…..better with Jesus

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This wasn’t the way I planned to start my blogging experience in 2015.

This wasn’t even how I planned today.

If truth be told I didn’t even give today much thought. I planned it would be a very lazy Monday…that I would sleep in till noon then have a very heavy brunch….if my tummy would permit.

Then I would literally suspend my mind till Tuesday morning when I would have no choice but to resume all my duties. I planned to let my phone ring all day, and ignore all pings and emails…

But Monday the 9th day of February 2015 refused to cooperate with me.

Refused to cooperate with me?! That’s putting it mildly. It totally turned my day….my life….our lives around.

My phone started my day…..ringing and ringing and ringing. Almost as if to say I dare you not to pick up.  So pick up I did…but I wish I didn’t.

“Nonye don go o!”
….was all I heard on the other end. All I kept saying was “Jesus is Lord! Jesus is Lord! Jesus is Lord!” over and over again and for some funny reason I felt like if I didn’t keep rubbing my chest that my heart would pop out of my chest and shatter into a thousand little pieces.

You see Nonye is my little niece, my first goddaughter, my big brother’s “ada”. ChukwuNonyelum Nicole Ezinwa Chijide was a survivor. She wasn’t even 5 years old yet but In the few years we were blessed with Nonye, she taught me one major lesson….

No matter what you go through in life, keep smiling.

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She never walked, couldn’t talk, struggled to eat, never got to crawl or run around and play but she always had that smile…

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Everytime her dad would walk into a room, I saw that look, that smile, that proved to me that the flesh can never limit the Spirit.

When I heard nonye was gone, my first reaction was to be sad. Sad that she was gone but more for her mother because no mother should be faced with the horrors of burying a child.

Sad for my brother because I know how close he was to his only daughter, because I know he had done everything a father and a doctor could do.

Sad for my parents because I Knew they wouldn’t handle it well.

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Sad because I truly believed Nonye would walk and that she would say “daddy” and that I would once again tell the devil “ntoi”

Before I could actually settle into the sadness, the Holy Spirit whispered three words to me….”better with Jesus”

That consoled me because for some funny reason I can’t get this picture of Nonye jumping on bouncy castles made of clouds, swinging from angels’ wingtips, and nonye laughing that her deep belly laugh while screaming in delight as she runs to play catch with Jesus out of my head. I honestly can’t shake it off.

…and honestly I don’t want to.

I know she’s better with Jesus.
We will miss you my darling but I know when we finally get to heaven, you will be there to greet us and show your daddy around….and he will finally get to hear you say DADDY I LOVE YOU….in words

P:S
Give Jesus a big hug for me.

30 days…done!

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30 days…

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30 days hath September, April, June and November…fortunately December has 31 so we can use that extra one day to squeeze out the very last drop of 2014

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Today was supposed to be dilemma Tuesday and I’m wondering is it really a good idea to end the 30 day challenge with a problem?

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I don’t think so…

So no dilemma till next year abeg. Let’s talk about more pleasant things. In lieu of pleasant things I’ve decided to extend the challenge and throw in an extra day so I’m blogging tomorrow as well. We will talk about the blog challenge extension in 2015 (joan, giddy, Patricia, E and Frances…. I hear you) for now be content with what you have. Lol!

Today I’ve decided to just say thank you to all of you

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. Every one who took the time out to read, cheer me on, comment and spread the word

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. I feel like I just crossed the rope at the end of a marathon And it’s because of all of you

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. I honestly didn’t think  I could do this but now I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I know I can do anything I set my heart to do….so the extra 3 kg I’m lugging around now after all the junk I packed in this season has got to go

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….guess what?! now, I’m convinced I can and I will achieve it.

Okay guys it was great doing business with you. Gotta run. I’m back tomorrow with the final post for 2014. Can’t believe it’s almost over. It’s been a good year sha I cannot lie.

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One last word…DONT LET 2014 END WITHOUT GETTING EVERYTHING THAT’S YOURS…EVERY LAST DROP

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Thank you al so much once again

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Drive Defensively

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Yaaaaay!!! Day 29

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I honestly cannot believe I did this! I actually survived this….

Another lesson: if you can think it, you can do it. If you can dream it you can achieve it! Hmmmm….imagine the kind of things I’m dreaming up now.

I’m actually doing this post at the airport enroute Naija. Honestly can’t wait to be home. I’m the only one I know who goes on a vacation and needs a vacation just to recover from the vacation. I never understand how people rest on a vacation. I end up being even more stressed ‘cos I’m either shopping or cooking or working….Lord have mercy

Okay so right now I’m badly in need of a full body aromatherapy massage. The kind that you sleep for at least 2 hours after on the massage table. Oh! Wishes…horses….

Anyway, i’ll soon be boarding so let me quickly share my thought God today and tomorrow we get to do a dilemma post…who knows since its the last day of the challenge maybe I just might throw in an extra post….but just maybe…

So I had an interesting day today. After all the drama of last minute shopping, packing and checking in. We decided to grab a bite and headed to Dubai mall for Assia in Wok’s Nasi Goreng (amazing with extra chili)

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. We finished eating and on our way back to the apartment, the taxi we got into had a collision with a coaster bus. Interestingly this kind of accident would have never happened in Nigeria and i’ll tell you why.

Outside the country everyone drives like just because I won’t break traffic rules, the person beside me too won’t. Typical case in point, our taxi accident. So you know how if you are driving and you want to make a turn, it means you should be on the very last land closest to the turn right? Well for some funny reason the guy in the coaster wanted to turn and stayed in the middle lane. Our taxi driver saw him turning from that lane and just kept driving straight as if to say this guy can’t honestly be doing anything that stupid and instead of dodging him, he just stayed put and allowed a collision.
This is why I say it won’t happen here in Nigeria because one of the first lessons you learn once you start driving in Nigeria is to drive defensively meaning drive like everyone else is crazy and you are the only sane one. No one in their right Naija mind will see a coaster bus running into their car and say he’s not on a turning lane. Hahaha haha
You know what I got from the drama?

This Message: in 2015 drive defensively. Don’t allow terrible things happen to you under your watch. Don’t assume the other driver is watching you.

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Once you see satan and his tricks heading toward You, abeg dodge. The truth is he’s not that original, if you look closely enough you will see that the sin is still the same even if the temptation style now differs. The end result is still the same even if the means may differ.

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Guard your 2015 like a hawk. Keep satan, frenemies, excuses, Bad relationships,  procrastination, etc away from entering your lane. Horn loudly if you have to. 

I’m already excited about 2015….it just has a good feeling.

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Okay guys post challenge finale when I land. 

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Love you 

Unanswered Prayers

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Day 28

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I’ll keep it brief guys

I’m in one of those pensive moods

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where I’m meditating on the goodness of God. I just read a post now on http://www.msgiddy.wordpress.com and it got me thinking…

I’m thankful to God for mistakes I ALMOST made, for people who left my life, for every  single prayer unanswered …or should I say that seemed unanswered.

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I’m thankful for those who broke my heart and all the hearts I broke. I’m thankful for the ones who almost got me to the altar…but for God. I imagine how different my life would have been.

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I wonder if I would have ever felt fulfilled with anyone else
At the time I prayed, cried, fasted and consistently asked God “why?!” today I have a tiny glimpse of why.

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My point? Don’t question God. You may have the pieces of the puzzle but God holds the cover box and the cover box holds the picture. So just trust  him. It may not make sense but trust  him enough to be truly grateful for every “unanswered” prayer

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Good night guys or should I say good morning even though I’m off to bed now :D

Love u
Talk to u later

Start First

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Okay guys I promised I would be back….here I am.

Day 27 guys. 3 more to go. I can’t believe it. It actually felt like from the very beginning when I put up that I would do a 30 day challenge that I was automatically setting myself up for failure. A whole 30 days?

I came up with all the reasons why it was a crazy idea and it would never work but look how good God is. I’m almost done and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed myself that it actually feels odd not to blog everyday. Hmmmm…is it possible that this may continue in the new year? hmmm…you’ll have to just wait and see…lol! 

I’m just very thrilled. You know that feeling of satisfaction you get when you set a goal and it actually looks like not only is it achievable but you are actually so close to it that you can almost touch it.

I honestly had no clue I could do this especially with a vacation somewhere in between, two babies, parents and husband in tow, etc, etc

So my biggest lesson yet besides the 3D I shared before is START FIRST. Before you start coming up with all the excuses you can muster, just do it. Take that bold step and just start. Don’t do it quietly, be like Joseph the dreamer. …announce your dreams. let everyone that matters and can keep you accountable know about it.
If I had kept my consistency challenge to myself, I would have long given up. but knowing that o had so many cheerleaders who were all waving pompoms I knew I couldn’t give up. At least they wouldn’t let me.

So whatever you are planning to take on In the new year…..just start!
Once you start, it gets easier

Okay guys eyes practically closing.
HBD to my dear dear son, my pita of life.

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You are a gift. Love you.

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HBD to my lovely niece Kosi. Love you so much

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HWA to two of my favourite couples : my baby sister Diche and Dubem Enunwa and wole and shade Fayomi.

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Love you guys

Good night

Honour

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Hey people

I know I know…Yesterday’s post? I fell asleep waiting for the pictures for this post.

This is officially day 26 post

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Boxing day has always been the major celebration day in my family. In fact for as far back as I can remember, we have always celebrated December 26

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over the 25th. I’m sure santa does too

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All the major cooking and having guests over was always on the 26th not 25th. We would wake up early to cooking, chopping, cutting, shredding, baking,frying, just name it and eventually end the day with washing plates till late at night and at the end of the day you aren’t even sure you really enjoyed the day never mind all the food around you. And 26th of December was supposed to be a holiday abi?

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The reason why the 26th was so special is because my parents got married Saturday 26 December 1970. So you can imagine why that day was always such a big deal.

So this year I got a chance to help them celebrate in style. They came on an all-expense paid trip to Dubai and started off the evening on a Dhow Dinner cruise

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and came back to a surprise in their hotel room ;-)

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*this is the guy that did such a wonderful job in the room

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They had fun and I got a kick out of how much fun they had.

Honestly the prayers I have received on this trip. Hmmm….. it’s good to obey God o!

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happy anniversary mummy and daddy. It’s been 44 years
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and still going strong
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Okay guys I will be back with today’s post later today.

Merry Christmas y’all

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Hello people. Its day 25

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and what a day it’s been. From surprising my kids with Christmas presents

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after they had been dragged to see santa clause.

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not even santa could get vida to stay awake

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Then kitchen duty….
Had a fun but exhausting day
I’m just stopping by to say hello and to remind you that Christmas celebrations will soon be over but you will be left with the effects of the season

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so be careful what you stuff your face with

And have mercy on all those chickens lest they find their way out of Lagos.

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Lol! 

Merry Christmas guys

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remember Jesus is the reason for the season

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don’t be so self absorbed this season

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See you tomorrow

Mary did you know?

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One of my absolute favourite Christmas songs is Mary Did you know? By Mark Lowry and Buddy Green. Lyrics below:

Song lyrics
Mary did you know that your baby boy will one day walk on water?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will save our sons and daughters?
Did you know that your baby boy has come to make you new?
This child that you’ve delivered, will soon deliver you.

Mary did you know that your baby boy will make a blind man see?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will calm a storm with his hand?
Did you know that your baby boy has walked where angels trod?
And when you kiss your little baby, you have kissed the face of God.

The blind will see, the deaf will hear and the dead will live again.
The lame will leap, the mute will speak, the praises of the lamb.

Mary did you know that your baby boy is Lord of all creation?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will one day rule the nations?
Did you know that your baby boy is heaven’s perfect Lamb?
This sleeping child you’re holding is the great I am.

I just get goose pimples anytime I hear the song. I wonder if truly Mary a young girl of what? 13 or 14 years old even had a clue as to what or whom she was really carrying. I’m sure she didn’t and could never truly , the fullness of the power she carried.

And aren’t we all like Mary in some wise? Aren’t we unable to fully comprehend what or whom we carry as Christians? Aren’t we like Mary unaware of the power that lay dormant in all of us awaiting delivery that it may be unleashed on the world? Haven’t you heard that the world earnestly  awaits our manifestation? Romans 8:19

Everytime I think of Christmas I think of the birth of Jesus but I often find myself meditating on the pregnancy of Mary as well. The angel Gabriel announced to Mary that she was with child of the Most High God and told Joseph she was to call him Jesus for He would save his people…. Matthew 1:21

Today Angel Gabriel may not physically appear to you but isn’t the Holy Spirit giving you the same message through the Word. Aren’t we just as pregnant as she is? With the same Jesus? The scenario isn’t any different except that perhaps you may not be 14.

Mary went off after her encounter with the angel straight to see her cousin Elizabeth whom was barren and something spectacular happened. The bible tells us that Elizabeth testified that the baby on her womb leapt for joy. The effect of carrying Jesus was evident even in the life of Elizabeth. The power emanating from Marys promise caused Elizabeths promise to quicken And leap. Something resonated. Destiny encountered the destiny changer

I wonder if the same power that raised Christ Jesus from the dead is not only quickening our mortal bodies but also causing the dreams of others to burst forth.

At Christmas, I love the feeling in the atmosphere but I also reflect on all that transpired before the actual birth of Jesus.
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So many lessons to be learnt from the Christmas story but not tonight folks….
I’m just leaving you with this..

Okay so my eyes are practically closing now and I have an early day tomorrow. Trust my pk to invite the whole city for Christmas lunch. So I’m off to bed

It’s day 24…

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technically 25 by this calender in front of me. Anyhow wanted to say Merry Christmas guys And oh! Santa one last wish

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Love you all so much

3 D lessons

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It’s 23 days into December

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and 23 days of consistently blogging and these are the three biggest lessonS  I have learned in these 23 days.

So,because I have like 7 more days to go,

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I will say these are the lessons i’ve learnt so far because 7 days is a long time and anything can happen…

Lesson number 1

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DETERMINATION:

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Once you have made up your mind to do something. You need to stick to it. Look past opposition and see the end.

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Jesus gave us the secret….for the joy set before Him, He endured the cross. just keep seeing the end it will fuel that decision. I decided to blog consistently and I kept mentally counting down. it’s funny but my workload didn’t necessarily reduce, my kids didn’t somehow disappear…I still had mummy, wife and pastor duty on a daily basis but I had made up my mind I was going to do this.

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Once you really want to, you will find a way if not, you will find an excuse

Lesson number 2

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DEDICATION

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Simply put….DONT GIVE UP…no matter what! Make that goal a priority. Let every other thing take a back burner until you achieve that goal…so feeling sleepy? Get up and jog a few laps first. Hungry? Quickly blog first. Need to buy those amazing emerald green heels? Pay your tithe first. I learnt this one from my pk. Once we have made a vow in church, nothing else is done and I mean absolutely nothing else until our vow is paid. It’s really helped me stay dedicated and true to what I set out to achieve

Lesson number 3

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DISCIPLINE

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Hmmm….this one, contrary to what people believe doesn’t come natural to anyone. I agree some people are more disciplined than others maybe because of their temperament types but I believe even the best of us have our weak moments and its just the ability to move your head from left to right while walking away that separates the boys from the men. A lot of people say I’m disciplined and I simply laugh because I want to just as badly as you do, I’ve just learnt how to talk down my weaknesses. I’m tired and I can’t do another abdominal crunch, I just tell myself one more, just one more and I somehow do one more till I’ve packed in my 1000th.

These three things will help you achieve any goal. Whether it is blogging for 30 days, losing weight, learning a new skill or starting a new business. These are three major ingredients you will need. Roll it up with a mad and absolute selfless love for God and excellence and voila you’ve hit gold.
More tips towards the end of the week but for now hold on to those 3. 

Now On a lighter note,
It’s almost Christmas and I haven’t gotten any gifts.

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Didn’t you guys learn anything from the three wise men?

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Lol! I’m just joking o!

All I want above all Else is please don’t send me any over-recycled Christmas broadcasts. I can’t handle it please

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and I’m not in the mood to switch off my phones. I’m asking nicely now….dont let me go all out on you guys lol!

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Don’t worry whether or not you send me that broadcast I will have a merry Christmas and a happy new year. I promise.

Okay guys taataa

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Gotta run
See you tomorrow

Dear Santa

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Hi guys

I hear yesterday’s post was too short to be counted as an official blog post…well, (Diche) *sticking out my tongue* I said I was doing a 30 day blog post challenge not a 30 day LONG blog post challenge. So it’s still very valid. Hehehehe…

So today I had a flashback. I had a Christmas-as-a-little-girl-moment. I remembered what Christmas was like growing up. I still remember my dad coming home with hampers and of course we always went after the sweets and the chocolates. Then   December  24th was santa day. We a went to illupeju supermarket back then to catch a glimpse of this robust,  jolly man in a red suit with lots of goodies in a bag.

It’s funny that santa has survived so many generations and we have somehow made Christmas about him. I’m not here to burst anyone’s bubble in fact I’m all for santa even if it’s just for the Christmas presents ;-)

What I’m against is the fact that we are slowly easing Christ Out of Christmas. Amazingly I was just thinking about it today, even his style of operation is opposite of the bible’s.

Santa only gives you gifts if you have been good. If by any chance you end up on the naughty List

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  it’s the end of presents

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. So you have to deserve it. If not you won’t like what you will get if anything

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Thank God our God is not some old man in a red santa suit. He is a God who while we were yet sinners, died for us. He knows we can never stay off the naughty list so we still get gifts all year round irrespective. 

With Him we don’t have to be perfect. He is our tsikenu (our righteousness) 
Christmas is so much much better because I know it’s not about Santa, it’s about Jesus.

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He’s the reason for the season.

But while we are still playing pretend Christmas is about santa, then dear santa this is my list….

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But hey, we all know…my help comes from the Lord…so I’m in absolute faith for my Last Minute Miracles and many more testimonies…and any other thing you can throw in Lord :-)

Okay guys good night
I’m sooooo sleepy…
It’s day 22

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Which one are you

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Hi guys
You won’t believe where I’m blogging from. I’m sitting in the cinema next to my Pk when I realized I hadn’t blogged today and it’s day 21

Now I know you are wondering why I’m blogging and not enjoying my movie night with Pk. To be honest with you I’m not that into action movies so I’m maximizing the moment and making the best of it.

To be honest sha the movie is not that bad Just being a spoil sport

So what’s my thought for today?

The one and only thing I took away from the movie:
THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD- MEN OF ACTION ….AND THE OTHERS.

Got me thinking

Hmmm… Which one are you?
Good night guys
I’m so cold and sleepy
Unfortunately need to get back to my room. Can’t sleep just yet.

Because you gave part 2

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Hey people

I’m back! Officially day 20 post

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Like play like play 20 whole days of blogging

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Ten to go….

I’m really happy today. I have this warm fuzzy feeling deep in my heart. It’s that feel good feeling you have that no matter what happens around you or to you, you just can’t shake. It’s that feeling  you get when you know you heard God.

I’ve been smiling

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(inside) all day. I missed being at #christmas1000timesbetter physically but the gist I got totally made me so much more confident that I heard God.

The truth is when I first heard #christmas1000timesbetter it was supposed to be a JUGN project. It was my give-back time but for some reason I felt in my heart that God wanted to use it as a teaching moment for DCC as a whole not just the women.

I had no clue how to go about it or where to start from but when I spoke to my sister Diche, she and her wonderful team Helping Hands our benevolence team, they came up with a plan and a cost. Then our DCC workforce got behind it and of course you wonderful blog family.

At first we were like the disciples when Jesus told them in Luke 6, you find them something to eat. We had so little and it seemed like it was nothing among so many but at the end of the day God showed up. That was the first sign that God was in it.

First he sent us miracle, our miracle worker. She single handedly did all the shopping even with a healing leg. We got everything at rock bottom price and packaging and mobilisation was a breeze. Then even without enough money Diche went ahead and bought the baskets in faith. The idea was Lord we’ve brought the baskets now you have to fill it. We had more than enough but that wasn’t the highpoint of the day for me.

The biggest miracle for me was the lesson in compassion that our DCC family got. People encountered hunger first hand. They saw tears of joy, received hugs even got a thank you card from someone who said she had never received anything at Christmas in the last twenty years.

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They felt something I had been trying to teach for years…. God showed me that as pastor peter used to say to me, some things are caught and not taught.

They all left there happy to be a part of something bigger than them. I, happy that we were able to be the answer to some people’s prayers. God showed up and I’m sure people that had lost hope in him, had their faith renewed today.

I’m just glad that he thought me worthy to be a part of this great plan. I’m grateful Lord. Truly I am…

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Okay guys, let me not go without saying thank you to all who helped us make this happen…..your 5 loaves and 2 fish thousand naira made a huge difference

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God bless you

Here are a few more pictures. Still waiting on photography department to send me pictures.

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Trust our people to turn anything to a photo shoot

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You can still find some more on our instagram page.  @dcclagos
Please follow :-)

Because you gave…

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Hey guys

Okay so i missed yesterday day 19

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so you get two posts today you know the drill na…

Yesterday I got into holiday mood so I slept off and the time difference isn’t helping much :D…it’s lazy me time…

So yesterday started off really good. Woke up late 8am that’s 5am Nigerian time. Tried to find something I could eat, what with all the Asian cuisine…at the end of the day settled for honeyed chicken wings and cornflakes. then off to church – God’s pavilion….and guess what? my pastor rev Femi was preaching. I had a reaaaaaaaally good time Hearing Rev and PK. Father and son

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Oh! It was sooooo refreshing to hear my papa preach. Rev just has a way sha. You gotta love him. He turned the whole place upside down and down side up.

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Then released the blessing of rest on every side. 2014 is not over. I still have some Last Minute Miracles to collect in this 2014.

Then I did a movie with pk but of course I regretted the movie. I was sooooooooooooo angry with the end of the movie. Don’t worry I won’t spoil it for you. It’s called ESCOBAR Paradise Lost

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… FYI Pk totally loved it …I on the other hand kept wondering what I was doing there :D

Got in and slept soundly. Woke up and realised I had double work :-(
But it didn’t spoil my morning sha.

Today was #christmas1000timesbetter and oh! My God! I hear it was amazing. I don’t have the full gist yet but I believe that will be the part 2 of today’s blog

I just have a few pictures

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And one particular testimony that touched me:

One of the groups said they entered one of the houses and met an old man who was shaking he said he hadn’t eaten since yesterday. That man now has food because you gave.
Thanks guys

God bless you.

See you later with full gist And pictures.

The Stage Is Set

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Hey guys

I’m just breezing through. Where did today go? Its 2:10am here. Need to sleep cos although it’s Friday it’s church day over here. So I have to be up early.

Just wanted to let you know, we are already packing

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and getting set to officially to make #christmas1000timesbetter for 1000 families

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And here’s the testimony we actually hit 1000+ so like I prophesied to Diche we will feed 1000 and still have 12 baskets full

Thanks guys. Yay! We did it
Will keep you guys posted. The actual sharing will happen on Saturday 20th of December 2014 bright and early at 7am
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So this is officially day 18

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See you guys later
Love u

Call me JOSEPHine…

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Hello people

Day 17

I’m in one of those my I don’t want to do anything today…or maybe I should say I don’t want to do anything ELSE today mood.

Woke up at 4am…packed…went out to exercise with my ever relentless fitness instructor…ended up doing more than I planned, the abdominal programs were an unbelievable torment by the time I got to 900 I was moving more in my mind than in my body. To be fair to myself I had a very busy physically and emotionally draining previous day so I guess it was carry over fatigue. The good thing is my “mean” instructor Paul didn’t let me give up so I finished my 1000…went in bathed vida…packed some more then put vida to sleep and off to dassah’s school for some more mummy duty.

I had a great time there and it just dawned on me how much dassah has grown. Yes I know you’re like she’s just three na pastor M. It’s not like she’s about to ship off to uni or sending out wedding invites. 
…eeeerr I beg to differ. the dassah i know and live with may be 3 chronologically but she acts like she’s 33 but hey…I get ahead of myself. I was just gushing over how grown she is because now she actually participates in school projects, singing in carols, doing recitals and dancing ballet.

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She was no longer the baby dassah lying in my arms downing 300ml of milk in one seating :D

I saw her eyes light up when she got her part in the recital, I watched her determined frown as she tried to remember her ballet steps,
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I saw how much fun she had in her zone, with her friends and how proud she wanted us to be of her….and we were.
After that we rushed to the airport to check in and almost fainted. This airport is sooooooooooooo hot. Why is no one bothered about that? As in the sweat was pouring down my face and body. Went through all the airport madness and all I want to do now is curl up and disappear into a little corner for the next few days…oh! if wishes were horses…

Anyway I’m off with my family for our official family vacation. We are all excited but I’m guessing “happpu” happiness actually (vida’s nanny) is the most excited. It’s her first time on a plane. She was up so early this morning and had finished all her chores extra early. We’ve all been teasing her about this trip and she just smiles but I know it will change her. 

Why am I blogging about this? I’ve actually found out that giving people new experiences, helping them fine tune and interprete their dreams and funding some of those dreams really makes me happy. I love to nurture people.  I think I’m beginning to see that there’s a Joseph in me somewhere.

What do I mean? My Pk was preaching recently about the three Josephs in the bible…do you see why when I invite you for meetings you should come? I invited you for Last Minute Miracles na. Did you come? Ok anyhow let me continue you can always order the CD thank God for technology. 

So the first Joseph (gen41) represents a dream interpreter, a solution provider. Someone who finds a way to make your dream come true and your life better

The second Joseph is the father of Jesus. He’s a nurturer, he will protect your destiny and connect you with people who can help your destiny. He takes responsibility even when he doesn’t have to

The third Joseph is of arimathea. He was a wealthy man. Who saw money as a tool to make things happen.
I believe that there’s a bit of each in me…at least that’s my prayer daily

It just makes me happy to bless others. What makes you happy?

Okay guys battery low
Gotta post n run
Will update with pictures once I land.
Love you guys

Am I being unreasonable? Dilemma

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Hi guys
Dilemma tuesday is here again
But before that here are the winners of the last dilemma “is this a test?” thankfully I had no hand in picking them. So if you don’t win, it wasn’t my fault or my choice.
Winners are:
1. Rotanna Onyedi
2. Beehivep
3. Nneka
Thanks guys you win Nathaniel Bassey ‘s latest CD “Son Of God”
Please call Bose on 08077714411 to redeem your prize

Now on to today’s dilemma
Dear Pastor M
I really don’t know why I’m asking you this as I already have a clue as to what you will say. I’m just throwing it  out there who knows you may say something different.

So I’m 27 and just recently got married. My husband and his ex girlfriend had a child together. The child is 2 years old. He has always taken responsibility for the child as in paying her bills.

The lady in question is planning to get married in March 2015 and has asked my husband to come and take his child as her soon to be husband refuses to raise another man’s child.

My husband wants us to take in the child but I have a problem with it. First of all, our marriage is still too young to have a child in it. Secondly, I think it’s unfair to be saddled with another woman’s responsibility.

Finally the child has sickle cell anaemia. Am I being mean? Am I being unreasonable? If she wants to start her life afresh just her and her husband. Why don’t I deserve a fresh start?

Please what do I do?
Okay guys there you have it.
It’s day 16

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see you tomorrow

Do you care?

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Hi guys

Back like I promised.

It’s officially day 15. 

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I’ve been doing a lot of thinking today. It’s just one of those days where I’ve been still. No, I’m not sad or moody or anything like that (thankfully I don’t have the luxury of such emotions these days). I’ve not even been particularly quiet. I’m still holding regular conversation just not more than usual. When I say I’ve been still, it’s more of an internal stillness

What triggered this? Well, I spoke to someone today and she was very excited about #christmas1000timesbetter

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and I was telling her it would be so much easier to do things like this if we had more people on board and she told me she felt exactly the same way and sadly her experience wasn’t any better than mine as she had to promise her colleague some grilled chicken in exchange, he agreed to pay for a few families

I’m amazed at how untouched we are by other people’s lack. How we will hear things like this and go “it is well”. I’m excited about this whole project because I’m excited to see the faces of these people. I’m also excited because it will change the perspective of those who will go into the field to hand out these food hampers.

It will be life transforming. My sister heads the benevolence team at DCC and truth be told I consider her to be privileged breed – never really encountered hunger or suffering up close. Well, her first assignment was to visit a family where one of the daughter’s had just had a child. I’m not even going to focus on the poverty that hit them but get this. The baby was wrapped in a damask wrapper, no diaper or clothes and the “nursing” mother who was complaining about not lactating when asked what she had eaten at 2pm said she hadnt and her last meal was in the morning the previous day.

Now if you haven’t had a child you may not understand this but I found it really sad because she didn’t eat not because she was on a diet trying to get back her pre pregnancy  body back. No! She had not eaten anything because she couldn’t afford to.
People are suffering out there and we really don’t care because we can afford not to.

I refuse to be that person….not just at Christmas…but Christmas is as good a time as any to show love. Afterall it’s because God gave that we have Christmas (john 3:16)

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Besides Jesus said it is more blessed to give than to receive.

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Think about it
See you tomorrow

2014 thankful

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Chai! How did I get to this place again?!

Bible no de lie o! Proverbs 6:10-11 warns us against a little sleep…a quick power nap…just a little rest…
That’s what happened to me again and now I’m going to do two posts to make up again…

It is well…

Simply teaching me that there are consequences for every action we take in life. …like oversleeping and ending up with two blog posts instead of just one

Had an amazing day yesterday. Hung out with some of our friends after service. Tony or “man T” as we call him was my pk’s best man at our wedding. Haven’t seen his wife Uwa in maybe eight years…. wow! So anyhow we went for lunch with their twin boys and I threw caution to the wind and threw out every single diet rule out the window. Hey! I haven’t seen them in so long it was worth cheating for. Lol! 
So had a huge lunch….took pictures after

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and said bye bye on a really full stomach. Then instead of me to get home and blog….i said let me just lie down small. I won’t sleep just need to rest my eyes…..a bit…and  here I am just waking up from my “not sleep” lol!
Okay guys so let’s talk
This is officially day 14 post
Dec 14th was our thanksgiving service and I realised I hadn’t really sat down to count my blessings for 2014

So here goes….
I’m thankful for my pk…

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where else was I going to start? Hehehehe….
The Love of my life

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. One of my best ever decisions was choosing you. My friend, confidant, coach, teacher

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, lover, my baby daddy,

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lol! The list is endless really. I’m thankful for you and your faith and total trust in God. Sometimes I feel like Sarah must have felt following Abraham all those years….to a land not seen with natural eyes. you inspire me daily

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I’m thankful for my baby girls ‘dassah and ‘vida.

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Dassah my first born, my pride and joy.

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Leader extraordinaire. Fun, people lover

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Never intimidated by anyone. Lion hearted

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but sweet and protective. I’m thankful for how much She  has grown.

The other day it just hit me how grown she is now. I had just come in from school runs and was about to rush out again to buy a few things for the kids at a nearby supermarket. As I was about to leave my dassah called me back “Mummy! Mummy! Where are you going?” she looked alarmed. “I’m just going to buy something down the road I will be right back” her eyes grew even bigger, “you are going out won’t you wear your dress” confused I looked down at what I was wearing – a knee length (okay so it was sitting on the knee not under) sleeveless dress. “Dassah I’m dressed”. “Nooooo?!” she said emphatically “it’s a top not a dress” “but dassah I wore this when I came to pick you with daddy” next thing I know, she’s off screaming “DADDY! DADDY!!!” My pk answers and she says “are you the one that said mummy should not wear her dress?” he looks at me and says “mummy is dressed” I go on to explain to him what brought the conversation. So he tries to explain that this is a dress and not a top. She looks at both of us funny and says “ok o!” and walks away as if to say “na una sabi” that’s how much my dassah has grown that I’m often unsure as to who is mummy and who is daughter lol! 

I’m thankful for my baby ‘vida,

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my miracle child. My gentle baby. Gentle until she stands up

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then she moves like the wind. Before you turn she’s done all she wants to. Very sure of herself….being a second child I often worried that having a big sister with such a strong temperament like dassah may be a problem. I worried about her growing in her shadow…

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but no, not this one. once she wants something she will fight tooth and nail (and I mean that literally. She will bite and scratch you if she has to) not intimidated by size, she has been known to fight even pk to get what she wants. And she’s one strong baby (at least she took one thing from me) *sticking out my tongue at pk* she carries things twice her size. She will fall, get up, dust herself and carry again lol! She’s daddy’s girl and quite the chatterbox. She says everything from “jijus” (Jesus) to “aunty” to “aunty Joy  to “adada” (Hadassah) to “happp” (happy) she says everything but mummy *rolling my eyes*

I’m thankful that my girls are healthy, that they are happy and that they are loved.

I’m thankful for all the other people in my life that make my life easy and have become family. I’m thankful for my Eky and joy.

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I’m thankful for all the beautiful 2014 moments and excited about 2015

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testimonies to come.

Thankful for aunty mabel

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and all the sacrifices you make.
 
I’m really thankful for my parents ….still together after 44 years

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…and my siblings. I may not see them all so often but when we do see its magic…. I’m thankful we are all alive and well and that we are multiplying

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daily :-) ;-) :-) I’m especially thankful for my baby sister “aunty didi”

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and the school runs she saves me from :D and the fact that she lives close by so dassah gets to do sleep overs with her cousins.

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I’m thankful for vida’s nanny happiness

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or “happpu” as vida calls her. Trust me when God sends you good help

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you need to be thankful because them no plenty for this Nigeria.

I’m thankful for my DCC FAMILY. For the ministers, the workforce, for all the many different projects we were able to pull off in 2014, for all the people that got saved, that had testimonies, that somehow saw the reality of the Word from God to us in DCC

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I’m thankful for my life, my blog, my challenges that I overcame, the victories I won, the friends I made, and those I retained :-) I’m thankful for my blog family and all of you cheering me on for this 30 day challenge.

I’m particularly thankful that 2014 is not over because that means I still have time for some more last minute miracles ;-)

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Okay guys gotta run.
I hope I made up for yesterday.
I promise I will be back later with today’s blog post.
This is day 14.

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Temporary separation

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I saw her on Tuesday at the RUSH HOUR FELLOWSHIP . She was on the ushering team for Last Minute Miracles. Standing on the left hand side of the hall helping people find seats, managing the chaos of a crowded hall.  Dressed in black…or does my memory fail me now?

I still remember thinking I’m going to ask what she’s doing to lose so much weight. She looks great.

Then I saw her the Sunday before that. She smiled at me as she said a quick greeting and quickly disappeared. Did I say I also saw her the day before? On Saturday at the journey and this time my Pk didn’t let her get away with a quick greeting. He asked how she was and complimented her on her weight loss. He told her ” I’m so proud of you on this your weight loss. You look so good. She smiled such a big smile and said “bye bye sir”

How was I to know that would be the last smile or that when she said “bye bye” it was to be the last words I  would hear  from her lips? I woke up this morning after an unbelievably stressful night to hear that “joscy”
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had gone to be with the Lord.

I asked in my heart “why?” partly because I didn’t get the chance to know her too well. I had just “threatened” her about three weeks prior that she would be my new best friend as PK had told me about a challenge she had and that it would take inner strength for her to do the right thing.

I smiled back on Saturday actually I beamed because he had just told me she chose the narrow path. I was excited to see the testimony that was to come from this major sacrifice….I never got to :-(

This news has taught me three things

1. Love the people you meet:
Don’t just say a quick hello. Linger…
Ask how they are and don’t accept “fine”
Don’t postpone getting to know them.
Offer your heart, time, energy and BlackBerry pin and mean it…
Be there..

2. Only what you do for Christ will last:
No one will remember your shoe size, the type of weave you had on, the clothes you wore, your favourite perfume or believe it or not your dress size.
Nothing else will matter only the things that show people the Love of God. Hence my fire for #christmas1000timesbetter

3. There is definitely an expiry date for everyman.
Only eternity is guaranteed, every other day is a gift not a right.
Live everyday doing ALL you can for EVERYONE you can
We are passing through. This is not our permanent site.

Having said all this remember that God has promised to give you life till you are satisfied.

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So if you ain’t satisfied. It’s not time to die.

Good night Joscy,

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it’s just a temporary separation. See you  the other side of eternity. You served and inspired. The DCC family will miss you especially the Ushering Family.

I really wish I got the chance to make you my “best friend” like I threatened.
Blowing you kisses in heaven as you rejoice in His bossom …how do you feel meeting Jesus? hmmm…..i can only imagine…

Ok guys see you tomorrow with a cheerier post I hope.

Before I forget it’s day 13

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The Right Thing

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Hello darlings

Just realised I hadn’t blogged today and it’s day 12 yay!!!

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God has been faithful. I’ve had many reasons why I shouldn’t have been able to put up a post but somehow I always find the strength and inspiration to do it.

So It’s 10pm and I just got to the DCC VICTORY DOME to join our drama dance and choir departments for carol night rehearsals and as I drove in I noticed something: everyone was parked haphazardly.

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(okay so that’s pushing it lol! But you got the point right?)

Why? Because they thought no one would see them so why park correctly? …..errrrr well cos it’s the right thing to do.

This is really the problem with human beings and Nigerians especially. We will run a red light

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if there’s no police watching. We will drive one way if LASTMA is not in sight

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. We will throw things out the window since KAI is now non-existent and we say we want a better Nigeria.

Are you reading your bible because you have a bible class to teach tomorrow? Are you praying loudly because you are in a prayer group tonight? Are you dressing well today because you know that guy will be around? Let’s stop doing things out of eye service.

Do the right thing always

DONT DO THE RIGHT THING BECAUSE SOMEONE IS WATCHING, DO THE RIGHT THING BECAUSE IT’S THE RIGHT THING TO DO

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Okay guys gotta run in for rehearsals.
Talk to you tomorrow.
Love you guys.
Don’t forget let’s make #christmas1000timesbetter for some one

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Faith and works

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Hello people

It’s day 11

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Unfortunately I have to keep it short tonight. Long story….and I really don’t want to bore you with the details. 

How was your day? I’ve started seeing a few dps change to

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Thank you to all of you who have come on board but I’d still like to advocate for more than a dp change or a Facebook update.

Sadly with the advent of social media, a lot of us have come under the false impression that once you change your blackberry dps or update your status on Facebook or post on twitter that you have done enough.

Have you noticed how people rarely send gifts anymore? Once it’s your birthday and I put you up on my dp or send you a broadcast (an over flogged one I might add) at Christmas or any other holiday I feel like I’ve done my bit for the year.

Now this is purely my personal opinion and I could be wrong but I just feel like only putting

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Up on your dp and not being a part of this project is the same thing as James 2:15-17

15 If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food,
16 and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good[a] is that?
17 So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.              

So tonight I make a plea to all of us to move beyond saying God will do it…to actually putting our bank tokens where our dps/statuses mouth is.

Okay guys gotta run.

I really hope you get on board
Won’t it be lovely to finally meet Jesus and hear him say
34’Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. 35 For I was hungry, and you fed me. I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home. 36 I was naked, and you gave me clothing. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me.’
Matthew 25:34-36

God Will Do It…

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Hello people

It’s day 10! 

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Yay! 20 more to go. Not doing so badly with this daily blogging. Hmmm….honestly thought I would have given up by now seeing as it’s the end of the year and it seems like there’s so much to round up on or to plan in readiness for 2015

Anyway had a great time reading all the responses on dilemma Tuesday post. Even the lady in question got a chance to see it from other people’s perspectives. So thanks guys you’ve been a great help. Winners will be announced. Let’s just say I’m glad I’m not one of the judges. It’ll be so hard to just pick three comments from all the seriously good or hilariously good comments.

So what is on the burner tonight?

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I will tell you. Today was midweek service and boy! What a service. However I’m not about to run the whole service. You can always order the CD. My Pk taught on divine health. You will never be sick another day in your life if you can catch this. Tonight though I have something a bit different to serve you :-)

Have you ever spoken to someone about something really important. Maybe about some problem that needed solving and before you even finished their response was “Eyah! God will do it” or have you ever shared some challenge that you know someone in going through with someone you know is able to do something about it and the person answers you with an “Ehen? God will do it for them in Jesus name”

I have, and each time it happens it just rubs me wrong. In fact it is fast becoming a pet peeve for me. Don’t get me wrong I’m not in any way insinuating that we should become God in the lives of people. Far from it! I know for a fact that in the wise words of Rev Sam Adeyemi that “If you think you are the El-Shaddai, you shall die. :-) But I think that statement God will do it has made lazy Christians of us all. We have become a lot like our predecessors the twelve disciples.
Jesus had an amazing crusade and 5000 men minus women and children were in attendance. After such a powerful crusade

15. In the evening the disciples came to him and said, “It is already past time for supper, and there is nothing to eat here in the desert; send the crowds away so they can go to the villages and buy some food.”

16 But Jesus replied, “That isn’t necessary—you feed them!”

17 “What!” they exclaimed. “We have exactly five small loaves of bread and two fish!”

18 “Bring them here,” he said.

19 Then he told the people to sit down on the grass; and he took the five loaves and two fish, looked up into the sky, and asked God’s blessing on the meal, then broke the loaves apart and gave them to the disciples to place before the people.

20 And everyone ate until full! And when the scraps were picked up afterwards, there were twelve basketfuls left over!

21 (About five thousand men were in the crowd that day, besides all the women and children.) – Matthew 14:15-21

They were ready to leave the people to go away hungry and say “God will do it” but Jesus showed us something in that scripture. Sweetheart God will not do it! The same way you are waiting on God to solve the problem, God is saying I’m also waiting on you. Jesus said to them if you see a problem, then take responsibility and be the solution.

We need to get to the point where we realise that God has done everything he’s ever going to do. When Jesus said, “IT IS FINISHED!”

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he actually meant he had done everything HE needed to do. From now on the rest is up to us.

Why am I saying this? I think one of our greatest assignments as Christians is to do what Jesus would do. Christmas is just around the corner. I love Christmas. It’s one of my favourite holidays but I also realise that for some people It’s just another day. Nothing special. Because like Jesus’ crowd they hunger. I’m not about to make the same mistake that bros peter and Co made. I’m going to do what Jesus said and give them something to eat.

So this is the plan. I’m heading a project called CHRISTMAS A THOUSAND TIMES BETTER And my goal is to make Christmas better for a thousand families. Nope it’s not just another benevolence project that people do to take pictures and print magazines. I’m doing this in obedience to Matthew 25:35-40
Jesus said if I do this for anyone, I’m doing it for Him. In other words, He can’t do it physically so I’m becoming his hands.

We are making hampers….everyone loves hampers right? ……hampers that contain things that can be used to make food for a family to eat and ensure they have a good Christmas
Each hamper will contain
Rice
Oil
Salt
Seasoning
Indomie
Macaroni
Tin tomatoes
sardines
…..and any other thing we can squeeze in.

Each hamper that will feed a family costs just N2000. Insignificant money abi? I know how much you spend to fix that Peruvian hair. So guys I’m asking you to join me. Let’s bring in our five loaves and two fish

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. And let’s watch Jesus multiply it

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but one thing I’m definitely not doing this year is sitting around praying for God to feed the poor when like Jesus said I can give them something to eat.
So who’s with me?
Interested? You can pay your N2000 into our GTBANK account
Account name- JUST US GIRLS CONCEPT
Account number- 0120674522

You’ll be surprised how far your little will go

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Bottom line: GOD WILL NOT DO IT! IF IT’S TO BE THEN IT’S UP TO ME.
Good night guys.

Love you. 

Is this a test?

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Hi guys
Just leaving RUSH HOUR FELLOWSHIP. Had such an awesome time tonight.

Okay so before I forget that it’s Tuesday and get into trouble with all my cheerleaders. Here’s dilemma Tuesday. For those who don’t know what dilemma Tuesday is, it’s your chance to experience the counseling part of pastoring. I bring you real life issues that people have and you get a chance to give your own two kobo ;-) and when I’m in a benevolent mood like this week best 3 comments win a prize

Dear pastor Mildred
My fiance and I have been having issues. He hasn’t called me in weeks and whenever I call him he says he’s been busy that’s why he’s not calling me anymore. However a mutual friend told me he says he’s observing me to see if he really wants to be with me.

He hadn’t called in over a week so I called to say hello. I asked how he was and he said he’s fine but been very busy and that its a good thing I called because he needs money to invest in a business opportunity that just came up. He wanted me to raise him 100k. Ma, the thing is I’m a student who is paying her way through school. The only money I have currently is for my school fees. I asked when the money would be returned and he said he wasn’t sure but when I pressed he gave me a date past my school fees deadline.

I suggested that he loan the money from a friend and he said he may not be able to pay back on the date the person was giving to him. But he asked me to borrow the money instead and he would refund it. The thing is he’s called me about three times already this morning asking if I really want him to lose the business deal.

Now I don’t know should I give him my school fees? Should I borrow for him? Also ma what if this is just a test? What if I lose him?

Please help ma

Okay guys there you go. Let’s hear what you have to say. Help a sister out.

LOVE YOURSELF

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Just like I promised. I’m back.
This is officially day 8

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Still there? Still hanging in there with me?
This is today’s post

Its not a very long one. Its not even a very deep one. It’s really very simple actually. Probably too simple but here it is anyway. 

LOVE YOURSELF
I find that too many women live for others. We rarely have the time or energy to love ourselves or live for ourselves

I’m not saying this in the selfish sense of the word. I’m saying this because if we really did love our selves there would be fewer ladies bleaching, fewer committing suicide, developing mental problems, fewer women eating themselves to obesity either because someone who didn’t deserve them in the first place broke up with them for someone who can’t hold a candle to them.

The real problem is once we are born we live to please mummy and daddy, then we live to please a young man so he can marry us then we settle down and we think we need to earn our children’s love and respect then we need to be sweet grandma. By the time we realise that it’s too draining to live like that we die.

My post today is advice I’m giving myself too
LIVE FOR AN AUDIENCE OF ONE : GOD! 

Love yourself because no one else will. If you do, everyone else will fall in line

So what to do? Grab your mirror

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and take a good look at yourself and say
” mirror mirror on the wall who is the fairest of them all?”.

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Before your mirror can answer shout at the top of your lungs. ” I am! I am! God loves me…and His is the only opinion that counts ” then blow yourself a kiss…..and relax. stop trying to prove to the world that you deserve to be loved.
Good night guys

Dilemma tuesday tomorrow
Love you

7 Mistakes Single Ladies Make

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Good morning guys

It’s day 7

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It should actually be day 8 but I suddenly became human yesterday ;-)
Got in from church at 2pm, rushed back to preach at 4pm. Got home at 8pm and said let me catch a quick nap then blog when I get up. When I opened my eyes it was past 12 this morning

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I’m truly sorry. So what I will do is blog twice today to cover for day7 and day 8
See what not doing what you should do when you should can cause? You will end up with double the work :D

Okay so time for business
My initial plan yesterday was to do a few high points of my message yesterday at LDM here when I got back but as we all know, Mr sleep had other plans * rolling my eyes*

7 MISTAKES SINGLE LADIES MAKE
Please note that the term single here refers to the unmarried whether you are in a relationship or not.

1. BEING DESPERATE
This is the most common mistake ladies make. When it seems like time is running out, generally as human beings we tend to get desperate. Unfortunately men can smell a desperate woman miles away and they tend to take advantage of her. 
You see the problem with being desperate is that you make poor choices. Ask bros Esau who gave away all his rights as first born for a bowl of asaro (Gen 25:29-33)
Desperate women will stay with a cheating man, a violent man, a lying man all in the hopes of getting married forgetting that you are the one who is actually carrying the blessing he need not the other way round. You carry the favour (proverbs 18:22) you are the king maker (proverbs 12:4) and you are the helper (Gen 2:18)
So relax. Desperation is a sign of a lack of Faith. Afterall if you believe you won’t be desperate (Isaiah 28:16)

2. COMPROMISING
This is usually an overflow of being desperate. Most times ladies start out with standards then as the years go by they start to drop those standards.
Some will compromise on everything they want even their values. They even go as far as dating unbelievers because the believers are slacking. They believe they can change him. Only the spirit of God can change anyone. So if he’s a drinker, smoker, womaniser, marrying you won’t change that if anything changes are you will adapt to his ways. To be honest it’s not easier to date an unbeliever. They have expectations in relationships: sex, nude pictures, pornography, etc are all part of the deal because the spirit of the so of disobedience is at work in them (Ephesians 2:2)
Some will practically change who they are just to marry. You know you are very stylish and fashionable. You

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know it’s a personal need for you. You know it makes you happy then you want to marry someone who hates makeup, weaves, ladies in trousers, earrings or even perfume. You think you can change who you are and be happy?
Some who don’t ever call their mum will call their mother in law to be three times a day, you know you don’t cook at home but when you go to her house you cook with firewood sef Mscheeew…..
Don’t start what you cannot finish.

3. UNREALISTIC LISTS
This is the most amazing and hilarious of all mistakes. There’s a difference between having standards and drawing up unrealistic lists.
You want a man with the holiness of kumuyi, the faith of Poju Oyemade, the miracles of Chris oyakhilome, the exploits of Oyedepo, the excellence of Paul Adefarasin, be as funny as pastor K and still be tall dark and handsome. Oh! Did I forget he must sing like Donnie McClurkin and have Dangote money?
Only you! And you keep adding to the list every year. Need I say more?
Listen to me there is no such thing as Mr perfect. God will never give you a finished man. Most times what single girl’s are looking for is “a finished ” man and I’m sorry to burst your bubble but a finished man is a married man. The result of another woman’s hard work and prayers. 
4. SEEING MEN AS TREES SYNDROME
This is the problem most singles have. The blind man in Mark 8 told Jesus in verse 24 I see men as trees meaning he wasn’t able to recognise them clearly.
Your husband is close to you. Your husband is your friend. The one you talk to about everything yet you say he’s just my friend. You need God to open your eyes. You won’t marry your enemy now will you?

5. PREMARITAL SEX
I need you to listen very carefully to the next few words I’m going to write.
YOUR BODY WAS CREATED AS DESSERT NOT AN APPETISER -Andy Stanley
If you give a man what he will get if he eats his meal. Why then should he eat the meal. You are a reward. If you give him the benefits of marriage without the responsibility then it would be a case of WHY BUY THE COW WHEN THE MILK IS FREE?
Let him have something to look forward to in marriage. Besides sex before marriage is sin.

6. FIGHTING EVERYONE OR  ISOLATING YOURSELF
When ladies want to get married every one but the guy suddenly becomes the enemy. Your parents, pastors, even friends that will give you good advice.
Hebrews 13:17 is God’s response to this attitude. The people in your life love you and want what’s best for you don’t suddenly start acting like he’s the only one who cares all of a sudden.
DONT COMPROMISE YOUR WALK WITH JESUS JUST TO WALK DOWN THE AISLE -Jolene Engle

7. FOCUSING ON THE WEDDING RATHER THAN THE MARRIAGE
Getting married is very important. It’s a blessing but for you as the woman it is NOT A REWARD IT IS AN ASSIGNMENT. The earlier you get this into your head the sooner you will get your head out of the clouds.
The wedding is a romantic experience, to celebrate your love for the benefit of other people and it only lasts one day while the marriage is a lifetime of responsibility to ensure that your love for each other remains intact.
Don’t you think you should focus more on the lifetime relationship rather than the one day event?
Ladies will spend so much on the dress, the cake, the venue, music,food, etc at the wedding and have no clue on what to do in marriage, they can’t cook anything but indomie. I know he takes you out all the time but he will expect you to cook after the wedding in the marriage. Which is just one of the things you will be expected to do.

Titus 2:4 says let the older women mentor the younger wome on what is expected in marriage. So in obedience to that scripture I have something in the oven. It’s called WIFE101 it’s a one week camp for wives to be. Full details next year ;-)

Okay guys hope I made up for day 7. Will be back later with today’s post. Off to the kitchen to do some of my wifely duties.

See you later.

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What’s Your Excuse?

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Hey people we are on a roll…

It’s day 6

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How’s your own consistency challenge going? I really hope you can find some positive habit and work on being consistent at it. It changes you. It gives you a glimpse into God’s nature.
God is faithful = consistency
He never changes =consistency
He never leaves or forsakes us =consistency.
He is consistent at everything He does. It’s just his nature. I think that’s why He loves us to be consistent because it makes us like Him. It teaches us not to live by feelings.

Today trust me was one of those days when “the feeling” with which I said I would blog everyday for 30 days had passed :D
It was such a busy weekend, Friday was so hectic that I eventually slept off at 2am on Saturday morning and by 4am I was up….no my fitness instructor didn’t come (thankfully) I had a leaders meeting by 5.30am, then “the journey” our bible training arm in church by 7am, then EXCELLERATE by 9am, then had to go with my PK somewhere to minister at 12am by the time I got home through the unbelievable traffic (which by the way believe it or not I is still at a standstill this night), my body was practically shaking. I had been operating on 2 hours sleep. I eventually got Dassah and Vida to go bug someone else so I could sleep so trust me consistency in sleep was all I could think of today….but since I had put it out there I Knew I just had to wake up and blog so here I am

I’ve come to realise that if something is important to you, you will find a way if not you will find an excuse. And the bad thing about excuses is that they shut down your mind. Once you find an excuse you can’t find a way anymore. Everything just shuts down. Your mind closes up, your body relaxes and your spirit goes to sleep. If you keep making excuses long enough, you actually start to give up. It’s a bad state to be in…it paralyses.
You don’t believe me? Ask the cripple at the pool for 38 years. Which cripple? Let me help you.

Follow me to the book of John chapter 5 verses 1-9
“Afterwards Jesus returned to Jerusalem for one of the Jewish religious holidays.

2 Inside the city, near the Sheep Gate, was Bethesda Pool, with five covered platforms or porches surrounding it.

3 Crowds of sick folks—lame, blind, or with paralyzed limbs—lay on the platforms (waiting for a certain movement of the water,

4 for an angel of the Lord came from time to time and disturbed the water, and the first person to step down into it afterwards was healed).[a]

5 One of the men lying there had been sick for thirty-eight years.

6 When Jesus saw him and knew how long he had been ill, he asked him, “Would you like to get well?”

7 “I can’t,” the sick man said, “for I have no one to help me into the pool at the movement of the water. While I am trying to get there, someone else always gets in ahead of me.”

8 Jesus told him, “Stand up, roll up your sleeping mat and go on home!”

9 Instantly, the man was healed! He rolled up the mat and began walking!
But it was on the Sabbath when this miracle was done.”

Okay so basically from what you’ve read I’m sure you can see the result of a life built on excuses. This man had been at the pool for 38 years so I’m guessing he’s much older than 38 years because I don’t believe he’s been at the pool since he was born. But isn’t 38 years long enough to get desperate for a healing? Now Jesus appears to him in the flesh not that someone sent him a bible verse. No! For him the Word was made flesh.

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Jesus came in person and said “do you want to be well?”

please o! My people is there another answer to tha question? I thought the man would roll his eyes at Jesus and go “duh! I’m crippled men! What else would j want”….er, if that wasn’t so rude but you get the point right? I thought He would scream a big YES! I mean that’s a no brainer. Why would Jesus even ask. If you’ve been sick for 38 days would you even think about it talk less of 38 years.

But his answer showed he had given up. He said “I can’t!” that’s what excuses do to you. They make you eventually give up. This man had literally given up and He showed us why. He gave a long speech about how he had no one, no connections, he had lots of excuses.

What about you? What’s the excuse that’s keeping you from moving forward? You have no one? You have no way? World people?! People are wicked? Always trying to get ahead of you? Plotting against you?

Sweetie stop telling yourself those lies. Many people have made it without knowing anyone or having anything so your excuse doesn’t hold water.

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Thank God Jesus didn’t leave it up to him, He simply said, my friend will you carry your bed and move out of here now! …
Okay maybe not in those exact words but he did get him healed and moving.
So I’m here to tell you the same thing tonight. Stop! Stop with the excuses and get up and move!

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***please excuse the curse word. For lack of a better expression….

Your life won’t change till you stop making excuses. I’ve made up my mind excuses are a thing of the past. As I always say “there’s always a way.”…all I have to do is find it

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Okay guys gotta go. I need to go put finishing touches to my message for tomorrow. Take this as an invitation to LDM. I’m teaching on 7 mistakes single ladies make

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Catch you guys tomorrow. Thanks to all cheering me on.
Love you guys

LIONS IN TIARAS

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Hello ladies

Day 5

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How was your day? Mine was awesome. Just got in from Last Minute Miracles. I can’t even start on that one now….let’s just say if you missed it then Meeeeeeeeennnn!!! you missed.

Anyway let’s get down to the business of today….

Have you never wondered why God would choose of all the animals to call himself the LION  of the tribe of Judah? I have…

I’m always fascinated by lions. They represent to me the kind of fearlessness that the average human being should exhibit. The lion cannot run as fast as the gazelles or cheetahs, they lack the endurance of hunting dogs, they are not as big as elephants or polar bears but the most intriguing thing about the Lion is the fact that even though it’s not necessarily the strongest, neither is it the most skillful, and even though it doesn’t have any secret venom like the adder or camouflage tactic like the chameleon or porcupine, the lion is the most fearless of all animals.

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A lion will charge blindly into battle simply having faith that she will win. The lion will never turn down a fight irrespective of how big it’s opponent is….the bible tells us that the lion king of animals won’t turn aside or retreat before any (proverbs 30:30)

Too many things seemingly bigger than us charge at us daily as women whether it’s a dangerous godless man that tangles us in a relationship or a barrage of sexual abuse from lecturers to bosses, or a plethora of bad experiences ranging from poverty to sickness and on top of all that, we are faced with a continuous strain on our self esteem. Today I’ve come to announce to you that you are not just permitted to charge right back, you are expected to. You are authorised, enabled and empowered to charge at  and win anything that challenges your life and peace of mind.

God is looking for women who will say enough is enough! I will take back my power and take back everything God promised me and that the devil stole from me. Women who will laugh in the face of danger and like our Lion of the tribe of Judah with boldness, look the devil straight in the eye

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and in a loud voice say “Get thee behind me satan, for it is written…”

Enough tears my dear sister take your life in your hands and go out there and win. You have the backing of Most High God. He is your father. You are royalty. Don’t be some weak-willed, lily-livered princess waiting for everyone to do things for her. Stand up Grab your weapon and go take territories.

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Grab your tiara put it on and with beauty and strength still roar like the lion that you are for God has not given us a spirit of fearfulness but one of power, love and sound judgement (2 Timothy 1:7) you are FEARLESS.

Go out there and be the best. Take over industries. Be bold enough to say NO! To premarital sex, being unequally yoked or nudity in the name of fashion.  Be fearless in the face of persecution. God is counting on you. Being a woman is not a disadvantage it is an asset. Be bold; be beautiful. Rise above challenges gracefully. Know whose daughter you are and keep that tiara firmly on.

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As the year comes to a close. Don’t give up. Don’t you dare stop believing. You still can….

Be female; be fearless.

Awaiting the testimonies.
Love You

P.s.
I know the female lion is called a lioness. It just sounds better to say lions in tiaras. Lol!

P.P.S
Don’t forget EXCELLERATE tomorrow. See you there

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EXCELLERATE

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Hi guys, 
More info on EXCELLERATE
Don’t be scared this isn’t my Post for the day. Just thought you might need this information

To be honest I just copied this post. It’s not original so it doesn’t count really.

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Music, Dance and lots of fun. The Gate for d Fair opens by 11am immediately after the powerful business teaching by our Billionaire Businessman, Guest Speaker Rev. Dr. Victor Mbanisi (chairman BANEX GROUP)from 9am to 11am.

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EXPIRY DATE

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Hello guys

I’m back again
It’s day 4…..

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These past few weeks have left so many of us with mixed feelings. I heard a lot of Christians hold back albeit with a bit of difficulty but hold back nonetheless from questioning God. I personally know a lot of Christians who struggled.

I still remember that morning like it was yesterday. I woke up at 4am like I usually do to get ready for my fitness instructor who come rain or shine, hell or high water would show up at 5.30am to “punish” me. So as I got up, (I must confess I have this bad habit of reaching for my BlackBerry once I get up, either to check the time or messages) I immediately reached for my phone. And there it was on a friends pm ” Oh! Lord tell me it isn’t true…” and with those seven words I was awoken to the terrible reality that Dr Myles Munroe and his beautiful wife were no longer with us…

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A lot of people cried out…
“Why are Christians dying? If a whole Myles Munroe can die who is safe? ”

“Plane crash again?! Another minister of the gospel? What is going on? ”

I heard all sorts of things. People put his picture up, quoted him,

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blogged about him but in all of this I remained silent and found comfort in this  scripture

“To be absent in the body is to be present with the Lord. ”
-2 corinthians 5:8

We cried because we would miss him but as soon as that plane exploded, he rejoiced because he was with the Lord and probably even cried for us… cried because he felt sorry for us that we were still limited on earth and not free like him now

We asked why? Why would the righteous die when so many wicked still live?

And I am comforted Yet again and quietened by this fact that
“good people pass away; the godly often die before their time….no one seems to understand that God is protecting them from the evil to come”- Isaiah 57:1

But while we were still recovering or should I say being comforted the blackberry dps started changing again and this time it was popular radio personality and creator and host of sharing life’s issues chaz B who had kicked the bucket. 

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Radio went haywire. People called in crying talking about how he had blessed them and how he had touched their lives…

….then I finally got it. I had an Eureka moment. I heard it in the spirit loud and clear LIFE HAS AN EXPIRY DATE.
Yes, whether we like it or not, we are all going to die . We are all going to  leave behind this earthly body whether in death or by rapture but one thing is for sure. We will all transit this earth at some point in time.
It got me thinking, when great men like Myles Munroe

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or Pastor Bimbo Odukoya

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pass on, we shouldn’t cry for them instead we should go and look at our own BEST BEFORE dates

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and do something worthwhile with our lives before we EXPIRE. 

If you really think about it, everyone actually has a best before date. It’s what the book of Ecclesiastes calls the days of your youth. Serve God with your youthful strength. You are actually BEST BEFORE you die ;-)
And because we don’t have all the time in the World, You do have an expiry date you know….

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God wants you to make impact before its too late. Before you are certified expired

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God wants you to Accelerate your excelling so you can affect and inspire as many people before your expiry date. I hear there’s a meeting you must attend to help you EXCELLERATE. It’s a seminar for business people to receive their own last minute miracles. Find details in the flier below

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Also some more good news….Last Minute Miracles still continues tomorrow. it’s been extended. Ministering tomorrow is my very own PK :-)

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DO NOT MISS IT!
See y’all tomorrow.
Still pushing through…. Consistently

Oh! How He loves us…

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Hey guys
It’s day 3

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I’m here again…did you think I had missed today? NEVER! lol!

So straight to the business of today.

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Very recently someone sent me a message in her moment of sadness and disappointment and she said something that just ripped right through my heart. She said “….why doesn’t God loves me enough to make this happen for me?”

I was heartbroken because the devil just got one point at that moment. His sole aim and primary goal is to make us question God’s love for us. If he can get you to believe that God doesn’t love you, He can get you to mess up the rest of your life and destiny.

The funny thing is that his game plan NEVER changes. It’s the same principle. His method may be different but his goal is the same. He’s been doing this same thing since time began. Remember Eve? Yep! Our mother Eve. He told her God can’t be telling you the truth because He doesn’t love you. He’s an insecure God. If you eat the fruit. You will be like God and He doesn’t want that. Noooooo! If you are like God, then you will share in His power and ability and He won’t want that. So without realising it, Eve questioned God’s love and inevitably His word. She ate the fruit with Adam

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Which resulted in her loss of destiny and here we are still paying for that error in judgement. I mean if not for her I wouldn’t have had to turn my wardrobe upside down this morning trying to find what would fit. Imagine the blissful ignorance of being nude everyday yet not really naked as I would be covered in glory…. *sigh*

Relentless he walks down to mama Sarah. You know her na, papa Abraham’s sweetheart. He comes up with the same story. How can you say that God loves you when He cannot give you a child.

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I thought Abraham was important to Him and look at all the sacrifices he had made for God ; leaving his family behind, changing his name to be embarrassingly called “father of many nations” when he can’t even father one son. How can God love you? He MADE the heavens and earth and yet he cannot MAKE you a mother…. His “friend’s” wife? Hmmmm…..

Sarah fell for it and led Abraham into Adultery which has sadly resulted in all the wars in the middle east.
You see, no matter how good satan’s advice sounds it can never be for your good. He’s out to steal from you, kill you and or destroy you. He knows that the quickest way to destroy you is to get you to question God’s love. Once you can question his love, you will question his word and if you don’t believe his word, of you cannot say “It is written!” with confidence…if you cannot do that, you cannot have faith and if you don’t have faith you are finished because without faith it is impossible….

What is impossible? Everything!!!
It’s impossible to be happy in life.
It’s impossible to meet a great man who loves you.
It’s impossible to have a great marriage
It’s impossible to have children.
It’s impossible to prosper
So in essence what I’m saying is this, don’t ever let the devil make you question God’s love for you.
God doesn’t just love you, He is love. He has no other response to you but love so don’t ever let circumstances or situations make you pray prayers that question his love for you.

Be settled fully in this:
GOD LOVES YOU AND HE WANTS WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU EVEN WHEN YOU DONT THINK HE DOES.

He says I wish above ALL things that you prosper….

God wants you to have it all because he loves you but when you question it, you either slow down the process or you totally cancel what he has for you because of your unbelief….
Because you don’t believe he loves you.

Let me ask you this …if he he didn’t with hold his son will he not also with him FREELY give you ALL things?

My darling. He loves you.
Speaking of loving you. He loves you so much that he doesn’t want the year to end the same way for you. He has a place and time he’s planned to visit you tomorrow. It’s called last minute miracles. Check out the flier for details.

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I’ll see you tomorrow. I have one small gist for you

Love you.

Should I propose?

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Day 2
Dilemma tuesday
Okay guys I’m back :-)
Yeah! Yeah! I know it’s only day 2.

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Too early to start celebrating right? Lol!
Okay so here’s this week’s dilemma. Please feel free to leave your “two kobo”. She will appreciate it. Besides you guys give such great advise ;-)

“Dear Pastor M
I’m writing to you because I just read your book “JUST US GIRLS” And it totally blessed me. I also need some advice. I noticed that in your book you talked a lot about character and things that are expected of the single christian lady.

I’m 32 years old and I’m single. I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for five years. We met during NYSC. He’s 2 years older than I am. He’s born-again. He runs his mother’s business. He’s very sweet and kind and our relationship really has been good so far. My only issue is that he seems very comfortable with being in a relationship and is not making any moves to take it any further.
I know he wants to marry me and I’m very sure he’s not seeing any one else.  he’s never been unfaithful to me. The issue is he’s just very laid back. He’s never actually said the words marriage but when we started the relationship he told me he loved and hoped that one day we would build a family together.

So what I’m asking is should i propose to him? I know him very well. He just might be thinking about it but he will drag his feet till Jesus comes and the truth is I’m not getting any younger. My parents are beginning to ask me what the problem is.
Please what do I do? I’ve checked and I didn’t see anywhere the bible says a lady should not propose.

Ok guys so there you have it. Should she propose? Is it alright As a Christian lady? Is it alright  since they are already in a relationship?
Can’t wait to hear from you.

See you tomorrow. Thanks to my cheerleaders squad ;-)

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30 Days….

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Hello people
Welcome to delightful December.

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How have you been? I know it’s been a while. I’ve missed you guys but it’s been really busy around here.

Anyways I’m back and I’m back with something i’m sure a lot of you will be happy about….
This week I saw a picture I really liked and put it on my BlackBerry dp. It said ” CONSISTENCY IS DOING WHAT YOU SAID YOU WOULD EVEN AFTER THE FEELING YOU SAID IT IN HAS PASSED.

I’ve actually been rolling it over in my head. So I believe the Holy spirit will have me do a bit more than just think about it. So here’s my practical class on consistency Or is this the exam?

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I’m taking up the 30 day challenge. What does that mean? Simply this: I will blog consistently everyday for the next 30 days….no matter what excuse I could easily manufacture.
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Now here’s where I’m going to need your help.   I’m going to need lots of cheer leaders ;-)

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Secondly, I need us to do this together. Ok so you may not need to blog daily but I’m sure there’s a positive habit in your life that could do with some consistency.
So pick one

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and maybe tell me about it so I can cheer you on as well.

Tomorrow we start with dilemma Tuesday. Come back ok?
Trust me, I’ll be here…consistently *fingers crossed*
Ok guys later

Should I Tell Her?

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hello people

so due to popular demand, Dilemma Tuesday is back.
you get a chance to air your views and help out a sister
remember best comments get a prize. here’s the dilemma.???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

Dear Pastor
I am a young girl of 22 years of age. I currently live with my elder sister and her husband because my parents are retired and in another state. my sister is responsible for paying my school fees and other basic needs. she is seven years older than I am so I am as close to her as one can be to a sister practically in another generation. she’s like a mother to me. I have been living with her for three years now and all was well….no. I cant really say that, all is not well. in the three years I have lived there my brother in law, her husband, has been trying to get me to sleep with him. I blew him off for a while until one day when he forced me to kiss him and we ended up with heavy petting. I was able to get away from him before he could actually do any more havoc and nothing has happened since then because i threatened to tell my sister but i never did. Early this year, one of my cousins also got admission into the same university and because my sister is very sweet and she lives in a big house, she allowed here move in. I suspected my brother in law may have been hitting on her but I wasn’t sure until I saw both of them coming out of the BQ of the house which is usually empty. when i asked my cousin, she said he took her there to show her the place in case she wanted to move out of the house but she looked like a cat that had been caught with a mouse tail sticking out of its mouth. Early this morning as I passed by to get some water from the kitchen, I passed by the visitor’s toilet and I heard some moaning. I guess in their passion they had forgotten to lock the door because as I turned the handle the door opened and I saw the most horrific sight ever, my brother inlaw and my cousin having sex. I am so confused. They have both been begging me not to tell my sister. my brother in law has even threatened to tell my sister that it was because he turned me down that I am making up stories about him. I am wondering should I tell her? what if I tell her and she doesn’t believe me? what if she does and I end up destroying her marriage? what if my cousin gangs up with my brother in law to tell lies about me? please I need your help. should I tell her or pray she catches them herself as I am sure they wont really stop as they claim?

okay guys, so what would you do if you were in her shoes?
lets get the comments rolling in .
take care.

RED LIPS, HIPS, FINGERTIPS OR HEELS

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I really need to say a big thank you To everyone who made  yesterday special for me- those who prayed, those who gave me gifts (thanks chayil ladies for my red shoes),

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those who came to hang out with me, those who put my pictures up on BlackBerry, Instagram, Facebook,, Twitter etc , those who sent messages and all those who tried to call and couldn’t get through (told you my phones would be off sorry). To you all, I say a big thank you. I am truly honoured and humbled because I know it is not really me that you celebrate but the God in me.

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Okay so now that’s out of the way how are you preparing for #FEARLESS? I’ve seen so many pictures.

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Some are truly fearless while some are downright frightful 

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I was actually really worried when I saw some but that’s story for another day.

I just want to send you a final reminder about FEARLESS. I know it’s a fun event and we are all getting ready to paint the town red with our red lips, red fingertips and red heels but that’s not all its about. Come with an open and REaDy heart. Come ready to receive answers if you have questions. To receive direction if you are confused. To receive peace if you are worried and to receive boldness if you are afraid or uncertain.
We have the opportunity to meet with our father and to receive from the throne of grace. Don’t make it one of “those” meetings. It is your time with God. Come and you will never be the same. I’m expectant as well. I honestly can’t say I know exactly what’s going to happen at FEARLESS but I do know a lot of ladies will be healed and set free.  Will you be one of them?

please Come early. Free gifts for everyone but it’s on a first come, first served basis so just a hint…come early, be served first.

Okay guys. Don’t miss church ok? God has a word for you. If you don’t have a church, God is waiting for you at DCC ;-) my pk will be teaching on game of thrones :-)

Gotta run. Need some sleep. Long day tomorrow. 

See you tomorrow. Be daring in your red. Rock it which ever way you want whether on the lips, hips (hmmm….red pants may not be bad), fingertips or heels. however you want to show up…just BE FIERCE, BE FEMALE BE FEARLESS
Love you guys

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If you make it, please say hello and possibly take a picture with me so I can put it on the blog. Or just share a hug. :-)

…still standing

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When I think upon your goodness and your faithfulness each day, I’m convinced it’s not because I am worthy to receive the kind of love that you give….wpid-IMG_0897.JPG

I’ve never been the kind of person who makes a fuss over my birthday. In fact the usual thing would be for me to switch off my phones and sleep most of the day wpid-E...-__227863.jpeg

except oF course my pk has a special surprise lined up for me: hon, anything for your girl? (in my most agbero voice lol!) But this year I’ve decided to make a fuss….. Okay maybe not a fuss exactly because I’m probably going to switch off my phones and sleep again (I know…I can be dry) I’ve decided to at least celebrate on my blog because God has been faithful. wpid-IMG_0896.JPG

Besides this may be the most I can do since I’m on a diet so no cake or juice or anything remotely unhealthy. Too much work to throw it all away in one day ;-) wpid-de-Mark_928919.jpeg

So let me do all my celebrating here abi? At least I can eat a large slice of virtual red velvet cake

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But seriously I have every reason to be thankful. Looking back over my lifewpid-3L1A5069.JPG

now, I’m convinced the devil has always had it in for me but as always he can never win. I celebrate today because after everything I’ve been through I’m still here…still standing strong. wpid-3L1A5112.JPG

I’ve had ups and downs but I’m grateful that there have been more ups than downs and for that I say
Lord I’m amazed by you…and how you love me…..wpid-3L1A5040.JPG

Like most people I’ve been through wicked seniors, mean lecturers, bad friends, heart ache, betrayal, health issues, name it…but I’ve experienced more joys
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, testimonies

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, faithful friends, the warm enabling strengthening love of the one man wpid-dsc1164.jpgwho has decided to make my joy his responsibility.

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Why God would give me Pk and give me heaven is beyond me truly but all I know is I’m thankful.

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God has made my life beautiful. He’s stood by me all the time. Never failing me once. Always holding my hand and walking me through it all. No matter what I’ve been through…the important thing is I’m still here…still standing.
I’m truly grateful.
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Today I celebrate…not my birthday…but my God. I celebrate my Jesus. I thank you my father because of you I’m still here… still standing.

Now, in other matters arising, every year people ask me what I want for my birthday and I always answer very nonchalantly that I don’t know but after much thought I have decided to answer this question once for all….

Here is my birthday list.
I’m sure I will update every year….

Meanwhile please note that I am not asking for things you cannot give me like good health, long life or  unrealistic things like world peace. I’m focusing on other unrealistic things :D
#1- a full year where I am not asked questions I need to think to answer or asked to pay bills of any kind. #faithforsoulsnotforbills
#2- a debit card with unlimited funds….imagine being able to spend anything u want in this physical realm….#allchurchprojectspaidfor #omoseegroove
#3- a wardrobe full of clothes that don’t go out of fashion and that adapt to body size and change colour according to my mood. I lose weight, I gain weight o! Same size. #inogospendmoney
#4-a great fat burning metabolism so that I don’t have to diet or exercise and I can eat all the junk I want and not gain weight.
#5- a 5 bedroom house in an estate of my choice (ask me privately) in lekki. Fully and tastefully furnished please.
If you can’t make any of these happen? Then as they say, a girl can never have enough shoes,perfumes, jewellery…books, cars…oops those last two are in the wrong list abi?
Seriously a prayer and maybe a cheque is fine…I need all prayers and money a girl can get :-)
Also get asked a lot biggest lesson I’ve learnt…
Simply this:
#1- God is faithful
#2- there will be always be dark moments in life. If you smile through the darkness,

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someday people will see your smile in the light

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because the darkness will be over
Okay guys, gotta run. Thank you in advance for all the dps, fb messages, tweets, etc but especially for the prayers…..and cheques ;-)
Lol!

Love you guys.
I will be back tomorrow with your final invite for #FEARLESS
Have you taken the #fearlesschallenge?

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through it all…God was there.

THE PERFECT RED HEELS

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Hey people 
Yeah! Yeah! I know….its been ages. so I won’t bore you with apologies even though I am sorry I haven’t been here as often as I’d like to be. These days I feel like I need an extra 24hours everyday…. don’t we all :-) 

Okay so I need to share a few things with you and they are so important that I had to walk through the dust, cobwebs, musty smell, dragons and all that have taken residence on this blog since I abandoned it *covering my eyes*

But let me start With a little story first. 

You see, something happened to me yesterday that made me realise how much we will suffer if we take the Word of God for granted. Trust me this isn’t just me preaching this is me also sharing a personal experience with you. Once the bible says something pay attention. Okay so back to the episode that got me back to blogging :D 

I was at a very popular mall in dubai. Needed some shopping therapy

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…well, alright I needed to pick up a few things and right after I had done the necessary,

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I somehow convinced myself that I “needed” those perfect red high heeled shoes

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…..every girl needs one right?

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believe it or not I don’t have one…yeah I know, shocking right? 

 So I planned to remedy this but I had my eyes set on another mall. So I got to the taxi point and saw this scarily looooooooong queue

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and I decided to be “smart” and I thought hey! I’ll “naija” it.  So I walked out of the mall by another entrance which took me 15 minutes walk to get to. By the time I got out to the road and collided with the scorching dubai sun, I knew I couldn’t stand there for long so I decided to just keep walking believing I would find a taxi and for the “perfect red shoes ” set before me I was definitely going to endure the “sun”. My sister! I walked for 2 hours…NO TAXI. After a while, the porter at one of the hotels near where I had been standing practically exhausted came to me and told me I wouldn’t  find a taxi there no matter how long I waited and advised me to do another 15 minutes walk to the metro station where I hopped on a train and finally made it home. Note that I said HOME? I abandoned the red shoes

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for the comfort of a hot bath, foot rub and a warm bed. 

When I woke up this morning, I felt like I had been hit by a bus. I hurt all over…

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then the sweet Holy Spirit whispered to me….”obedience is better than sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22 ” ….and that my people is the moral of the story. If i had just stayed on that queue and “dubai-ed” it rather than looking for a short cut I would have eventually gotten a taxi, made it to the particular mall, gotten my perfect red shoes and stayed out of the sun so I wouldn’t have the “by-force” tan I’m now carrying about *rolling my eyes*. 

And life is like that. It’s just better to follow the way instituted by a higher authority than to go it alone. They probably knew that I wouldn’t find a taxi outside so they had a system in place. It’s always safer in a system. You are usually protected and a lot of things have already been thought through. I learnt the hard way…in fact someone teased me that I went on NYSC endurance trekk…e for even better. I went on “sufferance trekk” that had no benefit especially since I didn’t get my shoes :-(

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I’m sure by now you know that this post isn’t really about the shoes :-) It’s about staying safe in the system of God’s word. There’s safety in whatever God has said. 
Just trust Him and obey Him. No matter how long and tedious it seems at the time. Trust me His yoke (system) is easy or should I say easier than your “short cut”

That’s why I’m a 100% sure that this year’s JUGN Conference is something you can not afford to miss. I remember in January I had started planning and  I was so sure  that the theme would be FUN, FEARLESS FEMALES…great theme right? thought so too. I had even contacted our speakers, I had lots of ideas. It was all supposed to be amazing. Then one Sunday morning in church. We had a guest minister and as he was preaching everything seemed to blur and I could hear God speak to me clearly. It was a clear case of “your teachers will be in front of you and you will hear a voice behind you saying this is the way walk in it (Isaiah 30:20-21)” 

…I heard. write this down. JUGN Conference 2014 theme is FEARLESS. You will be the only speaker and music by Efe Nathan. It was clear as day. I got a lot of other instructions which I will share on that day…see why you can’t miss it? 

But you know what’s really amazing for me is that I got this theme FEARLESS long before the spirit of fear invaded Nigeria through Ebola. God sees, He knows way ahead of time what his daughter’s will need. He’s prepared for you. Trust me the way everything has been orchestrated I know it is one of those meetings where your life will never remain the same after it. 

Need I say more? Make sure you are there and invite a friend. You know how we do. Free gifts for everyone.

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Also something to watch out for in line with FEARLESS…#redlipstickchallenge

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I’ll tell you all about it on Tuesday in place of dilemma Tuesday.  

Okay guys. Got a plane to catch.

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See you on the other side of the world soon ;-) 
Love you. 

P.S 
Those following me on journeytosizetwelve.wordpress.com i promise to update soon. The journey has been tiresome, with some hitches, cheat days turning to cheat weeks lol! But through it all, I am more than conqueror and UK size 12,  I shall be :-) 
I give God praise though I’m not a size 20 anymore :D
Pixs coming up soon

Thank you..

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Just to say a big thank you To everyone. I’m amazed at the amount of love you all showed us  yesterday. For every prayer said or every dp changed. I even saw some for the very first time

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Vida is OUR testimony in the body of Christ. A sign of God’s faithfulness.

I too will join you in celebrating your victory.

Ok so  for those who know us. you know We don’t really celebrate our kids’ first birthdays. So officially there was no  party but some amazing aunties (aunty ogo and Aunty Meg) sent us a cake. Aunty. ‘dora bought us a dress. Two amazing photographers uncle Chika of KC image media and Uncle Eyo ArtScientist showed up. So even if there was no party, didn’t stop Vida from having a photo shoot.

I’m putting up a few pics but if you follow me on instagram @pastormildred you will see the rest as I get them.

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Love the Pout. #modellingtinz lol

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Looks like one of her daddy’s preaching stance. Lol!

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#confirmedpreacher lol!

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So excited to be one. Notice the teeth. No more toothless grins. Big girl

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My personal favourite. Vida and her lovely cake and very pretty dress.

Do you see ‘dassah in the background On her bicycle?

Once again. I say thank you guys. Blowing you a million kisses

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The testimony turns one

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Courtesy aunty Ada….love it.

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More selfies from different people as we celebrate.

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Vida and dassah…Sista love

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Vida and my very pretty PA kemi.

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Vida and chichi. Hope u passed that ur great voice to her. No be to carry for free.

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Vida and our wonderful and adorable aunty ‘dora. This would never be complete without you.

Thanks for the birthday dress. Pictures coming soon.

 

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Vida and Aunty Fade. DCC island church engine room. She’s just amazing with children. Our very own baby whisperer :-)

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Even Vida is shocked by how much we are celebrating. Every dp on mummy’s phone is me. Wow! Lol! Love the look.

Will be back with updates

Just Like Yesterday…

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I woke up today and realised that it’s been exactly 365 days (Nigerian time) since I saw the full manifestation of my testimony. By this time last year, I like Simeon in the bible could also say, “My eyes have seen the Salvation of the Lord”

I still remember the entire day like it was yesterday. I can’t even find the words so maybe I will do this blog post in mostly pictures.

I remember the preggy days :-)

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Then there was the first false alarm and I was sent to the triage. Everyone was panicking. “The baby is not moving!” of course I smiled through it all. Pk sat beside me looking thoroughly bored. After much drama and ultrasounds. They discovered she was sleeping. So she wasn’t moving and I was sent home.

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Then a week later I was practically dragged back to the Hospital and induced. Pk and dassah found it really amusing. But trust me. I wasnt amused. I wanted a September baby

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Eventually she arrived….

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A beautiful gift from God and the pain of eight long years erased

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Then of course daddy had to go back home and we were discharged the next day and grandma showed up to work her “omugwo magic”

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Look how tiny she was… then the birth certificate arrived

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After 2 weeks, of plenty breast milk. She looked like this

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Even then, pouting like a pro taking a selfie ;-)

Then aunty Diche showed up

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Then MK showed up. Of course He had to come see the miracle behind the song “ODOGWU”

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Of course how could I forget Amaka (zoya)

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Then the icing on the cake, “Grandpa Rev” as ‘dassah calls him showed up and came to bless and name her. My pastor amazing as always. Eyes filled with love and wonder

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Also the good Bishop ;-) Bishop FEB Idahosa also arrived and we quickly sneaked in a picture

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Plenty anointing :-)
made her godmother Pastor Laurie jealous but she Eventually got hers at the dedication and subsequent visits to Benin

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Eventually 6 weeks was up and final checks with my OB/GYN. Dr Demeo

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And her amazing pediatrician Dr Kerifidies

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Then we were bundled off back to Nigeria. This is Vida at the airport with one of the most selfless pastors I’ve ever met. Pastor Chris

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Arrived lagos via London secretly as I  knew DCC people would have had a carnival at the airport.

Safely back home. Protected from Mosquitoes.

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Resting easy on daddy

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Then the visits began. Pastor B was the first to see her. He didn’t even know I was back in town. He just dropped by

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Then other DCC folks too. With my PA Bose.

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With Our amazing Aunty Eky

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Of course with aunty Joy there will always be smiles

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with aunty Licia

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In church with some of our ministers. They stole my daughter for a photo shoot and I had no clue

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With aunty blessing Showing off her new look. Finally got her to make her hair for the first time

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Also a favorite with the celebs too. Vida with PITA

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And with Gbolahan

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With Freke

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Then there’s been lots of sister time

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Honestly I have so much to be thankful for . She’s grown healthy and stronger everyday.
At birth

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At two weeks.

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At one month

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At three months

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All 3months especially this beautiful toothless grin captured by uncle Val of Aventura Photography.

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At six months courtesy aunty Faith of Faith Wilkie Photography

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Excited about sitting

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At nine months in the Uk

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Eating for aunty ogo

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Ten months plus

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With aunty chioma At DCC island church Taking selfies getting ready for dp tinz. Lol!

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funny they always seem to be taking selfies Or did someone help out with this one? Hmmmmm….

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At eleven months

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Out with aunty Lima Who came all the way from Canada to see her and Aunty Eky

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at Onos concert

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#everythinghaschanged

Today I thank God for the blessing of ‘Vida and her amazing birthday mate pastor Jerry Eze of streams of joy devotional. Yep, vida has special celeb birthday mates like that

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Happy birthday love you both absolutely. Pastor Jerry I celebrate your greatness especially because your life is a total expression of God’s grace.

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P:s
If I didn’t put up a picture of you and Vida it’s either because you haven’t taken one or I don’t have one so if you do please send it to me at dccpastorm@yahoo.com. And I will update.

Heaven’s angel- Palmira

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Hey people
I’m sure by now you are as excited as I am about akikitan. Don’t let anything stand in your way on that day and let me give you a quick bit of advice…please Come early – honestly 4pm is too late ;-). Limited seats and free gifts for first few people only

And please don’t come alone. Bring someone the akikitan fever is still on

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It’s almost unbelievable that you are a woman and you are not coming for akikitan . I’m just as shocked as this little boy

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So many testimonies still pouring in from last year.

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Don’t miss what God has in store for you.

Okay guys. So I’ve told you a bit about Onos and my song of the year EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED. Then I   told you about THE MINSTREL Efe. Now let me give you another reason to come for Imela

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Her name is Palmira.

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My first encounter with her was at MANNERS. Remember that programme for women by my PK? I think I blogged about it back then.

Anyway, she walked up to the stage and I thought Awwww she’s really pretty. I hope she can sing o! Then she started talking about what an honour it was to be at the meeting and she sounded a bit nervous then I thought hmmmm…this fine girl, she had better sing well o! this one she’s shaking to talk….

But when she started singing….
I literally opened my mouth in shock

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I could not believe it. By the time she was done, the whole auditorium was on their feet clapping wildly. Honestly my mouth was open the entire time. She sounded like an entire choir of ANGELS were singing through her.

Then at PITA’s concert she walked on stage  I heard a popular “gospel” artiste sitting on the table next to mine say to a friend beside him, “who be this? “. And I smiled because I Knew what was coming.

As soon as she started to sing

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He opened his mouth in shock, I tried hard not to laugh. As soon as she ended the song, he was the first on his feet clapping.

Palmira is like that. very unassuming but Anytime she gets on stage and she opens her mouth to sing, you are somehow transported into heaven and you get a glimpse of
what worship will be like in heaven.  Like I’ve said many times before if heaven is missing a musical angel
I’m suspecting this girl seriously. I’m still looking for them wings ;-).

Over time, we have gotten quite close. Some people have actually mistaken her for my younger sister once or twice :D

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What I love most about Palmira is how dependent on God she is when it comes to ministering. There are no airs about her. On her own she knows she can do nothing. She steps on that stage then steps out of the way for the Holy spirit to take over

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She definitely knows who all the glory belongs to when she sings

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I believe that’s the secret behind her being so anointed. I literally have goose bumps anytime she sings. Not just the voice ( which like I said is heavenly by the way) But I just feel the presence of God in the room

Now you know what Happens when God walks into a place…..do you really still want to be missing on Sunday at akikitan? After everything I’ve said?

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Lol! I’m sure you will make it.

Before I go let me celebrate one of my son’s and a fellow blogger.

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Johnson Madichie and his pretty bride as they walk down the aisle today

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Congratulations my love as
you always say: EVERY MAN WILL
HAVE HIS DAY …today is yours :-)

Finally before I go I must say “goodnight” to one of gospel’s finest kefee the branama queen.

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Sadly we never got the chance to have you at When Women Worship. :-(

You won’t be forgotten

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THE MINSTREL: EFE

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Hey people
I’m sure by now you have at least heard about akikitan and you have become akikitan-ized like some of these people

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Even the kids are not left out

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That’s my dassah on the left with her friend Temisan aren’t they cute?

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Men too will not carry last. Lol! Mk and PK…. :D

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and in case you didn’t notice that’s my PK pouting. According to Him. Is it only women that pout? Lol. He’s just funny like that sometimes.

Okay guys on a more serious note I wanted to share something with you that I hope will up your expectations for When Women Worship 2014 akikitan

Before I met my PK And moved to David’s Christian Centre, I was worshipping at This Present House. That was my church for years and I absolutely loved it there. TPH had great music and amazing worship leaders. However there was a time when for some reason we didn’t have a choir. We had only three ladies who would come up and lead worship

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and peace (as Efe was called back then was one of them)

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One thing I noticed back then was even though “peter, James and John” as I jokingly called the select three would minister, “john” (Efe ;-)
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AKIKITAN-ized!!!

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pastormildred:

Thank u E’ I feel like I should have done this post myself. Just caught up with so many other stuff. Okay people so read it… n follow. already

Originally posted on The F.A.B. Sister's Blog:

This post will just be pictures.
You gotta love DCC and whoever brought this concept up

I mean, everyone is AKIKITANized…

BBM is bristling with this. Twitter too. You have to be living under a rock beneath the dead sea to have missed it

I love how peeps be asking me ‘what’s going on?” ‘What’s Akikitan?”

We are starting a revolution yo!!! Get on board already.

Still clueless? Here is what I mean.

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Even the babies weren’t left out

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And the Olori oko himself joined his daughters and wife

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Omo I decided not to carry last despite not being in Lagos yet so I got out the only two markers in the house and started trying

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Feel free to laugh
Everyone I showed laughed.

And gave suggestions but I couldn’t get any of the stuff they suggested.

So I carried it and did this

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Originally posted on A rare and unique breed's Blog:

Hey dawleen bloghearts, hope june has already started being nyc 2 us? So I finally was able 2 stay and attend LDM in DCC 4 d first tym yesterday, trust me guys, listening 2 LDM messages is good buh its nothing compared 2 being dere live! Choi! Yesterday’s edition was on point cos I learned, I unlearned and even re learned. Yes o, some nasty ideas in my head(dunno where I got some unscriptural ideas from o) needed 2 be unlearned. Bless God 4 Pastor Kingsley’s annointing jare! It shall neva run dry IJN!

Okay, don’t bother trying to follow the link in my title, cos it aint gonna lead u to any website, nahh instead its gonna lead us 2 d throne room where we can pour out our love to Jehovah from our flowing Alabaster box! (U feel me, right? Lol am just a cray Cece winans fan).

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EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED

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Hi people,
You know how last year I had a song I couldn’t stop singing? It was like my theme song for 2013.

What?! You don’t remember it?

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I don’t believe you. I made so much noise about the song, I even themed last year’s When Women Worship (WWW) after it. Now do you remember?

You still don’t?

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Okay, it’s Nathaniel bassey n Enita Adaba’s IMELA. Now do you remember?

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Okay, so as I was saying, this year I just got that song. It totally speaks my heart. I hadn’t even met the lady when I heard the song but I just knew she had to be at WWW this year. I had the song playing back to back on my phone. In fact when ‘vida hears the song, she stops whatever she’s doing…yep, whatever…even breastfeeding…trust me the song is that good. major thumbs up, a billion gold stars. It just makes me feel grateful. I can’t stop feeling like this when I hear the song

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and then when I’m done singing I always just throw a proper ntoi to satan again

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I can’t get over how God Just blesses us till we dont think there’s room for more then He tops it up.

If you have anything to be grateful for at all, then this year’s WWW – Akikitan is the place to be.

The truth is I have run out of words to express my gratitude. I’m sure that day I will just be a bundle of tongues and tears…so makeup artists be warned I am bad market for that day ‘cos mascara will definitely run
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But when I look at my life today I can definitely sing alongside this beautiful and talented, anointed worshipper Onos that EVERY THING HAS CHANGED

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I hope you can say the same

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=n7k-T3DVppA

See you guys later, mummy duty calls ;-)

WHEN GOD WANTS TO BLESS YOU…

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Hi people
It’s only on special days like these that you can get me to blog twice when like someone said there were literally cobwebs when she dropped by….

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…and I thought I got every last bit. oh well! Back to work

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So, there’s this popular saying that when God wants to bless you, He puts a man in your life…I sooooo agree, see my blessing

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Hehehehe… I just couldn’t resist it. especially since I had me the most romantic week. No I’m not sharing, go and read Songs of Solomon or something….lol! well, okay since you asked so nicely :-) I’ll give you a hint… i’m not in the country at the moment so that should give you a hint ;-)

Anyway back to what I was saying, if you look all over scripture you will find examples to corroborate this saying. David had his mighty men, Abraham had his most trusted servant Eliezer, Paul had Timothy, even Jesus had Peter, James and John

I’m a firm believer in the fact that human beings are gifts. The book of Ephesians tells us He gave men as gifts…some people are just gifts and when God wants to bless you, He sends you a gift. it’s up to you to recognise the gift
I have a gift from God and today is her birthday. My dear darling daughter Eky

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Where will I even start with this gift from God. She’s special, she’s different. There are very few people I know or have Met in my life who exemplify Faithfulness. Eky is faithful, she is stable, steady and sure. You can rest assured that she will put aside her convenience to bless you first. She is the very image of loyalty.

She’s an amazing big sister too

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My ‘dassah and ‘vida are so blessed to have her in their lives. Funny ‘dassah actually called her name “amama” a contraction of aunty and ekamma :-) before she called me mama. Today the name has stuck as everyone either calls her aunty amama, or aunty mama. Vida just lights up when she sees her.

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And she’s so efficient
my Eky will climb over mountains to get the job done. We call her Chief of staff. She runs the church office like a true God’s general. We call her “the fixer”. She’s always around somewhere solving a problem

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If you can get past looking at rev Femi and my pk that’s Eky solving one problem or the other :-)
and she can look so unassuming when she’s doing all this

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Like one gentle girl. But Eky ME and you know how far…resilient and totally sold out to God and her dcc family.

There are just too many things to thank God for when it comes to Eky. She is a gift that keeps on giving. I honestly don’t know what I did to deserve this gift in my life

Such a beautiful spirit…and oh! Eky can cook! Choi! She runs Eky ‘s mobile kitchen so if you need good food, great packaging…trust me Eky is the one to call. don’t tell her I told you but you should order her special beans ;-)

Basically all I’m trying to say is I love you Eky. Absolutely. happy birthday darling. May you find as much joy as you bring us daily and When you start reaping the harvest of all the seeds you have sown in my life, like Peter you will need to call others to share because you won’t have room enough to contain it.

When God want s To bless you He sends a man…God wanted to bless me, He sent ekamma.

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Have a blast love. I see you are all dressed ready to paint the town blue.

Also, Happy birthday Uche I can’t forget you. Dear brother of life

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Seems like a-MAY-zing people are born in May after all :-)

a-MAY-zed and grateful

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Hi people,
How y’all doing?
So a lot to share and I have to do this quickly cos I only get a few minutes before some other pressing issue comes along and takes over.

Okay so I know I haven’t blogged in sooooooooooooo long but God help me, it feels like a day doesn’t go by without me blogging (in the spirit) lol!

Anyways I’m here now so let’s play catch up. So much has happened and so much to be grateful for. May is and has always been an a-MAY-zing month for me as far back as I can remember especially since May 24th 1992. That’s when I gave my life to Christ and its been an….wait for it….here it comes….yep! you guessed right….an a-MAY-zing love and life journey. I won’t even try to diminish the experience by trying to put into words what being with and living for Jesus has been like these past 20+ years. I’m just truly grateful that He wouldn’t let me go…even when I tried to run, He stuck by me Tenaciously.

I’m also grateful for May bcos so many…yep, you guessed again, a-MAY-zing people were born in May…here are just a few of my very special people. note I said a few so if your picture isn’t here, it’s WordPress’ fault (that’s my story and I’m sticking to it) * straight face *

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Popularly known asChigul…every other one is a counterfeit and we can’t have eet…lol! simply hilarious. So talented and such a sweetheart.

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Glow…my dcc mini me ;-) the only other pastors wife in dcc. my son’s crown and the apple of OUR eye… even though she has refused to give me fine girl with long hair like her own
…anyway the fine boys are more than enough compensation. :-) my daughter through and through.

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Funmi my darling. Faithfulness and loyalty are second nature. Beautiful inside and outside. Best weight loss partner anyone can have. Makes exercise and dieting so dramatic and enjoyable. I’m too busy laughing at her reaction to pain and her funny yoruba exclamations I tend to forget I’m in as much pain :D

And of course

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my Ada ada pekem pekem ada ada. I don’t even know where to start. this is so looooooooong overdue but better late…right? ada is special.
Once I put up a blog post and Ada and her mischievous crew ms giddy n E’ have not commented it just feels incomplete. Ada is just such a breath of fresh air. Always up to some thing, if it isn’t teasing ‘vida or dassah on their modelling career. It’s planning how to take over the British monarchy by marrying off this beauty to prince George. But isn’t she lovely though?

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But Ada just out of curiosity, when she hooks up with Prince George does that make you Queen mother in law or just mother in law? Hmmmm…..

Finally on Birthdays. It’s my very special daughter’s birthday today. No need to even try to fit her in here. She deserves her own blog post.
Eky next post is for you

Ok so birthday mentions done.

A lot has been brewing over here but let me start With these three…. aha! wait for it…say it with me if you can… a-MAY-zing women.

Palmira

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Efe

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Onos

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What do these three a-MAY-zing women have in common? Apart from being born-again, exceptionally beautiful worship leaders?

What?! You don’t know? Okay so let me tell you then. They are the three guest ministers for the upcoming JUGN When Women Worship 2014 titled A ki ki tan

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I am sooooooo excited I can barely keep still. I’m sure you know that means I’m blogging almost everyday till then.

Other stuff in the works but let me be releasing them bit by bit

So akikitan first….
get ready guys. Did you miss IMELA last year? Lots of testimonies from Imela. Do you now Want to Be told? As they say in home video ads. Grab your copy now :-) plan to be at a ki ki tan.

See you guys later

….APRIL FULL TO THE BRIM

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Hey people
Can’t believe it’s already the last day of April….and boy, was April full for me. First it was full of events, full of blessings, full of surprises, full of birthdays ….and speaking of birthdays, April 12th  is a really special day for me. It’s the birthday of my first born,

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my pride and joy, my special blessing from God. On this day

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this specially gifted angel from God turned 3…yeah, yea. I know it’s hard to believe. Even I sometimes tease her that she’s 33 not 3 because the things she says sometimes, I’m in awe really . She’s like a wise old soul that has been around for years. I can’t help thinking heaven must really miss this one.

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I’m humbled really that God would choose us  to parent this very special child. She’s the epitome of her name Hadassah…an ever green tree… As refreshing as ever.
Onyeshielibe…a constant reminder that no one can determine the destiny of another.

Once dassah walks into a room she simply takes over….with her smile, her charm, her warmth, her compassion, her wit. She’s such a rare gem …and God chose ME? to mother her…. Hmmmmm….

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Hadassah Onyeshielibe Okonkwo, is now a big 3….er both of us know you are actually 33 but hey who’s counting? mummy loves you. You make me so proud

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It was also my god-son’s birthday on April. He has the most interesting name :-)

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Isaac Diekololaminiwajuoluwa samuel-onyeani turned one. He looks two though ;-)

It was also aunty naybell’s (mabel)
birthday

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Okay so a million and one birthdays really but that’s not what this is about. Let me Welcome you to May.

I love May. It’s a very polite month :-). It’s not like March. March just storms you with whatever it has but May on the other hand seems to ask, “MAY I bless you? ” you need to allow May come in with all its got for you. Give it permission in the place of prayer.

Okay so that done, let’s move on to other businesses, I’m sure you noticed o barely blogged this month. No excuses but I’ve had a lot of other stuff on my mind.

First we have WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP Coming up soon. Were you at IMELA last year?

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Well, it’s almost here again and this time the theme is akikitan.

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It’s actually yoruba styled theme and the planning team  decided since we are doing it yoruba style why not go all out so the ladies are selling aso-ebi. If you are interested these are the numbers to call.

If you are single call- sis funmi 08029681392
If you are married call – sis Moni 08023180503
Or simply call blessing – 08037770384

I’m sure they can hook you up . I hear it’s really affordable so don’t worry. It’s N1250 For 3 yards and N2500 for 6 yards. I can try to get the pictures for you later.

But that’s not the main thing I need your help with. Here’s the real issue. I know today is dilemma Tuesday but I kinda need to turn it to a Testimony Tuesday for now. We are putting together a magazine with testimonies from Imela and I’d like you to send in yours or if  you know someone who got a testimony from Imela we would love to have it.

Please send to
pastormildred@justusgirlsnaija.com

And copy dccpastorm@yahoo.com.

Thanks guys.
I gotta run now before Vida gets up.
I will be back with more details on akikitan

Why Don’t You Have A Pastor?

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As I lay here, yes I’m in bed. For some funny reason my natural doctor thinks I need bed rest and of course I will humour these doctors especially since I have been threatened by one of them who keeps popping into my house unannounced just to be sure I’m resting….well, that’s story for another day….

So as I lay here, I’m really thinking about this question above and I’m almost sure I hear you say, “of course I have a pastor” and my response to that is this story I heard a couple of years back. It is said that when shepherds take their sheep out to pasture, they meet other shepherds and along the way, the sheep get mixed up but once it’s time to leave, the shepherds need only call out and the Sheep would immediately find their masters and if in the midst of sorting them selves out, some sheep still miss their way and go to the wrong shepherd, the shepherds would simply redirect them to their rightful leaders. How did they even notice that the wrong sheep followed? Simple the shepherd knows his sheep. kind of like the relationship you should have with your pastor.

So in the light of that little story, I will ask that question again: “why don’t you have a pastor?” If you were me, many many many maaaaannnny years ago, then you’d probably answer me with, “abeg. I don’t have power o! I don’t like my pastor knowing me. I just go to church, do my bit and disappear. It’s God that I’m serving and he knows me”

Now note I said me many, many, many, many, maaaaannnny years ago…believe it or not I wasn’t born a pastor. I was once a “enter church, hear the word and disappear” kind of christian. So I know what I’m talking about. If the relationship you have with your pastor is come to church, hear a great sermon from him and on really good days you buy a cd of him that you play from time to time then you are totally missing the point…and you are just as bad as this guy

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It’s funny but most of us just don’t get it. God had a reason for giving you a shepherd or as the bible puts it…

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You see, there are actually pastors that make you know that God loves you and He’s thinking about you.

1997, I had an encounter with one of such pastors. You see I was raised Catholic and I never really had any interactions with priests or reverend fathers beyond the Saturday confession and Sunday homily. So when I got born-again I still saw pastors the same way. Hear them preach and only get close or go see them when you have some dreadful sin to confess or even worse get sent for when you have committed some major wrong.wpid-3-O.L.K_3_613925.jpeg

So anyway there I was having one of those ” is this how Christianity should be moments?” and yes i had quite a few of those as a baby Christian. You know the kind brought on by over-zealous lacking knowledge older Christians who place religious principles before christian love. So there I was asking myself many questions when a friend of mine went to tell “this shepherd” that she had a friend who was having an “off” day. Funny enough he was around because he had service in a few minutes, so had come out to pray before the fellowship meeting. Funny enough I wasn’t a member of the fellowship he was pastoring but he, just like Jesus even though he was on His way to Jarius house stopped to minister to the woman with the issue of blood, this great man of God stopped all he was doing to answer my questions and pray with me.

After that, and a series of other incidents which I won’t bore you with, I became a member of Christ Love Fellowship OAU Ile-ife. For the remaining two years I had the privilege of being pastored by this wonderful man of God. He was truly a pastor, a shepherd, a teacher and a prophet over my life. He took time to pray for me, counsel me and teach me. He asked questions, he answered mine. He looked out for me. He taught me how to hear from God. He taught me the power of confession but more importantly he showed me and taught me the Love of God. I learnt the cutting edge of the gospel- how to be all things to all men to save some.

Pastor Temi Odejide would ask how are you? And for some reason you felt like Jesus was in the room telling you no matter what you are going through, I’m here for you. For the first time in my life I knew what it meant to have a shepherd.

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The man who guided my adolescent years :-)

Pastor temi can teach Ehn! Kai! Imagine if I didn’t learn how to hear from God, how to study the word, how to confess the word. Where would I be today? What if I didn’t feel accountable to someone? I would simply have lost it. The truth is I can’t say we were extremely close but pastor Temi was my shepherd. He knew me, looked out for me, guided me and answered my very long letters (epistles as he used to call them)

But graduate he did and since there were no phones or social media access back then I was left without a “pastor” but he left an impression on me about the kind of pastor God wanted for me.

Then fast forward to 2005, when I met and married my pk. Then I met not just a pastor but a FATHER *big big big hug* my pastor in every sense of the word. Rev Femi Albert Oduwole

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Or grandpa rev as ‘ dassah calls him.

Where do I even begin with Rev? Anytime I think about him I just think if you don’t have a pastor (like rev) I pity you. Accept my sincere apologies.
Rev is such a busy man, preaching all over the world. Name the place and I bet you he’s been there or he’s on his way there. He’s what you call a TREACHER…a preacher that teaches. some preachers just preach you happy and when you leave the service you ask yourself what did I learn today? How can i use it? but rev? Rev is different. Once he holds a mic, be sure your life will never remain the same

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I know I am always excited …. :-)

He’s such a father. He held my hand through those eight long years of waiting for a child and when I told him God had answered. My papa actually cried. That’s how happy he was. Then re-arranged all his meetings for the year so he could come to America to see and name my baby “Araoluwa” when she arrived. All on his own bill

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Then after I came home, he cancelled more meetings so he could dedicate her in our church

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the most beautiful thing about Rev is how he makes you feel like you are the only one he’s pastoring…and we are maaaaaaaaaaaaaannnny trust me. Eziaha alone accounts for like 25 people. lol! Rev reminds me of how God is mindful of me. How the whole world is hanging onto him, yet He answers ME when I call, He answers when I pray and He loves ME.

That’s how Rev pastors. Always there when I have an issue, a question, need guidance, or just need someone to talk to. And if I’m doing good, he’s the first to applaud me

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Tell me again? Why don’t you have a pastor?

I’m safe in marriage because my pk submits to him so even if it were possible for him to “run mad” (pk’s own exact words. I’m just quoting him) all I need do is threaten to call Rev. :-)…..and you still insist you don’t want a pastor?

Hmmmmm….

Me sha I bless God for pastors especially since he has blessed me with the best ones.

I’m married to one. To my pk. Trust me if I start on my pk. WordPress will close down lol! But me sha I love my pk

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And I totally absolutely positively love the fact that he’s also my pastor.

The truth is a lot of us would be safer if we just listened more to our shepherds. Especially when ladies want to get married, they suddenly start to act like the ” love” of this new suitor erases or nullifies the Love of their pastor which was all they had in the beginning. I have so many sad stories that I don’t even want to get started. Don’t be a prodigal. Take advantage of the shepherd God assigned to you.

However if after all this long story you still say “Pastor M abeg abeg abeg, I no get power for pastor wahala, I just want to serve God. I don’t want anybody to know me” then I leave you with these profound words from President barak Obama

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See you guys soon.

Sorry no post on http://journeytosizetwelve.wordpress.com yet. Like I said been on bed rest so I haven’t been working out. But watch out. I’ll be back :-)

AS dilemma

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Hey people :D and in case you don’t recognise that smiley, that’s me giving you my biggest grin.

Why? ‘cos I’ve missed you guys. Well, a lot to tell but before I start with all the many things I have to tell you I have a dilemma post for you this fine Tuesday.

Here goes….

Dear Pastor m

I need advice. I’m 33 years old and I’m still single. I’ve been in many different relationships with amazing christian guys. Unfortunately it never ends in marriage. Why you ask? Because for some funny reason which I can’t explain I end up meeting guys with the AS genotype and I am AS as well.

So for a while I took a break but early last year one of my exes whom honestly I have never gotten over came back to me telling me that he can’t live without me. I also feel like I can’t live without him.

He proposed to me and I’m wearing his ring. Both families know each other and they love us but I lost a cousin to SS five years ago and the reality is I could have an SS child but I could also have an AA…only God knows

I love him and he is everything I want in a man. Would it be so selfish to go ahead? I’m not getting younger. Don’t I deserve to be happy too? Please help. I need to know what you think. I also don’t mind other opinions as far as I remain anonymous on your blog.

Thank you ma

So there you have it guys. Help a sister out. you know the drill guys….Best responses get a prize

Gotta run. Will be back to give you a lowdown on some of the Just Us Girls Naija programmes for the rest of the year sometime you can plan ahead.

Merry Christmas y’all

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Hello people. Its day 25 and what a day it’s been. From surprising my kids with Christmas presents

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after they had been dragged to see santa clause.

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not even santa could get vida to stay awake

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Then kitchen duty….
Had a fun but exhausting day
I’m just stopping by to say hello and to remind you that Christmas celebrations will soon be over but you will be left with the effects of the season

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so be careful what you stuff your face with

And have mercy on all those chickens lest they find their way out of Lagos.

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Lol! 

Merry Christmas guys

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remember Jesus is the reason for the season

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don’t be so self absorbed this season

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See you tomorrow

One of my absolute favourite Christmas songs is Mary Did you know? By Mark Lowry and Buddy Green. Lyrics below:

Song lyrics
Mary did you know that your baby boy will one day walk on water?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will save our sons and daughters?
Did you know that your baby boy has come to make you new?
This child that you’ve delivered, will soon deliver you.

Mary did you know that your baby boy will make a blind man see?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will calm a storm with his hand?
Did you know that your baby boy has walked where angels trod?
And when you kiss your little baby, you have kissed the face of God.

The blind will see, the deaf will hear and the dead will live again.
The lame will leap, the mute will speak, the praises of the lamb.

Mary did you know that your baby boy is Lord of all creation?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will one day rule the nations?
Did you know that your baby boy is heaven’s perfect Lamb?
This sleeping child you’re holding is the great I am.

I just get goose pimples anytime I hear the song. I wonder if truly Mary a young girl of what? 13 or 14 years old even had a clue as to what or whom she was really carrying. I’m sure she didn’t and could never truly , the fullness of the power she carried.

And aren’t we all like Mary in some wise? Aren’t we unable to fully comprehend what or whom we carry as Christians? Aren’t we like Mary unaware of the power that lay dormant in all of us awaiting delivery that it may be unleashed on the world? Haven’t you heard that the world earnestly  awaits our manifestation? Romans 8:19

Everytime I think of Christmas I think of the birth of Jesus but I often find myself meditating on the pregnancy of Mary as well. The angel Gabriel announced to Mary that she was with child of the Most High God and told Joseph she was to call him Jesus for He would save his people…. Matthew 1:21

Today Angel Gabriel may not physically appear to you but isn’t the Holy Spirit giving you the same message through the Word. Aren’t we just as pregnant as she is? With the same Jesus? The scenario isn’t any different except that perhaps you may not be 14.

Mary went off after her encounter with the angel straight to see her cousin Elizabeth whom was barren and something spectacular happened. The bible tells us that Elizabeth testified that the baby on her womb leapt for joy. The effect of carrying Jesus was evident even in the life of Elizabeth. The power emanating from Marys promise caused Elizabeths promise to quicken And leap. Something resonated. Destiny encountered the destiny changer

I wonder if the same power that raised Christ Jesus from the dead is not only quickening our mortal bodies but also causing the dreams of others to burst forth.

At Christmas, I love the feeling in the atmosphere but I also reflect on all that transpired before the actual birth of Jesus. So many lessons to be learnt from the Christmas story but not tonight folks….
I’m just leaving you with this..

Okay so my eyes are practically closing now and I have an early day tomorrow. Trust my pk to invite the whole city for Christmas lunch. So I’m off to bed

It’s day 24…

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technically 25 by this calender in front of me. Anyhow wanted to say Merry Christmas guys And oh! Santa one last wish

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Love you all so much