.

Apostle Paul knew this would happen and he encouraged us to stand fast in the liberty in which Christ has set us free… and not to be entangled again with a yoke of bondage. (Gal 5:1) How easily we forget and allow ourselves to be caught up in all sorts of harnesses of bondage. Because of what? Dollars? Citizenship?

Funny enough there are poor Americans o! let me rephrase that there are many poor Americans o! Na them suffer pass sef for their own country, it’s ridiculous.

Anyway, my point is not to diss America in any way after all my kids will be born here but what I’m saying is THERE IS NO TRUE FREEDOM WITHOUT CHRIST and honestly, American streets are not lined with gold it’s just as littered and as smelly as Lagos streets and their tolls are so much more than Lekki’s own.

Omo I like my Naija and I will praying for those in leadership imagesCAGQFMCY that one day God will touch their hearts and we will eventually become the GOOD PEOPLE, GREAT NATION GoodPeople 

that we should be. God help us.

okay folks, I’m out of here for now. see you tomorrow again I hope.

don’t miss church tomorrow o! Go and hear God’s word and stay in the liberty.

love you guys . mwaaah!



Hi people
If you are like me and you are on blackberry, I’m sure you got a lot of happy new month broadcasts yesterday

900978_scaled_jpgacf63143ed35578c1e03503bbefe0d05. And because it is the month of august and the eight month of the year, I’m sure a lot of those broadcasts told you that the eight month represents the month of new beginnings.

So, it got me thinking…. New beginnings? New things? Has it become cliché? Or do we still wait with expectancy when we hear the word NEW. I know that a lot of times when we read the scripture that says, forget the things of old for behold I do a NEW thing we just smile and quote it very nicely back to ourselves but do we really stop and think about that word NEW? The Message translation puts it like this:

Forget about what’s happened;
don’t keep going over old history.
Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new.
It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? (Isaiah 43:18-19)

I just love The Message bible. God just speaks to ME every time 164188
What does NEW mean? NEW… novel, innovative, fresh, different, latest, pristine, original. Something that hasn’t existed before? Hmmmm…. So in actual fact we should be looking out for things that we are usually not accustomed to.wherethemagichappens
I like new things. New clothes, new shoes, new cars,  brand new  unopened stuff.imagesCA5C4IND I like to be the first to use things ….but the truth is I also like old things… I like my old bible

Underlined-Bible (maybe because I can seem to find everything in it even when I don’t know how to quote the exact scripture. Its usually been underlined or a promise dated), I like old friends, low maintenance old friends. People who you may not see always but you are already comfortable with so the relationship just flows …


I guess I like old things so much because I’m comfortable with the oldimagesCA8KKJK7. Old things are where you find your comfort zone. The truth is old is good but I find that if you can get out of that comfort zone mode that new is better.
You see, new is exciting, its refreshing and it can be life-changing especially if that new is from God. The funny thing is that God himself likes new things. He’s always talking about us forgetting old things and focusing on the new. he’s always declaring how He will do NEW things. just look its all over the bible

So I’ve decided in this month of August to step out in faith imagesCAFUPEPC and expect fresh, innovative, novel and original things to happen for me and that is exciting because? Well, to be honest I had almost gotten to the point where I honestly am not sure if there’s anything else that can surprise me this year……oops! I just heard God laugh *shocked face* he just said “darling, you ain’t seen nothing yet!”. *dancing a major jig* really? Still more surprises lord? Still more exciting, fresh and breathtaking things I have never seen before? Omo, testimony no de finish for where God de sha. I’m in awe.

Okay so here is to August, my month of new, exciting, innovative, fresh and original things. I hope you will dare to believe for this august too to be that kind for you. lets celebrate in advance abi?

Okay so before I go I have a birthday boy that I absolutely must wish a happy birthday. My cute cute cute little nephew Goziem Micah Enunwa.Aina not Aino (Ngozi)@_--

He’s dassah’s favourite cousin and “my bwother” as she calls him. Everyone else is a cousin, he’s her brother :D and they are actually like brother and sister shaIMG_00000092 img122(2) IMG-20130612-00855
This is to many more years of blessings, you will make us all proud in this life in Jesus name. We love you so much and we will have to have that party when dassah can be in the picture.
Okay so folks it’s a wrap. See you tomorrow.

Oh! my God 10kobo who are you? I am in shock right now. You are truly amazing. How do you read through an entire blog and comment on every single post? Wow! Please send me a private email. I really would like to know who you are and while you are at it for being my most dedicated NEW blog follower I have gifts for you. Please call 08077714411 and find out how to collect your gifts but like I said send me an email first so I can get your details and drop them off so you can get your gift. Love you and hey you just made it into one of my august NEWEST NEWS… mwaaah!

and just so you know I am challenged, I will reply every single comment even if it is just with a smiley ;-)

Gospel Artiste EBEN goes “ALL THE WAY” with colossal concert and album launch.



hi guys i really feel bad that I’m just doing this. seeing as the concert is in a few hours but i guess better late than never right? i  was going to do a full blog post but hey, why bother when God has used another great writer/blogger. so im reblogging :-)

okay so, if you want to read what i think about Eben then you probably have to be at the event to get a copy of the brochure . hehehehe.

ok guys see you later. my pk is back home now so I’m on a major sulking spree . i miss him so much i didnt think it was possible to feel like this *crying rolling on the floor*

i wish i was in lagos now but im not but if you are, then I’m major beefing you right now (just kidding) but be at David’s Christian Centre tomorrow for exciting services in the morning 7am and 9am and if you are on the island , good for you cos you get to hear pk live too at SIGNED SEALED AND DELIVERED at 11am civic centre opposite 1004 ozumba mbadiwe road VI. music by PITA. now you know you shouldn’t miss it. full day sha cos Eben’s concert then comes up in the evening. have fun guys.

i wish i were you lagos people right now….. *still crying*

If you see my pk tomorrow at any of these meetings, please tell him i miss him too much :-(

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I still remember. It must have been about 4 years ago or so while I was watching the TV when this music video came on air and a music band was playing on what also appeared to be roof-top of an uncompleted building.

Remember the video?

Remember the video?

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I didn’t really make much out of the song then until when a young man who seemed to be the lead singer of the band grabbed the mic and in a husky voice, he went “Wetin dey happen ooo, why are we gathered here”. …. I was still trying to figure out who the artiste was and what the song was all about when he went “imaranma Papa. Imaranma Eze. Imaranma Papa. Where You are is where I wanna be”.



All of a sudden, believe me the song began to make sense.

It was different from your average gospel song and best of all…

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Hi guys
Still in blogging mode o! Just haven’t had access to my laptop and its so much more fun blogging with it… Pixs et al.

Ok so I saw this picture this morning. Loved it so much I had to put it up. Hope it makes you smile at least.

See you all later. Two posts brewing…
Lol! Not telling you what yet. You’ll have to come back and find out.

All who responded to touched by an angel. Will reply u all soon. So sorry.
Enjoy d picture…

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tbaaheaderDid you ever see that series growing up? I did, and I absolutely loved it. Especially at the end of it all when a bright light suddenly surrounds her and she goes “I am an angel, sent by God”.

I always yearned for those kinds of experiences. I always wanted to see and encounter angels. I just believed that God wasn’t done sending men angels after all, the bible says He is the same God; yesterday, today and forever. So if Abraham got angels, Zechariah got angels, Joshua got angels and Mary got angels, well, permit me to be bold enough to say I expected to get mine too especially since I am under a better covenant.

And angels I did see, but like most people the problem was I didn’t recognize them as quickly. For some funny reason I had a stereotype in my head of what angels were to look like. As a young child I thought they looked like this ….Image

Then when I started reading the bible for myself I just couldn’t seem to shake this image from my head…Image be honest, that’s how you imagine them to look too :-) especially when you read the scripture that he gives his angels charge over you ;-)Image

Well, you see that’s the problem, that’s probably why we miss the many angels that God sends into our lives daily.

Its 3:43am here in America and I’m sooooooooooo wide away and for some reason God just reminded me of how much I have yearned to encounter angels and he has, like he did with the blind man at Bethsaida, healed me so that instead of seeing men as trees, in this case I started seeing the angels the way they were…..albeit without wings.Image

I’ve been blessed I cannot lie. I’ve had a very favoured life. I know God is partial to me…. Thank you, I know you will say he is no respecter of persons. Thank you but to me, my God loves me specially. I don’t know about you but this is a God that has moved innumerable mountains for me, he has opened countless doors and closed even many more. He has spoken to me even audibly if it was necessary to get my attention. Like it or not, I’m blessed Image

Okay so, let me get back to my angel encounters. I’ve met quite a few in my lifetime and before I start let me clearly state my disclaimer here and now. I am not doing a post on all the angels I have encountered. I am simply sharing a few experiences. Hmmm…. Because world people! They will now say and she didn’t mention my name… if you think like that, trust me honey, that’s proof that you ain’t no angel. Angels never allow themselves to be worshipped. They know they are ministering spirits here to serve and give God the glory.

So, angel number one…… wait for it…. Drum roll….. :D

Of course you guessed right. The angel of my life. My sunshine, my boo, my baby, my king, my friend, my pk. ImageThis particular angel I met again or should I say I really met nine years ago and my life totally changed. He doesn’t come with wings, trust me I should know ;-) besides I’ve checked every closet in the house ‘cos at some point I actually suspected he had them hidden somewhere but this man is more angel to me than any winged seraph. We’ve had some rough challenges and at every point, with him I always felt protected, it’s like seeing your guardian angel in the flesh. Someone committed to your joyImage. He lives every day thinking of ways to make me smile. I’ve really had down times, I remember the first few years of marriage when I would be soooooo ill and messing up the whole house with blood, he would clean up after me (and that is a big deal because he hates housework lol!) and never even act like anything happened, when I told him I had been certified infertile and that his chances of having a child from me were slim if not impossible. He smiled at me with love that I never imagined possible and held my face in his hand, looked me in the eye and said, “listen, I’m not marrying you for children, I’m marrying you because I love you but you WILL have my children” and that was the last he ever spoke about it. He took me to the altar knowing that this may never happen but for God, and once he could afford it, he started spoiling me silly like someone who had given him ten sons (yep, I know all you typical African men who only treat their wives well when they have given you an heir). He’s been my source of strength throughout these eight years of waiting (don’t worry full gist on that one coming up real soon) and today I’m so thankful that I’m having my angel’s baby.Image

And oh by the way did I say how fine this angel is?Image ….and he’s all mine *big grin* Imageand to think I would have missed this angel ‘cos I didn’t see wings anywhere? Hmmm…..

I met another angel recently, well a couple of years ago. You may not see her wings but she wears white alrightImage so I’m suspecting her seriously. Every single time I keep expecting her to let her hair down and say, yep you guesses, “I’m an angel, sent by God…” honestly, I don’t think I’d be too shocked. Pastor Laurie Idahosa is my friendImage. I call her my Elizabeth because like I shared at IMELA, it was her testimony that challenged me to believe God with such audacity. Wait! Wait! You were not at IMELA? You have got to be kidding me. And you haven’t ordered the DVD? *horrified face* I don’t even know where to start on that one so I’ll just leave it. *deep breaths Mildred, deep breaths*

So I was saying, with pastor Laurie I will not be shocked if she someday whips out those wings because who meets someone for the first time and just warms up and shares personal stuff that is like rhema at that point in the person’s life? Who sends you a box of clothes and stuff when she hears you now have a baby? Who buys a ticket and flies down from Benin not as a guest speaker but just to sit near a friend who wants to share her testimony? Who opens her home and leaves her car for you for four months rent free? In America, a land where nothing is free. I mean, who does that? Tell me what human being does that? Even some siblings from the same womb don’t go that far. So Pastor Laurie whether you agree or not I know an angel when I see oneImage. How can anyone person is so committed to blessing you and ministering to you. Nope, you can try to convince me all you want, my mind is made up. Angel number two.

Hmmm… who gets number three position? My darling EkyImage. There are some angels that are sent to you that even you don’t understand why? This one is a certified angelImage. I even know where her wings are  :D this one ain’t fooling nobody. I honestly don’t know where to start  with this angel. in fact there are no words. I just don’t understand how someone can be sooooooooooo committed to you and your happiness. It’s just so surreal. I can never even go into details but she is first among a major line-up of them. Starting with her, then my dear dear joy or aunty joy, joy, joy , joy, joy as ‘Dassah calls her (lol) and ending with the entire workforce at David’s Christian Centre and folks let me just tell you guys beforehand I will soooooooo sneak into the country when I am returning because I suspect a jamboree in that airport and I definitely don’t want to be responsible for that. So, sorry guys, no show for you *sticking out tongue*

Honestly I’m honoured to be surrounded by so many selfless and sold out staff, ministers and workers at Dcc. I know one day, those wings will definitely fall out and I get to sayImage “aha! Told you so”

I guess what I’m trying to say in essence is  there are people who God sends in your life but we end up missing them because we are too focused on the way they should be rather than the things God sends them to do in your life. Some people may not be perfect but they are sent to bless you. I remember when I first met my pk, I didn’t think he was fine or anything and I definitely had a picture of what “my angel” should be like- tall, dark, not Ibo, not a pastor, not hairy and definitely not light-skinned and oh! Did I say not a pastor? Well, he came in everything I didn’t want him to be. I was so blinded by all he was not at first that I almost missed what he was and the truth is now what he is ….Image.My best friend and angel are more important than “the wings” (stereotypes) I placed on him. This one especially is for all the single girls out there, be careful not to miss your angel just ‘cos you don’t see his wings ;-)

Ok so, moral of the story angels are everywhere, they are in the streets, at your office, in church, on Facebook, just expect to see them and you will.

Special shout out to one major angel in my life now, thanks Mabel. I see you but God sees you more importantly. I don’t know how many people will do what you did for me but I’m eternally grateful. Love you plenty and no point hiding your wings, I know you are one of them already :-)

Finally, the biggest and most obvious angel in my life right now: Mummy’s pride and joy and the cutest angel ever. ImageA million kisses my darling.

Okay folks that’s it for now. Please come back and see me soon. Be good and don’t take your angels for granted. Speaking of which I really hope I can be an angel to someone too. hmmm…. Let’s see what angelic things I can do today? Who can I make smile? What about you?

Let’s go and make some dreams come true ;-)

Praise In This Age


Hi people
What plans do you have for today? None? Ok so just wait one minute. Are you really telling me you haven’t bought your ticket for PITA’s concert?

Ok so where do you want me to start from? Honestly this sitting at home and hearing gist later e never tire you? If you were in Lagos and you sat at home and missed IMELA, after seeing the pictures, I thought by now you would have learnt.

Anyway, let us save ourselves the regret as I’m looking at you now… Sorry writing at you now :D run and go and buy your ticket. If its a beyonce concert now you will borrow money, cloth and transport money now come and Praise master Jesus…. Fire!!! I’m just joking o! But seriously guys DO NOT MISS this concert for any reason.

I’ve heard too many people complain about “church” music and how gospel music is so dry. Well not P.I.T.A and his name is simply what he represents – Praise In This Age. Praise our generation can identify with and boy! Is he anointed! The young man can S-I-N-G…

No need for too much advert. Just take my advice and be there this evening 4pm at DCC Victory Dome Amuwo. You will not regret it. I guarantee you. For more details I’ll put up the banner.

Also if you live on the Island, you are in for a really special sunday cos today my PK is stopping by for a one-day meeting this morning 11am at the Civic Centre Ozumba Mbadiwe VI. See ehn! Just leave your house ready for an encounter with God because after that go have lunch then hit 3rd Mainland Bridge for Pita’s concert. I give great advice don’t I? :D

Okay you can thank me later ;-)

I gotta run but quick reminder IMELA Dvds are out. Just N1000. Its the complete 4hrs 30minutes experience. Call 08077714411 or 08077714412 to get yours or just pick it up when you come for any of the meetings I mentioned earlier.

Ok guys let’s catch up later. Need to find something that still fits ;-) to get to church this morning.

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Someone asked a question, why do we sing? When we lift our hands to Jesus what do we really mean?
Someone may be wondering, is it all for show ‘cos at times we may be Crying when nothing’s even wrong.

I woke up singing this song this morning and it seemed like a perfect foundation for my blog post this morning.

Someone’s wondering why When Women Worship? Why IMELA? Why such a huge fuss about this worship meeting and if its When WOMEN worship why male ministers? :-) see, I know what you’re thinking :D

Okay, so let me fill you in on the many “WHYs” to this worship conference.

Well, in the beginning, When Women Worship started out as a monthly worship meeting where the ladies at Davids Christian Centre (DCC) got together to worship God for just one hour every month in the early hours of the morning. Eventually, we decided to become more extravagant with our worship and decided instead to make it yearly and include as many women as we possibly could. This year with a prophetic word like “2013: I will testify!” Hanging over the house in DCC, it seemed inevitable that this year’s conference would be tagged “IMELA!” And when I got this much awaited testimony I just could not help but give life to already existing plans to give God thanks in an atmosphere of Worship. So imagine 2000 women in an exquisitely decorated room with the most anointed music minstrels you can imagine. Hands and hearts lifted to the King of all kings. All focused on one thing: that the King must be Worshipped. That is what IMELA promises to be. The meeting IMELA is an opportunity to give thanks for your life and the many blessings God has bestowed on you.

To be honest, for purely selfish reasons *covering my face* I love them and their music and what they stand for has blessed me over the years. They’ve given me music that has helped me Wait (pita’s – E no de Sleep) to constantly reminding me of God’s sovereignty (MK’s -Arugbo ojo) his inability to fail (Nathaniel’s -Elohim). Total continued surrender in the place of worship (David Nkennor’s- without restriction) and when in need of middle praise Ibironke has been my girl. No matter how many tears you’ve cried or how low you’ve felt once she picks up her that mic you forget and just praise. And of course when the testimony came I had no words but God bless Nathaniel and Enitan. Their IMELA gave me words.

Today, and at When Women Worship, my song and my testimony has become this:
“You are the reason why I lift my hands, why I lift my voice, why I sing to you lord. You are the reason I’m alive today, I am here today and it’s all because of you.”

Why not join me on sunday 16th June 2013 for When Women Worship. Does this sound like a meeting you should miss? ;-)

Found this picture of my ‘dassah (my pride and joy, my miracle child, my biggest blessing yet :-) and her uncle “Banthaniel” (what she calls Nathaniel Bassey) lol! Hope it makes you smile. It gets me everytime.

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“… And she who was said to be unable to conceive is in her sixth month. For no Word from God will ever fail.”- Luke 1:36-37 (NIV)

Have you ever gotten a Word from God and a scripture you have been reading for forever suddenly becomes “your scripture”. It suddenly becomes such a personal and clear description of your life at that time in that place where you are now.

If any one piece of scripture does that. For me now, it is the one above. Sometimes I’m still in shock. Imagine me! To have lived like the Woman with the issue of blood for eighteen years and hear different doctors and medical journals and websites call you infertile and hear different doctors dash your hopes of motherhood while constantly offering you medical procedures which had a 25-40% chance of success then to move to the point where I’m being thrown baby showers. It is purely God keeping His word and showing off with my life.

I brag on God. I totally absolutely brag on the faithfulness of God and in his integrity and ability to keep His Word. I brag on the fact that NO WORD FROM GOD WILL EVER FAIL. Of this I’m sure. I brag on the God who unfailingly does the impossible. The God who specialises in making nonsense of medical reports. My story changer. Onye nji eme onu, Eze’m o! The God who answers the doctor’s “you may never have a child” with “you cannot be barren, or have a miscarriage and the number of your days I will fulfil”

I don’t want to give too much away yet ;-) this is just the preview but for full gist don’t miss When Women Worship coming up Sunday 16th of June 2013 at 4pm. I can guarantee you that your life will never remain the same.

You know how we do na. Spread the word and if you promise to look in on Tuesday I’ll let you in on some inside info about the guest ministers for When Women Worship. Don’t miss the gist ;-)

And oh! Thank you to the Ladies of RUTH’s GIFT. It felt odd to be on the receiving end of a surprise :-) God bless you ladies and may the rest of this year be full of pleasant surprises for you *group hug*

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Why I like June


Hi people
Welcome to the sixth month of the year. The month of June. I like June :-)
Why do I like June?
Is it because it is the sixth month of the year?
Is it because it is a gentle but sure reminder that God has faithfully brought us to the half way mark of such a glorious year?
Is it because June stands as a symbol that if God started out with you and has brought you this far that you are guaranteed he will finish that which he started?
Is it because it is an “ntoi” in the face of satan? That after everything he planned for the year that I’m still here, still standing, still strong and still testifying?

I like June for this and many more reasons. Funny, June is one of the few months that you can name a person after. You have a few “Aprils” but June, that’s symbolic of mid-way praise. That’s a good name abi? Just saying :D

Ok, ok, ok, (like my darling ‘dassah would say and I wonder why one “ok” is never enough :D ) let me get straight to why I like June so much.

“…and in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God unto a city of Galilee, named Nazareth…to Mary (Mildred) and the angel came in unto her and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is wih thee: blessed art thou among women…Fear not for thou has found favour with God”- Luke 1:26-30

So for me especially since 2005 when this logos became Rhema in my life, June for me has become the month of visitation. I expect miracles, I expect angels (no not necessarily the ones with wings although that one sef no go bad). I expect to encounter helpers or meet people that will leave a lasting impact on my life and an un-erasable praise on my lips.

I know a lot of people claim that angels no longer appear but I beg to differ. I still encounter them daily. That little child that runs up to you and gives you a hug when you are feeling down, that person that stops and gives you a ride right to your doorstep in the midst of rain, no transport and lagos traffic (and how come they are coincidentally going your way?), that person who tells you the “opening” has closed but just submit anyway, that one that suddenly sits by you and makes a comment that you find is useful information later (and they were not really talking to you o! ;-) ).

I could go on but my point is angels exist everywhere. Let us be conscious this month of them “Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it”- Hebrews 13:2. Expect a visitation this month and I can guarantee you that your expectation will not be cut short and you will have a lot to be thankful for.

Speaking of being thankful, mark your calendars for Sunday, 16th of June 2013. When Women Worship comes up. Honestly ladies this is one meeting you do not want to miss. Its simply tagged “IMELA” and in a year full of testimonies like this 2013, I’m sure you have a lot to be thankful for. I’ll be sharing my own “thanks-imony” so please come out and spread the word. Time is 4pm. No red carpet. No african time. Just 4pm prompt. Here’s the flyer but come back tomorrow and I’ll give you the full gist about the event, ministers and why we chose to do “IMELA”.

…And why I have been A.W.O.L on my blog *covering my eyes* sorry guys. I love you too.

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Still Waiting Lord…



Today I spoke to Hannah, she cried again. It’s been like this for seven years. Every time her wedding anniversary or birthday comes along; whenever it’s Easter, Christmas, or the New Year is approaching Hannah would go off on another bout of tears. Crying for her has become a lifestyle. Why is Hannah crying? Her biological clock is ticking. You see, Hannah has been married for seven years and every year is a reminder that in her words “I have failed as a woman.” It’s easy for me to sit here and say to her having a child doesn’t define you!” but only Hannah knows how it feels to have a womb that has never been used (isn’t that what makes you different from a man? Haven’t you heard that a woman is simply a man with a womb hence the name wom(b)man?), breasts that have never suckled, nights that are long and empty and a home that is never scattered or untidy. Her husband’s siblings all have babies, her younger sister just had twins and to even make matters worse her cat “kitty” just littered. How bad can it be? I mean even a cat?

The other day, someone whispered, not so low that she didn’t hear “don’t mind them they’re still on honeymoon. She doesn’t know she’s not getting younger” while a much bolder colleague asked her, “are you one of those women who don’t want children?”

“Why don’t you take another wife, a “good” friend asked her husband. “Abraham did it and you can’t be more “Christian” than him.” “Abraham wasn’t Christian” she wanted to scream rolling her eyes at the man while pretending she hadn’t heard him and serving him juice with a plastic smile on her face but Pelumi didn’t need this. He had been good to her and true to his faith in God. He had resisted all temptation. His confession remained “my wife will bear me a son from her womb.” He was a man of faith. But she couldn’t stop wondering was it fair?

Was it fair to require this of him? It wasn’t a ground for divorce. Should she cheat on him with another man so that he would be free? There he was again that stupid devil. “Shut up and let me think right” she said, more to herself than to the devil actually.

But was it fair? Married as a virgin, served God for as long as she knew, served in children’s church, worked at an orphanage, the list was endless but all I could hear as she pleaded her case before me was …filty rags, filthy rags. True her righteousness didn’t count so this was what I said to her and I’m hoping it will help my sister out there who is still waiting on the Lord.

 GOD IS STILL GOD: The sooner you realize that the better; If you choose to serve him, obey him, love him or not. It doesn’t reduce who He is and it doesn’t change his nature. Too many times when we go through pain we are tempted to lash out at God and we even go as far as threatening him sometimes. The truth is that we need Him more at those times and we will always need Him more than he will ever need us.

 GOD IS A SPIRIT: I can almost hear you say duh! Like I didn’t know that already. Well, I’m saying it again because a lot of times we don’t quite understand what that means. It means you cannot manipulate him with tears, cajole him with fasting or threaten him with all-night prayers. God is moved by principles and by His word.

 WHAT YOU NEED IS FAITH: yes, that’s exactly what you need. Since crying won’t help you what will? FAITH! Faith in God that he will keep his word because he always does. He will be God even over this painful situation. Nothing is too hard for him. I’ve never seen a challenge too hard for God that he cannot handle it. If anything, He is excited by challenges and our faith in Him to achieve the impossible. I’ve come to the realization that there are some things that God and I mean only God can do. Conception is one of them, He may use different channels – oral drugs, injections, IVF, etc but one thing is constant, you will need God to make any of these work.

 THERE IS AN APPOINTED TIME: I am a firm believer in what is known as the appointed time. God is a master planner and He is a God of purpose and order. I believe that there is a timing appointed for everything. The bible tells us …to everything there is a time and a season. Unfortunately, we don’t get to see the map in ful only in bits. If we knew the whens and the hows we would never need to walk with God. So I say believe that God has done it for you and wait for the manifestation at the appointed time. doing that shows that you trust God and that you believe He knows what He is doing and that He is and a He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him. Don’t worry God will show up. The testimony is sooner than you can imagine and when it happens, the years of waiting will all vanish. Take it from someone who knows ; -)

Having said all this, I’d like to encourage you if you are still waiting to go out there and be a blessing to as many people as you can. Be the best aunty or god-mother you can possibly be. It’s just dress rehearsals because you will SOON be a mummy. Remember that NONE SHALL BE BARREN (Exodus 23:26).

I also encourage you to take a bolder step and go and adopt a baby, be the answer to that child’s prayer as the child becomes an answer to yours. Love that baby with all your heart and if the baby ever finds out (s)he was adopted, let him or her never be able to question your love or motives because you never left room for doubt that (s)he made you a mother.

babyChildren make us mothers not just by being born through our bodies but also being born through our hearts.

Now, let me finally say thank you to all the wonderful people who took time out to respond to last month’s dilemma Tuesday post by Honest Sister and by doing so helped a sister in need. Im sure after all that counsel she now knows what to do. Here is the much awaited list of winners. Sorry it took so long guys *covering my eyes*

1. Mirabel Faith Agboro

2. Michael Caleb

3. Motunde Akiode

4. Shot Caller

5. Ffayi

I know I promised five (5) winners but I had a personal favorite whom the judges somehow skipped so I’m adding her to the list. My final and in my opinon the best is BEEHIVEP.

If you’re one of the winners please call 08077714411 and find out how to pick up your prize of our LOVE DATING AND MARRIAGE 2012 complete messages on MP3. And for beehivep I’m throwing in my Just Us Girls (volume one) book as well. Watch out next week for dilemma Tuesday. Who knows, it just may be your turn to win a prize. Take care people.

should I adopt?


Its dilemma tuesday yay!!! Another chance to win lots of prizes. If this is your first Dilemma tuesday, this is how it works. I share an issue and you get to comment on the issue. We’d really love to hear what you think. Five best comments get to win a prize.

Don’t be shy. Let’s know what you really think. There’s no right or wrong answers ok? Oh by the way all comments to qualify have to be submitted by friday. Let’s make this fun. Spread the word. Broadcast the link, post on bb, facebook, twitter, etc. You just might win a prize also for sharing the link ;-)

So here’s today’s dilemma.

Dear pastor,
I’m writing you because I have an issue. I read the last dilemma tuesday and honestly I don’t mind getting people’s views on this.

I’m a 35 year old woman. I’ve been married for 8years. My husband and I met when we were working at the same bank almost 10years ago. Long story short. We fell in love got married and after 8years our nest is still empty.

At first my husband and I were building our careers so we agreed not to have children for 2 years. So in actual fact we’ve only been looking for 6 years. We didn’t use any contraception just the natural method as I didn’t want to mess up my hormones or anything like that. However now I’ve done many tests and treatments. I’ve even tried IVF twice to no avail.

Last year my husband came up with suggestion that we adopt. I waved it off and told him we should still trust God and keep trying. Last week he started talking about it again and he even gave me an ultimatum that I either give him a child naturally or by adoption or else. My husband is a serious christian so I know it is an empty threat but what do I do? I don’t think everyone is created to be able to handle adoption. At least I don’t think I can.

I’m being honest and practical here. These are my issues.

#1. I cannot handle the stigma of adoption in Nigeria. How do I explain to people that I adopted a child? What will people say?

#2. I will see the child as a constant sign that I failed as a woman to conceive

#3. Will there be a natural bond? Could I really love that child as my own? I don’t think I can.

#4. What if after I adopt. I get pregnant. What do I do then? What happens? Will I ever treat them the same? I suspect I may be partial to one.

#5. My husband wants me to adopt a new born or at least a month. By then you can’t tell the child’s genotype. What if it is SS. Its not a dress or car you can return so I’m stuck? What if the genotype is AS? My husband and I are AA. What explanation do we give the child later?

#6. Also if the adoption is done neatly, or the child is an orphan, I may never know the child’s parents, their character, circumstances of conception. Who knows it might have been a rape child. So many other things.

#7. Raising a child is life altering. Can I really do all I should for this child wiithout feeling like its not really mine.

Pastor, I’m not a heartless person. I actually even love children but I’m just being honest about my fears here but my husband has really been good to me and he’s just tired of not having a child in our home. He says children bring joy and peace into every home and they keep you young. His stand on the issue is “while we are praying for children; a child is praying for parents…”

What do I do?

Please I would like to remain anonymous. Thank you ma.

So there you have it people. Let’s help a sister out. U can reply with “dear honest sister” since no names given.

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I’m sitting in my hotel room somewhere in the heart of France (yes, on holiday in paris :-) Marry well o! ;-) abi?) and as I flip channels trying to find an English speaking one. Breaking News flashes across the tv screen RENOWN NIGERIAN AUTHOR CHINUA ACHEBE DIES AT 82.

It got me thinking today….
*If you died today? Would it matter?
*Would you have made a difference?
*Would you be missed?
*Would you be easily replaced?
*Could you honestly say you did all you could have or at least that you tried sha?

I know if you were to drop dead, you’d make a couple of BBM dps or some facebook pages. Maybe for some of us, news paper mentions or if you’ve really made a difference, if you really touched your world then you’d be like Pa Chinua who despite being born in a little Ibo town in Eastern Nigeria, probably no fire-works at his birth but who by putting pen to paper has the whole world even a French speaking nation (and I’m not sure he even spoke French sef) announcing at his death that he lived. Yes, he lived.

Irrespective of where he was born, the era in which he lived, the wars he witnessed, the personal battles he had to fight, the point is… He lived. He walked the face of the earth at one time and didn’t leave unnoticed. He made a mark by doing what he knew to do best. He put pen to paper. May seem simple enough but he made a difference. He announced his name and made my surname popular ;-). You haven’t read things fall apart?! *my most shocked face* You don’t know “Ebube Dike?” I give up! :D. So what are u waiting for? Hurry go grab a copy.

On a more serious note though, I guess what I’m trying to say is live your life so that it will matter as much in life as in death.

Some people are celebrated in life; Some in death (they throw them lavish burial ceremonies even when they were poor, miserable and un-appreciated while alive). Others because they are dead :D but I think really after all is said and done the big question is will you be celebrated in the after life? When you face your maker what will the reception be?

What you had, who you knew, whose bb you were on, what you wore, what you drove, all these wouldn’t matter so much then would they? Its who you were when no one but God was watching.

Death always makes me think about life……and the after-life. Maybe you should give it some thought too. Jesus did that’s why he came and died and ROSE. He’s alive o! Receive what He did for you and living will make more sense, death would just be taking a lift to the next level and walk into heaven red carpet style. How could you ever pass up this offer?

If you die without knowing Jesus and accepting what He did, trust me. Things will fall apart and no centre can hold.

Want someone to pray with you about making that all important decision? Want to surrender your life to Jesus and have someone talk to you? Pray this simple prayer:

“Dear Lord, I come to you today and confess that I am a sinner. I believe with my heart that Jesus died and rose again for my sin. I confess with my mouth that I receive you today as my lord and saviour. Come into my heart and give me the grace to serve you all the days of my life. Today I am born-again and heaven bound”.

Yay! Party in heaven right now *dancing a serious jig for you right now*
Now Call +2348077714411 or +2348028356363 and someone will be glad to answer all your questions.
Love you guys.

Dilemma tuesday coming up this week. Get ready. More prizes to be won.

After all said and done, I celebrate you Pa CHINUA ACHEBE. A legend. Because of your gift of language. You made us love books and respect our rich cultural heritage especially our Igbo proverbs. We all dare to dream and put pen to paper or in our case, fingers to keypad. You make being called a writer something we yearn for. You make us proud to be associated with you… to be called Nigerian….and for some of us lucky ones “Ndi Igbo”.

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Happy Valentines day people.
I truly hope today remains a day to celebrate true love and not a day of regrets.

Ladies please be careful today. Don’t lose your virginity over a N5000 cake or a N2500 box of chocolates. Its so not worth it. If he truly loves you let him wait. Remember Love is Patient (1 Corinthians 13)

If he needs you to sleep with him to prove you love him then he’s not your valentine anyway thought vals day was for people who were already confirmed lovers ; those already sure #just saying. Besides why is it only him that needs reassuring tell him “if you love me then marry me first too”.

Today please please please don’t fall into the trap of feeling bad that you don’t have a valentine or someone to take you out. After all it’s just one day and I heard something recently that though made me laugh also got me thinking “you don’t have a valentine so what? Some people don’t have a mother on mother’s day or a father on father’s day…” Quit complaining and get a life. Must we even celebrate every occasion? I don’t see you crying on Eid il Malud or one of those Muslim holidays if you’re not a muslim so take it like one of those hoidays. You’re not a part of it so what?! But if it helps you sleep at night buy yourself a present and DHL it to yourself. Really whatever rocks your boat.

My point really is don’t let things that have no eternal value dictate how your life and emotions turn out.

Anyway, just so you know. I love you :-) at least you’ve heard one “I LOVE YOU” today.

Just thought to leave you with this picture. Have fun today but don’t do anything that you’ll regret.

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Winners of Dilemma post 1


Hello people

First let me say everyone did a fantastic job on giving counsel. Like I said earlier I wish I hadn’t promised to pick the best three.

Well technically I didn’t really. I got a panel to pick the winners and they came up with a few names. Personally I have a few favourites but I’ve decided not to make any enemies. Apart from the names I will publish now. There was one person whom I particularly loved her post. Unfortunately some people felt she had to be disqualified as she is family: Diche (my sister). Sorry love seems like being related to me isn’t always a plus :D but don’t worry dear I’ll give you the names of all the anti-diche crew. I still don’t think this disqualification is justified sha. After all you don’t choose your family.

Here are the list of winners because I’m so sweet :-) but honestly because its easier than streamlining to just three ;-) we’ve put together twelve winners. Yep! You heard me twelve.

Ms giddy
Uchay Ifediniru Onuakalusi
Danielle Ajijedidun
Maxi Lopez

So if your name or pseudo-name is in the list above then you get a copy of Nathaniel Bassey’s video CD. Please call 08077714411 to find out how to get your prize.

Omotunde Akiode I also thought your post was very apt. I loved it too. Some of the panel thought it was too harsh though but I thought it was hilarious :D Loved it and because of that you also get a gift don’t care what anyone says ;-)

… And oh! For spreading the Word the most Eziaha you get a gift too ;-)

Like I said earlier. You all did a great job. Thank you so much for contributing. Watch out for our next Dilemma post. More prizes to be won ;-)

And if you didn’t win, just contact me I’ll give you the names and numbers of the panel of judges :D

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I should be Married but…


Nkechi is pretty, she has that kind of figure that makes other women jealous and men… Well, let’s just say in some cases, men have been known to struggle with their salvation ;-) , she’s smart, has a great paying job and a thriving business, drives a car, Nk can cook no let me rephrase that NK is a great cook. She’s one of the few who survived from a breed gradually going extinct. Nk is a home-body, great with kids, large and selfless heart, would give their right eye if it would guarantee world peace (not me o! I’m sooooo keeping my eye. Anyone that wants peace should receive Jesus). She is a praying, bible believing and living someborri aka born-again and spirit filled. You know them now, homely yet don’t mind a few trips here and there, not really scared to try new or fun things. Nk is what most of us would call “wife material”. So what’s the problem? Nkechi is not anybody’s wife. At least not yet…

Idarabong, hmm… Now she’s the joker type. Always has a good story to tell. Always spreading joy. I suspect that she has her sad moments but she never shows it. Idara has a motto: “as far as we’re alive… Keep rocking!” She doesn’t believe in regrets. She’s an athlete, lithe body, healthy bank account, caring heart and godly spirit. She’s actually pretty whenever she decides in her words “to do the girly thing”. Idara is a gem. Her husband will never have a dull moment in marriage but there’s just one problem. Idara doesn’t have a husband at least not yet…

Oluwafunmike. Care giver. Event planner extra-ordinaire. If you have funmike at your wedding you can arrive looking pretty and not have to worry your head about anything. She is warm, confident, professional, organized, a thinker, planner and executioner. Funmike says it’s God’s ability at work in her and is always quick to talk about her God or his power to organize lives. She loves God like that and its very infectious. Funmike could plan anything and we’ve all been waiting to see what her own wedding will be like. The only problem? There’s no wedding in sight. At least not yet….

Ifechukwude has a voice that angels would envy. She is that girl we all love to hate in the choir. She is beautiful, she can sing, she is anointed, and has great dress sense. Ify works for a multi-national company and earns a healthy salary. She’s so well put together that we always tease her that on wedding day, the cake designer would simply put her on the cake as she’d definitely look good enough to eat.
There’s only one problem. There’s no wedding cake without a wedding.

All these ladies are pretty, born-again, hardworking and nice. Yet not married. Sometimes when they pass people snicker, some are insensitive enough to ask “why are you not married?” Well, because the last time I checked “one cannot marry one’s self.” You’ll even hear “you de choose abi?” Sometimes I wish that was even the case. It will amaze you that some of these girls have never even been proposed to. I know someone who everyone assumes she’s in a relationship with someone abroad. Meanwhile nothing o!

I’m sure you know these ladies. Of course you do. Just look around you. Nkechi is your sister, idara is your childhood friend, funmike is your cousin and ify often sits beside you in church. Hey! It may even be you.

These past two months I’ve had a lot of young girls (well by marriage standards not too young anymore) who have called me in tears or sent me a pain-filled email or blackberry message. Most under parental or societal pressure and many more willing to settle for even a bad marriage. At this rate, anything really.

My dear I’m writing this to all of you nkechis, idaras, funmikes and ifys. I know you are called by many other names but your story is the same. Some of you have even started asking is something wrong with me? My darling there is NOTHING wrong with you. Some of us just have to get our miracles as a testimony because God wants to use your story for His glory. Remember with every testimony there is a test. But know this: your story must end in glory.

I need you to do three things for me

1. Find God’s promise to you on marriage and settle it forever. You will be married and he will be one of God’s worthy sons who will keep wondering where you have been all his life and practically worship the ground you walk on.

2. Guard your heart. Be careful the counsel you allow into your heart. Some people will say you are not trying hard enough, you don’t go out enough, you don’t dress scandalously enough. I even heard one ridiculously stupid counsel yesterday. Someone just broke up with a guy who beats her, has no job and verbally abuses her and on top of it is not even a serious christian and all her “married” friend could tell her was “you didn’t try hard enough. Is this how you’ll keep running at the slightest thing? Do you know all the things my husband does to me? I can’t say what others are saying just to make you feel good. Marriage is work”. I was soooo angry when I heard it. One of the things I’ve learned in my life is people never wish you better than they have. Just because that thing she calls a marriage is terrible she believes every other person who has a great one (like me :-) yes o! Beef me or not. I will testify. God blessed me with a wonderful husband that’s why I believe everyone deserves to marry well) is just telling stories. If your marriage is bad. Accept you made a mistake and stop spreading the gospel of manage any man. Besides because someone is married doesn’t mean they can counsel you on marriage. Please cross check with the Word of God. Yes marriage is work but its enjoyable work.

3. Enjoy your life. Yes, enjoy your life. Don’t allow world people (you know them na “AWON OMO AIYE!”) make you feel like you have a problem because you don’t. Except of course you have bad character then change but if not I beg you being single is not sickness. And if you’re cynical enough to think that it’s easy for me to say because I’m married. Well, then its probably the state of your heart that’s keeping you single. Honey if you think like that you’ll get bitter and bitter women repel. So have fun, attend friends’ weddings and be genuinely happy for them. Don’t be desperate, don’t panic and don’t worry because one thing is sure – HE THAT WILL COME, WILL COME! NONE SHALL LACK HER MATE. You will definitely testify this year *big hug*

Send my IV o! No story ;-)

Thank you so much every one who spread the word on the AM I RIGHT? Post and especially all who commented. Everyone did so well. Wish I hadn’t promised to pick a winner but promise I did and God helping me I keep my promises. So I’ll pick a winner but so I’ll save myself from entering more trouble entries close tonight. Winners will be announced on Friday. If you no win abeg no vex o! Try again next month. ;-)

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Am i right to feel this way?


Hi people
I told you to watch out for today’s post but actually every month on this blog you get a chance to win a prize as I will be putting up a dilemma post. The post would be a bit different than the usual ones. I’ll be putting up a scenario and I’ll be needing your help on it.

However for today, there’s a young damsel in distress. She sent me this email and I need you to tell me what you think. Best three comments win a prize.

So I’m counting on you people. Here’s the email.

Dear Pastor M
I’ve followed you and your husband’s ministry for a while now. Ma, I’m writing you now because I need your help. I am engaged and my fiance and I plan to get married sometime towards the end of the year.

Something happened today and I’m really very angry about it. My fiance just got a house and we are trying to furnish it. I’m out of town for a bit on official assignment but he called me today really excited that his mum came to the house and since she didn’t see anything in the kitchen she went ahead and bought him a stove, some pots and some plates.

Pastor can you imagine?! I feel it’s my home and not hers! How can she buy stuff in my kitchen?! It’s my kitchen and not hers! How can she do a thing like that without asking me first. The only meaning I can read into this is that she thinks I can’t furnish my house! I’m sooooo angry right now ma. I’m not happy about it at all and there won’t be peace in my heart until I remove everything she bought and give them out. The only way I will be happy is if I buy my things myself. Why can’t she allow me to buy my things myself or why didn’t she wait to give it to me as a gift after wedding? I feel by this act she has made it clear that she wants to run my home.

I’m away for a month and will be back soon but I know what I want to do is to remove all the things she bought. My only dilemma is how to tell my fiance without him feeling bad. He may not see it that way and may be upset that I am making a mountain out of a mole hill but pastor what do you think? Am I right to feel this way? Should I tell him or should I just do what is in my heart? I love my fiance and I don’t want to hurt him.

So people there you have it. What do you think? Remember best comments win a prize. Winners will be announced next week Tuesday.

And oh! Let’s make this fun. Tell as many people as you can, reblog, share the link on bbm, facebook, twitter, etc

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My Life Changer…


There are some people you meet and your life changes forever. There are some decisions that you make that changes the course of your life for good. Now, indulge me and put these two scenarios together and imagine how your life will turn out.

That’s my story. I made a life changing decision about a life changing person. My life has never remained the same. Today I celebrate the day he was born and the fact that he was born. Some people are born ordinary and somehow manage to live an extra-ordinary life. That is not pastor Kingsley Okonkwo’s story. Nothing about his life is ordinary I can tell you that for sure. Starting from how he was born in the back seat of a car on the way to a hospital. In a hurry to fulfil destiny if you ask me.

Anyway I won’t go into all the plenty stories about his life. I’ll save that for another time. Besides I’m just here to say thank you Lord that he came and that he’s my husband *make una marry well o!* In more recent times my daughter Hadassah and I have been having a little argument. She would often run up to her dad. Hold him tightly and say to me with a very mischievous twinkle in her eye “Mummy he’s ma honey o!” Then after we’ve engaged in banter for a bit she’ll say “Ok! Mummy he’s ma daddy o!” Makes me smile that at one year ten months she already values how special her father is and special he is.

Honey you know I pride myself in being able to express myself in written word but this year, somehow words fail me…. Allow me to just say thank you. For what you ask? For everything. For your strength, for your courage, your patience, your love, for staying true to what you believe and above all for being you.

Happy Birthday baby. One thing I’m sure of is this year WE WILL TESTIFY!

… And oh! For the record ‘dassah back off this one is ma honey o! *straight face* :D What I’m trying to say honey is I love you with everything that I am and you’ve definitely changed my life.

Happy Birthday Rev Sam Adeyemi. I celebrate you sir. You are such a huge blessing to us. I love you, love you, love you sooooooo much.

Watch out for tomorrow’s post. Its a quiz post. Best comments get a prize. Not telling you what :D at least not yet.

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Hi people
I’m just wondering how many of us still do the new year resolution thingy. :D :D I’m laughing because I gave up long long ago. If you’re like me barely keeping them in the first two weeks you’d give up too.

I’m not too hard on myself about it though because they were never really life-changing or life-threatening resolutions. Hey! I’m still here aren’t I? And I broke every single one of them I can tell you that.

However I’ve come to the realisation that its only the life-changing goals. That really matter. So here’s my 13 things that will matter most in 2013.   These are things that should be worked into your life consistently and you are bound to see a big difference.

Let me warn though, the key is in consistency. You can’t do them one off and expect results.

So here goes

1. Your Relationship With God:


this will be one of those years where knowing God won’t just be a plus. It will make a huge difference in your life.  And trust me this isn’t just pastor talk. See, there are things that only God can do and you’ll need a lot of those this year. The bible says (yes the bible… Stop rolling your eyes at me madam :D ) those that know their God shall be strong and do exploits- things worth testifying about (Dan 11:32). If you know God and have a relationship with Him, you’ll be like a genius. Trust me 2013 is a good year to be a God worshipper, He’ll let you in on a lot of secrets – that will favour you. Knowing God will make this a very easy and productive year.

2. Your Relationships:


this year you will meet a lot of people. You need to recognize them and the roles they will play in your life. Your 2013 will be defined by the people you let in and out of your life. So be careful. Some people are actually better out than in. Ask Father Abraham (Gen 13:14-15) Lot left and Voila! Miracles began. After all, it was the year that King Uzziah died that Isaiah saw the Lord (Isaiah 6:1). So don’t be afraid to break up with that nuisance you call a boyfriend or that “friend” that if called an enemy it would be more of a compliment sef. Point is if you don’t feel good about the relationship even the tiniest bit, darling say “Au revoir” and shut the door behind them. Make new friends, laugh a lot.Image Enjoy life with people who love you in 2013.

3. Your Faith: have faith2013 will be the kind of year you won’t forget in a hurry but it will be dependent on what you can believe for. God’s ability to bless has never been in question. Its always about what you can believe to receive. As my Pk always says “It takes the will of God and the Faith of men to make miracles happen.” So honey, dream big but more importantly put your faith to work. If you can believe it. God can do it.

4. Your Life-style:you-only-live-once-but-if-you-do-it-right-once-is-enough-mae-west-quote sweetie this year the way you live will matter. We often forget that we are here only briefly. So we only have little time to do so much. This year be conscious of how you live. Don’t take for granted the fact that “its my life abeg.” It is your life but it was given. You didn’t earn it. This is the year where your life should mean something. Be a positive role model. You de forbid for person to call you mentor? :D  we have so many young people looking for people to emulate. Please help them. Live a life worthy of emulation. Don’t be two-faced. Don’t live recklessly forgetting that other people live on this earth with you. Be considerate.

5. Your Ability To Forgive:cant forgive okay so people will offend you. Get used to it. After all, you too will offend people. that also means learning to forgive yourself for your own past errors. This is not a year to keep grudges. Avoid circumstances where  people tell you stories about what people are doing or saying about you. Besides remember that those who bring that kind of gist to you are just waiting for you to say something they can misquote. So don’t let anyone fuel your anger, forgive quickly, forget what they did and love again. Trust me, for every negative experience you have there are at least ten other people who can give you a reason to still believe in humanity.

6. Your Love Walk: 1959_32013 a great year to show love. Make it a point of duty to be good to people this year. Do a lot of things especially for those who can’t pay you back. Mehn! Its a feeling that cannot be explained I tell you. And try not to make a show of it. Its more fulfilling not to mention more rewarding. 1 Corinthians 13 would be a great scripture to meditate on daily and actually live by.tumblr_m6i7g7alPg1qbzzd0o1_500

7. Your Health :


very funny. but seriously don’t play with your health this year. Eat right,index exercise, Young woman doing tummy crunchesdrink more water, less caffeine *honestly I’d like to say no caffeine but my American friends would just kill me and that would be the end of me and my blogging :D * basically what I’m saying is do all you can in your power to stay alive and well. Bad year to die folks :-)

8. Your Self-Esteem:


I find that life doesn’t give you what you deserve but what you demand but its funny that what you demand depends on what you think you deserve. A lot of the rubbish we allow in our lives is because we don’t think we deserve better. That guy that’s hitting you and cheating on you and spending your money and you’re still with him even when you know deep in your heart he’s not good for you, well, the reason why you won’t leave him is because you don’t think you can do better. That dehumanizing job you’re at it’s because you think you can’t do better. Change the way you see yourself in 2013 and you’re bound to attract better.

9. Your Prayer Life: prayer childbeing able to call on God at anytime of the day at any time this year will be an advantage in 2013. jesus is kingWe can change situations, clear our mind, get direction, get answers and become more like God by spending more time with him. However let me quickly say this what ever happens to you this year. Don’t worry just pray. Don’t just talk about the situation pray about it. Pray-About-ItThere’s never enough room in your heart for both worry and faith. You must decide in this 2013 which one will live there. Prayer can help you make that choice.

10. Prioritizing:First_things_first_by_ezekielbruni This year please put first things first. Don’t try to do everything. Find out what’s really important and do it with all your heart. Trying to do everything usually results In spreading yourself too thin and not doing anything in the end.

11. The State Of Your Heart: imagesguard your heart that’s where life begins. Prov 4:23 tells us. It determines the course of your life. But how you ask? Simple be careful what you hear, see and say. Your eyes, ears and mouth are gates to your heart. Be careful what you read, what you watch and what you repeat.  Your heart attracts things into your life. As a man thinks in his heart so is he.

12. Giving Thanks:give-thanks-decal

because a lot of great things will happen this year for you. You need to learn the art of saying thank you. If you are one of those people who find it hard to say thank you then start practicing now because the more you give show appreciation, the more great things will happen for you. Learn to thank God because any good thing that happens for you came from him (James 1:17). Also say thank you to the people he uses. Some people are very hard to do stuff for. I don’t know if you’ve met people who act like it’s their right when you do them a favour. It takes the grace of God to keep doing stuff for them.

13. Visiting http://justusgirls.wordpress.com :D I’m not joking o! If you don’t come here regularly just imagine the things you will miss. All the stuff you could have learned that you wont. This year look out for all the posts you won’t regret it. In fact it will make a huge difference in your life even if I say so myself ;-)

…And oh! It will matter the amount of people you tell about this blog and drop a comment every time you drop by. I’ll be giving a lot of gifts out this year so you never know. It may be the day you drop by ;-)

Okay people gotta run. It’s my PK’s birthday on Tuesday. _DSC1251What do you do for this kind of man biko nu! :D Holy Spirit wisdom oh! Let me go and think


Any ideas though, please holler! Talk to you guys later.
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Letter To My Enemy


My dear dear enemy,

As this year 2013 began, I thought of you briefly and decided to write you this letter. You see it is imperative that I write you now because this year I will be too busy to give you much thought.

I honestly didn’t think you existed but I’ve learned that my Lord Jesus is the Omniscient- The All-wise God. He hinted me of your existence and I know it is impossible for Him to lie so even if I don’t know you I believe you are there. He said to love my enemies (luke 6:27). Therefore even though I don’t know you. I know you exist and I’m supposed to love you.

However do not think that I am deceived. I know that since you are human, you are not the real enemy for I wrestle not against flesh and blood but since you still fall into the enemy category somehow, this letter is for you.

First of all let me thank you for being there and for helping me get more enemies like you. I must commend your commitment to your assignment because it has made the table God sets for me before you constantly bigger. I mean if you weren’t many (you are many aren’t you?) My table wouldn’t be very big and how else would the scriptures be fulfilled in my life? After all it is set in the presence of my enemies ;-)

I also want to encourage you. As we say in Ibo to “jide obi gi aka” or in bible english “be very strong and courageous”. Yes you will need lots of courage as this will be a very frustrating year for you. You see, God’s word to us at DCC is that in 2013… I WILL TESTIFY! Everyday will bring a new testimony. I can only imagine how that will make you feel.

God told me this year will be MY year of Intense and continuous thanksgiving. Oh! Dear enemy, how will you cope? I can already feel your pain every time I say thank you to YAHWEH for another blessing :D and there will be too many times like that this 2013.

Also it would be advisable for you to be very creative this year as there will be fewer things that you will find as mocking points. You see, unfortunately for you dear enemy, everything that has been a prayer point in the past, this year will be a testimony point. For Jehovah, the glory and the lifter of my head is very busy this year on my matter. I almost feel bad for you. What will you use to beef me now? Oh you poor thing :-( ;D :D :D

While we’re at it. I also want to take the time to explain to you how frustrating 2013 WILL be for you. It will be a hard year for you because I will be too busy to respond to your foolishness, gossip, back-biting or manipulation and when I do find the time out of my miracle-filled year, it will be to show you love. It will be confusing for you but then if you were smart you wouldn’t be my enemy now would you? ;-)

There are some things you will find frustrating about me this year and you will often find yourself saying “what is it sef? Is she the only one in this world? Why is God blessing her like this?” I would have liked to say “I’m sorry you feel that way” but truth be told, I’m not. I’m expecting that you will be upset a lot of times this year because my life will be better, it will inspire more people. My marriage will be happier and I will glorify God with it. My blogging will be more frequent and my say-it-as-it-is approach to life and the Word will not cease. You will be more infuriated when you see how many souls will get saved this year through our ministry. It will be a bad year for you but what can I do about it? Absolutely nothing!

Interestingly at the end of the year one of two things will happen either I will testify like in psalm 126 that “the Lord has done great things for me and I am glad or YOU will testify on my behalf that the Lord has done great things for me. Trust me honey, either way there will be a testifying.

So, since this is the last time we’ll have this conversation this year, let me say to you my dear enemy or enemies (I hope) *who no like big table? :D *, fasten your seat belt and get ready for the time of our lives in 2013 ‘cos its gonna be a great year for me and all the wonderful people connected to me :-)

DISCLAIMER: this is not directed at any persons living or dead (:D isn’t that how it’s said in the movies?)

But seriously I was just meditating on that scripture in Psalm 23 (beautiful psalm by the way) “Thou prepareth a table before me in the presence of my enemies” and it got me thinking about how “my enemies” must be feeling and I came up with this letter. Its just a little harmless fun. Nothing serious :-)

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Hi people
I guess since this is officially my first blog post of the year a big HAPPY NEW YEAR is in order. I know it’s already the third week of the year but as they say, ” your morning begins when you wake”. Hmmm…… somehow that doesn’t sound as sweet as the original “na wen person wake be him morning” abi? :D. Anyhow I guess I’ve made my point ;-) happy new year guys.

Also let me congratulate you for making it into 2013. At DCC it is OUR YEAR TO TESTIFY! And the testimonies are flooding in already. Dont worry I will gist you plenty but more importantly this year I will share yours too in Jesus name. This year is a great year. I feel it already. Too many great things will happen for you. It’s inevitable.

This morning I want to ask you a question. Have you ever experienced a miracle from God? As in truly gotten something that you know is not humanly possible to achieve on your own? If you have then I’m sure finding the right words to say “THANK YOU!” almost always seems impossible. You may try but most times where words fail even though tears seem like compensation, that too at best seems like a feeble attempt.

I know they say that the English language is a very limited language and truly at those times when you need to express your love for God you just never seem to be able to figure out how “thank you” suddenly seems so hollow. So if you”re like me, not to be outdone, you’ll probably enlist the help of your mother tongue and if for instance you’re ibo you’ll cry out IMELA!

I know a lot of times IMELA is defined simply as THANK YOU but is that really what it is? I think IMELA is More than a simple thank you. For me saying IMELA is saying Lord you have done well, you have exceeded my expectations. It is me saying, “Lord you have outdone yourself”. This year I’m thinking a lot about how to say thank you because I know there will be maaaaaaaaaany opportunities to do so. With all the testimonies lined up for me this year? I expect nothing less ;-)

This is my theme song in 2013. Just thought to share it with you. It’s by my dear dear dear friend Nathaniel Bassey. God bless him for us all. Someday I’ll share with you the testimony behind this song but till then enjoy……
…..and welcome to 2013, this year YOU WILL TESTIFY

Much love.

…the little things


I’m a bit misty-eyed as I write this last blogpost of 2012.

How was 2012 for you? I’m guessing it was as great a year as it was for me. But what made 2012 such a good year?

Was it the accolades, the material possesions we were blessed with, the places we were privileged to access? Well, not really. Even though we are thankful for all those for they were many.

However it is the little things I am especially thankful for.

Little things like… the fact that I had a word from God to hold on to all year round. A promise that kept me going when I couldn’t see a way. When I felt tired, frustrated, confused or alone. Knowing I had a promise from the promise keeper … For that I’m grateful. That I could choose to read my bible whenever and in public without fear of persecution or death.

Little things like… The people that showed me love. Those that helped me, that prayed for me, my wonderful pastor “grandpa Rev” like my daughter calls him; Rev Albert ‘Femi Oduwole who asked throughout the year “how are you?” And meant it at the exact times I needed someone to ask. My wonderful DCC family- office staff and church workers; tireless in their belief in God and the assignment He gave us.

It’s the little things like those who said thank you to me this year. Those who accepted our ministry and appreciated it.

I’m thankful for the little things like good worship music by people I know and love like David Nkennor, Gbolaahan, Wale Adenuga, Freke, Eben, olumide Iyun, etc For instance, Nathaniel Bassey CD on my Ipod kept me firmly in God’s presence. No matter how I felt I could still get myself to sing “Jesus the son of God. I believe in you.” Because I do. I believe in him absolutely or when faced with a situation that needed changing I would worship “Elohim”. Go get the CDs enough Brazillian and peruvian #just saying

Oh! Can I ever get over Cece Winan’s “Alabaster Box”? Or Donnie Mcclurkin’s “yes I will trust you Lord!”. Its the fact that I could sing, that I could breathe, that I could laugh, pray, cry or just be still in God’s presence in 2012 that made it all worth it.

Little things like I could leave my house as early as 5am everyday to go for a prayer work-out and not get mugged and lose weight ;-) while jogging to PITA’s CD. By the way, Pita I honestly think its time for a new CD. I’ve played enough for generations to come. #just saying but one of my greatest “little” miracles for the year was this beautiful song by our very own MD at DCC Kennedy. Just listen http://bit.ly/Vav4Je

Little things like the wonderful people I met or got closer to in 2012. Too many to mention but I’ll just say I was blown away by the people God sent my way but I’m even more thankful for those he removed from my path. Sometimes we take for granted what God does to get us to where we are. It’s those seeming disappointments that I’m thankful for because they turned out to be blessings in disguise. I’m thankful for the tests because they became my testimony.

Little things like family, low maintenance friends, those who call me god-mother, mama or mummy, fans especially you because you follow my blog and even though my style is so in your face :D You stuck with me all year round *big hug*

The books I read, the ones I started writing that I hope 2013 will make a reality. The blogs I followed- yes its simple things like waking up to an early morning blog post especially from my darling eziaha or from femme totale or max lucado or… The list is endless. These are just a few of my faves. In fact just being able to read made 2012 a fantastic year.

Little things like travelling-especially upper/business class – who no like better thing ;-)

Honestly I could go on but I guess what I’m trying to say is that even though a lot of big things happened in my life in 2012. If we’re really honest with ourselves, it’s the continuous and consistent supply of the little things that made it all worth it.

Its seeing God in every thing, the big miracles but also the “little” things. Some of the things we take for granted are not so common to the man in the hospital gasping for breath or the man in syria wondering if today is the day he gets killed by a bomb or the christian in Iraq hiding from neighbours lest he be killed for being an infidel or the woman who even though she has lost both breasts to cancer just got hit by a car while crossing the road from the hospital where she went to do a checkup or the mother who after waiting eight years to have a child loses him to a negligent househelp.

That you are alive and well on this last day of 2012, may seem like an ordinary or little thing to you but trust me, its worth turning back to give God thanks for. (Luke 17:11-19)

I’m turning back to give thanks. Please join me. In fact join us to CROSSOVER into 2013,@ Davids Christian Centre (DCC), Fatgbems bus stop, behind Nepa, Amuwo, by Mile 2. service starts at 9:30pm.

I’ll see you on the other side of 2013 and I’m confident it will be an awesome year because the One who made 2012 wonderful is still in the business of doing miracles. God bless you and in the words of Jenifa (that girl is hilarious) “cash ya larer”

God bless you.

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Merry CHRISTmas


Hi people
I’ve been MIA :-D. Busy season for me. Just wanted to say Merry CHRISTmas.

No long sermons, No theological debates, No intellectual arguments. Just a simple merry CHRISTmas from me to you.

I celebrate JESUS CHRIST and I celebrate you. God bless you.

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During a women’s gathering I attended recently, i heard one of the speakers say “every man has a mumum button. All you need to do is know what your husband’s is and know when to push it.”

Some of the women laughed, some nodded in agreement and yet some others immediately started asking “what’s your husband’s? It may be the same for mine”. Sadly it was a Christian gathering.

For those of you who don’t live in Nigeria, and may not know what a mumu button is, hang on a second and I’ll just put you through. A mumu button is like an emergency button and a manipulation button all rolled up in one. You see, the very word mumu conotes foolishness or stupidity if you like. The act of being easily deceived. So the mumu button is that thing that u press and it becomes easy for you to manipulate a man and in this case your husband.

Some schools of thought believe that every man has a price, a weakness, a mumu button. It could be sex, food, money, etc. In other words if for instance you want something from your husband and his mumu button is sex, all you need to do is before he gets home have a long luxurious scented bath, put on your sexiest lingerie and wait for him in bed and after a rather exciting night of sex, whatever you want even to half of his kingdom shall be given to you.

For some other women all they need to do is cook an interesting and very rich pot of Egusi soup and Pounded yam. The kind that sea food and land animals are waging war in the pot. Then once he’s done eating and is sprawled lazily on the couch, toothpick in hand, if you were to ask for half of his kingdom at this point, you’d probably get the whole thing.

I was shocked. First at the fact my mother-in-law had somehow cheated me. If there’s one man on the face of the earth that doesn’t have a mumu button or his mumu button isn’t functioning… Well, trust me to get that one :D. My husband is one of those people that can see right through any form of scheming. Yep! You heard me right any type of manipulative ploy and my Pk is all over you like a blood hound. Trust me I learnt that all these man-made theories and principles always have one exception that proves the rule.

My husband likes a good home cooked meal but no matter the amount of food or how delicious it is once he has told you “NO!” About something you can press that “mumu button” all you like till Jesus comes and it will NEVER and I mean N-E-V-E-R work. His No means just that “NO!” Whether before or after a good meal.

Funny enough I learnt this one before I got married. Watching other ladies vie for his attention, they would go and cook large pots of soup for their “single” pastor and be batting their eye-lashes at him “bless you pastor. I thought you may not have the time to do any cooking sir so I thought I should bring this.” I’d laugh because women are such entertaining creatures. We are the only ones who go into battle without studying our opponent. They would cook all types and bake all sorts and he wouldn’t even look their way. Then me that I was “jeje-ly on my own. I didn’t cook anything or wash any clothes or turn myself into a slave. He was all over me”. So I thanked God for the free lesson and deposited it into my information bank on my “To do NOT list”. *I’ll tell you about that someday* I learnt that food no matter how delicious had no bearing on how my PK made decisions.

“Maybe his own may not be food. Maybe it’s sex” I hear some of you insist. :D :D *yes I’m laughing and actually rolling on the floor* My sister trust me I’ve tried it all o! I’m very very very adventurous *Dont worry enough said. I’m sooooo sparing you the details* :D He’ll just say “Wow!” Then I’d think, okay great opportunity to ask for anything. So he’s still in the Euphoria of it all and we’re still cuddled up so I say “honey” and with eyes half closed he answers “hmmm?” And I say in my best ‘baby-girl’ voice. “Remember that thing I asked you for?” He’ll say “yes baby. And I remember saying No”. Then he’ll turn over give me a big cuddle and we’ll both fall asleep.
You see the real problem is I married a MAN not a MUMU. Now don’t get me wrong if calling your own husband a mumu works for you then by all means please do. Whatever rocks your boat :D

But I guess the real question we should be asking instead of stressing ourselves and coming up with one manipulative ploy after the other is “what can make us fascinating enough to be able to influence a man (or our husbands) in our favour?” And who better to ask than the MAN with no mumu button :D.

Guess what! Another MANners is coming up and incidentally the THEME- The Fascinating Woman.
DATE- Sunday 9th December 2012
TIME – 4pm
VENUE – DCC Victory Dome. Behind PHCN office. Fatgbems bus stop.
Amuwo. Lagos.

There’ll be lots of music and comedy too.

And oh! Just before I go, I wanted to share what I found out helps when I need my husband to change his mind – PRAYER. Yep! Good old prayer ;). Works all the time. God made him albeit without a mumu button so who better to speak to when I need some adjustments? :-).

Try it ladies. Works 100% especially if you’re like me and you didn’t marry no fool. :D as the americans would say.

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Bragging On The Word


This is God’s Message:
“Don’t let the wise brag of their wisdom. Don’t let heroes brag of their exploits. Don’t let the rich brag of their riches.
If you brag, brag of this and this only: That you understand and know me. I’m God, and I act in loyal love. I do what’s right and set things right and fair, and delight in those who do the same things. These are my trademarks.” God’s Decree. (Jeremiah 9:23-24)

I’ve always been a lover of words – I love the way words come together and create pictures in your mind. For instance if I were to say the word “shoe” I’m sure you immediately pictured some lovely peep toe, 6 inch platform heeled Christian Loubuitin shoes. You didn’t see the letters S-H-O-E. So I’ve always been fascinated by words and because I love words it naturally follows that I love to read. Growing up I would read anything and everything I could lay my hands. I particularly loved the old classics written in olde english. Then I became a christian and discovered the bible – I was practically translated. I was in heaven! Beautifully written words, poems, stories , etc. And there were many translations of the same book? Wow!

But I noticed there was something different about this book. It wasn’t just words. The words were ALIVE. They had a spirit behind them because as I started to read those words. I had a deeper need to think about what I was reading. Like the Words themselves said to me “SELAH” – stop and ponder. And the more I read, the more I wanted to read; the more I wanted to read, the more I was drawn to meditate on what I was reading; the more I meditated, the more I felt the need to study. Before I knew it, I was changing.

Yes, changing. I wasn’t so angry anymore. I felt better about myself, my faith was built, my body was healed. I found out I was special. I was loved, I was unique, I was important – at least to God :-). Then it hit me. I was moving around freely in the mind of God. Eyes wide open I started holding this book with more reverence. No longer was it a book under my pillow that I would read only at night or in church but a treasure map I carried with me everywhere. A life manual, full of daily instruction. How can anyone live without it?

I love the word of God. It is real, relevant, apt, accurate, powerful, just name it.

Yesterday I had an awesome time with some truly beautiful ladies as we lay prostrate in worship. This scripture I shared with you came to my heart again yesterday and it reminded me how important our “being with God” time is. God himself says that’s the only thing worth boasting about. You know how girls boast that they have a boyfriend who’s important or rich, or how others boast about their Prada bags or their Range Rover EVOGUE? Yep! Your boast should be that you know God. May sound cliche but after the rapture darling that’s all that would have mattered. He’s coming back and He’s coming for those who KNOW Him and LOVE Him.

Its funny but no matter how much money or fame you have once Jesus returns and you miss your flight out of this place. It’ll all be worthless since there’ll be a change of currency anyway (the 666 mark). Its all there in the bible sweetie. Try reading it sometime.

So how do you know him?
1. Talk to him – pray
2. Listen to him – study the bible
3. Spend time with him – worship.
4. Spend time with his other children – go to church.

God wants to be known by you. He says “Draw near to me and I will draw near to you”. He’s never too busy for you and He’s already written you a long letter (the bible) which has answers to any question you’ll ever have. It’s changed my life and I’m sure it will change yours too.

Okay people gotta run. Need to be on the road soon. Off to Ibadan to celebrate my mama – Rev TJ Oduwole as she gets 40fied. Yes she’s finally hit the big 40 but come back tomorrow and I’ll have full gist and hopefully pictures. If Eziaha doesn’t beat me to it on her blog *rolling my eyes at her* :D

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Good morning people
How have you guys been? There’s one thing that’s been on my mind and I thought to ask you about it.

I don’t know about you but I miss Him …and No! To all you “amebos” (nosey-parkers) *tongue sticking out* it’s not my PK. He’s even here right now; fast asleep beside me.

I’m talking about my dear Lord Jesus. “You miss Jesus?! But He’s always with you”. That’s not what I mean. Hear me out.

I started having this feeling recently because my PK does a lot of itinerant preaching so we get to travel a lot or visit a lot of other churches. And unfortunately I noticed a trend. Now, I could be wrong but this is what it seems like to me.

I miss when church was about Jesus- who He is, what He did and His return not just about us – what we need, what we can get and when we should be in church.

I miss when prayer was about fellowshipping with Jesus and not just about making demands and knocking on Heaven’s door.

I miss worship -pure unadulterated worship. When it was about Jesus not about the “worship” leader showing off his skills and vocal ability with no anointing. I miss when the focus was on Jesus not this politics of who should sing in the choir and who should not.

I miss when music “ministers” were just that -MINISTERS- ministering to people about the truth, the way and above all ministering LIFE (Jesus). Now before they open their mouths they first ask “how much honorarium?” They make the gospel about monetary gain. Jesus died for free and you who should sing about the person that died are asking to be paid? Oh! Don’t get me wrong. I believe in honorarium- we give it because I believe in honouring the gift on a man’s life- but like the name implies its a sign of honour and should not be demanded for. Can anyone place a price on God’s gift? Freely have you received oh! Music minister; Freely give!

I miss songs like
“Jesus is the answer for the world today above him there’s no other Jesus is the way…”

And songs like
“In the presence of Jehovah, God almighty, Prince of peace. Troubles vanish. Hearts are mended. In the presence of my King”.

Now all I hear is “I go make am o!” Or “God don bless you make shakara” or funny songs like that.

I miss when people understood why they were created and there was an urgency to the purpose in our lives. We needed to preach the gospel of Jesus. Now we cajole, prod and practically threaten people to come to church so they can be blessed.

Slowly but surely we are pushing CHRIST out of CHRISTIANITY. I miss him when I go to a church and nothing, not a word is mentioned about Him and we only call His name as a key to getting all our needs met or when we share the grace. Don’t you feel empty sometimes when you go to church and you feel you just finished a lecture in school – goal setting, etiquette, financial empowerment, motivational sessions, demon slaying techniques, etc, etc but no mention of Jesus and our covenant with God because of the death and resurrection of Jesus.

We now have a form of godliness but deny the power thereof (2 Tim 3:5).

Jesus is alive; Jesus blesses, Jesus saves, Jesus heals, Jesus loves and He wants you to love Him back. As Christians that’s our true message. That’s what we’re here to tell the world. We need to remember that. We go to church not to bombard heaven with our needs but to learn about Jesus, to worship Him and in the process learn the Victory he has already won for us and the principles that unlock and activate them for us.

…And about our material desires? Our father knows you have need of these things but let’s seek first God’s Kingdom and His righteousness and ALL these things shall be added… (Matthew 6:31-33). Trust me, I should know ;)

So my dear friends, that’s my heart cry this morning. I love Him and I miss him in our churches today. Don’t you?

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Just finished reading a book OUT OF THE DARKNESS by Tina Nash.

On the evening of 21 April 2011, Tina Nash’s life changed forever. After suffering months of beatings and domestic abuse at the hands of boyfriend Shane Jenkin, she was subjected to a barbaric and prolonged attack during which Jenkin beat her unconscious and gouged out both her eyes. In the book, she tells her full story- of what life with a violent partner is really like and how she survived 12 hours of sustained and unimaginable violence in her own home. In my opinion a must read for every woman especially for single mums.

Hmmm… After reading this book, I am totally lost for words. I cannot believe what women will put themselves through in the name of love. I’m still in shock. Googled her and this link came up http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2220903/Tina-Nash-Blind-mother-boyfriend-gouged-eyes-12-hour-attack-tells-ordeal.html

Helps to have the pictures too. Can’t believe what this woman put herself through. In the past I’d say can anybody be this stupid? All the warning signs and red flags were there and she ignored them because I can’t believe she missed them. But now after a few years in ministry I’ve encountered some really deluded sisters.

Blinded by her ex-boyfriend, Tina tells her full story in the book but isn’t it a little too late? Was it worth losing her eyes for? I sometimes think some women enjoy suffering. And its really sad because in most cases, their minds have been badly damaged.

I remember when I was living and working in PH. I had a friend there who was in an abusive relationship and one day she came to work all bruised and shaken up and I was telling her to get out while she still could. When one of my other colleagues butted in and told her “don’t mind this lagos girl o! How you go know say man love you if e no beat you?”

I was in shock for days. Why? Because for one the girl went back to the guy to beg his forgiveness but more importantly because there were still girls in this generation, in this century who believed one had to be beaten as a proof of love. Well, I on the other hand believed that a real man never hits a woman and that my husband would totally adore me. And because the bible says …my expectation shall not be cut off. That’s exactly what I got. A man that loves me the way God expects him to love me. And I firmly believe all women deserve the same. We just need to be smarter about the choices we make.

I mean how do you date a guy that has beaten you countless number of times and has tried to blind you once before all in the name of love or should I say what you consider great sex. If a guy threatens …please take note I said if a guy threatens … To hit you. Whether jokingly or not, FLEE – run as in terror! Run for your dear life. Don’t smile, don’t laugh, don’t even ask him why? Just take a walk.

Girls need to learn this. Loving a man cannot change him. I believe Tina Nash learnt this the hard way. Like he said she’ll “…never be able to see her boys again”.

The signs are always there. He’s dangerous if he’s …
* insecure
* angry with the world
* hot tempered
* the kind of man who instead of apologies you get gifts
* usually full of stories and excuses concerning finances.
* has no regard for authority
* manipulative.
* constantly breaking trust -lying to you.
* NEVER apologises- blames you for all his problems.
* engages in destructive criticism.
* isolates you
* focuses on destroying your self-esteem.
* unstable – friendly and loving one day, moody and angry the next.
* abusive- verbal or physical.

There are a lot more signs but If you or anyone you know is in a relationship with this kind of person. Please get out while you still can or if the person is in denial get help fast! Find someone who can get through to them before its too late. We don’t need books after the fact or any more letters from the grave.

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I totally totally love this. It’s a must read for every Christian…

Originally posted on The F.A.B. sister's Blog:

I love to observe my environment.
Not just casually, but scientifically.
Before, I used to be a participant-observer (read ‘get into arguments’). Then I got my fingers burnt some. So I flipped to non-participant observation. 
And as a Social Scientist, it behoves on me to not just study and criticise but proffer solution as much as I can. And cos I am a Sugar daughter, I’ll have to do this my Sugar Daddy way. 


So what exactly am i saying? And why all the Sociological talk? Aside showing off that is
I did some Twitter and Blog studying while I was away. In some instances, my heart bled. Bled at the sheer ignorance of some believers. Paul actually calls it STUPIDITY!!!
At this point, may I emphasize the fact that I am writing this to BELIEVERS please.


You know, like Paul wrote most of his letters to the CHURCH…

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I know today is April fool’s day and a lot of people get off to much mischief and playing lots of pranks but I like to think of it more like April full… a day full of every beautiful thing that you could possibly desire.

You decide what you want the day to be and don’t let silly pranksters spoil it for you…

On the other hand, be careful what pranks you get up to today, they just may backfire like this lady’s…..

One day a woman wanted to know how the hubby would react if she left without telling him where she had gone. So she decided to write him a letter saying she is tired of him and didn’t want to live with him anymore and after writing she put the letter on the table in the bedroom before hidding under the bed… When hubby came back home, saw the letter and read it, then he also wrote something on it then began to sing and dance changing his clothes. He got his phone, dialed someone then said: “Hey babe, am just changing clothes then will join you, as for the other fool it has finally dawned on her that I was fooling around with her and has left. I was wrong really wrong to have married her, I wish I had known you earlier. See you soon honey!”. The hubby walked out of the room and left. In tears and very upset, the woman got up from under the bed and decided to go and read what the hubby wrote on the letter. When she got the letter, it said: “I COULD see your feet woman!, I am going to buy bread. Stand up, stop your silly games and prepare me a meal!!

Hope it made you smile at least.

Funny valentine

Had a good laugh at some BlackBerry display pictures yesterday. Here are some that made my day


I just totally love this one. How creative Christians can be when they want to be cheap. Lol


With this one, I just love the girl’s pout…same thing he did on Christmas…lol!


This was my absolute favourite… what violent times? are we in Iraq or baghdad?…simply hilarious.

But did you get this broadcast

Valentine’s day, Mother’s day, Father’s day, Children’s day, Wedding day, Birthday. Independence  Day…….does anyone think of JUDGEMENT day???

Hope you enjoyed your valentine…if you didn’t there are always other days….or you can try again next year. word has it that 2015 still has February 14th in its calender so dont worry there’s hope yet… hehehehe